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I’m 34 Weeks Pregnant… And My SIL Wants Me To Sit In Extreme Heat For 8 Hours In A Gown

I’m 34 weeks pregnant… and my sister-in-law expects me to sit 8 hours in extreme heat in a full black-tie gown like nothing’s wrong. She’s getting married in two weeks, and her dress code is strict: long sleeves, floor-length, black tie. No exceptions. Normally, I wouldn’t even question it. It’s her wedding. Her rules. But this wedding is completely outdoors. In the middle of the day. In the southern US. It’s brutally hot. And I’m heavily pregnant. I overheat within minutes. Being outside for hours like that, in a long-sleeve gown, isn’t just uncomfortable… it’s dangerous. So I tried to compromise. I sent her multiple dresses. Still formal, still elegant, just slightly adjusted so I don’t pass out in the heat. She shut down every single option. No flexibility. No understanding. Just a hard “no.” So I told her the truth. If she won’t budge even a little, then I can’t attend. Not because I don’t care. But because I have to care about my health and my baby. That’s when everything exploded. She went off on me, calling me selfish… and then said, “For once, it’s not about you and your fucking baby.” That wasn’t random. She’s been jealous. I’m having the first grandchild in the family, and she’s always made it clear she thought it should’ve been her first. And now this just confirmed it. Since then, my husband’s entire side of the family has turned on me. They’re all saying I should just “deal with it for one day” and keep the peace. That I’m overreacting. That I’m selfish. But I don’t see it that way. I’m not refusing to support her. I tried to meet her halfway. She’s the one refusing to bend… even when it comes to my health. And now I’m being treated like the villain for not risking myself just to fit into her perfect wedding vision.

2025-09-15 13:46:31

Luca Moretti

Family

I Exposed My Sister’s Secret To Her Fiancé… Now Their Wedding Is Falling Apart

I told my sister’s fiancé the truth about her past… and now their wedding is falling apart because of me. My sister (30) is engaged to a guy, let’s call him Josh (33). He’s successful, respectful, treats her incredibly well, and has always been nothing but kind to our entire family. Honestly, everyone loves him. A few months ago, they announced their engagement at a big family dinner. Everyone was celebrating, laughing, excited… Except me. Because I knew something he didn’t. Later that night, I pulled my sister aside and asked her one simple question… “Did you tell him about your past?” We’re twins. We’ve always been close. And I know exactly what her past looks like. In college, she went through a very “wild” phase. She slept with over 100 guys. Now, I’m not here to judge that. It’s her life. Her choices. But marriage? That’s different. I believe the person you’re marrying deserves the full truth, especially about something that big. She told me it didn’t matter. That it was in the past. That I should just let it go. But I couldn’t. So I gave her a... I told her if she didn’t tell him… I would. A month passed. Nothing. They kept planning the wedding like everything was perfect. I gave her one last chance. A few more weeks. Still nothing. So I did it. I told Josh everything I knew. He thanked me… but I could see it hit him hard. Because here’s the part that made it worse. She didn’t just not tell him… she lied. She told him she’d only been with three guys. Three. He was completely blindsided. Now the wedding is on hold. He hasn’t spoken to her in days. Says he needs space to think. And my entire family? They’re furious at me. They say I destroyed her relationship. Ruined her wedding. That it wasn’t my place. Meanwhile, Josh’s family is more neutral. They’re supporting him… and some of them even thanked me for being honest. And now I’m stuck here wondering… Did I do the right thing… or did I just blow up my sister’s entire life?

2025-09-22 11:18:14

Clara Jensen

Family

Husband excluded our daughter from a family trip and now he's mad she won't forgive him

Essentially, my husband has decided he wants to have a "guys only" trip this summer with my son (13 M) and nephew (12 M). My daughter (11 F) is a tomboy who is into sports and fishing and extremely close with her brother and dad, and the three of them often spent a lot of time together. My husband and I discussed this, and I insisted my daughter be included, but he mentioned that he really wants this time with his son and nephew, without any women present. I eventually gave in on the boys only trip, but warned him that our daughter would be hurt, and it was up to him entirely to fix it. He promised me he would. Ever since my husband told her she couldn’t go, my daughter’s behavior has changed. She no longer hangs out with her brother playing video games, and she has been extremely distant with my husband. Just this past week, during the Super Bowl, while my son and husband were watching the game, my daughter was tucked away in her room. Watching the Super Bowl together has always been a tradition for the three of them to do together (I'm not into sports ball), but this year, my daughter didn’t join them. I asked her if she was okay, and she gave a "yeah" and continued reading a book. My husband noticed this behavior and tried to cheer her up by telling her he would plan something really cool, just the two of them, but our daughter told him she didn’t want to do anything. My daughter needed to be picked up early from school for a dentist appointment. My husband said he would pick her up, but she texted me, asking, “Please, mom, can you pick me up and bring me?” My daughter also has been getting the school bus in the morning instead of catching a ride with my husband and son, which she typically does. Now my husband has been complaining to me about our daughter, saying he’s done everything to make it up to her and that I need to step in. I told him she would be hurt by him excluding her from the trip, and it’s entirely his fault she’s icing him out. He says we should be a team and try to fix this together, but he’s the one who caused this hurt, so it shouldn’t be on me to fix it. It’s starting to affect our relationship now, too.

2025-10-12 11:58:28

Luca Moretti

Relationships

My wife saved her daughter’s insulin instead of my son during our house fire

My wife ran back into a burning house… to grab insulinwhile my son was still inside. There was a fire two weeks ago. Middle of the night. I wasn’t home, I was helping my parents. Inside the house were my wife, our 1.5-year-old twins, her 5-year-old… and my 12-year-old son sleeping in the basement. When the fire started, she grabbed the girls and the diaper bag and ran out. She says she yelled “fire” and assumed my son had already made it out. And I might have understood that… If she had checked for him. If she had even looked. But she didn’t. Instead… she went back inside. Not to the basement. Not to check if my son was alive. She went to the kitchen… to grab insulin for the 5-year-old. Then ran back out. My son was still inside. Alone. Trapped in a burning house. He survived… because of the firefighters. But not without damage. His lungs are injured. Recovery will take years. His chances at playing sports in high school? Probably gone. And ever since that night… everything between us has been broken. She says she prioritized the babies because... But how do I ignore what she chose to do after that? She had time to go back inside… Just not to check on my son. This isn’t even coming out of nowhere. She’s always complained that my son doesn’t respect her. And my son has always said… he feels like she doesn’t even like him. Now I see why. So I told my son the truth. That I’m sorry I didn’t see it before… and that he doesn’t have to respect or listen to her anymore. That we’re stuck living together for financial reasons… but he can treat her like a stranger. She lost it. Said I’m giving him permission to make her life miserable. But honestly? After what happened… I don’t know how she expects anything else.

2025-10-07 05:28:14

Luca Moretti

Relationships

Friend refused to stop his toxic girlfriend from crashing our boys' nights so we cut him off

First-time poster, throwaway and fake names warning. Posting as a group. Background Info: Our friend group is made up of 6 people, Me(M33), A(M34), J(M35), K(M33), E(M34) and V(M35). Now we met each other during a work event and connected instantly and each of us has a SO. Now with V, he has been with his GF for 3 years, and we have been friends since uni and ever since then, we have a "guys-night" once every 3 months so that 4 times a year and every time we get together V keeps bringing his Gf and it just became awkward, she would follow him everywhere, she even tried to follow him into the men's toilet. We are unable to go to restaurants because she keeps causing drama. An example of this is when V left his phone on a table at a restaurant, the waiter tapped V on the shoulder and returned the phone, V thanked her, His GF poured water on a waiter and accused her of hitting on V. The manager banned her. That is just one of the times she acted out. Me, M, A, J and K had enough, we held an intervention, asked him why he keeps bring her and that we had enough. He wasn't able to give us a proper answer, said that she keeps inviting herself to these events. Soon she was invited into our group chats and our annual camping trip. Now because Melbourne is in lockdown, we had a few online movie sessions, and she would show up and complain about the choice of movie. Now we had enough, every time she shows up, there is an issue, the choice of movie or the type of food served, the weather. Now Me, M, A, J and K told V to grow a pair and tell her enough is enough, he refused to do so, said this is him proving his love for her. So Me, M, A, J and K decided that until he had a proper sit-down and talk things through with her, we would not invite him to any of our events, he and his Gf called us Assholes, while our SO also agree with them. Edit: Judging by how many people are asking about why we only meet 4 times a year. I just need to clarify that we see each other a lot due to working together at the same office. We only meet 4 times for guys-night, which is supposed to be just us 6, not our GFs or other co-workers. Just needed to clarify that. And HUGE THANKS to everyone who rewarded this post.

2025-09-15 13:17:03

Clara Jensen

Family

My Boyfriend Hid His Traditional Views Until I Met His Family And Now Expects Me To Serve Him

My bf (28M) and I (24F) have been dating for roughly 2 years now. I've never met his family in person (they know of me) as they live quite far away and we're all busy with life. But recently, there was a family event for his nephew's first birthday. I went to the event with my bf and meeting his family and relatives was nice. They were sweet people and said they were happy to have me there. But once the dinner time came, my bf, who has never ever asked me of anything suddenly told me to 'get me my plate and food.' I was confused at first but then noticed that all the women present were taking care of handling the food to their partners. Instead of telling him anything, I just decided to do it. But the next thing was asking me to 'get him water' and then next 'get me tissues' and then next 'let's go wash hands' even when I wasn't done eating?? I was so baffled the whole time because I wanted to tell him to knock it off but given how all the men in the room was doing the same and the women following them, I didn't say anything until the event was over. Once it was done and we were going back, I asked him what tf was going on and was genuinely upset and he told me that's how his family tradition is and since men are far superior than women are, they're meant to serve and that of course I'll have to do the same once we get married so I need to warm up to it now?? This was possibly the weirdest and most awful conversation I've had with him because he's never brought up anything about his family or this tradition until I met them in person. He's never even mentioned any of this UNTIL now. I got so upset by the fact that he sees women as inferior but then he said it was not about inferiority but women are a good subset of humans that are more emotionally evolved to serve than men are, so it's a waste for them to not act that way?? He said us serving isn't a bad thing but actually a great thing that shows respect to our partners. We argued for a long time and he said I needed to consider my relationship with him if I wanted to marry him. We've had marriage talks since my own family is asking to consider him as well and I had no issues with it since he's a nice guy and always been good to me. It's just that he's never been this way and him bringing up tradition and knowing his opinion on women serving men and all that is making me consider my relationship. I haven't talked to him since and he's been saying sorry for making me upset and that I should stop being sensitive over a simple thing that I'll eventually get used to. But I'm not sure if this tradition is something that's normal to his culture and I'm reading too much between these lines. It's not that I wouldn't get him his plates or tissues but it's the context behind it that I do not like. Idk if I sound affirming of what he is saying but I'm not. I'm seriously conflicted over how his personality just seem to have changed and need some insight because I thought he was the perfect guy for me until this happened. Should I talk this out with him or something?

2025-10-12 12:00:09

Anya Petrova

Relationships

My Boyfriend Says I Should Have Scolded His Daughter For Correcting A Host’s Fake Heritage Recipe

I (32f) have been dating a widower with a daughter, Nara (12f), for a year. We currently moved to a new city because of my boyfriend’s job promotion (I freelance) and are in the middle of settling down. Nara and I get along very well. Nara plays tennis. Since the move, she’s been in the school team and competed a bit. The parents of her teammates often organize some kind of get together and her father and I tried our best to have her attend most of them. I would say Nara got along well with all her teammates and I thought the parents were friendly. Last week the team captain’s parents hosted a potluck party at their place. Nara and I brought over some brownies. There really was a lot of all kinds of food. The team captain’s father did most of the greeting telling us his wife was preparing something special for us all. Once everyone was at the party, the wife came out of the kitchen with a special dish, a recipe of a specific country. Now, Nara looks white but her late mother actually came from that very country. The wife host began to serve everyone and share her recipe and ingredients and how it was “not that difficult to make once you substitute the local ingredients” and feel free to ask her for tips. At this point Nara spoke up, saying that the authentic recipes included such and such and how their particular scent and taste added to the whole experience of eating the dish. She said if so many substitutes were used, they may as well call the dish a different name. The wife host looked a little unsettled and told Nara that she and her husband traveled a lot in their youth and she had the dish many times and knew what it was supposed to taste like and the substituted ingredients work just fine. Nara then said her mom was from the dish’s country of origin and she understood that some ingredients were hard to come by but substituting so much turned the dish into something else altogether. During all this I mostly kept silent. Nara was not being rude, just matter of fact, and as this was a matter of her heritage I thought she could speak up. The host wife spluttered a bit before saying everyone should just go ahead and enjoy her dish, no matter the name. Everyone tried though nobody asked for seconds (I personally thought it was a little bland) and there was a lot of leftovers. Nara’s team captain later called her, thanking her for putting her “annoying stepmom in her place.” When my boyfriend came back from his business trip and learned of this, however, he thought I should have reprimanded Nara for being rude to the host. He also had a talk with Nara and she seemed to be sulking a bit though she was not grounded or anything. AITA?

2025-09-15 13:45:18

Jonas Bergström

Family

My Wife Cheated With My Brother And Now They Blame Me For Her Pregnancy Loss

I'm getting divorced from my wife, and I'll call her my wife in the post for clarity, of a decade. We have three kids together, two school aged and one preschool aged child. The last two years of our marriage were rough and I had no idea why. She pretended things were all good when talking to me, but complained about me to her family and friends non-stop. When I told her she could talk to me she was saying her family and friends were just trying to stir some shit and she wouldn't say I was lazy and ignored her which was a lot of what I was told. She said we'd get back to normal once all three kids were in school and we had more time for us. Then I found out she was having an affair with my brother. I found out via his ex-girlfriend who sent a photo of them kissing outside my brother's place. He broke up with her before the affair was revealed but he said a lot of shit about her and how she was paranoid and didn't trust him and she was proven to be right. When my wife said she was pregnant I knew the baby was my brother's and there was zero way for me to be the father. She tried to tell everyone she didn't know but the three of us knew. She knew we hadn't had sex in years. She was using the baby to try and make me more agreeable but I told her our marriage was over and I filed for divorce. She moved in with my brother and tried to take the kids but I stopped her because he lives 2.5 hours away and our school aged kids were not going to be able to make a 3 hour each way drive to school. Temporary custody was granted to me with visitation being granted to her. My parents were shocked and angry at my brother when I told them. He tried giving me shit for making them go after him and her when she was pregnant. I muted him because I didn't want to hear the BS but I also wanted to make sure everything in the divorce and custody went smoothly and I hope to maintain primary custody so I'll need to show they are better off with me. My parents did end up accepting them as a couple. I said I could understand them not giving up a child and grandchild but I don't want to hear about them. They said they respected this. A few weeks ago my wife had a stillborn baby. She and my brother blamed me for all the stress I put her under. She said being apart from our kids as much as she is was the biggest cause of her miscarriage and she sent a lot of vile texts and I replied to none of them. He also sent a number of them which I documented with hers. My parents came over to tell me about what happened and were shocked that I knew. They asked what I had said to my brother and wife. I told them nothing. I said I wasn't going to offer any sympathy to either of them after they did the dirty on me and fucked up mine and my kids' lives. My parents tried to talk about the loss and the baby and everything surrounding it but I shut it down and told them I was not going to be their shoulder to cry on or listening ear. I said my wish not to hear anything about my brother or wife had not changed because they lost a baby. They left my house angry and it took a couple of weeks for them to reach out again. They asked if I would be so rude to them again and I said if they tried to talk about this then yes. They asked if I had reached out to my brother and wife and I said no. They told me they had hoped to see me at the service and I told them it wouldn't happen. They said I didn't need to become such a cold hearted monster and times like these is where you put away the hate. I don't agree but I'm willing to entertain that maybe I'm wrong. AITA?

2025-10-07 12:13:56

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

I Left A Birthday Party Early And Triggered A Mass Exit Of Kids—Now The Mom Is Furious

Ok, this sounds bad but hear me out. My 3yo was invited to her preschool classmate’s birthday party at an indoor playground. We did arrive 10 late since we got lost trying to find the place, but we happened to arrive at the same time 2 other families, so it could have looked planned. The bday boy’s mom was clearly irritated, because we missed a treasure hunt. There was no schedule given so I didn’t realise it would be a big of a deal if we were 10 min late, or I would’ve rushed more. We all did make sure our kids wished the birthday boy happy birthday & pass him his presents, but they immediately ran towards the train ride once they were done. Turns out the mom wanted to organise a group photo shoot with the kids so she was annoyed they ran off. The kids then could do whatever they liked for maybe 10-15 min before we had to follow the itinerary we didn’t realise we had. The kids had 2 group rides, which always came with a photoshoot before each ride. Then they were free to play for just another 5-10 min before they had to go for another photoshoot with the cake. Then the parents had to take photos. Our country still had indoor mask mandates, but we were told it’s legal to have masks off for photos & were ordered to take off our masks. Then we had the cake cutting and another round of photos, before food was served. It hasn’t even been 2h & we’ve had 4 photo taking sessions, taking up almost an hour. My daughter didn’t want to eat & I could see she was losing it. Especially, since was a spread of beautifully decorated desserts that weren’t offered to anyone at all, so I wouldn’t let her touch them. I figured I should just leave before I ruin the party since we already had 2 meltdowns in the last 10 min, but my daughter leaving triggered her 2 friends asking to leave, which triggered even more kids demanding to leave. The party ended up getting cut short by 30min. The mom is obviously pissed with me, and I agree I did ruin the party & I knew if my daughter leaves, there’s a chance I’d trigger that snowball effect. And yes, I believe it’s important not to expect society to cater to my child’s whims & it’s my job as a parent to make sure she behaves, but I think she had been doing an amazing job not running off & doing her own thing. I found the entire party stressful & not fun at all, so I figured my kid probably feels the same. So am I one of those entitled moms here? **EDIT:** Just to clarify some things: * The mom isn’t an influencer, she has instagram but it’s private * My daughter didn’t have a meltdown yet, it was 2 other kids. I didn’t want her to be the 3rd so I left. * We did try to leave quietly, but my daughter’s closest friends saw us & started yelling. I kind of expected it since the girls are in this inseparable phase where they have to do everything together.

2025-09-27 20:00:33

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

I Told My Ex-Husband His New Wife Was The One Who Leaked Their Affair And Now Their Lives Are In Chaos

Throwaway Account I (42f) divorced my ex-husband "Chad" (42m) for cheating with his current wife "Rebecca" (30f) a few years back. I'll spare the details but basically something Chad did set off alarm bells so I did some snooping and discovered a paper trail that led me to Rebecca. I was furious and hurt but instead of confronting him about it then, I waited and collected evidence. I found Rebecca on social media and joined one of the online clubs she was in. We had the same interests so it wouldn't be that be of a red flag if either Chad or Rebecca found out and I just played it cool. I waited until after our youngest was in school so I could get a part-time job and got Chad to pay for my certification so I could get a better job. During this time he would go on trips, book hotels, buy gifts, etc. with a "secret" account that I was able to access because I know Chad well enough to guess his passwords and that he only sets his alerts when someone tries to use it. After I had moved certain things out of the house without his knowledge and convinced him to take his name off of my car, I handed him the divorce papers of the hotel lobby he was in waiting for Rebecca. I had tons of pictures of them together but only showed three of them when he tried to deny and two more to his family when he tried to send them after me. Chad was up for a big promotion so I told him that we could either get this divorce over with or I could kick up a fuss which would make his employers reconsider his position. After I made it clear that I didn't want any alimony and that he could keep his retirement we went our separate ways. Shortly after that Rebecca got pregnant and they got married and she aggravates to no end, but since my kids never complained I was willing to just suck it up. Then recently, Rebecca decided to get a little arrogant and publicly criticized my parenting because my child didn't do so well at the end of the school year and how she'd raise her child to be "smart". In the heat of the moment (along with some built up anger) I lied and said it wasn't very smart of her to tip off the wife that she was the AP. Chad wasn't there, but his mom and sister were and he called me that night to ask about it. He always wondered how I found out and instead of telling the truth I said that Rebecca was the one who tipped me off with the photos and told me when/where they'd be. And for some strange reason Chad asked me to keep our kids for the whole summer which I was willing to do in exchange for getting them on Christmas. I heard a few weeks later that Chad and Rebecca didn't have a very good summer. Rebecca has been messaging constantly about this but if it doesn't have anything to do with my kids I, SILENT MODE. I was talking to my brother about this and he thinks that while it's understandable WHY I lied that it was still wrong, but since I don't care about Rebecca or Chad I have to ask AITA?

2025-09-12 15:28:37

Anya Petrova

Relationships

My Ex And Her Boyfriend Were Arrested So Now She Wants Me To Raise Their Son

On mobile and all that, so sorry about that. Ok, I'm in this dilemma. When I met my wife 10 years ago, she had a 1 year old. His real dad is a complete dumpster, never wanted to have anything to do with her or her son. I love them both, and I marry her a year later. Then we have another son, B, who is healthy and amazing. For three years, we're all happy. We were saving for a house, both working, and taking care of our two boys. Then we hit a rough patch. Money is tight, with daycare and neither of us had gone to college, but we're doing well, established in our respective industries. Then she starts to slip, spending time out of the house more, going out with friends. I'm ok with this, since she didn't have a traditional post high school life since she was pregnant her senior year of high school. But then she goes silent, and we rarely talk. Then on a Tuesday, she announces she's leaving. She grabbed some stuff and went to live with a dude she met at work, and had been seeing on the sly when I was home with the kids. Fast forward a few months, and she's back in town, her and her new BF have an apartment, and has more contact with our two sons. Then she gets pregnant with BF's kid, C. Fast forward another few years, and they all live with her and BF and I see my two boys on the weekend. Fast forward until last fall, they both get arrested, and DHS removed all kids, giving me full custody of my two sons, and placing the youngest with her sister. If her sister doesn't take him, he could be placed in foster care. Now I've spoken to my son's, and they both are kind indifferent to the youngest, C. C was treated like a prince, while A and B were both constantly ragged on by EX and BF. So the question, am I the asshole for not wanting to take in the youngest? He's not my son, and I've had very little contact with him. (I've kept this very non descript because I don't want anyone I know to find out I'm reaching out) EDIT- Thank you everyone for commenting. Maybe I can sleep a little (just a little) knowing I've tried my best. My boys are very important to me, and im going to continue supporting and loving them with everything ive got, and will be honest with them about everything. But someone's gotta get them up for school tomorrow, so good night to all you AITA folks.

2025-09-04 15:03:15

Clara Jensen

Humor

My wife joked about my size in front of all our friends and now I want a divorce

Guys, I literally don’t know what to do after this weekend. Posting from a burner account since I am connected with a lot of friends and family on my account. The issue here happened Saturday night. We had our friend group over. There are 6 of us couples in there and we were hosting at our house. The night was progressing pretty normal, we had done dinner and were just hanging on the couches chatting. Everyone had been drinking over the course of the evening so we were all pretty comfy. My wife Amy (all names fake) was talking with one of other girls about my new job. I recently got a promotion that comes with a nice raise. The down side is that I have to travel a decent amount (up to 2 weeks a month, but only 3-4 days at a time at most). We were excited for the changes the extra income will provide and how it will change our future so the travel was something we agreed to being worth it. As they were chatting her friend Pamela was talking about how they make it work since her husband also travels for work a lot. The conversation was actually quite helpful honestly in a lot of ways as there were some good ideas in there! That is until it happened. Heidi jokingly said “and be sure to order some sex toys that are the same size as him so you can still have sex while he is gone!” Now she was giggling, just making light of the fact that I would be gone and that the biggest challenge they had was the interruption to their sex life. No harm in this right? That is until my wife says it. “I don’t think they make them that tiny”. Guys - I went totally pale. Everyone stopped talking and you could just feel the awkwardness in the room. I think she realized what she had said because she tried to back peddle. But the damage was done. I just stared at her in disbelief. She just kept trying to back peddle and saying “I’m so sorry” I just stood up and walked out. I didn’t know what to say or do. I headed over to a buddies house (I was sober, I don’t drink). I didn’t tell him the story just that we had an argument. But I feel so violated by Amy. Now the back story here - what she said is most likely true. I am not endowed, at all. I have known this my whole life basically. Any guy can back me up when I say we are all conscious of our size. I’m just under 3” hard. I have ALWAYS been super insecure about it. But our sex life also was never lacking because I made up for it in other ways in the bedroom and she has never lacked in the orgasm department we just get there order ways sometimes. Now here is where I feel like the AH - I want to divorce her. I feel so violated. I feel like I can never see these friends again. I feel like ALL they will be thinking about when I am around is her comment and well “how tiny is it really”. But my AH feeling comes in because I also have known for a long time that it is small, so I steered into the skis I guess you could say and am more submissive in the bedroom and enjoy it when she pokes fun at it in the bedroom. But that was just us. But I just feel so violated with it being now public knowledge. But I also may have made my bed here by being okay with the dirty talk? I don’t know. And for those wondering yes she has called and texted a ton yesterday apologizing for outing me, but I told her I needed space for a bit. Honestly I don’t even know if I’ll read the replies. I just needed to vent this somewhere And I have no one to talk to about it. My buddy I’m staying with just thinks we had a fight. I feel so lost. I feel like an AH, but just don’t know if I can trust her again, or feel secure enough to see any of them again.

2025-10-19 19:23:07

Anya Petrova

Relationships

Reddit User Tells Off Husband For Poking Around Their Finances Too Much

I (40/F) work full time. My husband (46/M) is a stay-at-home-dad since COVID. Things were tight for a bit when he quit his full-time job and tried to start his own business (there were losses that caused debt). Finances have been a bit of a sore spot since his business failure. I've always made significantly more than him. I've always been supportive when he's wanted to change jobs, start his own business, etc. When he sent us into a death spiral of debt with a failing business venture that he refused to let go of was kind of a breaking point. He spent the majority of his time blaming me for our financial position which was absurd as I was the only one bringing in money. He was spending it faster than I could make it. He briefly got a job but then ended up quitting at staying at home when everything closed down. I was in an essential industry and had to go to work in person. Since he's been at home he's been extremely controlling over the finances. He obviously gets all the mail because he's at home. So, he opens all of the bills and then quizzes me over the charges. He "claims" it's to make sure they're legit charges but that's complete bull. The conversations are usually like this: Him: "Is the $5 charge ok?" Me: "Yes." Him: "What is it for?" Me: "It's a patreon subscription." Him: "What is the subscription for?" Me: "Why does it matter? I told you it was a legitimate charge." Him: "I want to know what it is for." Me: "Do I go thru all of your bills and ask you what every charge is for?" Him "....." Then the conversation will shift from making sure it's a legitimate charge to him making sure it's a "need" and not a "want." I'm sorry, but who the eff gave you the power to tell me I'm not allowed to get things I "want" when I bust my butt every day to make a good living? This year I brought in more than $300,000 (before taxes). More than enough to pay off all the remaining debt from his failed business attempt with more than enough left over for all of our needs AND quite a few wants. I lost it today when he was questioning me on purchasing clothes for our kids (both recently had a growth spurt and need some new stuff) that were on clearance. I told him to eff off, which I know was inappropriate, but I am SO SICK of having the justify every single penny I spend. Having him interrogate me over every purchase. I'm to the point where I want to get a secret credit card just so I don't have to deal with the incessant questions and outward displays of control from him. AITA? ETA: We have done marriage counseling. It helped in some areas until he decided he didn't trust the therapist anymore. Then the sessions stopped.

2025-09-20 15:09:30

Elise Dubois

Family

I Told My Brother's Screaming Girlfriend She Has To Pay Full Rent Since I'm Not Sleeping With Her

I (48M) own a three-bedroom house. My brother (M mid-20s) lives with me and pays one-third of the market price for his room, which covers his share of the utilities. My brother has a girlfriend who spends most nights here—about 15 or 16 nights a month. They are frequently sexually active, and she is extremely loud, screaming at a level I associate with adult film performers. Because of this, I cannot sleep when she is present. Last week, after staying over for two consecutive weeks, she decided to move in with my brother, planning to occupy the other free room instead of sharing with him. When he informed me, I asked her to come over so we could discuss it. I told her that if she moved in, she would have to pay full market rent for the second room. She reacted strongly when I quoted the full market rent, seemingly expecting to live there for free because she is my brother's girlfriend. She demanded to know why I would charge her the full price. Sleep-deprived and irritable, I responded that since I was not the one having sex with her, she would need to pay full rent. She immediately became silent and red-faced, while my brother laughed hysterically on the floor. Following that incident, she stormed out, and since then, my brother has been staying at her place. I must admit, I am enjoying the silence. AITA?

2025-11-21 15:11:36

Clara Jensen

Relationships

Wife refuses to care for our newborn, then tells me she is leaving for a party trip

I feel awful about it, but. So, my wife gave birth to a healthy baby girl a month and a half ago. I wouldn’t exchange the world for my daughter. She’s my first daughter, but my wife has twin sons from another marriage. However, ever since she gave birth, she’s been... neglectful. I don’t mean “she won’t do the housework”, but more so, she’s not doing anything at all. I’m taking care of the baby, I’m doing the housework, etc. etc. When I asked her if she could /do/ something, she said that she had post-partum depression, and therefore can’t take care of our daughter. I told her, we can go to therapy if she wants, but she refused, because it’s not that serious. I was initially annoyed, but went like fuck it, she’s a new mum, pregnancy hurts. Yesterday she sat me down, and told me that she was going to go for a month abroad with her girlfriends, to party and “loosen up” so it would get her out of the emotional slump. Now, I’ve pretty much used up all my holidays, and can’t stay at home to take care of my daughter; so I asked her would take care of our daughter. She told me to hire someone; or have our sons do it. I flipped out, I told her she doesn’t have PPD, she’s just fucking neglectful, and eight year olds are in no way or form supposed to be taking care of a newborn, and besides, they have a school to fucking go to. I told her if she goes on this trip, it’s a divorce; I love her, but I cannot abide by this. Now she’s mad and won’t talk to me, and I’m sleeping on the couch. AITA here? EDITS/INFO: 1. I don’t know how she was with the twins, they’re my step-children. I might ask her family if they know. 2. She has done literally nothing to our baby girl. 3. Her PPD is self-diagnosed (I think I saw a comment about that?) 4. Sleeping on the couch is the least of my worries right now. But the baby was planned; we both wanted (and felt ready) for a child together. 4. I’ll talk with her tonight, and tell her that if she wants to go on a holiday with her friends (which I still hate the idea of), she has to go to a psychiatrist, and talk with him about this first. 5. Until then, I’ll keep the daughter with my mum when I’m at work. Someone mentioned possibility of hurting our baby, and I don’t think she’s like this, but it’s to put my heart at ease.

2025-09-22 09:36:47

Elise Dubois

Relationships

Husband Refuses To Let Pregnant Wife Have A C-Section Because He Thinks It Will Ruin Her Body

This post is about friends’ of mine, I am stuck in between and would like outsiders opinion as I am being extremely careful with this situation. Ladies that did give birth, your opinion matters most. Let’s call them Kate (30F) and Ben (29M), are really close friends of mine. I love them both dearly, and now stuck in awkward situation. Kate and Ben are expecting their first baby in one month. Two months ago Kate announced to Ben she wants to book a C section because 1. baby is oversized 2. Kate’s mom is willing to cover the whole procedure with private care, and doesn’t want her to go through the pains of giving birth 3. she is scared due to the stories her new moms friend told her about their experience at a public hospital. Ben is very against the C section. He insists that 1. it will ruin her body 2. she will no longer be able to give birth naturally 3. the recovery time from the surgery is worse than natural birth. However, of course if the surgery is necessary on the day, there will be no argument again that. Kate insists on the surgery, saying that she will most likely end up in hours of pain, and then end up with the C section anyway. What’s the point of suffering, if a C section is an option, and it will be covered financially. Ben keeps refusing. Personally, I try to be as natural as possible. But this has been an ongoing argument and I am running out of things to say to both of them. It’s getting more heated because she has a few weeks to book the C section.

2025-10-12 11:58:16

Elise Dubois

Relationships

My wife's friend is over constantly and I'm tired of my home being invaded

2 years ago my wife got talking to a woman online in a random Facebook group. They both noticed they had the same breed of dog and got talking. Turns out we live 30 mins from her. I didn't think anything of it but after 6 months they decided to meet up. By this point my wife knew her friend was autistic and her friend said she'd have to bring her mum with her to meet up until she felt more comfortable. I didn't think anything of the fact she was autistic and thought they wouldn't meet up again. I was wrong. Since then they meet up at least once a week and at least four times a month she comes to our house. When I first met her it felt like she didn't like me as she wouldn't laugh at jokes, avoided eye contact and just seemed distant. I told my wife this after her friend had left and she basically said 'well duh she's autistic, go read up on it'. I thought things would get better as time went on but it hasn't. I feel awkward and uncomfortable the whole time she's in my house and I honestly don't see what my wife sees in her as a friend. When they go out together everything has to be preplanned days in advanced, my wife calls ahead to restraunts to ask them if it's possible to turn the music down and she takes days off work to take her friend to doctors appointments. When I hear them laughing it's usually at something that isn't even funny and just odd to laugh at. All I want is my house back. I work hard and want to come home and relax at the end of the day but she's often here until 10pm on the days that she's over and even worse she sleeps over occasionally. I've asked my wife for them to meet at her friends house instead but apparently her friend isn't comfortable with anyone but her mum in her home yet she thinks it's perfectly acceptable to make herself at home in my home. My wife said she's getting sick of my complaining and I should just go out for a bit or to my parents house on those days if it's such a big deal

2025-09-22 08:39:41

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

AITA for not taking the fall for my husband??

I was at home, just out of the shower, already in my pajamas and ready for bed. My husband had been drinking heavily and was really drunk at this point. I tried to stop him from leaving but he went out anyway. A few minutes later he called me, shouting into the phone: “Open the door, open the door!” I ran to the front door and when I opened it he told me, “I crashed into a house, come see.” I was speechless but grabbed my slippers and coat to follow him outside. It was dark and before I realized what was happening a strong officer grabbed my arms, put them behind my back, cuffed me and slammed me on the trunk of a police car. I was placed in the back seat for over an hour while they kept coming back to ask me the same questions. Finally one cop told me, “Your husband is saying you were driving and you crashed into the house. But I smell liquor on him, not on you. He’s dressed to go out and you’re dressed for bed. I don’t think you were even there.” In the end my husband was charged with a ||...↘️

2025-08-21 13:36:07

Jonas Bergström