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My Sister Was Crying In Panic… And My Girlfriend Defended Him
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My Sister Was Crying In Panic… And My Girlfriend Defended Him

My girlfriend was over at my place two days ago. We’re both 20. She has a stepbrother who’s 23, and before this I had only met him a couple of times. He always seemed like a normal guy. She asked me if it would be okay if he came over too for a few hours, and I didn’t see a problem with it. He said he’d bring alcohol and pizza, and since my parents were away visiting relatives for the weekend, I figured it would just be a chill night. I also have a younger sister who’s 15, and she stayed in her room the whole time. At some point, we had all been drinking a bit and were slightly tipsy. My girlfriend’s stepbrother asked if he could use the bathroom, and I pointed him to the one down the hall. My girlfriend and I were distracted and talking, so we didn’t really notice how long he was gone. After a while, we suddenly heard raised voices coming from upstairs. We both rushed up to see what was going on and found my sister crying. It turned out he hadn’t gone to the bathroom at all. Instead, he went upstairs. My sister had left her door slightly open, and he had apparently walked in without asking. These were details I had to piece together from her while she was crying and shaking. She told me she was caught off guard and tried to stay calm, but he wouldn’t leave. Instead, he started trying to talk to her in a way that made her uncomfortable. She told him to get out, but instead of leaving, he closed the door behind him. That’s when she started panicking. She tried to get past him to open the door, and he grabbed her, but she still managed to open it. By that point, I had already reached the top of the stairs, and as soon as he saw me, he backed off. I was absolutely furious. There was a lot of yelling, accusations, everything happening at once. Everyone had been drinking except my sister. After hearing her explain what happened, my girlfriend’s stepbrother started stuttering and avoiding giving a straight answer. I’ll admit, I probably threatened him at some point. My girlfriend kept trying to calm things down and act like a mediator. She kept saying I needed to relax and that I couldn’t jump to conclusions based only on what I was being told. But I was there. I saw my sister crying, completely panicked. I know her, and I know she wouldn’t lie about something like that. There’s no reason she would. I told her stepbrother to get out of my house immediately. My girlfriend kept insisting that we should all sit down and talk it through properly, but I honestly didn’t see what there was to talk about. Then she said something that completely set me off. She asked what if my sister was lying. She said it right in front of her. I asked her what could possibly make her think that, and she said my sister is just a kid and might be making it up for attention. That’s when I completely lost it. I told her to get the hell out of my house. After that, she kept calling and texting me, but I ignored everything. Now that things have calmed down a bit, I went over everything again with my sister. She looked me in the eye and promised me that everything happened exactly the way she said. She told me she was genuinely scared he was going to assault her. This morning, my girlfriend texted me saying I shouldn’t have raised my voice like that and that I scared her. For a moment, I actually considered apologising. But then I realised she still hasn’t apologised to my sister or even acknowledged what her stepbrother did. All I replied was that we need to talk. She responded by saying there’s nothing to talk about because, in her words, there’s no real proof. Now I’m stuck. I don’t know if I handled this the wrong way. Maybe if I had stayed calmer, things wouldn’t have escalated like that and we could have talked it through properly. At the same time, I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. I love her, and I don’t want this to be the end for us. But I also can’t ignore what happened.

Clara Jensen
Husband let his pregnant sister eat my dinner after she forced him to ignore my allergies
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Husband let his pregnant sister eat my dinner after she forced him to ignore my allergies

My pregnant SIL moved into my house… and last night she crossed a line I can’t forgive. She’s 7 months pregnant and moved in after a huge fight with her family over something as ridiculous as the baby’s name. From day one, she’s been extremely picky about food and refuses to eat anything we normally cook. So what happened? We started cooking only what she wants. The problem is… I’m literally allergic to the food she eats. Every single night, I’ve had to figure out my own meals while living in my own house, because everything being cooked is something I can’t even touch. Last night, my husband finally agreed it was enough. He said he’d cook separately, something for her and something for us so I could actually eat like a normal person again. I came home after a long, exhausting day at work… and walked straight into... They were both in the kitchen, sitting together, eating her favorite meal. Nothing for me. My husband looked guilty and admitted she convinced him to cancel our meal and just cook for her instead. I didn’t even argue. I just said “fine” and ordered food for myself. I went upstairs, took a shower, tried to calm down, did some work… and when I came back down, my food was sitting on the counter. Opened. Half gone. I turned around and there she was. She casually told me she got hungry and “couldn’t resist the smell.” I lost it. I asked her what the hell she was thinking, and she had the nerve to say she “left me some.” There was barely anything left. Just rice and some sauce. That’s when I snapped. I told her I was done, that I couldn’t live like this anymore, and that she needed to pack her things and leave in the morning. She immediately started crying. And of course… my husband jumped in to defend her. He kept repeating that she’s pregnant, that she’s “eating for two,” like that somehow excuses everything. Then he told me to just go make something else from the fridge and let it go. That was it for me. The argument exploded, and now I’m the bad guy for kicking her out… in my own home… after she ate the only food I could actually eat.

Jonas Bergström
They Called Me The “Old Maiden Aunt”… So I Exposed Them All
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They Called Me The “Old Maiden Aunt”… So I Exposed Them All

I destroyed Thanksgiving dinner with one sentence… and now my entire family is coming for me. I’m 29, the only one in my family who isn’t married and doesn’t have kids… by choice. And apparently, that makes me the problem. My mom, stepdad, and my four step-siblings all live the “traditional” life. Marriage, kids, chaos. Me? I love living alone. I don’t want kids. I don’t care about having a partner. I’ve been saying that since I was 19. And for just as long, they’ve been treating me like something is wrong with me. I almost skipped Thanksgiving this year… but my mom begged me to come because she wanted “everyone together.” So I went. Everything was fine at first. Then my youngest stepbrother and his wife announced they’re having another baby. Everyone celebrated. And then, right on cue… it started. One of my sisters-in-law asked if I wasn’t worried about being almost 30 and “running out of time” to have kids. I laughed it off and said I’m good. That wasn’t enough. One of my stepbrothers chimed in and said every family needs an ... I told them to drop it. But my mom jumped in with, “We’re just worried about you.” That’s when I snapped. Because I know everything about these people. All their secrets. All their mess. So I said, “Well, I’m the only one at this table who isn’t an alcoholic, a cheater, or constantly broke because they keep having kids they can’t afford… so I’m not the one you should be worried about.” Silence. Complete silence. Dinner was dead after that. No one said a word. But now? My phone is blowing up. My mom says I went too far and caused drama between everyone. My siblings are pissed. And I’m sitting here wondering… Did I cross the line… or did they just finally hear the truth they didn’t want to hear?

Luca Moretti
My Wife Called My Son’s Girlfriend Not Good Enough Because Of Her Race So I Called Her Out
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My Wife Called My Son’s Girlfriend Not Good Enough Because Of Her Race So I Called Her Out

I 53 M am white. My wife of 30 years Naomi is Japanese. We have three kids. This story focuses on my oldest son Kyle 28. When Kyle first got to college he began dating a Japanese girl and when he introduced her to my wife, Naomi loved her. They didn't end up working out. But for the past three years, my son has been seeing Dani, a black girl. My son was in medical school across the country and he ended up meeting Dani because they both were volunteers at a soup kitchen. I remember the first time he sent a picture of her, my wife immediately didn't like her. I'm going to try to phrase this without sounding ignorant myself. But she looks like the urban black girl most think of when African American women. She has the big hoop earrings, the long nails, the long eye lashes. I think she looks stunning, but I've never been in a situation where I was involved in African American culture. Recently my son moved back to our city for residency and Dani moved with him and started law school. They were staying in a Air bnb, while looking for a place and this week they finally found one. So they invited us over for dinner. Dani cooked soul food and this stuff was amazing. I complemented her food and my wife gave me the side eye. Naomi then pulled out her phone and asked Dani why does she dress like that and why was she twerking in public. Kyle asked my mom what her problem was, I then took the phone to scroll through Dani's instagram. And while she did have some videos of her having fun, she also had plenty of pictures of her a academic achievements. Before Dani could answer I told my wife Dani is young and having fun. I asked did she see that Dani graduated Cum laude or all the times she volunteered. My wife looked angry that I would bring that up. Naomi then said that she thinks that Dani isn't good enough for our son. Dani then asked why Naomi loved Kyle's ex so much. She didn't graduate with honors, she has many different boys that she posted on social media. Dani then said it's evident the reason Naomi doesn't like her is because of her race. Naomi doubled down and said so what. I've never heard Kyle even disrespect his mother but he told her to get the fuck out. Naomi left crying. In the car on the ride home I asked her what was her problem. She asked why didn't I defend her. I said because she was being a racist and a hypocrite and she's acting just like her parents. Her parents didn't like me because I was white. She just said it's different and was just silent on the way home. And when we got to the house she locked herself in the room and started crying. I can't feel bad for her because if someone disrespected my wife the way she disrespected Dani I would have absolutely did the same exact thing Kyle did. But Aita because I was also harsh towards her in this situation.

Elise Dubois
My wife joked about my size in front of all our friends and now I want a divorce
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My wife joked about my size in front of all our friends and now I want a divorce

Guys, I literally don’t know what to do after this weekend. Posting from a burner account since I am connected with a lot of friends and family on my account. The issue here happened Saturday night. We had our friend group over. There are 6 of us couples in there and we were hosting at our house. The night was progressing pretty normal, we had done dinner and were just hanging on the couches chatting. Everyone had been drinking over the course of the evening so we were all pretty comfy. My wife Amy (all names fake) was talking with one of other girls about my new job. I recently got a promotion that comes with a nice raise. The down side is that I have to travel a decent amount (up to 2 weeks a month, but only 3-4 days at a time at most). We were excited for the changes the extra income will provide and how it will change our future so the travel was something we agreed to being worth it. As they were chatting her friend Pamela was talking about how they make it work since her husband also travels for work a lot. The conversation was actually quite helpful honestly in a lot of ways as there were some good ideas in there! That is until it happened. Heidi jokingly said “and be sure to order some sex toys that are the same size as him so you can still have sex while he is gone!” Now she was giggling, just making light of the fact that I would be gone and that the biggest challenge they had was the interruption to their sex life. No harm in this right? That is until my wife says it. “I don’t think they make them that tiny”. Guys - I went totally pale. Everyone stopped talking and you could just feel the awkwardness in the room. I think she realized what she had said because she tried to back peddle. But the damage was done. I just stared at her in disbelief. She just kept trying to back peddle and saying “I’m so sorry” I just stood up and walked out. I didn’t know what to say or do. I headed over to a buddies house (I was sober, I don’t drink). I didn’t tell him the story just that we had an argument. But I feel so violated by Amy. Now the back story here - what she said is most likely true. I am not endowed, at all. I have known this my whole life basically. Any guy can back me up when I say we are all conscious of our size. I’m just under 3” hard. I have ALWAYS been super insecure about it. But our sex life also was never lacking because I made up for it in other ways in the bedroom and she has never lacked in the orgasm department we just get there order ways sometimes. Now here is where I feel like the AH - I want to divorce her. I feel so violated. I feel like I can never see these friends again. I feel like ALL they will be thinking about when I am around is her comment and well “how tiny is it really”. But my AH feeling comes in because I also have known for a long time that it is small, so I steered into the skis I guess you could say and am more submissive in the bedroom and enjoy it when she pokes fun at it in the bedroom. But that was just us. But I just feel so violated with it being now public knowledge. But I also may have made my bed here by being okay with the dirty talk? I don’t know. And for those wondering yes she has called and texted a ton yesterday apologizing for outing me, but I told her I needed space for a bit. Honestly I don’t even know if I’ll read the replies. I just needed to vent this somewhere And I have no one to talk to about it. My buddy I’m staying with just thinks we had a fight. I feel so lost. I feel like an AH, but just don’t know if I can trust her again, or feel secure enough to see any of them again.

Anya Petrova
My Husband Called My Boss to Force a Doctor Visit and Now Calls Me a Neglectful Mother
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My Husband Called My Boss to Force a Doctor Visit and Now Calls Me a Neglectful Mother

Hello! I f26 have been together with my husband Austin m35 for 3 years. He Wes married before me but divorced his ex wife because she couldn't have kids. Eversince I became pregnant he did a complate 180°, he became obsessed by constantly watching my every move and breathing down my neck. He even hung photos of the sonogram!. He also came up with a list of what I'm allowed and not allowed to do, like not driving, not eating certain foods, not working but I stood my ground and continued working, also not wear high heels or watch certain shows or see family unless percausions were taken. It has been exhausting for me already but he has made it 10x worse. Yesterday, he woke me up at 7am and said we had to go to the doctor, I asked why since I wasn't feeling sick and he said he just had a hunch and I had to skip work and go with him to the appointment just to make sure because he felt something was wrong. I said no but he went and called my boss and took the day off for me. I was just speechless but decided to just go to get it over with. We got there after he kept scolding me for things i did the night before that mightve caused a problem- but literally there was no problem. The doctor told us that but he asked her to check again and she did, he then asked her to check again then again...I couldn't take it when he asked her again, I just got up, took my bag and walked out and left him arguing with the doc. I got into the car and went home immediately. He kept calling then came home and started yelling at me for leaving in the middle of my "examination" and then leaving him at the clinic. I blew upand told him I couldn't stand his obsession anymore and that his paranoia made me feel paranoid and is beginning to affect my social life, mental and physical health and my livelihood. He looked at me then said that I hurt him with what I said and that he was just trying to make sure the baby was fine and I was being aggressive and irresponsible towards him AND the baby this entire time, he said I was acting like a neglectful mother when the baby isn't even here yet then left and turned his phone off. This morning he's acting distant and is expecting some sort of a apology for what I did. AITA am I overreacting?

Jonas Bergström
My husband ignores my kisses to grab my boobs and says I’m the one being unloving
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My husband ignores my kisses to grab my boobs and says I’m the one being unloving

My husband 30M and I 23F have been married for 4.5 years. We have two kids together and ever since our youngest was born 18 months ago, my husband has been so obsessed with my boobs. He always has had an interest in them but it seems like he has taken this to a whole new level. He is constantly touching, playing, pinching, and sucking on my boobs/nipples. Every time he comes home from work (I’m a SAHM) I greet him at the door waiting to give him a hug and a kiss. The past few months, he has been dodging my hugs and turning his face away from me so I have to kiss his cheek rather than his lips and he immediately grabs my nipples and pinches then pulls them through my shirt. I hate it, so I brought it up to him one day telling him how hurtful it is that he would rather come home and pull my nipples rather than give me a hug or a kiss. He then proceeds to tell me that my boobs are the only thing that makes him happy and I should be flattered he’s still attracted to my body. I told him I don’t want him touching my nipples anymore when he gets home and if he keeps doing it, I won’t greet him at the door anymore. He then gave me the silent treatment for 3 days. When he was finally ready to talk about it he said that he has never once restricted his body from me and he feels like I don’t love him because I’ve now “restricted” my body. I told him that I feel like he doesn’t love me when he goes straight for my girls rather than kiss me. It’s been a few weeks since that conversation but he still guilt trips me sometimes so I just need to know… AITAH?

Elise Dubois
My Parents Shamed Me At Christmas Dinner… So I Exposed Their Biggest Secret
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My Parents Shamed Me At Christmas Dinner… So I Exposed Their Biggest Secret

I’m a nurse practitioner, and I handle primary care for a lot of low-risk maternity patients at the practice where I work. I also work closely with doctors and midwives to make sure patients have a healthy experience throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. My fiancée is currently finishing her residency. We’ve been living together for a few years now, and we’re not in any rush to get married. We actually had plans to do it a couple of years ago, but life got hectic and we both ended up busy for a long stretch. What really bothers my very religious parents is the fact that their youngest son is, in their words, “living in sin.” Honestly, I don’t care. I’m an adult and I make my own choices. We are getting married in June anyway. This year, we went to visit them for Christmas. Because of how things worked out, the entire family ended up at my parents’ house. That included my parents, my three siblings, me and my fiancée, plus seven grandchildren. Seventeen people in total. During dinner, my mom started talking about how happy she is that we’re finally getting married so she won’t feel embarrassed at church anymore. Then my dad chimed in, saying how proud he is of my three older siblings, pointing out how they either waited until marriage to move in together or got married right after moving in. My fiancée was clearly uncomfortable, and I was getting frustrated. We’ve had this same argument way too many times. I’ve told them again and again that they don’t get to control how I live my life. I even refuse to stay at their house when we visit, even if I come alone. Hotels are just easier and avoid all of this. So instead of continuing the argument, I changed the subject and started talking about a premature baby I had recently read about. The baby was born almost three months early and weighed about 1.6 pounds. Despite that, it was doing really well, and the NICU team was optimistic. Both my parents immediately went quiet and looked completely caught off guard. Honestly, too bad. They shouldn’t have been pushing my fiancée like that. Then I brought up my oldest brother, mentioning that he was supposedly born almost four months premature. I casually suggested we could go look through the family album where all the birth records are kept. I already knew the truth, though. My brother was over 9 pounds and nearly 23 inches long at birth. My grandmother had told me everything years ago when my parents first tried to shame me. The subject changed almost instantly. After dinner, my parents pulled me aside and told me I shouldn’t try to embarrass them with private matters that don’t concern me. I told them very clearly that if I ever hear another comment about my living situation for the rest of my life, I will keep bringing up the fact that my mom was already in her second trimester when they got married. Now my parents are upset with me, saying I had no right to call them out like that in their own home. But my fiancée is relieved, because for the first time, it finally feels like they’re going to drop the subject for good.

Elise Dubois
Man Puts Brother's Private Conversation On Loudspeaker, Shattering His 18-Year Relationship On His Wedding Day
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Man Puts Brother's Private Conversation On Loudspeaker, Shattering His 18-Year Relationship On His Wedding Day

To begin my brother Ben (39m fake name ) has been in a relationship with Abby(39 fake name) 18 years. They’ve been engaged 8 years they’ve nearly gotten married 3 years ago but months before the wedding Ben chickened out. They went to therapy and basically because our dad left us he has issues with commitment. We thought over the last year he was finally gonna step up for Abby and be the partner she deserves. He did seem a bit anxious leading up to the big day but assured everyone he was ok. Today they were meant to get married but as abby and us bridesmaids were about to enter the church Ben was no where to be found. Everyone tried to calm her down saying it was traffic or he probably had a monster hangover. Well an hour passed, than two, than three and than after the four hour mark Abby said fuck she was going back to the hotel call her when he landed. My family looked panicked and nervous trying to get through to Ben or the groomsmen who had not arrived yet. My other brothers and brother in laws (sister’s husband) went looking for him thinking he got hurt or arrested the night before. I went back to the hotel with a very broken looking Abby. We drank and ate food for another hour before I got a text from my brother in law saying they found him in a bar and they were trying to talk him into GOING TO HIS OWN WEDDING. My sister rang her husband and heard him in the background he was literally acting like a 5 year old who didn’t want to go to the doctor. Honestly guys I had enough at this stage he mess this girl about too long and frankly leading someone along for 18 years is just cruel. So he’s here’s were I maybe the asshole of the century. I walked into Abby’s room and told her be quiet than I rang my brother in law put him on loud speaker and asked him what was going on than for him to put Ben on the phone the drunk fool started saying shit like he didn’t think she was the one and he is only with her because they’ve been together to long and he is scared to be alone. I let her hear everything I won’t lie I felt like a monster when she started crying. Abby than grabbed the phone told him he had one hour to get to the church or it was over for good. Long story short Ben ended up at the Church 20 minutes later and Abby took off her dress than left the hotel alone. So he ended being left a the Alter and she went on the honeymoon alone. I’ve been disowned by everyone expect two siblings (sisters) and I had to get Abby’s maid of honour to collect my suitcase from outside the hotel (mom dumped out when she found out). I’m the full blame for ruining their relationship and 98% of my family hates me.

Anya Petrova
Family Outraged As Young Woman Requests Her Parents' Entire Estate In Exchange For Being Her Disabled Older Sister's Guardian
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Family Outraged As Young Woman Requests Her Parents' Entire Estate In Exchange For Being Her Disabled Older Sister's Guardian

Ok Reddit I need some unbiased outside opinions because I truly feel like I’m going crazy dealing with this situation. I (28F) and my partner (28M) have 2 children together and have been married for 8 years, for those 8 years I’ve either been on birth control when we were preventing pregnancy or tracking my cycle when we were trying to conceive (adding this just to give the community the context that reproductive responsibility has always fallen on my shoulders). Recently we discussed the possibility of being done with children since we have our 2 and the family really feels complete, my partner is in agreement that a third child is off the table for him as well. So with that I thought “great! I can bring up sterilization for either him or I”, the reason I wanted this is because I’ve had every form of birth control before and none of them ever left me feeling 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} okay so I wanted to be done with birth control completely since we both agreed we’re done. It’s been about 3 months since our talk about more children so I brought up either getting a vasectomy for him or me getting a salpingectomy (removing my fallopian tubes), what I thought would be a productive conversation completely blew up. He outright refused a vasectomy and when I was okay with that and said I’d happily get a salpingectomy he completely flipped his shit on me, screaming at me about how he forbids it from happening and he won’t allow me to damage myself like that. I ended up just leaving the conversation and headed to get our kids from school but on the way I ended up calling my gynecologist to schedule a consultation for the salpingectomy after making sure I won’t need my spouse’s approval. So Reddit AITAH if I go through with the sterilization against my partner’s wishes? Small update and some questions answered: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/i9OPG191bG

Clara Jensen
My Unemployed Husband Told Me To Get A Boob Job So I Exposed His Secret At Dinner
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My Unemployed Husband Told Me To Get A Boob Job So I Exposed His Secret At Dinner

My husband Jared and I have been married for 3 years. He's currently out of work (used to work at a high paying job but got kicked out the company over a fight with a co worker) and I'm the one paying for rent and utilities. We dedicate some time to see his family weekly. They don't know he's unemployed because he thought they'll see him as a failure especially his mom so he told me to keep it a secret. Last night we were sitting eating dinner at the table. His cousin was talking about his fiancee going to brazil to do a boob job. Jared asked if he was serious then "flattered" FSIL's boobs saying they're perfect and that he didn't understand why she'd get a boob job. He then turned to me, stared at my chest while I was eating like an idiot (I have a flat chest, I'm insecure about it but can't do anything about it obviously) and said "Hey why don't YOU get a boob job, you're the one who needs it the most". His mom gasped and was like " JARED!?? " I said "It's fine!"  I then turned to him and said "I'll get a boob job once YOU get an ACTUAL JOB since you've been unemployed for 6 months now$!!", He stared at me in disbelief. his mom began questioning him about being unemployed and he denied denied denied then admitted it was true. It got awkward with his mom scolding him and others shaming him for it and for hiding it. He got so overwhelmed he went outside and stayed inside the car til I came. He started yeling at me repeatedly "you coudn't have held your effing tongue?!!", And accused me of turning his family against him and having them jugge then shun him now he can't even step a foot in their house from shame and guilt. I argued that his comment about my chest was insulting, but he said he was giving me a piece of advice and that there is nothing wrong with him wanting me to look pretty and that he said what he said out of support and encouregemnt, but I what I did was the complete opposite and that it was intented to hurt him and I succeeded. He dropped me off at home then went to stay with his buddies. I called him later thinking he calmed down but his friend said he didn't want to speak to me and I shoud give him space.

Anya Petrova
I Set a Trap for My Snooping MIL and Now My Husband Wants Me to Apologize
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I Set a Trap for My Snooping MIL and Now My Husband Wants Me to Apologize

My (27F) husband (32M) and I have been dating for 6 years and married for 4, we have a 3 year old baby boy and since we don't plan on having more children, I told my husband that I wanted to get my boobs redone because I wanted them more perky and I had surgery last year. My MIL has always been sniffy because my husband is her only son, we've gone LC over the years because she's overbearing with him and dismissing with me, things got a little better when our baby was born, but after my surgery? oof, it's like I wrote in my forehead ''LOOK AT MY BOOBS, I WANT TO CHEAT ON MY HUSBAND''. She's always implying that I did it for male validation (yeah, your son's ffs), that I'll leave my husband, that I look like a hooker because I wear stuff that shows cleavage, everything. She also complaint about my clothes (and underwear) a lot, because ''no married woman with a child should dress like this''. And see, that's what stung me because, how could she know? I suspected she was going in my drawers, but my husband told me that *she could never*. She made a comment about a cute set of lingerie that shows basically everything and I was confused, I asked how'd she knows I have it and she said ''she saw it in the washing machine'' but I prefer to wash my sets by hand so the lace last longer. Anyway, we recently changed our bedroom and I had an idea to put an end to this. When I was restocking my drawers, I used one in my vanity to put all of my husband's and mines sex toys, a few sets and a dirty letter he wrote to me once. My MIL visited us a few times and said nothing, so I did felt bad for accusing her, but yesterday she was here with my SIL and my husband and I were in the kitchen cooking for them. We heard my MIL calling us and when we went to our room they were standing next to my open drawer. I just snorted, looked at my husband and said ''see? she snoops.'' My husband got red in the face, berated my MIL and my SIL and they both left after calling me indecent. My husband is mad at them, but he's mad at me too because he says I shouldn't have set a trap for his family and is saying we three need to apologize to each other.

Clara Jensen
Girlfriend Giggled While Her Parents Bullied Me So I Walked Out On Dinner
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Girlfriend Giggled While Her Parents Bullied Me So I Walked Out On Dinner

So, I (30M) have been seeing Maya (27F) for a little over two years now. Things are good between us, but her dad… he’s not exactly my biggest fan. He's one of those guys who thinks he needs to "test" me to see if I'm worthy of his daughter, and honestly, it’s getting old. This weekend, Maya invited me to her parents’ house for dinner. I didn’t want to go at first, but Maya really wanted me there, so I agreed. It started off fine, but then, as usual, her dad started with the comments. I’m a graphic designer, and he’s always saying things like, “Is that even a real job?” or “What do you do, just move things around on a computer all day?” I was trying to brush it off, but things got worse when he asked me to help him in the garage. I thought it was just some small thing, but then he handed me this ridiculously heavy toolbox and said, “Let’s see if you can handle it.” I told him I wasn’t dressed for it, but he just smirked and said, “Figures. You don’t look like you do much manual work.” It was like he was waiting for me to do something wrong. When we went back inside, things didn’t get any better. Her dad made this comment about how I probably don’t even know how to fix a flat tire, and her mom joined in saying, “Bet you’re the kind of guy who orders takeout every night, huh?” The whole table laughed, and Maya was just sitting there, kind of giggling along with them. At that point, I couldn’t take it anymore. I snapped and told her dad, “I’m not here to prove anything to you. If I loved fixing cars, I’d be a mechanic, not a designer. I don’t need a ‘test’ to show I’m good enough for your daughter.” The room went dead silent. Her dad got all defensive, saying I was being too sensitive, and Maya got upset with me too. She said I should’ve just gone with the flow and not made a scene. I couldn’t handle it anymore, so I just grabbed my things and left. Now Maya’s barely talking to me, and I feel like maybe I went too far. But I just don’t get why her dad can’t respect me. AITAH?

Jonas Bergström
I (28F) caught my husband (32M) doing the most disturbing thing with a reborn doll. I feel sick. AITAH for wanting to divorce him?
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I (28F) caught my husband (32M) doing the most disturbing thing with a reborn doll. I feel sick. AITAH for wanting to divorce him?

Last month was our marriage anniversary, end of Jan. After dinner, he told me he had a gift for me. I was excited. I opened the box and it was so creepy. It was a realistic doll like how a baby looks. I had no idea things like this even exist. he told me these are called reborn dolls. I was so weirded out because it’s like holding a dead baby. The eyes are closed, it just felt wrong. It came with a bunch of clothes and stuff. I was just shocked why he would get this. I didn’t want to be rude, so I asked oh wow, what made you get this?And he said, since I told him I don’t feel that mom vibe or anything seeing kids, he got me this doll to help me. I was so creeped out, but I didn’t want to ruin the night, so I just said thanked him and went to bed. Never talked about it again. A few days pass and last night sunday, he went out with his friends. They usually drink so it’s not uncommon. He was at his friend’s place and said he’d be home late. I had work early the next day, so I went to sleep. At 4 AM, I woke up to get ready for my shift. I went downstairs and saw him passed out on the couch. I went closer to wake him up so he wouldn’t hurt his back sleeping there. And then. i saw it. Next to him was his drinks. A bottle of lube. And that silicone sticky doll. Without clothes. Placed on his private parts. He was just laying there. Passed out. my heart sank. I felt disgusted. Disturbed. I quietly went upstairs, grabbed some clothes and left. I called in sick and checked into a hotel. now I’m sitting here, devastated. I don’t know what to do. I feel sick I don’t even know who to talk to about this or who to tell. He’s been calling and texting, asking why I’m not home, saying I’m overreacting. He keeps saying its not what it looks like and that I need to give him a chance to explain. he said he was just cuddling it, but I know what I saw. He has no reason to have that doll on him, in that position, with that stuff next to him. I don’t feel safe seeing him again. i don’t know how to tell my friends or family. I’m Indian, and there’s going to be a lot of judgment about divorce if I even say the word divorce. my family will not hear me out, they only think divorce is justified if someone is being physically abusive. i don’t even know how to explain why I don’t want to be with him anymore. I feel like he’s going to turn this on me, say I’m being crazy, and no one will believe me. Am I just overreacting or being the asshole by not hearing him out? i know my brother and close friends will trust me. But my parents and relatives? they’ll think I’m insane. I am worried about going back home and facing him. i want to tell someone about it and want a friend or my brother to come with me if I have to go grab some more stuff from home. What should I do from here?

Jonas Bergström
Ex-Husband Keeps Dumping His Affair Child On Me And His Family Calls Me Heartless
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Ex-Husband Keeps Dumping His Affair Child On Me And His Family Calls Me Heartless

I am not american and given names are fake. I am Tory 35f and have a 10 year old son Neo with Jeff 35m. We divorced five years back , when he had an affair with Rebecca. They have a four years old son Omar and Rebecca left them for her home country two years back. She left the kid for good and hasn't contacted since. My ex, who was always rude before that has changed tunes since. During custody exchanges, he brings Omar and sometimes asked me to take him. Which I have always refused. My son and his half brother are close and have developed bond like real brothers, which is fine to me. Because I don't plan to have any kid. So it's good he has a sibling from his father's side. But i also made clear to my son, that I don't wanna associate with ex's family though therapy. Last time he brought him fully ready with bag and when I said no. Kid said mommy take me too. I wasn't happy with this and had huge verbal clash with my ex. I told him to stop brainwashing the poor kid, as I will never be his mother. My ex doubled down and told me that I am wonderful mother to Neo and I can open my heart. Truth is I can't. Omar reminds me of their affair. I know that he is innocent, but I don't want him at my home. My son knows my boundary. Now my ex in laws are asking me to show some compassion and love for the kid who is faultless. But I don't want to be associated as any motherly figure in his life. They are calling me heartless for not taking the kid with me to my home and other places where I took Neo. They say he is without a mother. But I really don't wanna associate with ex outside our son. I told them that if i had an affair and kid with some random man, would they accept the kid ? That shut them up. Still they messaged me calling names.

Luca Moretti
Girlfriend Says I'm Not Her Daughter's Dad So I Stopped Paying For Everything
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Girlfriend Says I'm Not Her Daughter's Dad So I Stopped Paying For Everything

Me and Diomara (12F) have had a rough summer. She's been more defiant than usual. I've been dating her Mom Mara (30F) for 2 years now. 9 moths ago, they moved in with me, Maple (33M). Both Dio and Mara have an on again/off again relationship with Dio's Dad (Dynasis). He's pretty much never paid child support, comes and goes as he pleases into Dio's life. Typical shitty-ass part time Dad. I've tried to fill the Dad role in her life, while still understanding boundaries, taking things slow, etc. This summer Dynasis decides he wants to be a real Dad and takes Dio in for a month. Good for him, not my business, and Mara agrees. When Dio came back home because school started she was a lot different. Really mean to me, very dismissive. A few days ago she got caught shoplifting at the mall. Security took her in then called Mara, who didn't answer, then called Dynasis, who didn't answer, and finally me. I answered. They told me I had to pick her up or she'll be handed over to juvenile. I didn't say anything to her while I picked her up. I apologized to security, apologized to the store. I even tipped the security guards plus the store employees because its fucked up they had to deal with that. I assured them Dio would be punished appropriately. I'm speaking to her in a strong, affirmative, voice while we're in the car. NOT yelling, but in a fatherly tone, I suppose. I'm telling her how fucked up it is to steal, and how I dont fuck with thieves, and how I absolutely don't voluntarily fuck with any kind of police so I don't appreciate any of this nor will I accept it in my house. She snaps back that I'm not her Dad so don't ever tell her what to do. From now on, if I wanna tell her something I need to clear it with her real father first. That killed my soul. For the past year or so, I've treated her as my own daughter. I've paid for their housing, I've paid for her moms car, her schooling, her food, everything. Her bio Dad dropped $100 check off one time in the past year. The fuckin check bounced so I had to call him up and he brought cash over. I told Mara about all of this. She was appalled at what Dio said, but she never made Dio apologize because "she's not wrong, you're not her Dad." A couple of days later Dio asks me for some money to pay for her uniform/accessories she needs for a sport she's involved in. I say go ask your Dad. She scoffs and says her Dad doesn't have the money for it, so I have to pay for it. I tell her...I'm not her Dad so don't ever tell me what I have to pay for. She cried to Mara, who tells me I'm not being an adult about the situation. Mind you, I never received an apology or a thanks for our entire previous situation. Mara says Dio is a kid and I need to stop acting like a kid too.

Jonas Bergström
Mechanical Engineer Puts Her Boyfriend's Misogynistic Friends In Their Place When They Call Her A Gold Digger
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Mechanical Engineer Puts Her Boyfriend's Misogynistic Friends In Their Place When They Call Her A Gold Digger

I'm in a relationship with a guy who also works in tech. He makes 68k and I make 130k. I am a mechanical engineer at a robotics startup. He works at a more stable job doing programming at a large company. He brought me to meet his friends at a party and they asked me about myself. His friends mostly work in tech too and talked about themselves in terms of their jobs. I told them I'm a hiker, I do archery, I love road trips and camping and riding dirtbikes, etc. Basically talking about my hobbies because work is just a way to get paid to do the shit I love. It's not how I define myself and it doesn't come to mind when someone wants me to tell them about myself. One of his friends asked about work and I said "Oh gosh, I don't wanna talk about work at a party! Spent my whole day sweating my ass off in 95 degree heat trying to replace this busted ass motor just to find the replacement part was also fucked." I wasn't lying or trying to downplay that I have a good job, that really is how I spent my day, and I wasn't in the mood to talk shop at a party! Some other conversations came up casually that probably also made me seem poorer like me saying that car dealership repairs were a ripoff, and telling my boyfriend that my childhood neighbors trailer caught on fire and I was gonna visit and help her out. It got later in the night, everyone was getting drunker, and some of his friends (not close ones tho) were making jokes about me growing up in a trailer and being a gold digger. And being ready to jump to a richer guy. Really misogynistic shit honestly, since they don't even know me and seemed to just assume all girls are good diggers. He didn't say anything. He later said it was because he'd smoked weed and gets quiet and has trouble carrying on a quick conversation when he's high. But regardless I felt hurt he didn't say anything. I got irritated with his friends and asked "Now why the hell would you say that when I make twice what he does?" His friends went quiet for a second and I continued saying "There ain't no gold to dig here, not with him or anyone at this party. So do y'all think I'm cheap, or do y'all think I'm stupid?" My boyfriend wanted to leave the party shortly after and he was pretty upset with me for telling everyone I make twice what he does. I said I would have held my tongue if he'd checked his friends himself. But he didn't say anything so I wasn't about to let them talk to me like that. He said it was humiliating and now everyone thinks I'm a bitch, and I flippantly said "at least they know I'm a rich bitch" He was angry I embarrassed him when I spoke up, I was angry I had to say anything at all because his friends were talking shit so it should be on him to check them. Stuff is still tense.

Anya Petrova
Boyfriend’s Mom Put Me in Coach While They Sat First Class So I Left Him at the Airport
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Boyfriend’s Mom Put Me in Coach While They Sat First Class So I Left Him at the Airport

My boyfriend’s parents paid for them, my boyfriend’s siblings and their SO to all go on a flight to Cabo for spring break. Becky his mom hasn’t seem to like me for some reason she always makes snide remarks about my parents blue collar jobs and my field is nursing. We get to the airport and Becky got 7 other people first class tickets and me 1 coach ticket. She told me I was used to it and she had a free coach ticket so I should be grateful for going. They all did their express check ins and left me in the long line for me to think about what the heck is going on. I had to keep from crying the whole time in line. I got up to the counter and there was a baggage fee to me. My boyfriend at the time never once helped me through the coach line or said anything to his mom. I looked over at his mom’s smug face as I was about to pay the checked baggage fee. And I let all of my frustrations out on the attendant and started crying. Basically she said don’t go with that family sweetie they don’t appreciate you. Continues to cry and took my luggage and got out and got out of line with the super sweet check in woman. I was so upset on how I was treated and started crying on my boyfriend in the airport about how his mother was treating me. I broke up with him at the airport and his mother was so embarrassed. I told her what a bitch she was. My boyfriend has been blowing up my phone saying how could I do that to his mother and just back out of a vacation very last minute and wasted everyone’s time and money.

Jonas Bergström