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They Thought It Was Their Land… Until I Proved Them Wrong
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They Thought It Was Their Land… Until I Proved Them Wrong

I’m using a throwaway for obvious reasons. Last year, I bought a property at auction, mostly sight unseen. It’s about 14 acres in total, and the main thing that drew me in was this old farmhouse that clearly hadn’t been taken care of in years. After everything was finalized and I officially owned the place, I hired a surveyor to map out the exact boundaries. That’s when I found out something unexpected, there was also a barn, a patio, and even a firepit area included in my property. A few months ago, I decided to walk over to that section for the first time. When I got there, I was honestly surprised. The barn was in great condition, fully updated with electricity and running water. That whole part of the land was actually in much better shape than the farmhouse itself. It’s kind of laid out like a big “L” shape, with the house on one end and the barn area on the other. While I was inside the barn looking around, a sheriff’s car suddenly pulled up. The deputy approached me and started questioning what I was doing there. I explained that I owned the property and had just bought it. Not long after, another car pulled up and two people got out, I’ll call them Ken and Barbie. They had called 911, saying someone was trespassing on their property. I tried to explain everything to both them and the deputy, but Ken and Barbie kept interrupting, insisting that the barn, the patio, all of it belonged to them. Thankfully, I had the survey documents with me in a folder, and the deputy took a close look at them. He told them that I likely wasn’t trespassing and that this would probably need to be sorted out by real estate lawyers. After that, I had two separate surveys done and got opinions from two different lawyers. Both confirmed the same thing, that entire section is legally mine. Apparently, Ken and Barbie bought the neighboring property about four years ago. They believed that this part of the land was included in their purchase. Since then, they’ve renovated the barn and turned it into an event space. They’ve been hosting weddings, birthday parties, and other events there. The problem is, everything they’re using for that business is actually on my property. Multiple surveys confirm it. I was also told that adverse possession doesn’t apply here because they haven’t used it nearly long enough, and they don’t have any proof that the previous owner ever gave them permission to use it. The thing is, I don’t want to own or deal with an event venue. So I tried to work something out. First, I offered to sell them that portion of the land at what both I and my real estate agent believe is a fair market price. They said they couldn’t afford it. Then I offered to lease it to them, where they’d pay me a percentage of their revenue and handle all insurance and liability themselves. They said they couldn’t afford that either. Their last offer was to pay me a few hundred dollars a month, which honestly wouldn’t even cover insurance, let alone maintenance. I said no. They then told me they already have a lot of bookings lined up for spring and summer and that if they lose access, they’ll have to refund deposits. At this point, I’ve made it clear that either they lease it properly and take on full responsibility, including insurance, or I just let the property sit unused. So now I’m wondering… do i am AITA?

Elise Dubois
AITAH for moving away for college and abandoning “my” son?
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AITAH for moving away for college and abandoning “my” son?

I got my a highschool h*okup “Lily” pregnant when we were both 17 (I'm 18 now). She told me she was on the pill and, like the stupid teen I am, I didn’t use a condom. I don’t know if she lied about being on the pill, or if her pregnancy was the 0. 01{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f}, but a month and a half later, Lily and her parents showed up on my doorstep. She was crying happy tears and had a positive pregnancy test in her hands. Her parents were glaring daggers. We had a sit down conversation with all our parents to talk about what we were going to do. I was adamant that I did not want to be a dad. I wasn’t (still ain’t tbh) ready to be a dad, and practically begged her to get an a*ortion. My parents even offered to pay for it (with the expectation that I would pay them back in the future), but Lily refused to end the pregnancy. I said that was fine, but I wouldn’t be attending the birth or signing any papers. If she wants a baby that’s fine, but I don’t. Since Lily have birth, she’s continually asked me for money and to watch the baby. I have refused each time, because I never asked to be a dad and that baby is not ...⬇️

Jonas Bergström
AITA For Refusing To Agree To Split Ownership Of My Dad's House With My Sister?
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AITA For Refusing To Agree To Split Ownership Of My Dad's House With My Sister?

Throwaway Account I (30m) have a sister "Lori" (26f) through my dad (52m). When Lori was 3 her mom packed up her stuff, took Lori and left my dad a note saying that she wanted a divorce. Lori's mom always hated how much my mom and dad still got along and refused to cut down visitation after having my sister. Lori's mom also reconnected with an ex-boyfriend and tried to deny my dad access to Lori. Soon after the divorce Lori's mom got pregnant with twins and her affair partner bolted. Lori's mom tried to claim my dad as the father which my dad said was physically impossible but still insisted on a DNA. Lori is his but the boys are not. Fast forward to when Lori is 16, and our dad owns a house and during her week with dad she asked if her mom and brothers can temporarily move in as her mom lost her job and can't stay in their apartment much longer. Dad refused and told Lori that if her mom is having that much trouble then she needs to make other arrangements. Lori said that her mom's family was in another state and that if our dad didn't let her mom and brothers move-in, they'd have to go to another state and that she would go with with them. Our dad said that Lori was old enough to decide which parent she lived with and that if she would rather live with her mom full-time he would support it. Lori was upset and said that if he loved her he would help the people she loves. Dad said that he did love her but would not allow my ex and other kids to live off of him. About a month later Lori used her key to let her mom and siblings in while dad was out of town and when he called the authorities arrived Lori's mom claimed Squatter Rights. Turns out Lori's mom had changed her address for a phone bill and bank statements to dad's address for the past 2 months and Lori would come over and collect them before he had a chance to see them. Dad was pissed started legal eviction but during the proceedings one of the twins accidentally set the house on fire. Lori has apologized for her actions but our dad was done and no longer desired overnight visits as he didn't trust her anymore and used her college fund as a downpayment for a new house. It's been 10 years and while Lori and my dad still talk he still has his guard up with her. Last year there was a health scare and it was revealed that dad is leaving his new house to me while Lori gets a few items. Lori and her mom don't think it's fair, especially since her fund was used to help pay for the house and want me to sign a document agreeing to split ownership of the house 50/50. I refused for a number of reasons but our grandma thinks that it would be the kind thing to do. AITA? Edit: Since I'm seeing this questions in the comments/DMs I'll answer it here ​ 1. We're Americans living in the U.S.A. 2. Yes my dad had Home Owner's Insurance but they were dragging their feet in the payout. Eventually, got the money though. 3. My dad didn't tell Lori she found out and when she confronted out dad he didn't lie. 4. My dad and I like to do fireworks for New Year's and 4th of July so he had some in the garage and the twins got a hold of it, weren't properly supervised and that's how the fire started. 5. My dad is still alive. As stated before there was a health scare because of the pandemic and he wanted to get his affairs in order just in case, but he's fine now. Edit 2: Just to be clear on a few things about my Grandma 1. She loves both Lori and me and means well. 2. While my Grandma thinks that signing the 50/50 split agreement would be the right thing to do she isn't hounding me about it. She's only mentioned it twice and won't state her opinion unless asked as she still respects the fact that everyone is an adult. 3. My Grandma doesn't own a house or have much in assets to will to anyone and my dad gives her money regularly for luxuries.

Elise Dubois
AITA for not taking the fall for my husband??
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AITA for not taking the fall for my husband??

I was at home, just out of the shower, already in my pajamas and ready for bed. My husband had been drinking heavily and was really drunk at this point. I tried to stop him from leaving but he went out anyway. A few minutes later he called me, shouting into the phone: “Open the door, open the door!” I ran to the front door and when I opened it he told me, “I crashed into a house, come see.” I was speechless but grabbed my slippers and coat to follow him outside. It was dark and before I realized what was happening a strong officer grabbed my arms, put them behind my back, cuffed me and slammed me on the trunk of a police car. I was placed in the back seat for over an hour while they kept coming back to ask me the same questions. Finally one cop told me, “Your husband is saying you were driving and you crashed into the house. But I smell liquor on him, not on you. He’s dressed to go out and you’re dressed for bed. I don’t think you were even there.” In the end my husband was charged with a ||...↘️

Jonas Bergström
AITA for kicking only my SIL out which meant she had to fly home early from vacation?
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AITA for kicking only my SIL out which meant she had to fly home early from vacation?

I (29F) have a half brother, James (37). James is married to Lindsay (35) and they have two kids, 4f and 2m. I invited James, Lindsay and the kids to visit me this past week, and they were meant to stay until next Friday. Lindsay and I have always got on fine, except for the fact that she’s always had a weird attitude to me being a SAHW/M. She always asks me if I’m going to ask my husband before making non-essential purchases, or asks me if I feel bad relaxing while he’s working, or suggests I do things for him as a ‘thank you’ to him since I’m apparently not doing anything else. I know that James and Lindsay are big on splitting costs and while he pays for everything for both kids he won’t pay for Lindsay, despite making about 25x her salary. Being that that’s the relationship they’re happy with, I just roll with the comments because my marriage must look weird to Lindsay. However, there is a line. A few days ago we were sitting on our rooftop drinking wine after the kids went to bed. Lindsay was admiring the view and ..⬇️

Elise Dubois
AITA for taking on my husbands mannerisms to prove a point?
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AITA for taking on my husbands mannerisms to prove a point?

I'm 32f, husband is 36m. Been married for 10 years. Within the past 3 years he has become lazy. He works part time (can't go full time because of disability. Not a physical disability, for those wondering). I work part time as well and have a hobby side job (knitting miscellaneous items to sell). Finances are not an issue. Our issue is that he will work his 26 hours a week and will do nothing around the house. He doesn't cook, clean or go shopping for house items. All of this, within the past few years, has been pushed off onto me. He will come home and park his ass on the couch and watch tv, play video games, play his phone, etc while I do everything. I have brought it up just to have it go in one ear and out the other. So I came up with a plan. Two weeks ago I decided to take his behavior and mannerisms and use them to prove a point. I stopped cooking and cleaning. I stopped shopping for house items (unless 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} needed). I have downloaded phone games and play them the entire time that I am home. At first he didn't notice but||.....🔽

Anya Petrova
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AITA for refusing to give my house to my sister?

I would post pictures of my dogs but I can't since I don't want to be identified lol. So me and my boyfriend recently bought a house together. We're both 25, and we were able to buy a house relatively early since houses aren't too expensive where I am. We also live with our 6 month old Bernadoodle Puppy, and our 5 year old Bulldog who we rescued. We don't plan on having children, so the primary reason's for buying a house was to have room for ourselves and our dogs. I should note that my parents are supportive of my decision. My sister, who is 26, is not childfree however. She currently has a 1 year old daughter, and recently found out that she is pregnant again. Last week, she called me to ask if she could live in our house. ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

Luca Moretti
AITAH for exposing my friend's reason for a cash bar at her wedding?
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AITAH for exposing my friend's reason for a cash bar at her wedding?

I (40sF) have a friend (40sF) who recently got married, I am close enough to her to have been in her wedding. When we were planning her wedding with her, she kept mentioning how she was on a budget. Thankfully she has connections and was able to put together an amazing dream wedding within her budget. With a guest list of about 200 people, they invited 300 but 200 RSVP'd yes. Her venue was a gift from her uncle who owns a wedding venue in New England. Her catering was gifted to her from a friend who owns an amazing restaurant. Her flowers were a gift from her aunt who is a florist. Thier rings were heavily discounted from a friend who works for a jewelry company and let her use their discount, so they paid cost. Her DJ and photographer were also gifts, as one of the members of the wedding party has a family event entertainment business. I guess what I'm trying to convey is that a lot of her wedding was gifted to her. Her largest expenses with the wedding were her dress and their rings. No shade, the wedding was amazing, she looked stunning, and everyone had a ||...↘️

Luca Moretti
AITA for Saying My 9 Year Old Niece is Not Welcome?
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AITA for Saying My 9 Year Old Niece is Not Welcome?

As the title says, my niece is 9. She has a problem with stealing. She steals from everyone, everywhere she goes. She is spoiled and gets everything she wants and never faces consequences for these thefts. A few months ago, she stole a bracelet from my step daughter – just a few months older than her. This bracelet is very special to my SD. It was the final gift she received from her late grandmother. When caught and confronted, she tried to claim that it belonged to her but that she didn’t like it so she would give it to my SD. Every time she is at my home, I have to search her bag before she leaves. She will take toys, clothes, jewelry – anything. She robbed my kids’ piggy banks! I have told my brother in law that I do not want her in my home because of her behavior. He brings her over with no warning and she steals. He tried to bring her over today. I finally turned her away. I said, "I’m sorry, but until niece can follow the rules of my home and respect others’ belongings, she is not welcome in my home" and I closed the door. My ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 👇

Jonas Bergström
AITA for not going on a family trip because my room was given away?
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AITA for not going on a family trip because my room was given away?

Two months ago, I was invited on a long weekend trip with immediate and extended family. I'm the only single adult, and the rest are couples. I informed my sister (who was coordinating the trip along with her husband) that I would go as long as there were enough bedrooms for me to have one also. They assured me I would, they booked the house, I paid my share, and that was that. A few weeks later, my brother in law asked me if I would be ok sleeping in the bunk room with my teenage nephews and their friend. Being a 40 year old female, I didn't think that sounded particularly fun, so I said no. I once again stated that if I were going, I would want to have a room to relax in and have privacy. Life for me has been very stressful lately, and I have very much been looking forward to having a peaceful getaway in one of my favorite locations. The trip is set to begin tomorrow, but I received a text from my sister tonight saying "are you good to stay in the boys room?". I immediately called and asked why that was being brought up again, and she said she "must have miscounted the couples". It's bad enough being the one single out of a whole bunch of couples, but this happens to me on every trip I ever go on. It's frustrating always being placed in the living room on a couch, or in a bedroom with teenagers. I paid the same amount as everyone else who will have a private bedroom/bathroom. So, at this point, I just don't really even want to go anymore. AITA?

Luca Moretti
AITA for reminding my ex she has no say in where my son goes to school?
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AITA for reminding my ex she has no say in where my son goes to school?

A little background info: My ex and I broke up when she got pregnant with my son Vincent because she left out one tiny little detail during our time together: she was married with kids. She and her husband almost divorced, I fought to be in my son’s life and got sole custody in the end. My ex still has visitation and Vincent has met his other 4 half siblings who are around the same age as him. Vincent just turned 5 and I’ve started thinking about elementary school next year. A few of my friends kids and my sister’s kids all go to the same private school that starts from pre-k to Highschool. Honestly, I’ve heard so many good things about this place. It’s not strict like many other private schools around here, the classes are small, the teachers are very attentive, my nephews have been there for years and they love it. I’ve been there before for school events too. It seems like a wonderful community and I feel like my son would benefit a lot coming here. When my ex came to ||......👇

Clara Jensen
AITAH for telling my husband that I'm divorcing him if he loses the civil suit against him?
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AITAH for telling my husband that I'm divorcing him if he loses the civil suit against him?

My husband [34m] works at a private high school, where he coaches football and teaches P. E. and health. I [29f] work part-time from home. About four months ago, my husband came home one day looking kind of out of it. He wasn’t hungry for dinner, but he told me that he wanted to have a couple of beers and zone out in front of the TV. This is highly irregular for him, but I decided not to push the topic. Later that evening, he informed me that he had an argument with a student, and that I may be hearing more about it. He described it as a “his word against mine” kind of issue. Again, I didn't want to press the issue. Over the last four months, more details about the case have trickled in from him. He has actually become pretty open about it. First, it wasn’t an argument. It was a physical altercation. He grabbed the kid’s collar, pulled him up to his face, and yelled at him. It wasn’t also a “his word against mine” kind of issue. An entire class of students witnessed the... 👇

Elise Dubois
AITA for not paying for my bisexual daughter's wedding?
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AITA for not paying for my bisexual daughter's wedding?

My husband and I have two children, Sara (35) and Samuel (29). When both our kids got engaged, we gave them a choice. We would pay for a small wedding and give money towards a house. Or we would pay for them to have a big wedding and nice honeymoon. My daughter Sara got married at 20 to her high school sweetheart. They took us up on the small wedding offered and were happily married for 8 years before our son-in-law passed away. After his passing, she announced that she was bisexual and that she was now dating a woman named Laura. Initially we were shocked and, admittedly, a bit disappointed. But after taking the time to get to know Laura we realized that she was a good person, great with our grandchildren, and made our daughter happy. They got engaged this Christmas and we couldn't be happier. We have accepted her into the family as one of our own. My son Samuel married a girl from church this January. When he got engaged they chose to||.....⬇️

Anya Petrova
Redditor Asks If He's In The Wrong For Refusing To Pay His MIL For Babysitting So He And His Wife Could Go On Vacation
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Redditor Asks If He's In The Wrong For Refusing To Pay His MIL For Babysitting So He And His Wife Could Go On Vacation

My wife (39F) is turning 40 in 10 days. To celebrate, we are taking a 5 day vacation, just the 2 of us. It's the first time that she and I (38M) have been away like this as a couple since the birth of our son almost 4 years ago. We planned this trip months ago and my wife asked her mom if she would be willing to come to our house and watch our son while we are away. MIL agreed right away. MIL is in her early 60s but doesn't have a "real" job. She will do cleaning for her brother who owns a bunch of rental properties and he pays her in cash. So, it's not like she has a schedule she has to clear to stay with our son for a few days. Last weekend, my wife called MIL to talk to her about our trip and to ask if there's anything MIL will need/want us to stock in the house as far as food or necessities. During the conversation, MIL said that she will need $100 per day from us. This is the first time she ever brought up wanting to get paid to watch our son. My wife was caught off guard and just kind of agreed to it. But when she got off the phone and told me about it, I got upset. I told her that MIL is taking advantage of the situation because she thinks we have no other options. I told her that is BS that she sprung this on us so close to our trip and I don't think we should pay her anything. I said that I would call my parents and see if they can watch our son instead. My wife told me that MIL wouldn't ask that sort of thing unless she needs the money and that adding $500 to our vacation trip isn't that much of a big deal. I told her that it's not about the money to me, it's about MIL being sneaky and manipulative. I called my mom and asked her if they would be able to watch our son instead and she jumped at the idea. Both my parents are recently retired, so they have plenty of free time and would love an extended grandson visit. I didn't explain the reason for the change, I just told them that things didn't work out with MIL. I told my wife that my parents can watch our son instead and that she should call her mom and tell her that we no longer need her to babysit. She said that she didn't want to do that because MIL was really looking forward to seeing our son, it has been over 6-months. I told her that if she was looking forward to it that much, she wouldn't be trying to swindle us out of $500. I told her if she didn't want to make the call, I would gladly do it. She reluctantly made the call herself, but it didn't go well. MIL got upset because we are now "depriving her of seeing her grandson." My wife got emotional and ended up backtracking and said she would talk to me and see if we could work something out. After the call, she asked me if there was some way we could figure this out and I told her we aren't changing anything again this close to our trip. She said maybe we could offer MIL a lesser amount but I reiterated that it isn't about the money, it's about MIL being sneaky and trying to take advantage of us.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for making my husband either take our son's "shitbox" or the bus because I will not lend him my car.
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AITA for making my husband either take our son's "shitbox" or the bus because I will not lend him my car.

Our family does not have anything that requires a full size truck. We don't haul anything, we don't camp, we do not own a trailer. We have zero reason to own a $100,000 truck. Other than my husband really wanted it. It was in our budget and he was adamant that it was what he wanted. We have three kids our oldest is 17, our daughter is 15, and our awesome surprise baby is 2. Not planned but a joy to be sure. We never take the baby anywhere in the truck. My husband keeps it pristine. My son has a Jetta that he purchased with help from us and his grandparents. It is a reliable car but it is not in great shape. I have a Porsche Cayenne that is our family vehicle. The back seat has the usual stains from the baby. That's life. Well my husband recently got a promotion and he has to go downtown a twice a week now. He tried driving his truck but it won't fit in the parking garage at his office. He had to park a block away at a surface lot where hooligans and n'erdowells might harm it. He asked me if he could use my .....⬇️

Clara Jensen
I accidentally confessed my love to the wrong guy and now we are getting married
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I accidentally confessed my love to the wrong guy and now we are getting married

In high school I currently (25m) had a crush on a guy named Jax. Not having the confidence to approach him in person I decided to write him a note confessing my feelings with a poem (Yes I was that guy in school) As well as asking him to meet me under the football bleachers if he return my feelings The plan was to put the letter in his locker. Put I ended up being to nervous and had my friend Beth do it instead. The thing was she ended up putting it in the wrong locker having put it in the one next to his. As if that wasn’t bad enough our school assigned locker based on first names rather the last name so the locker she put it in also belong to a guy named Jax. I didn’t realize the mistake until the other Jax show up under the bleachers. I wanted to reveal the mix up. but before I could the other Jax started telling me how beautiful it was and how much he loved it talking about how he couldn’t believe someone felt like that about him. After that I didn’t have the heart to tell him the truth. We ended up making a date because I was to nice to tell him the letter wasn’t for him When I revealed to my friend what happen. She convinced me to go on the date and once it was over tell him I didn’t think it was going to work. It would likely still hurt him but not as much as him knowing the truth. This Jax wasn’t necessary my type at the time. I had a thing for the jock type and Jax was more the theatre nerd type. But as it turn out our date went great. Me and this other Jax had a lot in common. We made plans for second date then a third and after that we officially started dating. Once Jax and I got together I swore a Beth to secrecy and made her promise to never reveal the truth about the note. Jax had a lot insecurities issue at the time and I was terrified of how he reacted if he knew. Jax and I have been together 8 years and we currently planning our wedding. (We got engaged 4 years ago but due to the world closing down had to postpone our wedding) Beth who became good friend with Jax over the year think that before we get married I should tell Jax the truth about the note. As she know how hard it is to live with the secret. But I know this will hurt him. Jax he loves what he think is our how we met story and will tell anyone who will listen about it how I put a love note in his locker and how it was so romantic. He even still has the note. Beths think I’m a asshole for keeping it from him. But I’m scared about how he will reacted if he finds out the truth. Edited: Beth has made it clear she has no intention on telling him herself.

Clara Jensen
AITA for telling our mutual friends the real reason I adopted a cat?
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AITA for telling our mutual friends the real reason I adopted a cat?

I (28F) recently agreed to foster a cat who I was told had massive behaviour issues and was going to be taken to an animal shelter if I didn't agree. I expected spitting, hissing, biting, not litterbox trained etc. Cat arrived with nothing to her name, cat is 5 years old. No box, bowls, toys, food, nothing but a flea collar that was clearly months old and too tight. Cat was absolutely filthy, ex-owner told me they couldn't provide money at the time for me to set the cat up, and I allowed it as I'd been told they were in a nasty financial position. We agreed to keep a tab of vet bills/food bills to be paid. As they are leaving, she mentions the case of white claws she stopped to pick up on the way. I was gobsmacked. I set about getting what the cat needed, and began to try to gauge its behaviour. Turns out this animal is the sweetest, smartest, kindest being I've ever had the pleasure to know. Took cat to vet, and cat is incredibly ill and underweight due to ||...↙️

Anya Petrova
AITAH for winning in my divorce?
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AITAH for winning in my divorce?

I was divorced 10 years ago from my wife of 19 years. It was amicable until around 4 years ago. Even after our divorce, we would do things together like surf and take road trips together to see our grown children. I was still close to my in-laws, and whenever there was a family event, I would always be invited. Both my father-in-law and my sister-in-law told me I was always family. My ex was and is incredibly irresponsible with money. I bought her out of the home we owned. We used the market value minus what was owed divided by two. She walked away with a good bit of money. About 4 years ago, I started hearing from my sister-in-law that my ex was saying if I was invited to anything, she would not go. Even after this, her sister and dad would hear that she would invite me to go surfing or to dinner for one of our children's birthdays. About a month ago, I finally asked her sister why she changed. Her sister said that she wasted all the money from the divorce and is now saying that I screwed her out of the house. None of this was true. I was heartbroken when she wanted a divorce, and the financial split was completely her idea. I agreed to everything she suggested. In the 10 years since, the house has doubled in value. I made a great decision in buying her out, but it wasn't easy, and I struggled financially for years after. What bothers me is she is impugning my character to cover for her blowing all the money.

Clara Jensen