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AITA for not allowing my sister near my bearded dragon after doing a Tik Tok trend with my pet?

Throwaway cause I don't want this linked to my account and I am on mobile so formatting might be weird I(18F) have a bearded dragon named Phil who I have had for about 1 year now. Phil is deeply loved by me and my family. My sister(15F) who I will call Jane, really likes to make TikToks of Phil which I have completely no problem with since they're normally just videos of Phil running around or doing something silly like opening his mouth when he basks. Yesterday my sister came up to me to show me a Tik Tok she had made of Phil. There is a trend on Tiktok of putting butter on dogs as some audio plays over it of this guy saying "butter dog". Well Jane showed me a video of her putting some soft butter on Phil so that she could follow the trend. When I saw that I became very upset. I had seen a video recently of someone explaining how doing this trend with bearded dragons can be dangerous cause the butter will stick to their skin and if they get put back under their basking light the butter will heat up and basically burn the bearded dragons skin. I told Jane to delete the video and that she can't do stuff like that with Phil and quickly got him out from under his basking light that she had put him back under after the video and started to bathe him in the tub to try and get off any of the butter she didn't wipe off. My sister came and told me I was overreacting and that it's just a fun trend. It snapped at her and told her I'm not letting her near Phil until she apologizes to me and promises to not do trends like these with Phil again, and ask me everytime she wants to make a video with Phil. My sister got angry and told me she wasn't apologizing for just wanting to have fun with Phil and that I can't take Phil away from her. After I finished making sure all the butter was off I put him back in his tank that's in my room and told her she's not allowed to come in and take Phil. My parents found out this morning and told me I was out of line for what I did and that it was just a innocent video. They told me I need to stop freaking out so much over things that involve Phil. My sister said she's not apologizing cause she didn't know it would hurt Phil so I should get over it and let her see Phil again. I feel like I can't trust her with Phil though, if she hadn't shown me the video Phil would've sat in his tank getting burned under his basking light and I wouldn't even know until it was too late. I think I might be the asshole cause I could be overreacting like my family say I am and for yelling at her when she didn't know that doing the trend would hurt Phil. So reddit, am I the asshole here? Edit: thank you for the awards! I will be trying my best to reply to everyone but just know I've been reading everyones comments and I appreciate all the advice I have been getting Edit 2: wow! Didn't expect all this attention, people have. Been asking for a pic of Phil though so here! [Phil the beardie](http://imgur.com/gallery/hFcxgWJ) Edit 3/mini update: I'm just gonna answer a question I've been getting a lot, yes, I did tell her and my parents why it was dangerous to put butter on his head. I'm gonna sit them down sometime today or tommorow and try to explain to them today with evidence to show them why what my sister did wasn't just a fun trend but could've hurt or killed Phil. I also ordered a lock for his tank. Thank you everyone for the awards and support, I'm gonna be sitting down and reading all the new comments once I finish my online work

2025-09-12 21:32:43

Elise Dubois

Trends

TIFU: My wife nearly died during the birth of my son three months ago. He was born very premature and he’s had some physical challenges. We took him on his first flight and he was really well behaved. What did I choose to watch? Finding Nemo. Very, very stupid choice.

TL;DR I was holding on to a lot of trauma, and the emotion came pouring out. She had pre-eclampsia, which is not totally rare. But she only exhibited a headache and none of the other features until her blood pressure shot through the roof. He was born shortly after we were admitted to the hospital and while it was the happiest day of my life I haven’t really had the chance to fully deal with the trauma of walking into a hospital thinking my pregnant wife would get a shot to quell a headache, only to haven’t to confront the reality of possibly walking out alone. I chose not to focus on any of that. Instead, I put my head down and concentrated on the things we could control. He was in the NICU for several weeks and everyday we had to be strong parents for our son fighting for his life. And of course, once he graduated from the NICU we suddenly had a baby to turn into a full-grown human. The lack of sleep is real. Plus, post-partum and the grief of not experiencing the full-term has been very difficult for my wife. Meanwhile, I’m a freelance artist who has been getting a lot of work recently after a VERY dry few months. Basically, I’ve had absolutely no time to slow down and think about everything. This was a transcontinental flight. He was marvelous. Slept almost the whole way, even after our flight was delayed for 7 hours and we spent the entire day at the airport. My wife had held him most of the flight while I caught up on some work. But when her back was aching I took him and I looked for something to watch. I didn’t want anything too stressful and I thought, “Finding Nemo has that Thomas Newman score and the blue and orange will be soothing.” I had completely forgotten about the beginning. Really, really dumb. But I couldn’t turn it off. Even as the snot out-volumed the tears. In a sense, it was like an ice bath—at first, it stabbed me like a thousand knives but once I relaxed and let it wash over me, I felt that part of me begin to heal. We’re both starting therapy because we have a man to make and we can’t be good parents without being ones who are as healthy as possible. This is just the beginning as a parent. But, I can’t help but think that maybe ‘Finding Nemo’ helped me figure out just how much I’d been holding inside. Which, is coincidentally kinda the whole point of the film: letting go. EDIT: I just woke up and when I sat down to feed him his morning bottle I realized my phone was going crazy. This is crazy. I can’t believe how much this has blown up! Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I cannot adequately express how much that means to us. Also, to answer a little bit of a fair question, this is a FU because I didn’t really choose the right venue for this, or stop to think that Pixar is pretty much synonymous with sobbing. Planes already heighten our insecurities so choosing a film that will surely make me cry in that environment was not a great choice.

2025-10-06 15:04:33

Clara Jensen

Trends

AITA for asking my friend to stop the way she shows off her “before” shots when she’s refashioning my clothes?

I am a plus sized gal who is really into fashion. I usually donate my clothes unless I can resell them. My friend Katie is really into “refashioning” clothes from thrift stores. She buys plus sized clothes and then alters them into her size with a lot of other changes, like making them into crop tops or mini skirts or things. It’s a really popular creative thing to do. Well she asked me if she could have first pick of my clothes because I’m actually larger than what she usually finds, and it’ll give her more material to work with. I said sure and would let her pick through my stuff I didn’t want, but asked her to tag me in her posts and point people to my shop where I sell the “nicer” things. She started showing off her refashion stuff on Instagram and I was excited… until I saw the way she did it. In Katie’s before shots she makes these really exaggerated grossed out faces where she’s draped in the oversized clothes. Or she’ll do that face where she blows out her cheeks and holds the clothes out as wide as she can and does a cross-eyed expression. It’s really obvious to the viewer that she’s trying to “mimic” a really overweight person… like me. When I saw that, my stomach dropped and I just couldn’t shake the bad feeling it gave me. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt and asked her why she was making those expressions in the before shots, and she said she just thought it was funny. I told her that to be honest, it felt hurtful, as I’m the one who gave her the clothes and it looks like she’s just straight up making fun of me and my body, especially since she tags me. She told me that I’m being hypersensitive. I asked her to please just not make those faces. She told me something like “After you give me the clothes they aren’t yours anymore, so you aren’t really in the position to tell me what to do.” I thought about that for a while and in the end I did agree, if I give her the clothes they’re hers to do whatever she wants with. So my solution is that I’m just not going to give her anymore of my clothes. I told her that and she blew up on me, telling me that I’m just looking for a reason to be offended and if I’m this insecure, I should be working on bettering myself.

2025-11-08 16:50:10

Clara Jensen

Trends

AITA for calling my friends summer challenge trashy?

Before summer started my friends and I (19F) came up with this like summer challenge list ig. Theres a bunch of dares on there, and each dare are worth different points. At first, I was all for it. I thought it would be lighthearted stuff like, kiss someone, post a thirst trap, flirt with a guy at a party, maybe go on a date, simple and harmless things. Instead, they added things I think are just wild and outrageous. Like there are dares now for giving head in a car, hooking up in public, getting fingered at a party, sending nudes, filming a sex tape, even having a threesome, getting multiple hickeys from different people in one night. I’m the chill, more reserved one in the group. I don’t hook up much, I’m not judgmental. Everyone but me is taking this challenge so seriously. I made a comment the other day and said they’re gonna catch something or get caught up because these challenges are getting trashy. I didn’t say they were trashy, just that the dares themselves were. Now everyone’s acting like I’m slut shaming or trying to ruin the vibe. Even went as far as to say I'm jealous because I don't have any points yet. I just don’t feel comfortable with where it’s gone, and I think I should be allowed to say that without being seen as judgmental.

2025-10-28 11:52:10

Luca Moretti

Family

AITAH for taking my Girlfriend's Brother's challenge, leading to them getting humiliated with no fault of mine (Throwaway)

So I'm 29(M) and I have a girlfriend 28 (F) and we have been dating since past 1.5 years. She has 2 older brothers and 1 younger brother and all of them are these "We are Men" dudes. Now her brothers are pretty decent guys, I've been around them enough to know that they just live in that headspace that every man should be big and strong. Now I'm 5'9 but I'm on the stocky side. Since I've first met them they have always commented on the fact that their sister should not date a guy shorter than them. They are also super big on UFC, Drinking and Working out which I'm fine with working out and UFC becuase I myself like these other than drinking. They always comment that she should be with someone who's a badass and not a french guy (I'm half french from my mother's side) who are perceived as cowards etc. Last week on Saturday they had a family get together of around 20-30 people and I was naturally also invited. Late into the party they started saying that she should have been with one of her Exes as they liked him for being a Big Strong guy. I was a bit hurt by the comment and pushed back, rather than backing down they said if i can beat them in a wrestling match they'll consider me a man. I initially didn't accept but I think I didn't wanted to be perceived as a Coward. Now the thing is that they don't know that Judo is big in France, and I was pretty active in the National Judo circuit until I was 16 but had to move to US with my parents. 3 years just before I started dating her I started getting back into BJJ and I'm just a lowly blue belt but i train like 4-5 days a week only as a hobby. They think BJJ is gay and even made fun of me for that. So, getting to the moment we square off and without hurting them I could easily take them down and pin them with and this repeated for all of them. It was a stunning silence in the party and the mood turned sour so I took my leave. The next day my girlfriend started saying that you have no right to humiliate them when they were just being playful with you, I know you train BJJ but they were being friendly and all. I told her I didn't hurt them and was also intially not interested in wrestling with them. Also I explained to her I could have used a strangle or a joint lock to hurt them but I simply kept them pinned. It apparantly has hurt them manhood and my girlfriend is just being an overall insensitive person about it. She is now going on this whole tangent of me being insecure to prove myself and humiliating her brothers to feel like a bigger man. I'm usually a quiet person but I'm not able to understand how I approach this situation.

2025-11-27 14:39:38

Anya Petrova