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[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?
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[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?

I (32F) and my husband (38M) have been married for 3 years, our relationship has had its ups and downs but we’re a relatively happy couple. Though, in the beginning of our relationship, he was also dating Angela (24F) 5 years ago, I was unaware of this other relationship but when I found out, I confronted him and he told me that since we weren’t officially dating that he didn’t know we were exclusive. I told him that if he didn’t cut off this relationship with Angela, that I was going to break it off. We left it at that and we didn’t talk for a while when he came to my apartment unexpectedly weeks later saying it was over with Angela and that he wanted to try again and asked me to be his girlfriend. Ever since then we have been a pretty normal couple, we have our moments but our relationship is going good and I believe he is my soulmate. Recently there’s been an issue in our relationship though, Angela. 3 weeks ago, we were out running errands and ||......🔽

Anya Petrova
UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?
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UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?

So, I (16F) didn't know my real dad was for most of my life. It turned out that he was my mom's best friend's husband cause he cheated with my mom. They all knew, my mom just didn't tell me until this year. Looking back he's always been like a dad to me even though I always referred to him as Uncle David. My dad and his wife, who I call Aunt Olivia, have kids and I always thought they liked me, like they're younger but they'd always want me to play with them and they were always trying to impress me and stuff. I was like an older cousin than a sister though. Since we got everything in the open I've been over to their house more often. Aunt Olivia loves having me there and I love having her be my stepmom cause she was already like my bonus mom. But the kids don't like me anymore, they don't want me to play with them anymore and they'll barely acknowledge my presence. Yesterday during dinner my dad ||...↙️

Jonas Bergström
Teacher Insisted My Son Was Allergic To Peanuts So I Reported The School To The State
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Teacher Insisted My Son Was Allergic To Peanuts So I Reported The School To The State

A few weeks ago (around Easter) my son’s (5 on Easter) preschool did a small celebration that involved handing out candy. When I went to pick him up his teacher told him he couldn’t have any of the candy in a certain area because it had peanuts in it. I gently corrected her that my son is NOT allergic to peanuts, he’s allergic to tree nuts (almonds cashews etc) and to please be careful not to teach him misinformation about his allergy. She said “yes he is.” And I had to very firmly let her know that he is not allergic to peanuts. They are not tree nuts. And oddly enough he can eat them. Please check his file to understand exactly what he is allergic to and don’t teach him misinformation about his allergy. (Safety issue.). She said “you wrong. You ain’t even know what you baby allergic to.” I left and called the director and requested they have a training with the staff to educate about allergy safety. And specially any adult in charge of my own child needs to know about his allergy in detail. Fast forward to last week I stopped in to pick my son up early because he wasn’t feeling well and I came in at lunch time to see his whole class eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (My son was eating lunch I packed from home because I feel it’s safest.) I asked the same teacher from before what they were having. She said pbj and I asked “I thought this was a nut free facility?” She said “oh it’s sun butter it just smells like peanut butter.” So I ducked my head into the kitchen and took a picture of the peanut butter jar on the counter with my phone and another of the “nut free facility” sign and at home I got ANOTHER of my contract where it says all nut products are banned (tree nuts, peanuts, etc) and I sent all 3 to the state licensing board. Then I withdrew my child from the program. My partner feels I am “doing too much” but I think they are allowing a teacher to disregard safety protocols and I’m not going to risk my child’s life. I might be TA because I want 0-60 about the issue when my son isn’t even allergic to peanuts and was not at risk when his classmates ate peanut butter sandwiches. But. They still thought he was. And still served it around him.

Anya Petrova
My Sister Faked Being In Danger And Then Reported Me For Harassment After I Called Help
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My Sister Faked Being In Danger And Then Reported Me For Harassment After I Called Help

A few months ago I (27f) got several erratic texts from an number I didn’t recognise, the person didn’t give their name but knew a lot about my step sister Emily (29f), the person said that Emily was a danger to herself. It was very late at night for them, but at the time I was out of the country for work and in a different time zone. I didn’t want to wake our parents, but I was Concerned so I called my sister’s local station for a wellness check. Since a fall out, my step sister and I haven’t been so close, but I’ve always cared about her, and been kind to her despite our differences. I was shocked when I got home from my work trip to receive a call from my mother claiming that Emily had reported me for harassment. I received many nasty messages from my family (including my mother (60f) and other two sisters (early 20s)) before they finally told me what I had apparently done… Emily claims that someone had bought multiple burner phones that they used to harass her via text for a year, and that she “knows” it was me. Emily claims that she baited this person into believing she was a danger to herself to see if she could call their bluff. And that me calling for a wellness check is proof I was harassing her. I was heartbroken when I heard this, unlike Emily I earn very little and unlike my other sisters I’m not funded by our parents. They know I live paycheque to paycheque, and work long hours… they know very well I can’t afford the so called “multiple burner phones”, and don’t have the energy or time to harass my worst enemy, let alone my own family. Since this weird accusation, I’ve taken a step back from them, opting out of spending Christmas with them. To which I received grief, being told everyone was disappointed in me for not going to see them. I’ve decided to softly cut them out, I will send them nice texts occasionally, but I’m not interested in seeing them. I’ve made that very clear to them that I’m not happy with them and that I need to stay away for my wellbeing.

Elise Dubois
I Reported A Driver For Calling My Son A Slur And Was Horrified To See Him Still Working
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I Reported A Driver For Calling My Son A Slur And Was Horrified To See Him Still Working

My husband and I have a 15 year old son, who is biracial; my husband is African American and I am white (this will be important later on in the story). My son just got his driver’s permit and has begun driving with me on a regular basis. The other day we were on the road, and he accidentally cut off a truck, making him have to break abruptly. I scolded my son and gave a “sorry” wave to the driver. At the next red light which came about a minute later, the guy pulled up next to us. His car had a large company logo on it, indicating he was on the job. He rolled down the window and shouted the N-word at my son. My son’s face went pale, and he was quiet, depressed and clearly wounded deeply the rest of the drive home. The encounter sickened me. I did some research on the company; at one point I even plugged them into Facebook. They have a very active Facebook page and seem like an organization that prides themselves on a good image and good customer service. I called the company and reported the man’s behavior, describing him very vividly. They informed me that they knew exactly who I was talking about, and that all their drivers drive with a dashcam, so his behavior is on camera. I had a good feeling about the encounter and that they were going to definitely take care of the situation. Two months later, when I was browsing Facebook kind of boredly one day, the company’s name was recommended in my search, and just for the hell of it I clicked and looked at their page for the first time in two months. One of the very first photos/posts I saw from just a day ago showed a big group of their employees huddled together in their company yard, with some kind of tag about a project they just completed. To my horror, I saw the employee who shouted at my son in the group, grinning widely. Meaning they didn’t fire him. The company is part of a nationwide chain, so I called their corporate headquarters, was connected to the highest person I could get to, and I reported the incident to them, and complained about how they didn’t fire him. The man I spoke to sounded disgusted, way, way more so than the previous person I’d reported him to, apologized profusely, and thanked me very much for telling him. Additionally, he made multiple statements about how racists and bigots have “no place” and “no future” in his company, giving me a strong feeling the offending employee’s career is now toast. Was it right of me to “double-report” this guy? I’m sure he was given at least some consequence the first time around (if not fired) and wonder if some might argue that I was going too far or being vindictive by reporting him again. Am I an asshole or a “Karen” for not dropping this matter?

Anya Petrova
Redditors Descend On Man For Wanting To Share Pregnancy News With His Parents Without His Wife There
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Redditors Descend On Man For Wanting To Share Pregnancy News With His Parents Without His Wife There

Me (37m) and my wife (33f) learned that she is about 8 weeks pregnant. We are delighted but also terrified. It is the first time for both of us. She has asked me to not share the news with anyone until we get to about 12 weeks, when the pregnancy will be stable. So I have been keeping it, even though I really want to share the news with everyone around me. A key detail is that we are currently in long distance: she lives in the same country as her parents, while I am an expat and live alove. She will move in with me and to our new house in one month. She decided that she would like to tell her parents about her pregnancy before she leaves her home country, so that they can share some of the joy while they are together. This way she can also do one of the ultrasounds with her mother and experience this special connection. This is all understood, and I told her I support her in how she wants to handle the pregnancy information. She did share it with her parents, and they were overjoyed – the house is in a festive mood, they cannot stop smiling and laughing, etc. I am still under an information embargo though. (note: I did ask her to let me share with a couple of select people, for my own mental sanity, since I really needed to be able to open up to a friend. She was fine with it) Now to the drama. I asked her if I could also tell my parents, to which she responded that she prefers me to wait for the 12 weeks. By that time we will have moved in together in the country where I live. I said fine, but then she asked me that we reveal the news to my parents together, she and I. I can honestly not tell why, but I would like to tell my parents myself. There are no other grandchildren in our family, and I have been living away from home (like three continents away) for the last 12 years. So, in my mind, I really want to share this with my mom and dad and also have the same ‘joyous family moment’ like she did. My wife took it badly. I think she feels excluded or that I do not want her to somehow be part of my family? Which on my part is absolutely not true. I just feel like I do not want this to be a joint announcement sort of situation. I want it to be intimate between me and my parents, and right after, we could all have a joint video call or whatever. She is very upset. I reminded her that we did not announce to \*her\* parents jointly. She is saying that I did not express any desire to do so (which is true, I did not even think of it) … but since she is clearly communicating \*her\* desire to me, it is different, and I should hear her. Sure, but I still want this to be my moment with my parents. When I say it out loud though, “I want to announce our pregnancy to my parents without my wife” it sounds wrong. Somehow it is like I have this righteous feeling of possessiveness over a piece of news/information. I am conflicted. Am I the Asshole? Note: she and my parents do not share a common language and communicate via translator app

Luca Moretti
Future MIL snooped through my son's medical files at her job and I finally reported her
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Future MIL snooped through my son's medical files at her job and I finally reported her

Edit- UPDATE: I just wanted to say, first of all, thank you to everyone for your input. Both the positive and negative feedback gave me some different perspectives so I appreciate both. It has been so nice to hear that majority of people believe that my actions were justified and reassure me it was, in fact, a breach of confidentiality and illegal. This is not the first time my FMIL (which is future mother in-law, for those who were confused) has overstepped, manipulated situations/words, and just been an overall menace in my life, which you can find many posts about on my profile. Many people seem to understand that manipulators are great at getting in people's heads, so this clarification and reassurance means a lot to me so I know I'm not going insane and I did right by my son. We went to his doctor this morning to see her about cerebral palsy and a clubbed foot, which FMIL called my fiancé "concerned" about, which the doctor basically said she can't see at all what she is talking about and even said herself that she thinks FMIL was using this as a stretch to try and say it was that instead of autism. She then said it was in her notes regarding the developmental interventionalist program I'm in with my son, where FMIL works, to send any future documents directly to my case worker and not the office as there was a breach of confidentiality and she asked me what that was about....so I told her what FMIL did and she literally gasped and said, "that is completely against the law". She then asked if fiancé was supportive of me during that time, to which I opened up about what fiancé had done and his standpoint....she was very comforting and also assured me I did completely right by my son and FMIL was way out of line and she was also disappointed that she got basically zero repercussions for something that not only was illegal but a conflict of interest, which FMIL would have known both of those things prior to her actions. She reassured me it was FMIL's choices and actions that would have gotten her fired, not my own, and it's ridiculous of anyone to even think that for one moment. She also said that if FMIL did "stumble upon" the papers, she should have walked away the moment she saw my son's name, knowing it was a conflict of interest. But since she deliberately snooped for the information and read it fully, that was soo much worse. Overall, she was absolutely appalled by this and literally in shock. Anyway, thank you to everyone for your comments and for reaching out to me privately, I truly appreciate all of the feedback and the support!! 🤍 ---- About 2 or 3 weeks ago now I reported my FMIL to her workplace for reading my son's confidential information. For starters, I am in Canada, not the US, but we do still have a confidentiality law similar to the US. Anyway, here is the story. My son was referred to an early interventions office after I raised concerns to our family doctor about possible autism for his 18 month check up. After hearing my reasons for suspecting this, she agreed he very well could have it and referred me to start with an early childhood developmental interventionalist to assess his needs and then refer me to the autism team. Unfortunately, FMIL works there. (Also, please note I am in a very small town and this was the ONLY option). Although for the past three years she has worked at a different office which is almost two hours away, it is rare for her to be in the office my son was referred to. Her work, on top of strict confidentiality laws that, to my understanding, state you can't just read any patient's file that you want to, have strict rules that family cannot work with family as it's a conflict of interest. Somehow she happened to be in that office location when my son's referral came in (which I'm very suspicious of), and side note she did know about the referral ahead of time because my fiance felt the need to tell her that her work would be getting a referral for him. She called my fiance and told him she read his referral and told him what it said, what the doctor's notes were, etc. And her thoughts on it all. Which BTW she is highly against my son having autism and thinks I am making it all up to get him diagnosed for whatever reason, and I was afraid of her swaying his assessment due to talking to coworkers about her strong opinions. I was already planning on asking the assigned worker during our first visit to keep FMIL off the case (including discussing it with her if she asked anything about it) due to conflict of interest, but after my fiance told me she flat out read his information she was not entitled to read, I thought absolutely not and I emailed the office immediately to express what an overstep I found that to me and stating that I want her to have zero involvement moving forward and I want her to never be able to read anything involving his case again. This became a huge issue. My fiance was angry with me as he said I should have gone to FMIL FIRST and asked her to please not read our son's file. Then, if it happened two more times to remind her I will report her if it keeps happening, then after a third time fiance said he would step in to warn her himself. To me, first of all, that is 4 chances before fiance even steps in and 5 chances before she potentially gets any repercussions, and also secondly I figured why wouldn't she just keep reading it and just not tell us she read it. Fiance says I lack respect and I am a coward for not calling or going to his mother in person to discuss it and hear her side and tell her I want to report her BEFORE taking any action. So, what happened was, his mother went to a board meeting with a bunch of people, including her boss and board of directors for the company and whoever else. She is set to retire in just a few weeks now, and they concluded that what she did was extremely wrong but considering she is leaving very soon and it was her grandchild, they basically slapped her on the wrist with the warning if it happened again she would be done for, and sent her on her way. FMIL claims that she was perfectly within her right to read my son's information because she claims "anyone could have read it" as it was just a referral faxed over from the doctor (FYI there was more than just a basic referral, there was also confidential papers on a developmental questionnaire I did with my doctor to determine if he even needed the referral there or not) and she could have even been the one to be sitting at the fax machine and received it. She also claimed, while yelling at me on the phone the night before her board meeting to try and get me to tell them she was just a concerned grandma and I gave her permission to read his information, that she only read it because she believed I was in the wrong spot and getting the wrong referral for him and she wanted to read what me and the doctor said so she could determine a better place for him to be referred to and "help me". Which I told her was none of her business and not her place whatsoever. She also didn't "stumble upon" his papers, she seemed them out and read them, knowingly, not accidentally. Anyway, the family is mad at me and claims what she did was "upsetting" but me reporting her and potentially "ruining her career and risking her job, retirement and life (because you can possibly be charged or go to jail for breaching confidentiality)" is a million times worse than what she did initially to make me even report her. Sorry for the long post and thank you so much in advance if you bothered to read this all. Based on this information, AITAH? Or am I partially? And also, how would you have handled this situation and I am open to any additional comments or suggestions or anything. This has been weighing heavy on my mind as I feel I did the right thing for my son and his privacy, but I have my fiance's family in my ear telling me what I did was extremely wrong on every level. I am just so torn and confused on what I did or if I'm wrong for doing it.

Elise Dubois
My Friend Posted Graphic Photos Of Her Miscarried Fetus And I Reported Them To Facebook
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My Friend Posted Graphic Photos Of Her Miscarried Fetus And I Reported Them To Facebook

AITA for reporting my friend’s miscarriage photos to Facebook? Throwaway for obvious reasons. A friend announced a few months ago that she was pregnant. She and her boyfriend were very excited. We’ve been friends since childhood and I was happy for her. I had a miscarriage two years ago and it was pretty traumatic, so I’m mentioning that for full disclosure. When my friend would have been 15 weeks pregnant, she posted a graphic, gory photo of her miscarried fetus saying she was devastated. Note the terminology: miscarried fetus, not stillborn baby. This pregnancy wasn’t even close to viability and it did not look like a baby. It looked like a shock image. The fetus looked like it had been dead a while and was sort of disintegrating. :( I was upset and grossed out but simply offered my condolences and clicked “hide” on the first image. Then it got weirder. A few hours later, she and her boyfriend rolled out a bunch of bizarre photos where they were posing with this visibly decaying fetus in their hands and one where she was kissing it. It looked like they were trying to replicate the photos that parents take with actual stillborn babies but like they weren’t even realizing that this was not the same thing. actually got physically sick seeing the pictures where she was kissing it and I reported all the posts to Facebook for graphic violence. Facebook removed them. She and her boyfriend have spent the last several telling everyone they could about how they were victimized and abused by Facebook and how they had a beautiful, perfect baby and someone thought their baby was “graphic violence.” And of course the obligatory “If you think my beautiful child is violent or gory, unfriend me now.” The only reason I haven’t unfriended her is because I’m realizing I might have been TA and I may owe her an apology and may need to process through my repulsion on my own, rather than reporting someone to Facebook while they were grieving.

Anya Petrova
My Wife Views Intimacy As A Favor And I Am Finally Reaching My Breaking Point
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My Wife Views Intimacy As A Favor And I Am Finally Reaching My Breaking Point

Here’s a little backstory about my relationship with my wife. We’re both 31 and have been together for almost 14 years, married for 9, with two amazing kids, aged 5 and 4. We started dating just before graduating high school after being friends for two years. Early on, my wife was upfront about wanting to take things slow—she was new to everything, and I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first date. She made a promise to her mom to wait until marriage for sex, and I respected that. We didn't have sex until we got engaged, which was over three years into our relationship. We had some disagreements over the issue, but I loved her and was willing to wait until she was ready. After getting married, I assumed things would change, but sex remained scarce, averaging once or twice a month. For a long time, I thought it was my fault—maybe I wasn’t satisfying her, or I wasn’t attentive enough. I internalized the blame. When I tried talking to her about it, she would often respond with, "Is that all you think about?" I even asked if she had any fantasies or things she wanted to explore, but I got no real feedback. This became a recurring issue that led to most of our arguments, though, outside of this, we rarely fought. She’s my best friend, and I couldn’t imagine life without her. At one point, I suspected she might be asexual since she never seemed interested in sex or initiated anything. When I brought it up, she admitted she never really thought about sex or the possibility that she might be asexual. Then we found out we were expecting our first child. Oddly enough, sex became the best it had ever been, though she acknowledged it was due to the pregnancy. However, after our second child, things changed again—sex became almost nonexistent. After her second pregnancy, we decided she would be a stay-at-home mom, something she had always dreamed of, while I would provide for the family financially. Life got busy with kids, bills, and everyday stress, and sex became less of a priority. As the kids grew older and things settled, I started bringing up sex more often, which led to more arguments. I felt like she never wanted it, and it became a source of frustration for me. We even discussed the possibility of her being asexual again and decided to see a marriage therapist to help us navigate this issue. Around this time, I also came across the concept of love languages, which helped me understand that mine is physical touch, while hers are acts of service and quality time. Physical touch was last on her list, and we went over this with our therapist. I hoped this would solve our problems. I made an effort to meet her love languages, and she became more open to sex, but I still had to initiate most of the time. The therapist eventually said we were doing fine and didn’t need further sessions, but sex again became less frequent, and I continued to feel like she was just doing me a favor. This pattern has persisted throughout our entire relationship. I’ve tried to be an active partner at home, ensuring I’m not one of those husbands who doesn’t contribute. But after 13 years of feeling unwanted in this area, my self-esteem is at an all-time low. While everything else in our relationship is great, I’ve begun to wonder if I should ask for an open relationship so I can meet my needs. She’s an incredible mother and person, and I don’t want to hurt her and destroy my family. I just feel stuck and don’t know what to do. But I'm also worried that even bringing this up might damage our relationship. I know I'm not perfect. I could be more romantic, focus more on making her feel loved and not expect anything in return. Make sure she's not overwhelmed with the kids and the house. I try to do all those things. I just want to know how it feels to be genuinely wanted sexually. And I don't believe I've ever had that.

Elise Dubois
My Wife Took My Daughter's Car Without Asking And Now Is Mad She Got Reported For Theft
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My Wife Took My Daughter's Car Without Asking And Now Is Mad She Got Reported For Theft

I've been with my wife for 4 years. I have a 20 year old daughter and she and my wife were never able to form a strong bond and one of the reasons for that is distance. My wife did try to get close to my daughter in the past but my daughter claimed she was just attempting to control her rather than have a respectful relationship with her. They had past issues but now get along a bit. My daughter was visiting for thanksgiving and brought her honda car with her. I was out of the house when my wife who's car been sitting in the garage for a month now took my daughter's car keys without her permission while she was showering and left in it for nearly 2hrs. My daughter called me as soon as she got out of the bathroom and was freaking out saying neither her car or my wife were there. I tried to calm her down as I tried to get ahold of my wife but she did not respond. We at this point figured my wife took the car but did not know where she was or when she was coming back. My daughter searched my wife's closet then called the cops and reported her car taken. She called back to tell me my wife's closet was half empty and cops were called. I got off work and went home immediately and on tje way home my wife called crying she just got picked up by the cops at walmat and was brought into the station I went over there and met my daughter there. We discussed what happened and it turned out my wife took the car to go do some shopping and left my daughter a note in the kitchen to let her know since she doesn't have her number and took clothes from her closet she packed earlier in the morning for church donations but my daughter thought she ran away and told the cops that this woman (my wife) ran away with her car. My daughter got her car back and my wife was let go after filling out a form. I took her home that is where she had a fight with my daughter calling her crazy for calling the cops on her and few other things I can't remember but I told my wife what she did was unacceptable and she should be grateful my daughter only callee the cops in a moment of panic and did not press charges after what she did. My wife was shocked and started crying saying she couldn't believe I sided with my daughter after she humiliated her and caused her panic and to be involved with the cops like that. I stated that she should have not touched that key in the first place and she defended herself saying she was getting things done and buying stuff we needed for the house but we made her out to be the bad guy. She left to her sister's place saying she had enough of my daughter's disgraceful and vindict attitude towards her and said she'll stay there indefinately or until I get my priorities straight because after what happened she's no longer sure if she is my wife or wether she was treated as such. * My wife's car isn't working and has been in the garage for a while now that is why she took my daughter's car.

Clara Jensen
My infertile sister ruined my twins reveal party because she felt overshadowed by my news
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My infertile sister ruined my twins reveal party because she felt overshadowed by my news

Me and my sister Mia both suffer from fertility issues. I made peace with it long ago but Mia always wanted kids so she and her husband kept trying. From IVF to adoption, all of them resulted in a dead end. I recently found out that I was 2 months pregnant with twins. My partner Kyle and I were surprised but happy. I called up my sister and told her the news and said I was going to announce it to the family at a gathering at my house. I expected her to be angry (as she has been with other family members for getting pregnant) and told her it was okay if she couldn't come and felt it would be too much for her. Surprisingly she said she was okay and therapy had helped and agreed to come. So, three days ago I hosted a family gathering at our place and announced it via watching pictures on a projection screen, the last photo being my ultrasound. Immediately all family members looked at me and they

Anya Petrova
AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend after she turned down my proposal?
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AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend after she turned down my proposal?

(41M) have been dating my ex gf (39F) for nearly Six years. Our relationship was a good one. Four years ago I informed her family and friends I was going to propose to her while we were on a family vacation and received their blessing and well-wishes. The night I proposed, I tried to make the night as memorable and "perfect" as possible. I asked her after a nice dinner surrounded by the family, and she said "No, not yet anyways." I was quite hurt honestly and went back to our room to think things out and not overreact. A few hours later she came to the room and asked me what was wrong and why I left the group. We had a fairly long conversation as to my feelings and her reason to deny my proposal. Turns out she didn't think I was ready for the commitment just yet. So I took her thoughts to heart and informed her I understand her reasoning, however I was raised in a way where "you take a no for a no, not a maybe next time." She asked me to just wait a bit longer until we were in a stable place, and I agreed. Eight to ten months later ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🔥

Elise Dubois
Wife Sabotages Husband's Weight Loss Program By Smuggling Snacks, He Reports Her And Bans Her Visits
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Wife Sabotages Husband's Weight Loss Program By Smuggling Snacks, He Reports Her And Bans Her Visits

I am 32 and male. About two years ago, I was diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder. To put it simply, I eat compulsively, even when not hungry. My BMI is 43, putting me in the Class III obesity range. Since my diagnosis, I have not improved whatsoever. Therapy and support groups have a positive effect on my mentality, but even two hours after I'll be in line at a drive-through. It has affected my health, my mental health, my finances, and of course my wife. My wife is 37. She is average-sized and eventually agreed that I may need actual medical intervention. After a lot of deliberation, we packed up and temporarily moved states so I could participate in an inpatient program as part of a research study. Apparently, intervention programs for BED can be pretty hit or miss, and so this one is a new take on them, being six months instead of the typical 30 to 90 days. I am currently at the end of my first month, and everything is going very well. I've made a lot of friends in the program as well. At the end of the one-month mark, visitation opened up and my wife could now visit me. Obviously she jumped at the chance and came to visit me two days ago. We headed over to my room, where she took her backpack off and pulled out jalapeno chips and colas--two of my most common binge items. At first I freaked out, but she explained that I "deserved a break" and went into detail about how much trouble she went through to smuggle them through. I immediately shouted for a nurse who forcefully removed the products from her hands and then escorted her out of the hospital with a full team. My wife has now been completely banned from the premises. And she's furious at me. The nurses and doctors have expressed nothing but gratitude and told me that had I indulged I would have instantly been removed from the program. One thing that my wife said that made me think she had a point was instead of telling her to put the snacks away and take them home, I went for the nuclear option of calling other people. I know that her bringing me snacks was objectively wrong, but was my reaction over the top?

Luca Moretti
UPDATE: AITA for not letting my kids wear pyjamas
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UPDATE: AITA for not letting my kids wear pyjamas

Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kv7stv/aita_for_not_letting_my_kids_wear_pyjamas_around/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) My daughter and I got back from the doctor a few hours ago so I thought I'd update everyone, as my last post got a pretty large response. I'm a good dad, that's something I'm sure of. I love my kids, I try very hard to be a good parent, and I know I've done that. A few people commented on my post saying I was ruining my kids' lives, etc., which is not true in the slightest. That being said, I was somewhat wrong about the pyjamas. As some people mentioned, changing out of pyjamas acts as a reset for them and helps them acknowledge that they're starting their day. This is why my wife and I started the rule in the first place. But obviously things change over time. Shortly after getting my Asshole title, I went to talk things out with my daughter, intending on figuring out a way to change the pyjama policy so that we were all happy with it. I re-explained the reasoning behing the rule (shifting mindsets in the morning), and she ended up crying and told me that "changing her mindset didn't matter because she can't stop falling asleep anyway". I asked her what she meant, and she explained that she's been falling asleep multiple times a day, even when she's changed out of her pyjamas. My wife is close friends with a somnologist, so we set up an appointment and he spoke with my daughter. He recommended that she go for a polysomnogram and MSLT (sleep tests). And it turns out, she has narcolepsy. We're currently discussing treatment options with her doctors to see how we can help her, but it's a big relief for her to know that there's a reason behind why she's been struggling with sleep. As for the pyjamas, we sat down as a family and discussed it together. We all decided we want to keep the rule, but reworked it so the kids can eat breakfast in their pyjamas, as long as they're changed and starting online school on time. Also, a lot of people asked why my wife and I don't limit my kids' screentime. We limit my son's (as he's a bit younger), but my daughters are extremely good at limiting their own. They're both bookworms and understand that too much screentime is harmful, so they don't spend a lot of time on their devices anyway, so my wife and I have never felt the need to step in. EDIT: I tried to respond to comments but can no longer keep up. Thank you all for your kind responses!

Luca Moretti
AITA for breaking my grandma’s heart?
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AITA for breaking my grandma’s heart?

My (16f) dad is a piece of shit. I’m sorry but he just is. He isn’t all that terrible to me or my brother (17m) but he’s horrible to our mom. Growing up, it was very obvious that our dad saw our mom as “lesser than.” He’d yell at her over everything and made her responsible for everything. Cleaning, taking care of us, etc. My mom never said anything and tried her hardest to make it seem like everything was okay. I’m ashamed to admit, but I’m too scared to stand up to my dad. I always freeze. My brother, on the other hand, does not give a shit. He yells back and isn’t afraid of anything. I think my brother realized that I’m too scared to protect our mom and recently told us that he’s going to a college nearby and will be commuting as the college doesn’t require first years to live on campus. My parents were confused and my dad was a little upset. He kept telling him that he‘s going to miss out and he’ll regret it but my brother didn’t budge. Mom even told him that he should go and that she’ll be fine. But my brother just said that they’re lucky he’s even going to college. Well yesterday we got a surprise visit from our grandma (dad’s mom). She never visits and when she does, she also just treats my mom like shit so we weren’t very excited. But we were civil because well if we aren’t then she’ll find a way to blame our mom. It was okay at first but then she asked my mom: “Is this what you wanted? Are you proud of yourself?“ My mom started to shake but my brother immediately got in between them. Grandma just rolled her eyes and asked my brother if he was really going to throw away his life just because he thinks his mom’s too fragile to survive without him. My brother didn’t say anything. I then spoke up and said “it’s not because of mom. It’s because of you and dad. You guys are horrible and you really need to get the fuck out.” My grandma immediately started yelling at me. She said that she expected better and said that I’m rude, disrespectful and bratty. She then told my mom that she raised horrible kids before leaving angrily. I know I was just standing up for my mom and my brother keeps telling me I’m fine, but I feel guilty. My grandma apparently adores me according to my dad and I really broke her heart. And it’s not like I made things better (maybe even worse). My dad’s expecting me to apologize but idk I don’t want to. AITA?

Clara Jensen
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AITA for breaking the no-kids rule?

My fiance Max and I are getting married in November. I have a huge Colombian family. We are all close enough, and there are like a million kids. I love them all and can not imagine a single family event without them. My fiances family, on the other hand, is smaller, and the kids are only included in the big events (Christmas, Easter, and their own birthdays). They have a rule that every party is to be child free. So, sending out the invitations, we obviously did not write "childfree " on it... because it's not. There will be approximately 13 kids there (5-17). My future MIL calls us up to clarify. She asked if we had told my family "no kids". We had to tell her that there were going to be kids there. She got very angry. Then, on Thursday, we went to pick up her dog, and she was there with Max's Aunt and 2 cousins. We were basically cornered about the kids thing. They gave us the following arguments ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 👇

Anya Petrova
AITA for reporting my son's therapist for sharing private information with his stepdad?
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AITA for reporting my son's therapist for sharing private information with his stepdad?

My m36 son's (14) dog passed away recently. I signed him up with a therapist because his dog's death has literally left him unable to speak. He's been in therapy for 2 weeks now. 2 days ago, My son called crying saying his stepdad punished him by taking his bicycle and selling it for no reason. I was livid. I went to have a word with his stepdad and he told me that there WAS a reason and that is the fact that my son "badmouthed" him to the therapist, and claimed that he treated the dog poorly. I was floored at this. I had an argument with him an asked how the hell he knew and told him to prove that my son said all that. He showed me texts betwen him and my son's therapist. So basically...the therapist had been giving out private info about a bunch of stuff my son talked about in therapy. I was even more floored. I went straight to that therapist and we had a huge argument. I told him I was going to report him after he defended himself saying the reason he gave my son's stepdad this info was because of concern as "a parent". I said that I don't give a shit what the justification was, and went on with my report. He tried to talk about how he felt for my son's stepdad and his concerns as a "parent" so he didn't think he did anything wrong. My son's mom called after she found out about the report and she she blew up at me on the phobe calling me a controlling asshole for what I did. I ignored her calls after that but my own wife thought I made a hasty decision and that the real problem was with my son's stepdad not the therapist.

Anya Petrova
AITA for reporting a pregnant coworker to management after discovering we’re all covering for her?
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AITA for reporting a pregnant coworker to management after discovering we’re all covering for her?

I am 5 months pregnant, coworker is 4 months pregnant, we work in a small team of 8 and often cover each other shifts, stay back when someone has appointments and generally help each other out. I have been really struggling with my pregnancy and have been careful to schedule appointments on my days off and to take as many precautions as I can to avoid impacting everyone else. Coworker, who is saying that she’s having a wonderful, enjoyable pregnancy, is showing up late, then going for a smoke and a coffee before starting. “I’m just running late, at OBGYN” quickly becomes and hour or more late, and isn’t being noted on her time sheets, so the person covering her isn’t getting paid for that time and it’s especially difficult for me when I’m already struggling physically to not know what time I’ll be able to go home. I recently learned that other coworkers have been covering a significant part of her tasks, because they feel badly for her having to do it whilst pregnant- tasks that I’m still doing and have been doing with ease. Our manager is very accommodating and has made several offers to purchase alternative equipment and make changes in the workplace, that she has refused (as have I so far) because it’s easy to complete these tasks the way things are now. I know they are not aware that coworker simply isn’t doing those things, because our manager has asked me about it recently. WIBTA if I discussed this with management? Other staff are complaining to me about the additional workload. I’m also being expected to put in additional effort at a time that I have no extra energy to give. Trying to bring it up with coworker hasn’t made a difference, and other staff have already told me they’re too tired to help me when I’m struggling because they’re already helping her. I’m worried that I’m just being petty about everyone fussing over her, when I’ve been working so hard to not impact the rest of the workplace. Editing to add: The fact that she’s smoking is A) only relevant because it cuts into my time when I want to go home B) none of our business, whether we like it or not C) possibly because she may be cutting back slowly under doctors orders. I had to wean myself off medications because cold turkey would have significantly increased the risk of miscarriage. I’m not her doctor and you’re not either.

Elise Dubois