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AITA for not buying my wife a plane ticket so she is missing the family vacation
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AITA for not buying my wife a plane ticket so she is missing the family vacation

My wife is horrible with money, at the beginning of our marriage we pulled out money together and she would use all of it. Her job is pays shit compared to mine. So when we combined the money she went crazy. I had many conversations with her over it and even tried to get her to take a money finical class. Overtime it got worse and worse. About a year ago I learned she was in bad credit card debt. I gave her he chose of divorce or we separate our money and she needs to fix her debt ASAP. To her credit she took it seriously and she is fixing her credit card debt. We have separate money and I pay for the bills while her only worry is to buy groceries. My family has a big vacation coming up and everyone is invited. The trip is to Europe and plane tickets are going to cost 1000+. My parents are going to pay for the resort so the only think needs to be paid is the plane ticket and fun money for the trip. I plan on going. She informed me that she will not be able to afford the ticket. I point out the trip is in about four month so she should be able to save up. She informed me that ||...⬇️

Clara Jensen
AITA for telling my paternal grandparents to fuck off and to stop trying to make my mom responsible for their son's kid?
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AITA for telling my paternal grandparents to fuck off and to stop trying to make my mom responsible for their son's kid?

My parents marriage ended 5 years ago when my mom found out my dad was cheating on her and got the other woman pregnant. Dad didn't want his cheating to end the marriage and he offered not to be in the baby's life if mom would stay or he offered to find a way for them to raise the baby together. Dad tried to rope my siblings (17m and 15f) and I (18f) into his little shitshow and was disappointed when we all said no. I stopped seeing dad after that because I told the courts I wanted my mom to have custody, my siblings saw dad for a couple of years before they could declare a lack of interest in going and the courts listened. In that time dad had moved in with the affair partner but tried to use my siblings to get mom and him back together. They didn't want that to happen and mom was furious at him for using the kids. His youngest daughter was ....⬇️

Jonas Bergström
AITA for "abandoning helpless women in the wilderness"?
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AITA for "abandoning helpless women in the wilderness"?

I, mid-30s M, work for my USA state's park system (big forests and wilderness areas type parks, that is). I spend most of my time outdoors and do a ton of hiking. The day this happened I was finishing up a long, challenging hike on my day off at a nearby large wildlife refuge that is privately owned (i.e., not a state park/my place of employment, though I know everyone who works there). The refuge has a trail system with four trails of differing difficulties and lengths, from blue (wide, easy, about 2.5 miles) to red (difficult, 16.5 miles). All trails loop and share the same start/end. So a person like me doing red will spend some time on the trails with those doing the other ones. I was in the last mile or so before the parking lot and was pretty bushed from the long trail. I heard really loud screaming/moaning up ahead and ran to see what was happening. I came upon two women, who I'd learn were mother and daughter (hard to tell ages, I'm guessing 50s and 30s. Not elderly). Both, especially the mother were heavy-set (this may matter). The mother was the one wailing as she sat on a rock. I was concerned (she's shrieking in a forest, after all). I learned that, oh yes, she's "horribly" injured. In the mile and a half they'd done on blue, she had developed a blister. Don't get me wrong, blisters hurt, I know very well. But I truly thought she was being murdered when I heard her. I didn't say anything negative. I have a nicely stocked med kit in my pack, with all sorts of options for blisters, so I offered her whatever she likes. She took her shoe off and stuck her leg at me, clearly indicating that I'm to treat the blister. Yeah, no. Not happening. No strange lady feet in the forest for me. I politely refused and again offered her the med kit. Mother starts moaning and crying. Daughter speaks up for the first time, something along the lines of "just do it." I refused again and put some blister bandages on the rock. I made to move on, and Mother demanded water, very rudely. Yeah, no, I have a hydration pack. She isn't putting her mouth on my bite valve. I'm now fully over helping these people. I made to leave ("well, you're almost to the trail end, so I'll be going"), and she demanded I help her out of the forest. Without waiting, she's on her feet and leaning her full weight on me, with an arm around my neck/shoulders. She weighed at least double what I do, and the way she flung herself on me wrenched my back. I moved away quickly, she lost her balance a bit but didn't fall. I said that I was leaving, that we're less than a mile from parking, and that I was done with this encounter. We all had cell service, so I told them that if she needed to be carried out because of a fucking blister, they could call people paid to deal with their shit (I said both curse words). They scream at me for abandoning helpless women in the wilderness and call me names as I walk on. The daughter called me fatphobic (not sure why, I never said anything at all related to that). I yelled back that I just wasn't interested in their brand of bullshit. I got to my car ten minutes or so later and left. On my way out of the park I stopped at the office. I know everyone there and give them a heads up about the women.

Luca Moretti
AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?
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AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?

I had a credit card that I’d had for ten years. Two years ago, I added my ex to the card -- he has his own card in his name and everything but it’s just linked to my account and I pay for it. He’s been unemployed for two years or so. When we broke up, I was paying the rent so he had to move out. I gave him a month to find a job (literally, any job) and a new place to live, but at the end of the month he hadn’t found (or done) anything. He refused to leave. Finally, he agreed to exit the premises, on one condition: that I keep open his credit card. I wanted him to leave so badly at that point, I acquiesced. I paid close attention to my credit card statements after that. What was he buying? Where was he living? He was only spending about $300-400 a week, mostly on food, but also some line items were not immediately apparent what they were, and I thought they might be gas stations for cigarettes or booze. I paid it off every time, but considering that this is more than he spent on the card when he was using it while ||...↘️

Clara Jensen
AITA for using therapy to insult my dad and his wife?
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AITA for using therapy to insult my dad and his wife?

My dad, his wife "Eve" and I (17f) are in "family therapy" together. We started therapy 4 weeks ago and the first week we went to see the therapist individually across the week and from the second week onward we were in the sessions together. The first session we did together the therapist did most of the talking to us and she pointed out some things she wanted us to know and keep in mind as a group. Last week we started doing more talking and she asked us why we felt we were in therapy. My dad said it was because Eve had been my stepmom for a very long time and was not acknowledge in an appropriate way and he felt like we needed to work this out together because it wasn't fair that she has raised me for so many years and yet she's discarded as a mother. Eve said we were in therapy because no matter how hard she tried, I would not accept and embrace her as the motherly figure she has been in our family and I broke her heart many times since she met me and now that I'm almost an adult she's hoping we can turn it around. My answer was we're in therapy because my dad and Eve do not listen and cannot accept the fact I have never, will never, claim Eve is my mom or my second mom. I said they appear to be incapable of accepting the fact I have not changed my mind about her being my second mom and apparently they were dumb enough to think that I was lying for years about the fact Eve is not my mom. I said I had always been honest about this and never claimed otherwise. And that they believed me too young and dumb to know how I felt. So now that I was 17 and saying the same thing as always they had panicked and were still being dumb about this and thinking they can pressure me into feeling a different way. My dad and Eve were pissed about what I said. They told me I did not get to use therapy to insult them. I pointed out I had not wanted to go to therapy with them in the first place. The quick background: They got married when I was 8 and I lost my mom when I was 5. That's a sensitive subject with dad because he always blamed her for her death (she went out with friends and ended up drinking too much which led to her death). He (and Eve) think it should have made me more willing to have another mom. But I never accepted Eve as my mom. Not even when she gave me half siblings. I always said I would not call Eve mom. I have always said I have one mom. I said no to their faces when they asked me to say I have two moms. We ended up in therapy because my aunt died four years ago and my uncle is getting married again. My cousin was upset about and I was talking to him and we talked about the whole two moms thing and I said I only have one and Eve was never my mom to me and his almost stepmom doesn't have to be to him either. My dad and Eve heard, were horrified, and insisted on therapy.

Clara Jensen
AITA for making my kid's teacher "collateral damage"?
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AITA for making my kid's teacher "collateral damage"?

Getting a divorce is easy but dealing with it afterwards is harder. My son’s mother and I have been divorced since January. There is a lot of bad blood on her end because she didn’t get what she wanted. What she wanted was insane and what I got was fair. I just want to move on and co-parent our 7yo son. He’s been largely unaffected by it. Long story short, I found out that his teacher had been going back and forth with my ex regarding our son. I was not copied. I went straight to the teacher and reminded her that there was no excuse to exclude me on matters regarding my son. She tried correcting me that the emails were not about my son per se, but classroom matters. So I corrected her back and asked is my son not in her classroom? She admitted that she was wrong and it wasn’t on purpose. It was just that my ex is always emailing her but that’s better and more comfortable than having her do it in person. I asked her what stuff was my ex talking about and she said “your divorce and the drama.” I was angry that my ex would discuss personal matters with someone that I have to deal with so I went to the... ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 👇

Jonas Bergström
AITA for asking for compensation for babysitting my niece after a year and a half?
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AITA for asking for compensation for babysitting my niece after a year and a half?

My (20F) niece is a year and a half old and I’ve been my sister’s (27F) only babysitter since she was born. My mom occasionally babysits but only about once a month as she lives 45 minutes away from my sister and I only live 15 minutes away. Well, my sister has been asking me to babysit A LOT recently. For example in the past week I’ve babysat 5 days. And it’s not just for an hour… Yesterday I was there from 9 am - 6 pm. I haven’t been home for more than a few hours (not sleeping) in days. She made me get somebody to cover my shift at work today so I could babysit, and does this often. She doesn’t allow me to eat any food at her house but I’m also not allowed to take my niece in the car (I’ve never been pulled over or in any accidents that I was driving) so my only option is to order delivery, which can get expensive. She’s told me in the past she’s going to start paying me but the only time she’s EVER paid me was over NYE where she paid $40 for babysitting over night. My sister just moved over 30 minutes away from ...⬇️

Luca Moretti
AITA for telling my dad his mistake isn't my problem to fix?
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AITA for telling my dad his mistake isn't my problem to fix?

I (20f) live about two hours from my dad. My dad and mom divorced when I was 9, he remarried when I was 14 and by then I mostly lived with my mom. My younger brother (16m) and sister (17f) lived mostly there too. Then our mom died a year and a half ago and they moved to our dads. Our dad has younger stepkids (ages 7 to 11) and I never really had much of a relationship with them. When I see my dad I am kind, I treat them the same as my siblings, but to me it isn't really the same and I do make much more of an effort with my siblings. Which makes sense to me. I usually see them once or twice a month and we go watch a movie or go shopping and generally hang out. They’ve been to my apartment a few times too. So my dad ended up mentioning them sleeping at my place next month in front of his stepkids, and according to my siblings the younger kids got upset and asked why they didn't get to go, and his wife was pissed that not only did he bring it up in front of her kids but ||...↘️

Elise Dubois
Woman’s Dine-And-Dash Scheme Goes Spectacularly Wrong After Latest Victim Requests Separate Checks Thanks To Friendly Tip-Off
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Woman’s Dine-And-Dash Scheme Goes Spectacularly Wrong After Latest Victim Requests Separate Checks Thanks To Friendly Tip-Off

I (28m) work with this woman Lydia (24f) who has a very annoying habit. She has a dating profile that she uses specifically to lure guys to buying her expensive dinners at restaurants she wants to try and then ghosts them. Lydia brags about this all the time, and is never interested in actually dating, but she’ll act like it to sell it. I can’t stand this because it’s playing with people’s hearts, but Lydia thinks of it as a life hack to try food or drinks she otherwise couldn’t afford. My friend Daniel (32m) is also on dating sites, but for the right reasons. His late wife died a few years ago, and he’s just started jumping back into the dating scene. Daniel’s a very sweet guy, and I really want him to find a great lady for him. A few days ago, he texted me asking if I knew Lydia. They matched and got to talking about work, which is how he found out we worked at the same place. I told him all about Lydia’s BS with the restaurant thing, and made it very clear to him he would do best to drop things with her early on. Daniel said he’d probably still do the date but ask for separate checks. Well they went out this past weekend and on Monday Lydia came into work very upset. I asked her how her date with Daniel went, and she ripped into me asking if I was the one who told him not to pay for her dinner. Apparently she had Daniel take her to a high end steakhouse and she ended up splurging. She got a drink, a full entree with a side and dessert where Daniel just ordered a sandwich and salad. Her bill alone came to $70 something, and she was almost in tears at work as she didn’t expect to pay for it and now her car was low on gas. I got a little upset too as she tried to use my friend as a literal meal ticket, but somehow she doesn’t see it that way. Daniel told me later the date was going kind of well until he asked for separate checks, and then Lydia just got weirdly cold. So now Lydia’s mad at me because I told someone about her little tactic and it backfired on her. I don’t feel like I did anything wrong since it was a grieving friend I was protecting but some other people we work with said I should have stayed out of it because it was none of my business

Luca Moretti
AITA for Refusing my Wife's Gift
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AITA for Refusing my Wife's Gift

My wife lent my father-in-law my cordless drill without my permission. I had a general sense that he had it and since he has a woodworking hobby, and I simply use it for basic home repairs, I was happy to let him keep it. He also lives a few blocks, so it's not a huge burden for me to go get it if need be. Well the time came where I needed to use it, so I asked my wife if she could get it back from her father whom she sees everyday. She immediately started asking me what I needed it for, when did I need it etc. TBH, I may have been short with her because I felt I really didn't need to justify why or how I wanted to use my drill. She went on to ask me if I could just get a new drill and implying that I may be having financial trouble if I can't just get a new one. I reiterated, I don't need a new one, I have a drill and we know where it is, with her father. She called FIL to ask about the drill and as it turned out, the drill was not at his home, but at his cabin about 90 minutes away. He visits weekly, so again, this is not a big deal for me, I could wait a week and eventually get my drill back. Fast forward to the following week, and FIL didn't bring the drill back from the cabin.. My wife told me FIL forgot it, but since we were all going back anyways we could pick it up when we're there. Lo and behold, when we get there FIL can not find the drill. So it's now been over two weeks since I've first asked for my drill, and will stretch on indefinitely. My wife offered to give me money to buy a new one. I showed her the price (about $200US) and she said that it would be my Christmas present. This is where I may have been the asshole, I told her it's my stuff that's gone missing and that if she feels like replacing it is a gift as opposed to making amends for lending out my things to someone who lost it, then she can keep her money. We haven't talked since, but she put an envelope of cash on my desk and left a note that said she didn't want to stress out FIL and that she is "Sorry that you need to purchase a new drill because you need to use one urgently." I have read the note, but the money is still in the envelope where it may stay. So reddit, AITA?

Jonas Bergström
AITA for offering my kids nanny more money/hours so she won't work for my SIL?
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AITA for offering my kids nanny more money/hours so she won't work for my SIL?

My husband and I have 3 kids (10mo f, 4m, 10f). We currently have a nanny, Isabelle (22f) 3 days a week. I have to say, Isabelle is fucking amazing. She drives on field trips, she does homework with the kids, she handles play dates, she's the one adult my 10 year old likes, she's not dependent on screens, does art projects with the kids, she speaks 10 year old, and she's even teaching them how to cook and bake. They made mini quiches a few weeks ago. My oldest is doing state testing right now and wanted a fun activity with her friends. Isabelle suggested a spa day and my daughter loved it. I set up a day for my 4 year old to go home with his grandparents and let Isabelle turn our living room into a spa. She picked up my daughter, my niece, and 2 friends, brought them to our house, and did their hair and nails while they laid back and did face masks. I guess my niece was telling her mom how cool Isabelle is because my SIL texted Isabelle offering her a nanny position 4 days a week, matching whatever I pay her but for only 1 kid. Isabelle showed me the text and told me that she .....⬇️

Luca Moretti
My son stopped visiting because I wouldn't serve his girlfriend coffee—was I wrong?
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My son stopped visiting because I wouldn't serve his girlfriend coffee—was I wrong?

New account, but I’ve been reading here for a while. My (64f) son (31) was over and I was asking him about his girlfriend of about 3 years. Now, I’ve only met her a handful of times, but I know they’re serious because they plan trips and talk about buying a home. I asked why she never comes over bc it seems like she doesn’t like me. I’ve asked him this before and he never gave an answer, but today he seemed fed up and pretty much told me it was because of me. He told me that I act “too weird and intense.” When I wanted examples, he told me 1) I kept on interrupting conversations she was having with my husband - but it was because I think she was bored. 2) I try to get too close to her during dinner - I would have thought she’d want to sit next to me and get to know me since she can sit next to my son any other time. 3) I wasn’t very hospitable by asking her to help with clean up and not offering her coffee when I offered everyone else. I will admit that is true because I didn’t think she’d want any. And he also brought up something I did with his ex years ago, which I’ve already apologized for. I told him I think this is ridiculous. She’s a very smart and capable woman. I told him I don’t understand why she needs to be catered to like this. She can get her own coffee! He told me it’s not worth trying to explain things and ended up leaving. WITAH the asshole for doing that to his girlfriend, and for thinking she’s quite immature for not wanting to come over to my house bc she wasn’t catered to enough? She may think I’m too weird but I don’t think that justifies not coming over when she’s in a serious relationship with my son.

Clara Jensen
AITAH for bringing a salad that I know one of my coworkers will hate to the monthly office potluck?
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AITAH for bringing a salad that I know one of my coworkers will hate to the monthly office potluck?

I (43F) work a semi-remote job and every month we have our remote employee meeting at the main warehouse. During that meeting, one of the other in-office employees (we'll call her Janice) always plans a potluck lunch. At first it was nice, but for the last handful of months Janice has been passive aggressively suggesting dishes that I can bring to the lunch, even going so far as to call me out in the email invitation. This month's theme is "salad bar." Our company is supplying a few different types of lettuce for the base and we are supposed to bring toppings. I have been covertly asked (pressured?) to bring the toppings for a strawberry chicken walnut salad. This means that I would have to buy enough chicken, strawberries, candied walnuts and croutons to possibly feed the 20 people in our department. Janice has mentioned she thinks she is bringing cucumbers, tomatoes, and chopped onions. I typically don't have issues doing this, but this year I am in 2 weddings, have our yearly family beach vacation planned (my parents rent the house, but I still need money for my son and me to eat and enjoy ourselves a bit), and I am trying to save spending money for a cruise that we are taking next January. I've mentioned a couple of times that I'm slightly tight with money until next year and then was shocked to be asked by someone that makes over $10 more per hour than me to bring toppings that cost more than triple the cost of what she is bringing. When I blatantly said," Wow, the chicken salad toppings are kind of out of my price range right now," my concern was met with dismissal and a lighthearted comment about how it shouldn't cost more than what I pay to have my nails done every two weeks. I was furious because I had just mentioned the other day that my nails were the one luxury that I really look forward to nowadays and I felt like she was trying to use that against me to manipulate me into doing what she asked. Yesterday, after I went home and rage raided my pantry, I decided that this would be the month that I would NOT be making what was suggested. I went through what I had on hand and decided that I will be making a Mediterranean chickpea salad with lemon vinaigrette dressing to share with the group. This included chickpeas, kalamata olives, sun-dried tomatoes, crumbled goat cheese, all of which I know she hates (she gagged when she smelled olives on a charcuterie board another employee brought a few months back). The only things I have to purchase are the goat cheese and olives. I'm sure that most of my coworkers would enjoy this salad, too, so it won't go to waste. I also don't have to worry about her mooching leftovers from me again when I could really benefit from having them to eat myself. So am I the asshole for making something I know she will hate? And should I keep doing it until she stops asking?

Clara Jensen
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AITA for refusing to take the blame after my niece was hospitalized?

Let me start by saying I don't know much about flowers, plants, etc., but I have two cactus from my ex-boyfriend. One of them looks like a generic cactus. The second one is almost white and looks like it has soft fluff instead of spines. It's soft to the touch, but if you touch it for too long, the soft fuzz becomes prickly. I've pricked myself a few times with it, but it never hurt me. That said, my sister came to our country with her husband and children (M13, M8, F6). The second day they came to visit me. At one point, all the adults (me, her husband, her, and our mother) were in the kitchen cooking together, while children (nephews and our younger cousin) stayed in the living room watching cartoons. When my sister and I went into the living room, we saw that her daughter was licking this cactus. We quickly learned that children were intrested in its unusual appearance and discovered that it was soft, and then began encouraging each other to touch and lick it. Well, okay. I placed ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🔥

Elise Dubois
AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it?
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AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it?

So, I'm getting married to my fiance soon. I bought my wedding dress weeks ago. His my (FMIL) kept pestering me about trying it on but I firmly refused. I finally shut it down after she offered me 100$ to let her try it on. Her reasoning for presisting so much? She says it's because of her 'love' for wedding dresses and her obsession with them. Fast forward to yesterday, I came home from work early and I found my fiance at home. He freaked out after seeing me and tried to prevent me from going into my room while trying to text somebody on his phone. I opened the door and was shocked to see his mom standing there wearing my dress. I instantly pulled out my phone and took a photo of her in it. She and my fiance freaked out after I told her that she needed to pay me for a new dress in 3 days or else I'll show the whole family the photo. She started crying and then left and my fiance blew up at me saying I can't be serious and that I overreacted because his mom just wanted to try the dress on, no ...👇

Luca Moretti
AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now?
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AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now?

I (17m) might be TA and I might be a big one but I wanted to get people's insight. So my dad left my mom when I was 14 to be with his wife/the woman he was cheating on my mom with. My dad didn't want me to think badly of him but I did. He knew I did and he knew he couldn't change my mind easily. We always knew my parents would end up with shared custody until I was 17 at least (from experience the judges in family court will only stop enforcing shared custody when a kid turns 17 and speaks out, any younger and they insist on 50/50). I also knew mom would struggle on her own because while she did work, she never made as much as my dad. She also wouldn't get child support because of the 50/50 and it wasn't ordered even with the difference in income. So when dad pleaded with me to give him a chance to show he could still be a good dad and he said he would do anything for me, I told him to keep supporting mom and make sure she wasn't going to end up struggling while he got ....👇

Anya Petrova
My wife uses her vibrator while our baby sleeps right next to her and thinks I'm wrong
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My wife uses her vibrator while our baby sleeps right next to her and thinks I'm wrong

Tonight, i was in the living room playing a game when my wife went to bed with our 1 year old who she co-sleeps with. I sleep on a separate bed and usually go to bed much later. She texts me and asks if i can bring her 2 batteries. I asked what she needed them for to see if it was urgent or something she just needed me to do before i came to bed, to which she replied it was for her sex toy, a vibrator. I was immediately taken aback. I asked just to confirm if she planned on masturbating while our son slept in the bed less than a foot away. She said yes, as it’s the only time she’s usually able to, and further confirmed she does so often, as well as watching porn while doing so. I’m okay with watching porn and masturbating, but doing so with our child in the bed directly next to her made me extremely uncomfortable. I said “oh wow” and that my concerns had been confirmed, to which she has since called me a jerk and said i made her feel gross about herself.

Luca Moretti
AITAH for slapping my sister in law in front of her whole family?
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AITAH for slapping my sister in law in front of her whole family?

I(F), have been with my husband for over 10 years. My husband has a fairly large, close-knit family, and they have get togethers pretty often- aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, grandparents, the works. He has 3 younger sisters. The one this story is about is the middle of the three, and she’s 4 years younger than us- we’ll call her Mary(fake name). I, on the other hand, have a smaller family, including 2 sisters, and we really did not get along well growing up. I won’t go into it, but in short, my mom was crazy manipulative and we were all pitted against each other, which resulted in us constantly being at each others throats. So, on to Mary. Mary is generally a nice girl, but at times she can be…too much. She has a tendency to take things that don’t belong to her without asking(that’s my nice way of saying she is a straight up thief), she will eat every piece of cookie dough out of the ice cream and lie to your face about it, (TMI, sorry) she will literally leave menstrual blood on the toilet and floor and deny it was her, I once saw her take(I shit you not) SEVEN out of ten pieces of garlic bread before anyone else could have any and without leaving enough for everyone. Again, she can be very nice at times, but she is also so very selfish and dramatic. So here’s what happened. My husband’s aunt was hosting the get together. EVERYBODY was there. Everything was going well, there was a big group of us hanging in the living room chatting(including his grandmother who took her matriarch role quite seriously). Mary approached me and my husband and his mom, and while we were talking to his mom, she suddenly decided that she was going to pretend to punch me in the face, over and over and over. I kept talking, but gave her a look signaling that she should stop. She did not stop. After another minute of letting her act out whatever impulse she was having, I tell her clearly to knock it off. Again she doesn’t. Instead she gets closer and grazes my nose with her fist. On pure instinct, literally before I could even register what I was doing, I full on bitch slapped her. The room collectively gasped, and then everyone was completely silent and just stared at me. Mary just held her face and looked surprised, and then I blurted, “Well, I told her to stop.” Now everyone is torn. Some people think I was wrong to slap her, and some people think I warned her and she deserved it. I’m starting to feel bad because truly, I did not mean to do it. I think I flashed back to all the fights I had with my sisters growing up and my hand literally just flew up and hit her. Also, I broke my nose when I was a kid, and even the slightest hit to my nose causes the bump on my bridge to tear open and bleed- just to say that I am instinctively very protective of my nose. So, am I the asshole for slapping my sister in law?

Jonas Bergström