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My Mom Called Me Dramatic For Years—Now I Am Infertile Because She Refused To Get Me Help

I have had bad periods ever since I was fourteen. With bad, I mean vomiting, cramps that make me cry, diarrhea whenever I eat something. When I was thirteen, I begged my mother to see a gynecologist for this and she agreed. I told him that this surely wasn't normal and that I wanted him to take a closer look. He basically told me that some girls are in more pain than others and that I will get used to it eventually. My mother was present. After that, she didn't let me see another doctor about the issue and told me that he had gone to med school and knew best. I didn't question it from then on: My mum always said I had a low pain tolerance, my OBGYN said it was normal, so it was clearly my problem, right? Still, the pain persisted and my mum wasn't any help. She screamed at me when I was sent home from school because I cried so hard during class, she rolled her eyes when I asked for Ibuprofen (she believes in homeopathy which is fine but wasn't successful with me) and made fun of my 'dramatic outbursts' whenever I told her I couldn't go to a family gathering because it hurt so much. She was a loving mother otherwise, but she just never believed me when I said I was hurt, even when it wasn't about my period (almost died of pneumonia when I was sixteen after getting told for a week straight that I didn't have to go to a doctor and had just caught a cold, but that's for another time) or that I needed to see another OBGYN. I'm twenty now and moved out two months ago and the first thing I did was going to a different doctor. I don't want to go into detail but I have a rare-ish condition that causes my symptoms. I makes me infertile. I'm in a stage where it isn't treatable anymore; I won't ever be able to get children, not anymore. The thing that's most heartbreaking to me is that he said that it would have been treatable, had I come two to three years sooner. So if my mother had taken me to another doctor when I asked her, I'd probably still be fertile. It was hard to swallow. Yesterday I was visiting my mother and surprise! I got my period. I told her I needed to go because my period was starting. Of course, she tried to give me shit for it again and I completely blew up on her, telling her how I could never have children because of her, how she should have listened to me instead of blaming me for my own pain! My sister told me later that I was an AH for blaming her when she couldn't have known about my condition. I am aware that I could have gone to the doctor sooner but back then she was paying for my medical bills and if she would have noticed me making appointments on my own... It would have caused a fight. Also, I was told throughout everything it was normal and that I was being dramatic. I didn't know any better, I feel like it would have been her responsibility to believe me that it was really bad and allow me to seek a second opinion. EDIT: Spelling Edit 2: I did some research after a few comments; there was a post about a woman with similar issues, I didn tknow of it when I posted this and I didn't copy them. It looks like a coincidence

2025-09-10 18:27:31

Elise Dubois

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My Dad Calls Me 'The Thing' To My Face So I Refused To Keep Helping Him

My parents are both in their 80s and live about two hours from me. For reference, I have a sibling that lives right down the road from them. Neither of them have aged well- they always refused to be active and have lived very sedentary lives in their retirement so aging has been hard on them. My father especially has struggled with type 2 diabetes and dementia/alzheimers. He is very combative and mean about everything, which is how he has always been, but dementia and old age has made it worse. He directs a lot of his anger towards me and is especially mad that I am trying to get them to move into assisted living because they fall constantly and need so much help. Anytime he disagrees with me about anything he starts screaming and calling me names including “ fat-a** and “the thing.” “The thing” hurts especially hard because I am his daughter and he is reducing me to something that is hardly human. He will say “ don’t look at the thing over there, she’s so ugly she might break your face” or just ridiculous stuff. He does this when he is completely lucid and remembering everything/everyone. Or he will say “ don’t feed the thing,” when my mom tries to offer me food. I tried so hard to ignore this treatment, but once he did it in front of my kids I put my foot down and stopped visiting. My mother now wants me to come to her 3+ times a week to help with cooking,cleaning, helping dress my father, etc. i have said no because the way he treats me is terrible and I have to look out for my own well being. She says I just need to ignore it because he is old and grumpy. She says I take things too personally and I am obligated to help them because they raised me. AITA for saying they need either a full time nurse or assisted living? UPDATE: Thank you all so much for your feedback, advice and commiserations. I am going to tell them they need assisted living or an in home nurse, but it is not me anymore. I do want to also add that while my father does have dementia this mean and cruel behavior and my mother’s behavior is not new, they have always been this way with me, my father just has less restraint in his old age.

2025-09-24 13:33:57

Jonas Bergström

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Husband Refused to Help With My Dying Mom's Bills But Now Wants My Entire Inheritance

I am (29f) a SAHM, I take care of the home and my son (4m) while my husband Sam (31m) works. I haven't had a job in four years as Sam wanted me to be a SAHM by the time our son was born. I accepted, since Sam has an absurdly good salary, and mine was not that great. My mom fell ill half a year ago. Her diabetes became quite complicated and she needed some medical care. We don't live in the US, so the expenses were relatively small. I asked Sam to please give me half of the total medical bill, since my brother (25m) was going to pay the other half. Sam refused to pay a penny from the bill, and since I have no income, my brother had to pay it all. Sadly, my mom passed away a month ago. My brother and I just got the whole estate in order. Each of us is going to get a somewhat considerable figure, since my mother had some properties (which she did not sell as they are in poor condition). This morning my husband told me he wants me to sell my my part of the inheritance, so we can make some (non-vital) house repairs and possibly go on vacation. I laughed, more out of anger than anything else, and told him that he had no right to suggest how to make use of the inheritance that my mother left, when he refused to even pay half of her medical bills. He called me an AH and went to work. I got a call from his sister, who was extremely angry. She called me irrational and told me that since I was living off the money Sam earns, I have no right to demand money from him, and that the inheritance gives me the opportunity to return some of the money he has spent on me. The call really got me thinking, and now I wonder if I'm really behaving like an AH. Edit: I've received a lot of comments asking the same questions, so I will answer them here. 1.- Why did my brother and I received an large inheritance but helped my mom with the treatment? My mom didn't leave us cash, she left us properties (4 in total). This properties are basically in ruins, and need a ton of work done, so my mom didn't receive any income from this properties. She placed two of them for sale, but they never sold since the real state market is extremely expensive here. 2.- Why did my mom paid her “main treatment”? My mom paid the hospital her entire treatment there, so, her hospitalizacion or any larger procedure. My brother and I wanted to help her with medical appointments (she visited several especialists outside the hospital) and medicines (the hospital didn't cover them). That's why I said that the the expenses were relatively small. Apologies if my redaction is confusive. 3.- I made the mistake of commenting that my husbands earns five zeros, but it's in my currency. Not in dollars. He earns montly about 12 thousand american dollars.

2025-10-19 19:52:48

Anya Petrova

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Woman’s Dine-And-Dash Scheme Goes Spectacularly Wrong After Latest Victim Requests Separate Checks Thanks To Friendly Tip-Off

I (28m) work with this woman Lydia (24f) who has a very annoying habit. She has a dating profile that she uses specifically to lure guys to buying her expensive dinners at restaurants she wants to try and then ghosts them. Lydia brags about this all the time, and is never interested in actually dating, but she’ll act like it to sell it. I can’t stand this because it’s playing with people’s hearts, but Lydia thinks of it as a life hack to try food or drinks she otherwise couldn’t afford. My friend Daniel (32m) is also on dating sites, but for the right reasons. His late wife died a few years ago, and he’s just started jumping back into the dating scene. Daniel’s a very sweet guy, and I really want him to find a great lady for him. A few days ago, he texted me asking if I knew Lydia. They matched and got to talking about work, which is how he found out we worked at the same place. I told him all about Lydia’s BS with the restaurant thing, and made it very clear to him he would do best to drop things with her early on. Daniel said he’d probably still do the date but ask for separate checks. Well they went out this past weekend and on Monday Lydia came into work very upset. I asked her how her date with Daniel went, and she ripped into me asking if I was the one who told him not to pay for her dinner. Apparently she had Daniel take her to a high end steakhouse and she ended up splurging. She got a drink, a full entree with a side and dessert where Daniel just ordered a sandwich and salad. Her bill alone came to $70 something, and she was almost in tears at work as she didn’t expect to pay for it and now her car was low on gas. I got a little upset too as she tried to use my friend as a literal meal ticket, but somehow she doesn’t see it that way. Daniel told me later the date was going kind of well until he asked for separate checks, and then Lydia just got weirdly cold. So now Lydia’s mad at me because I told someone about her little tactic and it backfired on her. I don’t feel like I did anything wrong since it was a grieving friend I was protecting but some other people we work with said I should have stayed out of it because it was none of my business

2025-10-05 10:18:47

Luca Moretti

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My Dad Refused To Help Us For Years So I Finally Kicked Him Out Of My Mom's House

My (19M) parents got divorced when I was about 10 and my mom always provided for us. She had an amazing job and me and my brother (17M) got everything we needed and wanted. My dad on the other hand, was jealous of my mom making a lot more money than him and when they were still together my mom would pay for everything (even my dads credit cards). After they divorced, whenever me or my brother would ask him for money (to buy school stuff or anything) he would refuse and say “Tell your mom, she has a lot of money”. Sadly my mom had stage 4 cancer, and when she started getting weaker she told me and my brother to be careful around my dad, specially with money because he would try to claim the heritage. I didn’t want to believe her, since he was my dad. I didn’t think he was capable of doing such a thing (She knew she didn’t have much time left). After my mom passed away, we decided the best thing to do was to live with our dad (In my moms House), and all my mom told us about turned out to be true. He hasn’t provided for us as he should and wanted to claim the heritage, because we shouldn’t have access to so much money. (I plan to invest the money) He has been living there rent free since my mom passed away. He hasn’t gave us a penny, he wants us to use the money my mom left us, that I would like to use to invest and finance my studies. Fast forward a few years, I’m studying in Europe and I’m financing my studies on my own and being honest, I’m having a hard time paying for everything (rent, health insurance, food etc.) My dad hasn’t give me a penny and I decided to kick him out of the house so that I can rent it and finance my studies and my brother’s. He refused and I proceeded with a lawyer. Of course I wan and he now blames me because I should help him, he’s my father. But he never helped me. AITA? I tried to tell it as short as I could, a lot of details are missing but I think you get the point. Excuse my English, it’s not my native language

2025-09-16 22:27:23

Luca Moretti

Family

My Family Demanded I Pay To Help My Abusive Brother After They Shunned Me For Keeping My Son

So, when I was 19 I got pregnant with my son and his dad bailed after fighting with me wanting to go through with the pregnancy. My family told me straightforward that they will not pay a penny nor become responsible for my son and that I needed to get a job as soon as possible so I can afford my own place. During my stay I was treated poorly. I was pregnant, working, and wouldn't eat/wear/use anything unless I'm paying for it. My parents were awful to me and they were doing this to me to get back at me for my decision to keep my baby at the time. My brother was treated like the golden child. He was worshiped in every way and his wife was the lady who get a special treatment because "she was pregnant with their grandbaby". At that point I knew my son will be treated poorly if he grows up around them. I moved out when my son was 5, after my brother was visiting my parents house and he yelled at my son for playing and told him that I should've aborted him and that i would've saved the whole family all this headache. He said this within my earshot and I decided to move out after everyone defended him. And I went no contact with him. I was able (and from the help of my work) to get my own place and pay mortgage comfortably. My son is 7 years old. I'm now taking courses at the academy to improve my knowledge/skills and of course my salary. Luckily I have met wonderful people that treat me nicely and respect me as a person and as a mother. I don't see much of my family just mom. She'd visit regularly and I appreciate her for that. My brother sold his house and got a rented apartment to save money for paying for construction machines and starting a business. That was 2 years ago, but he failed and is now stuck paying rent and taking care of his kids. My mom said he's devastated and broken. She said she felt sorry when he was crying and blaming himself that his family went through this. She told me the whole family is rising money to help his situation out. We started arguing when she didn't like my response and said th st family is family no matter what. She said that despite everything he is my brother and that I should at least feel sorry for his poor kids. I called her unreasonable to try to get the kids involved to get me to empathize with his situation I told her that the family didn't do that when I needed help. And I was literally paying for everything back then. She said she wouldn't visit me anymore if I choose to be this cruel and selfish and now she's calling wanting me to meet my brother so we can talk. But I feel hesitant especially since they brushed off my feelings like that.

2025-09-24 16:43:09

Clara Jensen

Family

I Paid My Nephews To Help Me While Pregnant And My Brother Is Furious I Spoiled Them

My brother (age 45) has 2 sons, twins, age 17. They're not allowed to get jobs or learn to drive, as he doesn't want anything to detract from their studies. I've had many conversations with him where I've said that if they don't learn to multitask or prioritise or balance responsibilities this will screw them over in the long run, but he only sees short term. I (29f) am 5 months pregnant with my first child. My husband and I moved into a new home about 6 months ago, and we knew it was a fixer-upper when we moved in, but didn't anticipate me getting pregnant so soon, so while the house is perfectly safe and liveable, the majority of the fixing up has fallen on my husband. I've been helping out but I've been doing a tenth of what he has been doing. About a month ago my nephews approached me asking for help. Their plan was to sign on with an agency and tell their father that they were at my place during their shifts, and they wanted to know if I would go along with it. I agreed. My husband then said (when the boys left) that as the nursery still needed painting and the furniture assembled, if they wanted to help him out with that then he'd welcome the extra hands, as we aren't in a huge rush and we had enough money to pay them for their time and effort. There were a few other things on the to do list like fix and repaint the fence and clear out and convert the attic into a guest room. The next time we saw the boys they'd signed on to an agency, but they didn't get as many shifts as they hoped. We said if they wanted to help us out we could pay them £10 per hour. They agreed. The list was finished within a week. We gave the boys the money they'd earned, plus a bit extra, and they each had exactly £350. One asked if we could do an IOU type of thing, where I kept the money safe for him and gave it to him when he needed it, and I agreed. The other took it home with him and said he was going to keep it safe. My brother found the second twin's money, demanded to know where he got it from, and grounded both boys when they wouldn't tell him. I told my brother that I had given my nephew the money, and explained that he had been helping me out, and really laid it on thick with the pregnant thing. I didn't tell him that the other nephew had also helped. My brother yelled at me, said it wasn't my place to do that, they're his kids not mine, and if he wants them to work he'll put them to work. He then said that by paying them £10 an hour when the minimum wage for under 18 is £4.35 I had "spoiled" them and that they would "piss the money away". I said that while I respect that he is their father, it was my money and my choice what to do with it. AITA?

2025-09-20 15:00:16

Clara Jensen

Advice

I Tipped My Wife’s Homemade Gift Back to Her After She Ignored My Birthday Wish Again

I need an outside opinion on this. This has been an ongoing issue that I have talked to her multiple times about. My wife makes less money than me and is the type of people who prefers to make her own gifts for people. The issue is she will do this even if the person doesn't want this. I will use myself as an example. For the past few years she has made every single gift I have been given. No matter what I asked for I get a homemade gift, doesn't matter if it is cheap or not. Last Christmas I asked for a new a few things and I got a homemade scarf. I always get her stuff she want. My birthday was yesterday and I asked her to give me a book. It was only 25 dollars and I sent her the link. I opened the gift and she made some homemade bookmarks. It wasn't even the type of bookmarks I like. They were made from fabric and I like the wooden ones. I must have made a face because she asked what was wrong. I told her I didn't want these. I made it so clear what I actually wanted and I have talked to her so many times. I handed them back and went out to buy the book. We had a big fight when I got back, she claims I am being ungrateful and a jerk.

2025-11-08 20:12:58

Jonas Bergström

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AITA for refusing to help a coworker in need?

A few months ago, a new position was created at my workplace that I was interested in (and already doing about half the workload for). I was told if I apply for it, I'll get it from multiple directors. I applied for it. I did not get it. The Directors gave it to Mary. Turns out 4/5 on the hiring committee voted for me. The 5th with hiring power picked Mary because she "knows Mary better." Anyway, obviously I was pretty upset. Since then, I've continued to do my role but stopped doing anything beyond my job description that is now part of Mary's job. Here's the issue. Mary is STRUGGLING. A lot. She's been staying late to catch up. Every time I see her, she looks flustered/run down. She can't handle the workload and has hinted that she'd like me to continue doing what I was doing before. I've refused because 1. They chose Mary; 2. She's making significantly more than me now, and I don't want to do that work for the lesser rate. I might be TA: I could help her relatively easily. I have the time/skills, and I was already doing the work she's stru...

2025-08-02 17:36:40

Elise Dubois

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Coworker screamed at me for bringing treats my toddler helped make to the office potluck

We had a potluck at work last week. I made this delicious brownie & cookie concoction with a caramel sauce. When I made it, my 2 year old was by my side and "helping" as much as he could. When I put the dish out at the potluck I added a sign that my son helped make it. I thought that was the right thing to do in case people had an issue with it. A co-worker who has made it known does not like kids, She has complained to HR about my kid being around at the end of the day for 15-30 minutes. This co-worker approached me and said that it wasn't fair that I made a dish that she wouldn't eat. I told her I just made the dish, i'm not concerned with who did and didn't eat it. She said that making a dish that wasn't made in a safe way and bringing it is not okay. I felt like providing the sign was enough to allow people to make their own decisions. She called me an asshole and I felt like she was blowing this way out of proportion. But AITA?

2025-09-26 15:13:41

Anya Petrova

Family

MIL came over to 'help' on Mother's Day and made me clean my entire house for her

So yesterday was Mother’s Day here in Sweden, and it was my first ever mother’s Mother’s Day. My daughter just turned one week this Saturday and unfortunately my husband worked this Sunday, so his mother texted me telling me she would love to come over and help me to get the house in order and cook some food. I told her that she didn’t have to but she insisted and I told her that I was so grateful. So she came around 7 in the morning and immediately talked about how messy it was, and that we would have to do something about it. I said that I know and I was again so thankful that she came. She said that it was the least she could do and asked to hold the baby. I handed her over and thought she just wanted to be with her before she got going. But immediately she told me that she got it and I could go on and do what I needed in the house. I was confused and I guess she saw that because she said “To clean, that’s why I am here right?”. I did not want to say anything and just started with it. At about 12 she asked if I was done soon because she was hungry, I said that I could take the baby so that she could make herself something, to which she said that she would just wait until I thought it was an appropriate time to eat. I was done at about 15 (3 in the afternoon) and she said that I shouldn’t hesitate if I need help again and that she was glad she could help me with everything. My husband got home at about 17, and he something like “I’m glad she was such a help to you, I hope you got some rest this day” I told him that I didn’t and that I cleaned everything while his mother spent time at our sofa watching the baby. He told me that I couldn’t be serious but I assured him I was. He went out in the kitchen and called his mom. I don’t know what was said but she texted me later. She basically told me that this was the last time that she ever helped me and that I was ungrateful and sick if I thought she would clean someone else’s house. She told me that she cleaned everyday while my husband was a newborn and you didn’t hear her complain. I feel like an ass and wonder if i should’ve just lied to my husband and if i am ungrateful…

2025-10-04 20:01:55

Jonas Bergström

Advice

I Warned Our Server About the Fake Tip the Table Next to Us Left and My Mom Lost It

Yesterday my mom and I went out to a restaurant to get some dinner. We haven't been out to eat since pre-pandemic so this was a treat for us. We got there before the dinner rush so about 10 minutes after we were sat and ordered tons of people started turning up. One group was a family of 7. Parents, a teen girl, a pre-teen boy, two toddler girls, and a baby boy. They'd taken up two tables to the left of us and started up instantly with the ruckus. Our waitress was swamped, her whole section got filled in the span of 5 minutes so I didn't blame her for being stretched thin. But the dad next to us was audibly complaining about the 'shit-tier' service. I heard him say "I know how to get her attention" before we saw him pull out what I thought was a $20. But then I saw the other side of it and it was white with some text. I instantly knew what it was and was appalled. I watched him fold the "20" in half and tuck it under the ketchup. The waitress saw it too and brightened and was extra nice to them. I was disgusted because I was a server for 10+ years so I've had people pull that on me and it's DEVASTATING to be paid pennies and think "oh i'm getting a good tip!" only to have the rug yanked out from under you with one of those fake money bible verse pamphlets. I told my mom I was going to tell the waitress but she said for me to mind my own business. I told her what they were doing was shitty and despite her hushing I waved the waitress over when my drink got low and gestured for her to lean in a bit before whispering that the 20 the table had out was fake, it was just one of those pamphlets disguised as money. She looked stunned but thanked me. Afterwards it was pretty obvious that that table was getting the least amount of attention she could get away with giving them. She didn't ignore them but they were definitely her absolute last priority. I guess they didn't like that and left asap, leaving the fake 20 there. And yeah I saw her pick it up, check it, then toss it. I felt really bad for her, she was clearly busting her ass. So I left her a really good tip, 3x the usual amount I leave. On the ride home my mom and I got into an argument. She was mad at me for being meddlesome in things that didn't concern me. But I think I did the right thing. I'd have wanted someone to tell me if I'd been in her shoes. I got mad and snapped that she was just as bad as the dick who thought leaving a bible verse was adequate payment. She yelled for me to not raise my voice at her but I said I wouldn't have if she'd been a decent person. But then my brother agreed with her so now I'm at a loss. Was I the AH for snapping at my mom? AITA?

2025-11-08 20:14:53

Luca Moretti

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Friends Call Me Entitled Because I Won't Risk My Apartment Deed To Help A Classmate

I (19f) come from a wealthy family. Even so I had a job since I turned 16, my parents got me a car but I had to pay for my own insurance and gas. I had a limit for how much my birthday and Christmas gifts cost... When I graduated highschool and was accepted into a good college my parents gave me a choice: 1) I live in the dorms, they pay for everything, I get just a bit of spending money, but they won't have a say in my life at all since I am an adult. 2) I live in a 2 bedroom appartement they own in the city (doorman, gym, pool and cleaning service), they pay for everything and I have more spending money. In exchange I have to promise to keep a high GPA, no recreational drug use, no alcohol untill I turn 21 and to not have any roommates. Then when I am a junior the deed to the appartement transfers to my name. I accepted the second choice and it has been great, I am an introvert so I appreciate my space. The problem is that a friend I made in the beginning of the semester wanted to move in and I declined. She comes from a middle class family, paying for her school using student loans, just normal. The first time she was over she started making some tasteless remarks (must be nice to never work a day in your life, must be nice to have mommy and daddy wait on you hand and foot...). When she wouldn't stop I just started distancing myself from her. She has been having problems with her roommate from the get go, but yesterday she just couldn't take it anymore. She asked me in front of all our friend group if she could move in with me. I said no she can't. She called me an entitled trust fund baby who didn't know what the normal man struggles are and stormed off. Now all my friends say that I am the AH, that I have the space and it wouldn't cost me anything, I could just lie to my parents and they wouldn't know. I disagree but I thought better to ask because if they don't give it a rest I am planning to cut all of them off. I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.

2025-09-27 18:34:14

Elise Dubois

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Woman Wonders If She Should Let Her Roommate's Boyfriend Come Over Anymore Because Her Roomie Won't Let Him Help Her

I (26F) have a roommate (26F) who I’ve known for over a decade and we are also now coworkers. She’s been here for about half a year and ever since she moved in she’s always had a boyfriend that stays over (practically lives at my house half of the days out of the week) which doesn’t bother me enough to say anything about, but at the end of the day it is another person being over at my house all the time. The issue that’s recently sparked up is that I messaged her and asked if he could help us take some things from the garage to the dump so we can clear it out since my garage is filled with both her and my stuff. In my head, he has a truck and is a guy, so he would be able to help move heavy things and usually guys love helping women with this kind of stuff so why not ask, right? She responds with “I’m not going to ask him to do that. He already does enough for me and it’s not his responsibility”. Now I’m not an unreasonable person. I understand that it isn’t technically his responsibility and I never insinuated that. I do feel like it’s a fair thing to ask of him since he stays over at my house rent free. It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and unliked/rejected having people live in my house who don’t think I’m worth helping with things. Yes, I plan on having a talk with her about this but I just wanted to get outside perspective to help me see if im being rational about this before I have the talk. Edited for resolution: I asked a friend of an old friend if he would be able to help me move the furniture from my garage into my truck and unload to the dump. He said he’s happy to help and offered to use his truck since it’s bigger ☺️ I will be buying him lunch since he’s doing it during his lunch break. As for the roommate situation I have decided to stop expecting friendly favors and will discontinue being lenient on the amount of rent paid and will no longer tolerate late payments. Thankyou to all who helped me see where I was in the wrong and to the people who showed empathy toward me and were able to see my side of things as well.

2025-09-26 16:49:39

Luca Moretti

Family

My Sister Faked Being In Danger And Then Reported Me For Harassment After I Called Help

A few months ago I (27f) got several erratic texts from an number I didn’t recognise, the person didn’t give their name but knew a lot about my step sister Emily (29f), the person said that Emily was a danger to herself. It was very late at night for them, but at the time I was out of the country for work and in a different time zone. I didn’t want to wake our parents, but I was Concerned so I called my sister’s local station for a wellness check. Since a fall out, my step sister and I haven’t been so close, but I’ve always cared about her, and been kind to her despite our differences. I was shocked when I got home from my work trip to receive a call from my mother claiming that Emily had reported me for harassment. I received many nasty messages from my family (including my mother (60f) and other two sisters (early 20s)) before they finally told me what I had apparently done… Emily claims that someone had bought multiple burner phones that they used to harass her via text for a year, and that she “knows” it was me. Emily claims that she baited this person into believing she was a danger to herself to see if she could call their bluff. And that me calling for a wellness check is proof I was harassing her. I was heartbroken when I heard this, unlike Emily I earn very little and unlike my other sisters I’m not funded by our parents. They know I live paycheque to paycheque, and work long hours… they know very well I can’t afford the so called “multiple burner phones”, and don’t have the energy or time to harass my worst enemy, let alone my own family. Since this weird accusation, I’ve taken a step back from them, opting out of spending Christmas with them. To which I received grief, being told everyone was disappointed in me for not going to see them. I’ve decided to softly cut them out, I will send them nice texts occasionally, but I’m not interested in seeing them. I’ve made that very clear to them that I’m not happy with them and that I need to stay away for my wellbeing.

2025-10-19 16:38:51

Elise Dubois

Advice

My Ex-Husband Left Me for His Work Wife and Now He’s Begging for My Help

My ex-husband (Kevin) and I have been divorced for a year now, we’ve been married since we were 21 but he had to ruin it. During our marriage I seen how far apart we were from each other, Kevin had a work wife. To be honest I never understood why anyone in a relationship wanted a work wife or work husband, I felt like that was disrespectful. At the time I didn’t think anything of it because she was a coworker, that’s when he would spend more time with her, brought her over for dinner. He missed our anniversary to go out for her birthday, by that time I knew something was going on but I really had no proof. I seen his text messages between Jenn, very sexual (you would’ve thought they were a couple). He wasted so many years together for this? We have kids but clearly he didn’t care, if he was happy with her then good. Now we both coparent but I mostly take care of the kids, they go to their dads but they rather stay with me. Kevin and Jenn are still together, they have a 4 month old together so Kevin stops having time with the kids. Recently Kevin has been texting me the thing him and Jenn go through, they’re having trouble in paradise. I would always ignore his messages because it has nothing to do with me, they need professional help. This happened again, Kevin told me Jenn stole his credit card and left him with the baby so he doesn’t know where she is. It’s not my relationship so he needs to figure it out, this the first time I texted back to his nonsense. I told him I don’t care what his girlfriend did to him, stop telling me your business.

2025-12-16 17:30:14

Clara Jensen

Advice

I Tried to Help a Client but They Accused Me of Being Transphobic After Their Wax

I (23F) am a waxer. I specialize in Brazilians, but do full body waxing. I’ve been doing this for a year and half. I see anywhere from 3-10 Brazilians per day. Male brazilians are scheduled 30-45 minutes and Female brazilian’s are 15-30. 2 days ago I had a guest come in who booked for a female Brazilian. I took them back and prepared them, came back in and right when I took away the sheet I immediately noticed that I couldn’t tell what exactly I was looking at. I deal with genitalia all day and have had every kind of anatomy. I honestly was trying to figure out if this was a male or female area while cleansing the skin and couldn’t figure it out, which is fine, the most important part of my job is making my guest feel comfortable. I am no doctor but from what I saw was what appeared to be an oversized clitoris (or maybe the tip of a small penis)and the outer labias but no vagina. I assumed I was working with an intersex person. The other hard part, was that this person didn’t “look” female or male. This person took me 40 minutes to wax, mostly because their anatomy was harder to work with. I feel awful even typing this because I sound so rude but I have no other way to describe it. Men’s waxes sometimes take longer because their scrotum is more sensitive and we have to prepare the skin better with the kind of wax we use. This person’s (appearing to be) outer labias had skin that was similar - it was wrinkled. The micropenis or clitoris was harder to work around. Again, I am not a medical professional, just a safe person who deals with peoples body’s, so I do not know what or how to describe these anyway else. I am really sorry if I sound stupid. Anyway, before I left the room I let them know that the next time they book, just to book for the 45 minute brazilian and not the 30. I noticed the look of confusion on their face and explained that everybody needs some extra time. This was me trying to be sensitive to how they identify. (I also was thinking about my coworkers, specifically the ones who are not signed off on men’s waxes, because we wait to train those until they are completely ready. I didn’t want them to be booked and not feel prepared for this person.) They pretty much replied “You want me to book a service meant for a man?” and I said, “No, I want you to book a service where you are taken care of, comfortably, in a allotted time that works for us as well”. They were visibly upset that I was saying this and have now contacted my boss stating that they felt unsafe and judged by me. I feel really upset. I had a great convo with them during the wax, I thought I built trust, and it was thrown away. I do not judge peoples body’s. It’s part of my job to help people realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way they look. In their description to my boss they wrote, “..made me embarrassed of my identity.” I have seen HUNDREDS of people and I am now so worried that I waxed someone whose anatomy was just a bit different. I tried to handle it but I don’t know, I don’t even know if I am making sense right now. My boss seems understanding of my situation but also so disappointed in me. I don’t want to make people feel this way, but I was also trying to think of my coworkers who might be taken back. I don’t know. AITAH?

2025-11-27 14:34:59

Anya Petrova

Family

My Mother Kicked Me Out and Told Me To Become A Prostitute But Now Wants My Help

I (31F) was raised by a single mother with two younger brothers and growing up as a teenager it was like having Regina George as a parent. She belittled me constantly, controlled everything, screamed at me over little things and insulted me everyday. She convinced most of our family that I was a compulsive liar. By the time I was 16/17 I was prone to bouts of depression and anxiety (was called attention seeking for this) and body dysmorphia (she always called me the "pig of the family"). She was putting pressure on me to stay at home for uni because it meant she could control me and that she could have a live-in maid because I did most of the housework by then. I went for universities far far away from home and when she found out, she kicked me out just before my exams began so I could "experience what living in the real world was like." My dad's aunt took me in and I lived for the next few months at hers until I left for uni. My egg donor refused to help me out financially and told me to go into sex work if I was that desperate because she predicted I'd end up dropping out and relying on her anyway. I cut her off not long after and my grand- aunt helped me with money till she died in my final year. I managed to get through university with the money she left me and once I graduated, I had some money leftover to leave the country and start afresh. I moved to Ireland and there, I built a solid friendship group who encouraged me to get therapy. It took me a while but therapy, surfing, painting and adopting a few greyhounds healed me. I began dating my best friend and we married two years after. We're expecting a baby girl in Dec and we're moving back to his hometown in Austria when she's a toddler. I won't lie, I'm still a bit in disbelief over how much I've changed over the years and how content I am with my life right now. So this brings us to a few hours ago. My egg donor's sister kept in intermittent contact with me over the years and called me today to say that my mother was living in a house with no electricity or water back in our home country (for reference, I'm British and hopefully soon to be Irish Indian). She apparently was begging me for another chance because she was my mother and deserved kindness especially now that she was old. I laughed at this and told my aunt to tell her, "You can say I won't ever help her and to not contact me again. She can experience what living in the real world is like." My aunt told me that I was totally ungrateful and I was being too harsh because in Indian culture, we respect our elders. I asked my aunt why she couldn't ask my younger brothers and apparently, they both dropped out of uni and even now struggle to hold jobs so aren't as stable as me. I've blocked my aunt's number and my friends and husband are saying I did the right thing. But I also feel guilty because I can't imagine it being fun being an older person in a freezing cold flat with no electricity either. AITA?

2025-10-05 09:03:31

Luca Moretti