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WIBTA if I don’t go to my childhood friend’s wedding after she asked me to wear a chest binder under my bridesmaid dress?

A friend (31F, Cici) reached out and asked if I (31F) would be a bridesmaid at her wedding. I was honored. We had lost touch over time but she had been a close friend of mine through school. She sent me a link to a few of the bridesmaid dresses. She was asking the (four) bridesmaids to wear the same color but left the design up to us. I picked one similar to the ones she sent. Two months ago she had an engagement party and asked the bridesmaids to bring their dresses for a try on. She immediately didn’t like my dress. I felt terrible because I thought it was just a slightly different design from the ones she suggested. I told her that I would return it and get another one. She agreed to link me one. A few weeks ago she had another get together prior to the wedding and asked if I could bring the dress so she could see it. When I tried the dress on she again seemed unhappy. I didn’t know what to do - she had picked it out. I asked her if she wanted to see it with some shoes or jewelry or even a simple shawl. She said she didn’t know and that the issue wasn’t the dress but “How I wore it.” A few hours later Cici had had a few drinks and pulled me aside. She was really vulnerable and said she felt insecure and didn’t like how she looked in her wedding gown. She said that I looked good in both dresses but she was struggling because when we were in school, she had always been the “pretty friend.” But she also said she knew it was a mean way to feel, but she couldn’t help it. To be clear, I’m perfectly average at best. I told her she was beautiful and that she could pick out any dress for me, even a turtle neck if she wanted, and I would happily wear it. She appreciated that and said she would send something. We hugged and I left feeling pretty good about it all. The next day, she sent me a link to a chest binder. I knew what they were but had never worn one. She asked if I would wear it and that it would make her feel less insecure. I have worn my fair share of shapewear, so figured it would be fine. I WAS WRONG! After squeezing my DDs into it, I was in tears. My boobs hurt! I’m 3 months pregnant and my boobs hurt all the time anyway, but this was unbearable! I sent her a message telling her I couldn’t wear the binder but was willing to get any last dress for the wedding. No response. A few days passed and I texted her telling her that she needed to either approve one of the other dresses (sans binder) or I just won’t attend the wedding. That was two weeks ago and she still hasn’t responded to me. My husband is encouraging me to just not go at all. I think he is right, but I am a bridesmaid! I feel like I could be ruining her whole wedding if I just don’t show up. But, if I show in a dress she doesn’t like – that could also ruin the day for her. Her wedding is next Saturday. Would I be the AH if I go in the second dress? Or more of an AH to skip it all together?

2025-10-28 17:32:30

Elise Dubois

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WIBTAH if I told my boyfriend I won’t cover his portion of the bills while he recoverers from surgery?

I (41f) have been dating Chris (41m) for a year and a half. About 4 months ago we decided that he should officially move and help with rent in because he stayed at my place for a year not going home and it seemed like making it official was the next step. We live in an extremely HCOL area. My rent is $3300 a month (and that’s a very good deal in the area). I’ve worked my butt off to be able to make it here, to the detriment of my own savings. Meanwhile Chris grew up in the area so has always lived at home not paying rent, so he has a substantial savings of over $100k. Having this help with rent is allowing me to build a small savings. We split everything 50/50 (bills common purchases trips and etc- it’s not like he’s been spending money on me or supporting me outside of his half of the rent). When Chris was 18, he got into a dirt bike accident that messed up his ankle. He finally decided to have it looked at and it will require surgery and a 6 month recovery that he will not be able to work during because his job is physical. Chris has all the toys and freely spends his money on his hobbies, 10k mountain bike he constantly spends money on, brand new f250 he bought outright. Last week he dropped $2500 on fixing something on his dirt bike. I’ve never been able to purchase any “toy” for myself. For perspective, last month I bought myself my first pair new of shoes in 3+ years. I don’t judge his money or spending- as long as he covers his bills, he is a grown man, and it’s his money- we aren’t married or even engaged. Yesterday, he informed me that when he gets surgery he expects me to cover all the rent and utilities and bills again since he will be out of work. I explained I wasn’t comfortable with this as it would be a detriment to me, and the recovery time is quite extensive. He pointed out that with my new raise I should be able to cover everything easily, I pointed out I am trying to build my savings. If we were married or even engaged I’d be open to this idea as we’d be mixing finances and making financial decisions together- but just dating and him only just officially moving in, Im not comfortable with this, and pointed out he has more than enough savings and fmla/ disability should allow him to contribute to the house expenses. He again said that since we are now living together and I got the raise, that he shouldn’t have to dip into his savings. He also said that he wasn’t ready to get engaged (and I’m not ready to either especially after this discussion and watching his spending). This entire situation has really given me the icks and is making me second guess our relationship and future as to me it seems we aren’t aligned financially- and to be honest, I can’t wrap my head around a perspective of someone living rent free while the other partner struggles and they have access to a substantial liquid savings. Not only would I be covering all the rent, but also everything else- groceries, utilities, etc.

2026-03-02 23:14:05

Elise Dubois

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My Mom and Grandpa Just Died but My Dying Grandma Doesn't Know—Should I Lie to Her?

***Update in the comments. I'm sat here and I'm really overwhelmed. I have been beyond fortunate to never have to deal with death. If anybody has time to keep me company that would be lovely I will be sat in the waiting room for at least a week and my sister leaves tonight. Thank you for your humanity. I don't know how to send direct messages but I have had a few and will reply to anybody even just to share. - - - - I really don't know what I should do Reddit please help me. My grandparents were in a car accident on Saturday and my sister, mother and grandfather were all in the car. The complete right hand side of the car was crushed (UK so drivers side) which sat my grandfather and mother behind. My grandfather died instantly and my mother was rushed to a specialist hospital as she suffered serious brain damage. My grandmother is in a different hospital, my sister is absolutely fine except for a broken wrist. My grandmother has terminal cancer and hemophilia, has had several blood transfusions but I have been told she isn't going to make it past Friday. My mother is in a medically induced coma but is brain-dead and doctors have told me she won't survive off whatever machine is keeping her alive. My grandmother is currently awake although internally she is not in a good way. I told her that my mother broke both her legs and has damage but otherwise ok... I even showed her an old photo to pretend she is fine and my grandmother believed it. I can't tell her. My sister wants to tell her but what is the fucking point? Am I the asshole if I let her die thinking her daughter is still alive or does she deserve the truth?? Sat at my mother's bedside right now and in 4 hours I'm going to the other hospital to see my sister and ultimately decide what to do - what do people think? Please help me I am only 24 I have no idea and will do what everybody thinks is the best course of action. Thank you for listening.

2025-09-04 14:25:43

Luca Moretti

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WIBTAH if I placed my girlfriend's child for adoption?

My girlfriend was in a car accident with my best friend. She passed away and he is hospitalized. I went to visit him and he admitted that they were having an affair. He said our newborn daughter was actually his. He was afraid that he was not going to make it and he wanted me to know the truth. I was broken. I had just lost my girlfriend, my best friend, and now maybe all I had left. I took a paternity test and I am not the father. I approached my church as they are affiliated with a private adoption organization. I am thinking of putting my child up for adoption. I am on the birth certificate. I am her legal father. My mom and dad have been helping me but I have not told them ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

2025-07-24 14:12:58

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA For Leaving my Fiancé Because He Wants a Baby with his EX?

I’ve been with my fiancé (Greg) for 3 years, and we just got engaged last month. He was married before, and him and his ex (Gemma) had a stillborn baby. Greg says the grief of burying their child caused Gemma to have a mental breakdown, and she was never the same, which is why they divorced a little over a year later. The two of them have been weirdly close for Greg and my entire relationship. Gemma calls him at odd hours to talk, and pops up at our house whenever she needs to talk to him “in person”. They meet up frequently, and especially on the anniversary of their son’s still-birth, she gets extremely emotional, to the point that everyone worries that she’ll harm herself, so the two of them have spent that day alone together every year that Greg and I have been together. I was never totally ok with the way Gemma clings to Greg, even if I’m around. But, since she’s mentally unstable, Greg says he’s afraid of what she might do to herself if he cuts contact with her. I don’t want that on my conscience, so I never push the issue, and just tolerate her constant presence. Ever since Greg told her that we got engaged, it’s like she mentally snapped. She shows up at his job, and the two of them have been having lunch together, and her calls/texts now seem like every hour. Two days ago was the 4-year anniversary of their son’s still-birth (this is the 3rd “anniversary” since I’ve been with Greg), and he didn’t come home at all that night. The next day, yesterday, he didn’t come home until after lunch, and I was livid. He said that he spent the night comforting her, and crashed on her couch, and made it seem like I was being insensitive to their grief for getting upset because he didn’t answer a “few” missed calls/texts. We’ve didn’t speak to each other all yesterday, and just when I convinced myself that I was maybe being insensitive, he dropped a bomb last night. Gemma wants to have another baby, with HIM. And Greg told her, get this, that he’d “talk to me” about it. He told me that it would give them both “closure”, and Gemma won’t be so clingy with him once she has his baby so the two of us could have a fresh start to our lives. When I told him that not only is this idea insane, but only an insane woman would agree to it, he accused me of being selfish for trying to keep Gemma from regaining something that could help her mental health. We argued, and I threw my engagement ring at him and left. I spent the night at my sister’s, and I’ve been ignoring Greg’s calls/texts. Last night I was convinced that I don’t want a lifetime of feeling like “the other woman”, but today, since I never lost a child, I don’t know. AITA?

2025-10-28 17:38:42

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I let my uncle report my car stolen?

Throwaway cuz my step-siblings have reddit, not in the US or America in general. My (18F) 18F) parents divorced when I was 6, my mom remarried my step-dad Oscar while my dad remained single. I have 2 step-siblings (21F & 19M) and 1 half-brother (8M) from my mom's side. My dad didn't had any more kids. He was an active role in my life tho, he travelled a lot, but we would always call and he'll come visit me as soon as he got back, I could spend MONTHS in his house since he remained close to us so I had equal access to my schools whenever it was his or my mom's custody time. Oscar doesn't like my paternal family at all, but it sucks to suck. He always tried to boss me around, telling me that while I live at his house he was ''my dad'' and I had to obey him, he tried to take away a bunch of the things my dad gave me (toys, clothes, tech) because ''I had to share'' with his kids, he tried to force a relationship but I never cared. Well, my dad passed away a year ago and just a month or two before ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🔥

2025-08-02 20:59:38

Anya Petrova

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My gf broke up with me today, WIBTAH if I immediately stopped sending her money?

Three year relationship. And for the last two years or so, I have been paying her 56% of my salary for her to do groceries, cook, clean the house, do the laundry, and wash the dishes. She got a job about two weeks ago and told me she didn’t want to do all the housework anymore. I said it was fine but that I wouldn’t pay her a salary any more. I said I wouldn’t make her pay any bills but that I just wouldn’t pay her anymore money since she was no longer “working” for me. She said it was ok and I even agreed to pay her for two months more nonetheless. As a side note, I’ve been living 4 hours away from our apartment for the last three months and will continue to do so for the next three months. During this time, we’ve been seeing each other, on average, 5 days a month. So this weekend I drove home and just a few hours ago, before driving back to my current residence, she broke up with me. I agreed to let her stay at my apartment (it is my parent’s property, we pay no rent) for the next three months while she looks where to live. But now that I think of it, we didn’t discuss the matter of the salary I’ve been paying her. I could really use the money I’ve been paying her, but I wonder if it would be too douchey of me to flat out stop paying her and not wait for her to move out beforehand.

2025-10-14 20:02:16

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA for yelling at my mom for humiliating me over brain surgery

Around 2020, when I was fourteen, I had a serious sinus infection that spread to my brain. I was sick for about two weeks and begged my mom to take me to the ER. She refused, telling me that if I went, I would need shots in my rear, which made me self-conscious. I used home remedies instead, like a neti pot and vapor spray, until I could no longer hold anything in. Eventually, she took me to the hospital when I was unresponsive, showing blank stares. The doctors there told her I was dehydrated and not taking my medication properly before sending me home. On the way out, I wet myself. Afterward, I experienced what doctors called 'seizure like activity,' leading my mom to take me to a different ER, which then sent me to a larger hospital. After several months, I recovered, now only dealing with mild migraines. Doctors later confirmed that if I had waited another day, I would have likely died or suffered brain death. Now, my mother frequently tells this story but changes key details. She claims I was just acting depressed and that I never asked to go to the hospital. She consistently makes sure to mention that I wet myself in public. This pattern happened many times. During the most recent incident where she brought it up, I finally confronted her about refusing to take me to the doctor when I was clearly physically ill, and I mentioned that she admitted to the doctors that she knew I had a sinus infection. After the other people she was talking to left, she snapped at me, saying I don't understand how hard the ordeal was for her and that I make her look like a horrible parent. I leave it to you reddit, was I an ignorant brat when I brought up what I did, or was my anger justified as it made me feel embarrassed every time she'd talk about it?

2025-10-28 17:27:35

Elise Dubois

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WIBTAH if I told my wife's dead husband's parents to stop coming to see our daughter?

First post So, I had a talk with my wife about her dead husband's parents, and like clockwork, they actually came this week too, i am actually writing this after they left and had a talk with my wife. I told my wife that the frequency of these visits are becoming too much, and their comments are bothering me. My wife really didn't realize how the comments sounded until i explained them to her. I told her i don't mind them coming over from now and then, but that I want to spend time with her and our daughter when I am not tired from work. She promised me she would talk to them and would make sure they gave us our space and that they would stop with the comments. She also apologized for not saying anything and that while she still loves her dead husband, she loves me and would never treat me as anything less than her husband and father of her daughter. So yeah, I think ...⬇️

2025-08-17 19:37:06

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA if I returned my parents grad gift to them?

I (22F) graduated from college last May and received a $25 Starbucks gift card from my parents (both 60) as a graduation gift. Now, I'm not someone who needs a huge gift or anything, but this hurt my feelings for other reasons. Firstly, though my parents don't care about this, I've been participating in the Starbucks boycott for months now (this has been incredibly easy for me for reasons that will become obvious). Secondly, even if I wasn't boycotting, I still wouldn't use the gift card. I don't like coffee or tea. I have never liked coffee or tea. This is something my parents know as I repeat it often when they ask if I want anything or to try their drink. I know that Starbucks sells food, but I honestly don't even like their food offerings that much, either. Especially not enough to go out of my way to get them. Lastly, my dad bought a bunch of gift cards from Starbucks for his company this past winter as part of a little raffle thing. I'm almost certain my parents gave me this gift card not because they went out of their way to get me something, but because they had it lying around. To be honest, that almost hurts more because it shows it wasn't even "special", it was just convenient. It's now been over four months and I still haven't used the gift card and have no plans to. Here's where I venture in AH territory. They don't even know how I feel about this. They sent it to me in a card and technically don't even have confirmation I received it. If I give it back to them (my dad goes to Starbucks like every other day so he would certainly use it), I know they'll ask where I got it. I see no point in lying to them, and I'd just tell them it was their graduation gift to me. As far as I can remember, and I've racked my brain, this was their only grad gift to me so it wasn't a part of something larger. I want to reiterate again that I don't expect a lavish gift, but it hurt my feelings to see how little thought my parents put into something for me. A selfish part of me wants them to know it hurt me and wants to hurt them back. WITBA if I gave it back to them? EDIT FOR CLARITY: I’ve gotten a few comments about this so I wanna address it in the post! My parents paid for my tuition and I paid for rent, groceries, etc. I did NOT expect ANY graduation gift. I would’ve been happy with nothing more than my tuition paid. The part that hurt me was that they gave me a gift without thinking about if it was actually something I’d want or just because they felt obligated to gift me something. It made me feel more like an obligation than a daughter. I mentioned it wasn’t part of something larger in reference to it wasn‘t like a part one of two gifts or something in case people asked. Clearly I anticipated the wrong question haha! I’ll add more information as people request it and I’ve appreciated everyone’s inputs, regardless if they’ve called me ungrateful or if they know what it’s like to have parents who just don’t care as much as you wished they did. Thanks all! 2ND EDIT: This isn't about the gift and whether it was a "good one" but how to deal with the fact that it shows my parents don't know me as a person and don't seem to care to learn. I'll reiterate that I never expected a gift, but the gift card symbolizes to me that they just have no clue who their kid is.

2025-09-25 08:41:00

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA if I didn't get my pregnant wife a Mother's Day present when our baby isn't due till mid June?

My wife mentioned today that she wanted a Mother's Day present this year, even though our baby isn't due for almost a month later. I told her that I was absolutely not going to get her a Mother's Day present until next year, when we actually have a baby. Now I am getting all kinds of flak from my wife, and she's declared that if I don't get her a Mother's Day present this year then she won't get me a Father's Day present until next year. I think it's absurd to *expect* a present for a holiday that you don't qualify for. Where do you draw the line?! Would you expect a Mother's Day gift if you were in a childless relationship but had pets? If people want to unexpectedly gift others for holidays they don't technically fit in that's fine, but to expect it seems unreasonable. WIBTA if I refused to get her a gift this year? At this point it's just the principal of it. Edit: Some of you are out here wilding. We have a long and happy marriage. We've been together almost half the time she's been alive. Since so many keep asking. We are very similar in age. Edit 2: So I *may* have been wrong not to get her a Mother's Day gift. She wants a super expensive hair dryer, but I found one on Alibaba that looks similar for like $20 so maybe I'll grab her that. Edit 3: I've shown my wife this post. She's been crying laughing at you all roasting me. That being said, some of you all are unhinged. I'll probably get her the nice hairdryer, but I might also get the cheap one to give to her first. I'll accept in this instance I am TA.

2025-09-22 11:30:02

Anya Petrova

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WIBTA? My roommate's son flushed my iPhone down the toilet

I (f21) live in a three bedroom house with my roommate Chloe (f27) and her son Jay (m4). We have separate contracts with the landlord, and Chloe pays more rent than me because she and her son are occupying two bedrooms. I've been living with Chloe and Jay for around 5 months, and so far had no major issues until recently. Last weekend, I was in the kitchen answering emails on my phone. Jay asked if he could watch Cocomelon on my phone (I have Netflix on my phone and have let him use it a few times) but this time I told him no. Jay protested and said his mum is watching the TV, but I still said no and said I need to use my phone. Later that day, I was in my room getting assignments done on my laptop with the door open, and I noticed Jay was in my room. I don't know how long he had been in there, he was very quiet and I was so absorbed into what I was doing that I hadn't noticed him. I asked Jay what he was doing, he took a few seconds to respond and said he was looking for a toy he lost. I thought it was a bit strange but didn't think much of it. It was maybe like a few minutes later that I noticed my phone was missing, and I heard it do its notification sound and Jay giggling in the bathroom. I ran over to the bathroom right as Jay was flushing my phone down the toilet. I was **beyond pissed**. I told Chloe what happened, and made it very clear that I expect her to pay for a new phone. The phone that Jay flushed was an iPhone 8 that I bought secondhand and paid £150 for (I don't know how much that is in US dollars). Somehow the toilet isn't clogged and we haven't had any plumbing issues from it yet. I don't know much about plumbing though. Chloe was apologetic but said she can't afford to pay me the money, as she's a single mum and that making ends neat is difficult enough. I said I don't have a lot of money either, I'm a student who works part-time in fast food. I told Chloe I'm willing to take her to small claims court (I'd only have to pay £35 in court fees because the claim amount is under £300). Chloe started crying and said I'm a monster. I know I'm within my legal rights to do this, but WIBTA if I took my roommate to small claims court? Edits I did bring up payment plans but Chloe refused. I sent the landlord an email about the phone flushing a few hours after it happened and told my side of the story. He gave a very vague reply and said he'd "look into it". I guess the phone couldn't have gone far down the pipes but I don't have high hopes that it will be salvageable if a plumber retrieves it. Thank you for the award!

2025-08-29 10:31:41

Luca Moretti

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WIBTA for cutting off our daughter financially until she takes an active part in the family?

I really hope we're not being /r/insaneparents but please comment if you think we are. Our daughter is in college right now and in her second year. My husband and I are paying for a portion of it and give her a monthly allowance of $1000 to help out because her school is out of state. So far it's been roughly 50{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} on us and 50{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} she needs to get grants or bursaries or loans for. She is choosing not to work right now and instead relying on the $1000 we send (her rent is around $200 for her room and the $800 remaining is up to her how to use). We want to cut her off not because there was some incident but because she's basically ghosted us. Nothing really prompted this. My last conversation with her was very cordial standard fare back in early September. Likewise for my husband. We used to talk a lot, text every day, etc. We send her a Facebook message and get a read receipt but no response. No thank you for the money we send monthly, no happy Thanksgiving (or birthday, mine was in October), nothing. At the very least we'd like to know she's okay, and we've expressed as much, but the outcome is always the same: left on read. We have one of her best friends on Facebook and we asked her what's up and she said she's doing fine, just busy with school. And that's fine, but not even a single message in 3 months? I sent her a message two days ago that we feel taken advantage of and that our contribution to her schooling is unappreciated. We told her that next tuition payment is due end of December and we want to hear from her before we pay it. Read within seconds but no response. I don't know what to make of this. Are we being the assholes? Just a check in every once in a while is enough, we just have no idea what's going on.

2025-09-22 07:42:23

Jonas Bergström

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WIBTA if I took a new job and got my own apartment, possibly leaving my helicopter mom homeless?

TL;DR I got a new job and want to move out, but that would leave my helicopter mother possibly homeless. Some background: I’m 31 years old (M) and currently live in an apartment with my mother (58F). Ever since my college days she’s been a helicopter parent. During school she’d call at all times demanding where I was, and called the campus police several times if I didn’t pick up the phone in time. I was ‘heavily encouraged’ to come home each and every weekend and I fell into a deep depression. I almost failed out of school and had to take a fifth year; during this last year my mom drove me to school and would sit on a bench outside the classroom until I was done. One of my professors noticed, and suggested I went to the school counseling center. My counselor and I talked about gaining more independence, but I was too tired and scared to follow through. Graduate school was the same deal but I did manage to eventually graduate. I spent almost two years living with my mom in and out of motels and other temporary living areas, working retail and applying for jobs in my field. Two years ago I finally got a job as a lab technician. At first my mom would try the same thing she did at school, calling me and even coming to the company door a few times. I was so grateful my boss didn’t notice this and that my coworkers were understanding. I eventually got her to stop by telling her that my boss had said something about her coming around (she listened to ‘his’ suggestion but not me). The past two years at this company have been life changing for me. While I was shy (social anxiety) at first, I gradually got used to socializing with my coworkers, just chatting at work and after a while going out for drinks, etc. I even went to a Friendsgiving weekend getaway, which my mom absolutely was against, and I had a full blown screaming match with her and she relented. I’ve been promoted twice and now lead a small team within the lab. Recently I got an offer at a large biotech in another state. They offer a generous relocation package and I’d like to get my own place nearby. I haven’t told my mom yet, but she is going to have a meltdown and try anything to get me to stay or let her come with me. She makes a few dollars over minimum wage, and couldn’t afford to live by herself in our current state. When we were living out of motels, there were times we had to live out of our car and I’m afraid my mom would end up in a similar state if I moved out. She often says things like “Now that you have a good job, you’d abandon your mother” whenever I bring up the idea of getting my own place. I feel that’s the best move for my own mental health and personal growth but there’s that guilt factor hanging over my head. Reddit WIBTA if I used my new job as an opportunity to get an apartment of my own, possibly leaving my mother homeless? There’s a lot of details I left out, if you guys have any questions please ask them in the comments!

2025-09-22 08:10:17

Luca Moretti

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WIBTA if I told my mom I don't want her there when I give birth?

So I (27F) am giving birth in 5 days. The father won't be there as he left in the beginning. Lots of other friends and family are otherwise occupied that day. My mom (47F) took off to be there. But I feel like I don't want her there because I'm furious at her. Last summer my stepdad (40M) came onto me while I was staying with them. I told my mom and moved out that night. She stayed with him. It took me 3 months to come back around. My stepdad was nice to me and hasn't been inappropriate again. On the 4th of July my dad asked me if my stepdad had really come onto me because my mom told him I lied and was off my medicine when I claimed he came onto me. It felt like a HUGE betrayal but I kind of rug swept because I don't want stress and conflict right before my baby comes. And I kind of don't have anyone else. Anytime I talk to her I get upset all over again and I really don't want her in the room. I would almost rather give birth alone. But my whole family would throw a fit if I didn't let her be there. So WIBTA if I told her I don't want her there?

2025-09-22 08:43:33

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I demand a DNA test on my ex’s baby?

Last year my girlfriend (24f) and I (26m) broke up (At the end of June/July) because we realised it wasn’t working and we both still had feelings for our previous ex’s. We were only together for 1 month but we had sex. Now she has a 3 month old and I’m convinced he is my child. I saw her in Asda (UK) and she tried to hide. I messaged her and she told me she won’t let me do a test but she has no proof he’s not my son, he was 8lbs 4oz when he was born although she says he was 1 month early. I’m no expert but this seems a little far fetched to me. I want to know if this baby is my son because I would like the chance to step up but would I be an arsehole to demand a DNA test to be sure? If it comes back negative then obviously I will leave her alone but if it comes back positive I want a relationship with my child. If she is telling the truth he would have been conceived in august because he was born in April but if he’s mine he would have been conceived in June/July?

2025-10-02 17:55:50

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA, for not selling my house?

Back in May 2020 I had family that decided to move halfway across the country, and needed to sell their house. My spouse and I bought it for what they owed, nothing more, nothing less (the price was mutually agreed upon by everyone involved). We purchased it fully and legally, going through a title company. Earlier this week my family members decided to move back into our state, and want to buy "their" house back. My spouse and I don't want to move and have done upgrades to the property. WIBTA for not selling the house back to them? UPDATE: They tried offering us the loan amount plus $10,000. We told them it's not for sale, and don't foresee it going up for sale in at least the next decade.

2025-09-09 13:59:52

Jonas Bergström

WIBTA

WIBTA (45/m)for proving my friendship even if it costs my buddy his marriage?

Here we go - I have been in a group of friends (husbands, wives, kids) for almost 20 years. We started out as a neighborhood group and have grown bigger as our friendships have evolved and most of us have moved out of the original subdivision. We are adults 40-50 years old. The men play golf most every weekend and one evening during the week. Holidays and birthdays are big get-togethers with sometimes 50 people. I am currently the only unmarried person in the group (divorced in 2011). This is the sticky part.  About 7-8 months ago, one of the women in the group named Cindy, started coming on to me. While flattered, I would never do anything as I like her husband Mike and have know her kids since they were preschoolers. It seemed like a little harmless flirting at first, but then it moved into some very direct propositioning. She had her reasons for wanting to become sexually involved and put a mild bit of pressure on me to begin an affair with her. One of the ways she pressured me was to text me racy pics and those soon moved to x-rated pics and videos. It really put me in an awkward spot and I told her that. My response was that I found her attractive, but she was strictly off limits to me since she was married. Even if I didn't know her husband - I still would not have done anything. And I didn't.  A few months ago, I found out that I had missed a few golf days and I just chalked it up to bad timing. Well....there was a huge 4th get together and I asked around about it and it seemed no one would own up to me not being invited. Apparently, there have been other events that I didn't know about and I wasn't invited there either. I finally got some answers last night when I ran into a friend and her daughter at the grocery store. She would barely look at me when I spoke to her and her teenage daughter spilled the beans. Cindy was caught with the racy pics on her phone and "confessed" to Mike that I had put her up to it and was pressuring *her* to have an affair. Needless to say, I was stunned at this revelation. I thanked her for her honesty and went home and thought about it for a long time.  I have saved every single text and pic. Last night I printed them all out. If I showed Mike 10{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of what she said to me and what she sent to me - he might leave her. Meanwhile - I am pushed out of my friend group for doing what I thought was right. I told her at the beginning that this was heading down a road of hurt - but when she got to the painful part, she pushed me under the bus.   UPDATE: I reached out to Mike and he texted me that he never wants to see or talk to me ever again. Some of you have suggested that I reach out to a leader in the group and I have done that - I will be meeting with another couple tonight. She is a gossip, so anything I show her or tell her will be public knowledge two hours after I leave their house. You get what you get.  UPDATE #2: It turns out that the whole group knows nothing, just a few. Mike and Cindy filed for divorce in January due to his infidelities and tried to keep it private. From my end, everything is good. It turns out that both or them are assholes.

2025-09-03 20:34:28

Luca Moretti