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My Stepmom Demanded I Stop Being Nice and Start Being Real—Should I Tell Her The Truth?

I am in my second to last year of high school and last year I found out that my dad was cheating on my mom with an employee of his. I told my mom because I knew my dad would never own up himself, and they got divorced. During the divorce, my mom was having a hard time coping and turned to drugs, and she got found out, now my dad has custody and I only have visits with her. It's all been really hard on me, and on my mom, and I resent my dad and how everything seemed to work out for him. He's married his employee and she's pregnant and living with us. Anyway, I've been polite to her because I don't want to screw myself over and make my dad too angry to pay for college. But it's the kind of "nice" I put on at my customer service job, a smile and pleasantness, but not actually getting to know her personally. It's hard for me to even do that, it's like a lot of emotional labor that I don't want to be doing in addition to school and work. Like for example, the kinds of stuff I'll say... If she asks me about school, I'll be like "It was nice, we had a nice lecture on genes in class" or she asks me about my teachers and I'll be like "they're nice, they all seem very smart" or she'll ask me about a movie I saw and I'd be like "It was good and funny" Just like trying to be positive and polite. But last week, she lost it at me and was like "Why is everything NICE with you? How's school? NICE. How's work? NICE. Your father says you hate your science teacher, but all you ever say to me is that everything's NICE like a broken record" and I was like "sorry. I really do mean it, school has been good" Anyway, later my dad talked to me and said not to play dumb, he knows I don't really think all my teachers are nice, don't like the actor in the movie I saw, don't really mean all the stuff I'm saying. And he and his wife can tell, and it's hurting because they both want me to be genuine. I said "ok I'll try" but TBH it is tiring enough for me to just be polite let alone genuine. Plus I feel like I'm genuine, and talk about what's actually on my mind, such as my mom, and being worried about her, it will go over even worse WIBTA to not tell my stepmother more?

2025-09-27 17:29:15

Jonas Bergström

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My Mom and Grandpa Just Died but My Dying Grandma Doesn't Know—Should I Lie to Her?

***Update in the comments. I'm sat here and I'm really overwhelmed. I have been beyond fortunate to never have to deal with death. If anybody has time to keep me company that would be lovely I will be sat in the waiting room for at least a week and my sister leaves tonight. Thank you for your humanity. I don't know how to send direct messages but I have had a few and will reply to anybody even just to share. - - - - I really don't know what I should do Reddit please help me. My grandparents were in a car accident on Saturday and my sister, mother and grandfather were all in the car. The complete right hand side of the car was crushed (UK so drivers side) which sat my grandfather and mother behind. My grandfather died instantly and my mother was rushed to a specialist hospital as she suffered serious brain damage. My grandmother is in a different hospital, my sister is absolutely fine except for a broken wrist. My grandmother has terminal cancer and hemophilia, has had several blood transfusions but I have been told she isn't going to make it past Friday. My mother is in a medically induced coma but is brain-dead and doctors have told me she won't survive off whatever machine is keeping her alive. My grandmother is currently awake although internally she is not in a good way. I told her that my mother broke both her legs and has damage but otherwise ok... I even showed her an old photo to pretend she is fine and my grandmother believed it. I can't tell her. My sister wants to tell her but what is the fucking point? Am I the asshole if I let her die thinking her daughter is still alive or does she deserve the truth?? Sat at my mother's bedside right now and in 4 hours I'm going to the other hospital to see my sister and ultimately decide what to do - what do people think? Please help me I am only 24 I have no idea and will do what everybody thinks is the best course of action. Thank you for listening.

2025-09-04 14:25:43

Luca Moretti

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WIBTAH if I placed my girlfriend's child for adoption?

My girlfriend was in a car accident with my best friend. She passed away and he is hospitalized. I went to visit him and he admitted that they were having an affair. He said our newborn daughter was actually his. He was afraid that he was not going to make it and he wanted me to know the truth. I was broken. I had just lost my girlfriend, my best friend, and now maybe all I had left. I took a paternity test and I am not the father. I approached my church as they are affiliated with a private adoption organization. I am thinking of putting my child up for adoption. I am on the birth certificate. I am her legal father. My mom and dad have been helping me but I have not told them ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

2025-07-24 14:12:58

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA if I returned my parents grad gift to them?

I (22F) graduated from college last May and received a $25 Starbucks gift card from my parents (both 60) as a graduation gift. Now, I'm not someone who needs a huge gift or anything, but this hurt my feelings for other reasons. Firstly, though my parents don't care about this, I've been participating in the Starbucks boycott for months now (this has been incredibly easy for me for reasons that will become obvious). Secondly, even if I wasn't boycotting, I still wouldn't use the gift card. I don't like coffee or tea. I have never liked coffee or tea. This is something my parents know as I repeat it often when they ask if I want anything or to try their drink. I know that Starbucks sells food, but I honestly don't even like their food offerings that much, either. Especially not enough to go out of my way to get them. Lastly, my dad bought a bunch of gift cards from Starbucks for his company this past winter as part of a little raffle thing. I'm almost certain my parents gave me this gift card not because they went out of their way to get me something, but because they had it lying around. To be honest, that almost hurts more because it shows it wasn't even "special", it was just convenient. It's now been over four months and I still haven't used the gift card and have no plans to. Here's where I venture in AH territory. They don't even know how I feel about this. They sent it to me in a card and technically don't even have confirmation I received it. If I give it back to them (my dad goes to Starbucks like every other day so he would certainly use it), I know they'll ask where I got it. I see no point in lying to them, and I'd just tell them it was their graduation gift to me. As far as I can remember, and I've racked my brain, this was their only grad gift to me so it wasn't a part of something larger. I want to reiterate again that I don't expect a lavish gift, but it hurt my feelings to see how little thought my parents put into something for me. A selfish part of me wants them to know it hurt me and wants to hurt them back. WITBA if I gave it back to them? EDIT FOR CLARITY: I’ve gotten a few comments about this so I wanna address it in the post! My parents paid for my tuition and I paid for rent, groceries, etc. I did NOT expect ANY graduation gift. I would’ve been happy with nothing more than my tuition paid. The part that hurt me was that they gave me a gift without thinking about if it was actually something I’d want or just because they felt obligated to gift me something. It made me feel more like an obligation than a daughter. I mentioned it wasn’t part of something larger in reference to it wasn‘t like a part one of two gifts or something in case people asked. Clearly I anticipated the wrong question haha! I’ll add more information as people request it and I’ve appreciated everyone’s inputs, regardless if they’ve called me ungrateful or if they know what it’s like to have parents who just don’t care as much as you wished they did. Thanks all! 2ND EDIT: This isn't about the gift and whether it was a "good one" but how to deal with the fact that it shows my parents don't know me as a person and don't seem to care to learn. I'll reiterate that I never expected a gift, but the gift card symbolizes to me that they just have no clue who their kid is.

2025-09-25 08:41:00

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA if I didn't get my pregnant wife a Mother's Day present when our baby isn't due till mid June?

My wife mentioned today that she wanted a Mother's Day present this year, even though our baby isn't due for almost a month later. I told her that I was absolutely not going to get her a Mother's Day present until next year, when we actually have a baby. Now I am getting all kinds of flak from my wife, and she's declared that if I don't get her a Mother's Day present this year then she won't get me a Father's Day present until next year. I think it's absurd to *expect* a present for a holiday that you don't qualify for. Where do you draw the line?! Would you expect a Mother's Day gift if you were in a childless relationship but had pets? If people want to unexpectedly gift others for holidays they don't technically fit in that's fine, but to expect it seems unreasonable. WIBTA if I refused to get her a gift this year? At this point it's just the principal of it. Edit: Some of you are out here wilding. We have a long and happy marriage. We've been together almost half the time she's been alive. Since so many keep asking. We are very similar in age. Edit 2: So I *may* have been wrong not to get her a Mother's Day gift. She wants a super expensive hair dryer, but I found one on Alibaba that looks similar for like $20 so maybe I'll grab her that. Edit 3: I've shown my wife this post. She's been crying laughing at you all roasting me. That being said, some of you all are unhinged. I'll probably get her the nice hairdryer, but I might also get the cheap one to give to her first. I'll accept in this instance I am TA.

2025-09-22 11:30:02

Anya Petrova

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WIBTA if I ended my friendship with my best friend who is gay?

I (22M) have been best friends with "John" (22M) for about 6 years. We always had a fairly affectionate relationship, but I never really thought much of it. About 5 months ago, John came out to me and I was completely supportive, but to be honest I started to consider some of his actions in a new light. For example, he tries to cuddle with me, hug me from behind, etc. I am completely supportive of him being gay, but some of these actions are making me uncomfortable. Also, he is pretty possessive and gets very upset if I ever spend time with a girl over him. He always says things like "you don't care about me anymore!", seemingly just to get me to say that I do. It's getting pretty exhausting, and frankly I am starting to wonder whether he has a crush on me based on his behaviour. I told him about a month ago that I would appreciate if he reduced some of these behaviours, and he did not take it well. He was upset, and again it was about how I am trying to push him away. We haven't hung out quite as much since, but when we do there is just as much physical contact as before, even though that is one of the issues that I addressed. I feel like I can't put up with this anymore. I want it to be clear that I have **no issue** with him being gay, but I would just prefer if these actions were not directed towards me.

2025-11-08 20:48:19

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA for cutting off our daughter financially until she takes an active part in the family?

I really hope we're not being /r/insaneparents but please comment if you think we are. Our daughter is in college right now and in her second year. My husband and I are paying for a portion of it and give her a monthly allowance of $1000 to help out because her school is out of state. So far it's been roughly 50{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} on us and 50{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} she needs to get grants or bursaries or loans for. She is choosing not to work right now and instead relying on the $1000 we send (her rent is around $200 for her room and the $800 remaining is up to her how to use). We want to cut her off not because there was some incident but because she's basically ghosted us. Nothing really prompted this. My last conversation with her was very cordial standard fare back in early September. Likewise for my husband. We used to talk a lot, text every day, etc. We send her a Facebook message and get a read receipt but no response. No thank you for the money we send monthly, no happy Thanksgiving (or birthday, mine was in October), nothing. At the very least we'd like to know she's okay, and we've expressed as much, but the outcome is always the same: left on read. We have one of her best friends on Facebook and we asked her what's up and she said she's doing fine, just busy with school. And that's fine, but not even a single message in 3 months? I sent her a message two days ago that we feel taken advantage of and that our contribution to her schooling is unappreciated. We told her that next tuition payment is due end of December and we want to hear from her before we pay it. Read within seconds but no response. I don't know what to make of this. Are we being the assholes? Just a check in every once in a while is enough, we just have no idea what's going on.

2025-09-22 07:42:23

Jonas Bergström

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WIBTA if I took a new job and got my own apartment, possibly leaving my helicopter mom homeless?

TL;DR I got a new job and want to move out, but that would leave my helicopter mother possibly homeless. Some background: I’m 31 years old (M) and currently live in an apartment with my mother (58F). Ever since my college days she’s been a helicopter parent. During school she’d call at all times demanding where I was, and called the campus police several times if I didn’t pick up the phone in time. I was ‘heavily encouraged’ to come home each and every weekend and I fell into a deep depression. I almost failed out of school and had to take a fifth year; during this last year my mom drove me to school and would sit on a bench outside the classroom until I was done. One of my professors noticed, and suggested I went to the school counseling center. My counselor and I talked about gaining more independence, but I was too tired and scared to follow through. Graduate school was the same deal but I did manage to eventually graduate. I spent almost two years living with my mom in and out of motels and other temporary living areas, working retail and applying for jobs in my field. Two years ago I finally got a job as a lab technician. At first my mom would try the same thing she did at school, calling me and even coming to the company door a few times. I was so grateful my boss didn’t notice this and that my coworkers were understanding. I eventually got her to stop by telling her that my boss had said something about her coming around (she listened to ‘his’ suggestion but not me). The past two years at this company have been life changing for me. While I was shy (social anxiety) at first, I gradually got used to socializing with my coworkers, just chatting at work and after a while going out for drinks, etc. I even went to a Friendsgiving weekend getaway, which my mom absolutely was against, and I had a full blown screaming match with her and she relented. I’ve been promoted twice and now lead a small team within the lab. Recently I got an offer at a large biotech in another state. They offer a generous relocation package and I’d like to get my own place nearby. I haven’t told my mom yet, but she is going to have a meltdown and try anything to get me to stay or let her come with me. She makes a few dollars over minimum wage, and couldn’t afford to live by herself in our current state. When we were living out of motels, there were times we had to live out of our car and I’m afraid my mom would end up in a similar state if I moved out. She often says things like “Now that you have a good job, you’d abandon your mother” whenever I bring up the idea of getting my own place. I feel that’s the best move for my own mental health and personal growth but there’s that guilt factor hanging over my head. Reddit WIBTA if I used my new job as an opportunity to get an apartment of my own, possibly leaving my mother homeless? There’s a lot of details I left out, if you guys have any questions please ask them in the comments!

2025-09-22 08:10:17

Luca Moretti

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WIBTA if I cancelled my vacation ticket because my family wants me to share a room with my nieces?

I (F23) have been planning a family vacation with my older brother (M30) and his wife, my two nieces (F4 and F2) and my parents. Everyone is paying for their own tickets. The vacation is booked for February. We hadn't discussed room arrangements before, but I knew the room we'd be staying in would have three bedrooms. So we discussed room arrangements yesterday, and my brother and parents just kind of assumed that I wouldn't mind sharing a room with my nieces, whilst my brother and his wife and my parents get their own rooms. I said I didn't want to share a room with them, and said that they should be sleeping in my brother and SIL's room since they're their parents. My parents called me dramatic and said that it's not a big deal, and said that my nieces won't give me any trouble. I told them I don't care. They said I'm being a bad aunt and told me to grow up. I told them if I don't get my own room I'll cancel my ticket, which would result in everyone else having to pay more or find someone else to go in my place because we got a group discount with the resort. My brother said I'm a whiny asshole and accused me of being a narcissist.

2025-11-08 16:51:17

Anya Petrova

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WIBTA if I report my son's school?

Okay, so at my son's school they have a system where kids get points for good behavior and negative marks for behavior that needs work. There is an app where parents can view this as well as communicate with teachers. My son's grade (1st) was having an end of the year good behavior field trip to a skating rink. The kids that could go had to have so many good behavior points. My son was diagnosed with ADHD and we are working on ways to help him control his energy and to behave better. That said, he was about 5 points shy of being able to go on the field trip. Because of that I did not send in a signed permission slip or money. The day of the field trip comes around and I send my son to school expecting him to have to go to another class room for the day. After school I pick him up and ask how his day was and he proceeds to tell me that they took him with them on the field trip. He said he was told to sit at a table on the side of the skating rink and to do a work packet while watching the other kids. He was upset because he was made to sit and watch everyone else having fun. That is understandable because these kids are 7 years old. Yes he understands consequences for bad behavior but what adult thinks this is a good consequence? So since it was after school, I messaged his teacher asking about it. I have not gotten a reply. I tried calling the principal and was unable to reach her. So I would like to know WIBTA for calling the school board or whoever I need to call and reporting the school? I'm not talking about just reporting because they did a messed up, hurtful punishment but also because I was not made aware my son would be driven from the school for that day.

2025-11-13 19:26:03

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I demand a DNA test on my ex’s baby?

Last year my girlfriend (24f) and I (26m) broke up (At the end of June/July) because we realised it wasn’t working and we both still had feelings for our previous ex’s. We were only together for 1 month but we had sex. Now she has a 3 month old and I’m convinced he is my child. I saw her in Asda (UK) and she tried to hide. I messaged her and she told me she won’t let me do a test but she has no proof he’s not my son, he was 8lbs 4oz when he was born although she says he was 1 month early. I’m no expert but this seems a little far fetched to me. I want to know if this baby is my son because I would like the chance to step up but would I be an arsehole to demand a DNA test to be sure? If it comes back negative then obviously I will leave her alone but if it comes back positive I want a relationship with my child. If she is telling the truth he would have been conceived in august because he was born in April but if he’s mine he would have been conceived in June/July?

2025-10-02 17:55:50

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I told my mom I don't want her there when I give birth?

So I (27F) am giving birth in 5 days. The father won't be there as he left in the beginning. Lots of other friends and family are otherwise occupied that day. My mom (47F) took off to be there. But I feel like I don't want her there because I'm furious at her. Last summer my stepdad (40M) came onto me while I was staying with them. I told my mom and moved out that night. She stayed with him. It took me 3 months to come back around. My stepdad was nice to me and hasn't been inappropriate again. On the 4th of July my dad asked me if my stepdad had really come onto me because my mom told him I lied and was off my medicine when I claimed he came onto me. It felt like a HUGE betrayal but I kind of rug swept because I don't want stress and conflict right before my baby comes. And I kind of don't have anyone else. Anytime I talk to her I get upset all over again and I really don't want her in the room. I would almost rather give birth alone. But my whole family would throw a fit if I didn't let her be there. So WIBTA if I told her I don't want her there?

2025-09-22 08:43:33

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I told my best friend’s fiancé that her dream wedding dress is actually my old prom dress?

So my best friend (27F) is getting married soon, and she’s been bragging nonstop about her one of a kind vintage gown, she found at a boutique for a steal. Yesterday, she finally showed me photos of it, and I froze. It’s literally my old prom dress from five years ago, same lace pattern, same tear in the hem I stitched myself. I donated it to a thrift store ages ago, She keeps saying how special and meant for her it feels. Part of me wants to tell her the truth, but another part thinks it might totally ruin the magic for her. WIBTA if I said something?

2025-10-17 12:59:16

Luca Moretti

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WIBTA, for not selling my house?

Back in May 2020 I had family that decided to move halfway across the country, and needed to sell their house. My spouse and I bought it for what they owed, nothing more, nothing less (the price was mutually agreed upon by everyone involved). We purchased it fully and legally, going through a title company. Earlier this week my family members decided to move back into our state, and want to buy "their" house back. My spouse and I don't want to move and have done upgrades to the property. WIBTA for not selling the house back to them? UPDATE: They tried offering us the loan amount plus $10,000. We told them it's not for sale, and don't foresee it going up for sale in at least the next decade.

2025-09-09 13:59:52

Jonas Bergström

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WIBTA for not inviting my sister to my wedding as she's "joked" about "ruining" it after I ruined hers?

3 years ago, my ex boyfriend proposed to me at my sister's wedding, in front of everyone, while giving what was meant to be a best man speech (he was friends with the groom). It was not approved by anyone, especially not me or my sister, and I said no in front of everyone, and he stormed out. This definitely distracted from events so I left shortly after, apologising profusely. It's been a few years since then. My sister has said she's over it but she really isn't because she brings it up every time we see each other, and she's made it clear that she still holds a grudge. We were really close before (I was her maid of honour) but after that she sort of pulled away from me. I'm now engaged, not to the proposal guy, to another fella. We're planning the wedding for early 2022. My sister has been "joking" about "payback" for years now, saying that when I get married she's going to do something to "ruin" the wedding. I don't know what, but I have my theories, the front runner being announcing a pregnancy or some other milestone during the reception. We've had a conversation recently (about a month ago) where she said something like that, and I've said "I know my ex was a douche but please remember that I didn't want him to do that and please don't pull a stunt at my wedding" and her response has usually been something like "wow, yeah, I bet someone announcing a major milestone at your wedding would really ruin your event, though you probably wouldn't understand that unless it happened to you", or words to that effect. I have apologised multiple times, but it's been 3 years and she still holds a grudge against me. I was talking with my mum earlier, she asked if I'd started planning yet, I said no, and mum says that I should get my sister to help and I just sort of said that I'm not even sure about inviting her. It just kind of slipped out, tbh. In the rest of the conversation I admitted (after mum pressed me) that I was unsure about inviting her because of these "jokes" she's made over the years, because if 3, nearly 4, years later she's still making these "jokes", then they're probably not jokes any more, and inviting her might not be a good idea. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those brides that expects everyone to just put their lives on hold for my wedding, but I feel like she's basically said that she is planning to fuck up my wedding. Mum, however, thinks I'm being unfair, that my sister is allowed to have feelings about her wedding day, and about mine, because my ex's actions did affect her day, and said that my sister is most likely only joking and I shouldn't take what she's said seriously, and definitely shouldn't leave her off the guest list for my wedding because of the jokes. She's also said that if my sister isn't invited, then she (as in mum) won't go either, in solidarity, and called me a bridezilla. WIBTA for not inviting my sister?

2025-09-08 19:35:41

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA If I tell my SIL I prefer to look after my own kids, not hers?

I'm (40m) a father of 3. My SIL (27f) and her husband (27m) had their first kid 2 years ago. She's my wife's sister and we tend to see each other at least once a month for family events. For my wife and I, we manage our kids ourselves. If we go somewhere, one of us is always keeping an eye on them, making sure they're not getting into trouble - especially making sure the youngest (a toddler) is safe - changing her if necessary, refilling her sippy cup, stuff like that. Its our job. If something happens, one of us pops up and takes care of it. SIL and her husband take a different approach and are frequently asking for help. If we're all eating dinner and their kid has a poopy diaper, they'll sometimes get it, sometimes turn to one of us and ask "would you mind?" The other day, I'm at a party and just came back inside after getting something for my kids, ready to sit down to eat and SIL asks "[Baby] left her sippy cup upstairs - would you mind getting it?" Her and her husband both sitting down and perfectly capable. It's not like they've asked a few times when they're overwhelmed or there's only one of them - there's been times one of them is lying on a couch reaching a book and ask me for something. It's not like what they ask for anything I'd consider a huge inconvenience, so I feel petty saying something - but part of me just wants to say "Look, my wife and I are responsible for our kids - you're responsible for yours. I don't ask you to change our kids' diapers or grab their sippy cups from the next room, don't ask me." WIBTA?

2025-10-28 11:08:14

Clara Jensen

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WIBTA if I told my brother's girlfriend that I know what they're doing in the bathroom and I need her to hurry it up?

My brother is 18 and living with me. I am his older sister, age 22. I have 2 bedrooms (one each for me and him) and a shared bathroom. My brother has a girlfriend, also 18, who is over a lot. They are fully consenting adults, therefore they do things that I don't want to think about. They always shower/bathe together, and because the bathroom shares a wall with my bedroom and the kitchen, no matter where I go in the flat I hear exactly what they're doing. Then the shower stops running and my brother leaves, and exactly 10 minutes later, often to the exact second, the girlfriend leaves. She spends the 10 minute interim playing games on her phone. The reason for this is that she doesn't want me to see them leave the bathroom together. She is unaware of the sound issue and thinks that I have no idea they even entered the bathroom together, and hopes that 10 minutes will be enough for me to believe that my brother had his shower and left and then she entered and had hers separately. However, this 10 minute pause between them finishing in the bathroom and her leaving the bathroom is a real pain in the arse. They always do this either early in the morning when I need to shower and leave for work, or right at the end of the night when I need to do my nighttime routine before bed.

2025-11-21 15:21:12

Elise Dubois

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WIBTA (45/m)for proving my friendship even if it costs my buddy his marriage?

Here we go - I have been in a group of friends (husbands, wives, kids) for almost 20 years. We started out as a neighborhood group and have grown bigger as our friendships have evolved and most of us have moved out of the original subdivision. We are adults 40-50 years old. The men play golf most every weekend and one evening during the week. Holidays and birthdays are big get-togethers with sometimes 50 people. I am currently the only unmarried person in the group (divorced in 2011). This is the sticky part.  About 7-8 months ago, one of the women in the group named Cindy, started coming on to me. While flattered, I would never do anything as I like her husband Mike and have know her kids since they were preschoolers. It seemed like a little harmless flirting at first, but then it moved into some very direct propositioning. She had her reasons for wanting to become sexually involved and put a mild bit of pressure on me to begin an affair with her. One of the ways she pressured me was to text me racy pics and those soon moved to x-rated pics and videos. It really put me in an awkward spot and I told her that. My response was that I found her attractive, but she was strictly off limits to me since she was married. Even if I didn't know her husband - I still would not have done anything. And I didn't.  A few months ago, I found out that I had missed a few golf days and I just chalked it up to bad timing. Well....there was a huge 4th get together and I asked around about it and it seemed no one would own up to me not being invited. Apparently, there have been other events that I didn't know about and I wasn't invited there either. I finally got some answers last night when I ran into a friend and her daughter at the grocery store. She would barely look at me when I spoke to her and her teenage daughter spilled the beans. Cindy was caught with the racy pics on her phone and "confessed" to Mike that I had put her up to it and was pressuring *her* to have an affair. Needless to say, I was stunned at this revelation. I thanked her for her honesty and went home and thought about it for a long time.  I have saved every single text and pic. Last night I printed them all out. If I showed Mike 10{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of what she said to me and what she sent to me - he might leave her. Meanwhile - I am pushed out of my friend group for doing what I thought was right. I told her at the beginning that this was heading down a road of hurt - but when she got to the painful part, she pushed me under the bus.   UPDATE: I reached out to Mike and he texted me that he never wants to see or talk to me ever again. Some of you have suggested that I reach out to a leader in the group and I have done that - I will be meeting with another couple tonight. She is a gossip, so anything I show her or tell her will be public knowledge two hours after I leave their house. You get what you get.  UPDATE #2: It turns out that the whole group knows nothing, just a few. Mike and Cindy filed for divorce in January due to his infidelities and tried to keep it private. From my end, everything is good. It turns out that both or them are assholes.

2025-09-03 20:34:28

Luca Moretti