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AITA for never telling my Mother I married into money?
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AITA for never telling my Mother I married into money?

I (34F) have a difficult relationship with my Mother, she had me when she was 17 and was addicted to various substances when I was growing up. She'd leave me with whoever would watch me for days on end and i'd end up mostly raising myself. I left home at 16 and couch surfed with various friends until I was able to get my own place. At 25 I met my now Husband and we got married three years later. His family is the polar opposite of mine and are incredible, so loving and warm, I honestly consider his parents mine and call them Mum and Dad. They also happen to be quite well off but that isn't something I care about, I mention it because it matters to the story. Last year my Mother reached out to me after a decade of not speaking to her wanting to reconnect and introduce me to my little sister who was 2 years old, I was confused as I hadn't even known she'd been pregnant, but it seems she'd been a change of life baby. I thought maybe she'd turned over a new leaf and if not I wanted to ||...↘️

Clara Jensen
AITA for telling my brother I wouldn’t go to his wedding if he only invited some of my kids
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AITA for telling my brother I wouldn’t go to his wedding if he only invited some of my kids

I (40m) have 6 kids (15f, 14m, 13m, 12f, 8m and 3f) with my wife (40f). My brother (30m) lives close and my kids see him a lot and love him. He is getting married to his fiancé (30f) in 3 months. This wasn’t an issue until recently. This year in school, our 13 y/o son’s friend group became friends with a feminine gay boy, the boys bonded over their love of sports, while my son and his friends play hockey, the boy ice skates. There is an ice sports place in our area that our son plays hockey at and often sees his skating friend there. This year, the boy was being bullied for his sexuality and wearing makeup, my son and his friends were upset about this and defended him. My son and his friends always complimented him on his makeup and nails, once he did the school colors as a look, the boys had an upcoming tournament and he wanted to support them. The boys thought this was cool and asked if he could do a look for them, he did and they loved it. As a result of that, my son and his friends has ||...👇

Anya Petrova
[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?
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[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?

I (32F) and my husband (38M) have been married for 3 years, our relationship has had its ups and downs but we’re a relatively happy couple. Though, in the beginning of our relationship, he was also dating Angela (24F) 5 years ago, I was unaware of this other relationship but when I found out, I confronted him and he told me that since we weren’t officially dating that he didn’t know we were exclusive. I told him that if he didn’t cut off this relationship with Angela, that I was going to break it off. We left it at that and we didn’t talk for a while when he came to my apartment unexpectedly weeks later saying it was over with Angela and that he wanted to try again and asked me to be his girlfriend. Ever since then we have been a pretty normal couple, we have our moments but our relationship is going good and I believe he is my soulmate. Recently there’s been an issue in our relationship though, Angela. 3 weeks ago, we were out running errands and ||......🔽

Anya Petrova
UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?
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UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?

So, I (16F) didn't know my real dad was for most of my life. It turned out that he was my mom's best friend's husband cause he cheated with my mom. They all knew, my mom just didn't tell me until this year. Looking back he's always been like a dad to me even though I always referred to him as Uncle David. My dad and his wife, who I call Aunt Olivia, have kids and I always thought they liked me, like they're younger but they'd always want me to play with them and they were always trying to impress me and stuff. I was like an older cousin than a sister though. Since we got everything in the open I've been over to their house more often. Aunt Olivia loves having me there and I love having her be my stepmom cause she was already like my bonus mom. But the kids don't like me anymore, they don't want me to play with them anymore and they'll barely acknowledge my presence. Yesterday during dinner my dad ||...↙️

Jonas Bergström
AITA for not doing a favor for my dad and telling him I don't owe him or his favorite wife and kids favors?
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AITA for not doing a favor for my dad and telling him I don't owe him or his favorite wife and kids favors?

After our mom died dad told me and my siblings (17m, 16f and 14m) that he was glad that part of his life was over and he was going to find someone he actually loved and wanted to be with and we better be ready because he wasn't slowing down for us. This was 10 years ago. He met a few women before his wife of 9 years. They were together a few months before they got married and she was pregnant right away. Dad said he knew she was the one. He was finally in love. That mom was his biggest regret in life. My sister would cry which annoyed dad. He'd say we should want him to be happy when he sacrificed his own happiness for us. He's a better dad to the kids he has with his wife. He's there on their birthdays, remembers to buy them gifts, takes them out for ice cream, or for special time with him. He comes home earlier to ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻.. ⬇️

Anya Petrova
AITA for telling my sister she is an idiot if she thought her actions at her wedding wouldn’t have consequences.
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AITA for telling my sister she is an idiot if she thought her actions at her wedding wouldn’t have consequences.

On my phone Quick backstory, my bio dad died when I was young and my mom remarried when my sister was 8 and I was 10. We are now in our late 20s. Stepdad focused a lot of his time providing for us so I never got close to him but I am grateful for him. I am engaged and my sister is going to marry in about a month. My wedding will be in a year. Both of us are close to our mom though. My sister who I will call Noelle, f*cked up in my opinion. At first I was on her side but now I just feel bad for stepdad. Noelle isn’t going to have him walk her down and give her away. I understand this is her decision and when that came out I helped my mom and stepdad understand that it was her choice. The turning point happened last week when she told us that he will not be sitting at the family table, when asked her why she made it clear he wasn’t family to her. Again her right but damn he is the reason we had such a good childhood and are debt free (he paid for college and worked a ton). I knew this would... ⬇️

Jonas Bergström
AITA for not buying my wife a plane ticket so she is missing the family vacation
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AITA for not buying my wife a plane ticket so she is missing the family vacation

My wife is horrible with money, at the beginning of our marriage we pulled out money together and she would use all of it. Her job is pays shit compared to mine. So when we combined the money she went crazy. I had many conversations with her over it and even tried to get her to take a money finical class. Overtime it got worse and worse. About a year ago I learned she was in bad credit card debt. I gave her he chose of divorce or we separate our money and she needs to fix her debt ASAP. To her credit she took it seriously and she is fixing her credit card debt. We have separate money and I pay for the bills while her only worry is to buy groceries. My family has a big vacation coming up and everyone is invited. The trip is to Europe and plane tickets are going to cost 1000+. My parents are going to pay for the resort so the only think needs to be paid is the plane ticket and fun money for the trip. I plan on going. She informed me that she will not be able to afford the ticket. I point out the trip is in about four month so she should be able to save up. She informed me that ||...⬇️

Clara Jensen
AITA for telling my paternal grandparents to fuck off and to stop trying to make my mom responsible for their son's kid?
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AITA for telling my paternal grandparents to fuck off and to stop trying to make my mom responsible for their son's kid?

My parents marriage ended 5 years ago when my mom found out my dad was cheating on her and got the other woman pregnant. Dad didn't want his cheating to end the marriage and he offered not to be in the baby's life if mom would stay or he offered to find a way for them to raise the baby together. Dad tried to rope my siblings (17m and 15f) and I (18f) into his little shitshow and was disappointed when we all said no. I stopped seeing dad after that because I told the courts I wanted my mom to have custody, my siblings saw dad for a couple of years before they could declare a lack of interest in going and the courts listened. In that time dad had moved in with the affair partner but tried to use my siblings to get mom and him back together. They didn't want that to happen and mom was furious at him for using the kids. His youngest daughter was ....⬇️

Jonas Bergström
AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?
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AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?

I had a credit card that I’d had for ten years. Two years ago, I added my ex to the card -- he has his own card in his name and everything but it’s just linked to my account and I pay for it. He’s been unemployed for two years or so. When we broke up, I was paying the rent so he had to move out. I gave him a month to find a job (literally, any job) and a new place to live, but at the end of the month he hadn’t found (or done) anything. He refused to leave. Finally, he agreed to exit the premises, on one condition: that I keep open his credit card. I wanted him to leave so badly at that point, I acquiesced. I paid close attention to my credit card statements after that. What was he buying? Where was he living? He was only spending about $300-400 a week, mostly on food, but also some line items were not immediately apparent what they were, and I thought they might be gas stations for cigarettes or booze. I paid it off every time, but considering that this is more than he spent on the card when he was using it while ||...↘️

Clara Jensen
AITA for making my kid's teacher "collateral damage"?
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AITA for making my kid's teacher "collateral damage"?

Getting a divorce is easy but dealing with it afterwards is harder. My son’s mother and I have been divorced since January. There is a lot of bad blood on her end because she didn’t get what she wanted. What she wanted was insane and what I got was fair. I just want to move on and co-parent our 7yo son. He’s been largely unaffected by it. Long story short, I found out that his teacher had been going back and forth with my ex regarding our son. I was not copied. I went straight to the teacher and reminded her that there was no excuse to exclude me on matters regarding my son. She tried correcting me that the emails were not about my son per se, but classroom matters. So I corrected her back and asked is my son not in her classroom? She admitted that she was wrong and it wasn’t on purpose. It was just that my ex is always emailing her but that’s better and more comfortable than having her do it in person. I asked her what stuff was my ex talking about and she said “your divorce and the drama.” I was angry that my ex would discuss personal matters with someone that I have to deal with so I went to the... ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 👇

Jonas Bergström
AITA for asking for compensation for babysitting my niece after a year and a half?
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AITA for asking for compensation for babysitting my niece after a year and a half?

My (20F) niece is a year and a half old and I’ve been my sister’s (27F) only babysitter since she was born. My mom occasionally babysits but only about once a month as she lives 45 minutes away from my sister and I only live 15 minutes away. Well, my sister has been asking me to babysit A LOT recently. For example in the past week I’ve babysat 5 days. And it’s not just for an hour… Yesterday I was there from 9 am - 6 pm. I haven’t been home for more than a few hours (not sleeping) in days. She made me get somebody to cover my shift at work today so I could babysit, and does this often. She doesn’t allow me to eat any food at her house but I’m also not allowed to take my niece in the car (I’ve never been pulled over or in any accidents that I was driving) so my only option is to order delivery, which can get expensive. She’s told me in the past she’s going to start paying me but the only time she’s EVER paid me was over NYE where she paid $40 for babysitting over night. My sister just moved over 30 minutes away from ...⬇️

Luca Moretti
AITA for telling my dad his mistake isn't my problem to fix?
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AITA for telling my dad his mistake isn't my problem to fix?

I (20f) live about two hours from my dad. My dad and mom divorced when I was 9, he remarried when I was 14 and by then I mostly lived with my mom. My younger brother (16m) and sister (17f) lived mostly there too. Then our mom died a year and a half ago and they moved to our dads. Our dad has younger stepkids (ages 7 to 11) and I never really had much of a relationship with them. When I see my dad I am kind, I treat them the same as my siblings, but to me it isn't really the same and I do make much more of an effort with my siblings. Which makes sense to me. I usually see them once or twice a month and we go watch a movie or go shopping and generally hang out. They’ve been to my apartment a few times too. So my dad ended up mentioning them sleeping at my place next month in front of his stepkids, and according to my siblings the younger kids got upset and asked why they didn't get to go, and his wife was pissed that not only did he bring it up in front of her kids but ||...↘️

Elise Dubois
Woman’s Dine-And-Dash Scheme Goes Spectacularly Wrong After Latest Victim Requests Separate Checks Thanks To Friendly Tip-Off
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Woman’s Dine-And-Dash Scheme Goes Spectacularly Wrong After Latest Victim Requests Separate Checks Thanks To Friendly Tip-Off

I (28m) work with this woman Lydia (24f) who has a very annoying habit. She has a dating profile that she uses specifically to lure guys to buying her expensive dinners at restaurants she wants to try and then ghosts them. Lydia brags about this all the time, and is never interested in actually dating, but she’ll act like it to sell it. I can’t stand this because it’s playing with people’s hearts, but Lydia thinks of it as a life hack to try food or drinks she otherwise couldn’t afford. My friend Daniel (32m) is also on dating sites, but for the right reasons. His late wife died a few years ago, and he’s just started jumping back into the dating scene. Daniel’s a very sweet guy, and I really want him to find a great lady for him. A few days ago, he texted me asking if I knew Lydia. They matched and got to talking about work, which is how he found out we worked at the same place. I told him all about Lydia’s BS with the restaurant thing, and made it very clear to him he would do best to drop things with her early on. Daniel said he’d probably still do the date but ask for separate checks. Well they went out this past weekend and on Monday Lydia came into work very upset. I asked her how her date with Daniel went, and she ripped into me asking if I was the one who told him not to pay for her dinner. Apparently she had Daniel take her to a high end steakhouse and she ended up splurging. She got a drink, a full entree with a side and dessert where Daniel just ordered a sandwich and salad. Her bill alone came to $70 something, and she was almost in tears at work as she didn’t expect to pay for it and now her car was low on gas. I got a little upset too as she tried to use my friend as a literal meal ticket, but somehow she doesn’t see it that way. Daniel told me later the date was going kind of well until he asked for separate checks, and then Lydia just got weirdly cold. So now Lydia’s mad at me because I told someone about her little tactic and it backfired on her. I don’t feel like I did anything wrong since it was a grieving friend I was protecting but some other people we work with said I should have stayed out of it because it was none of my business

Luca Moretti
AITA for offering my kids nanny more money/hours so she won't work for my SIL?
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AITA for offering my kids nanny more money/hours so she won't work for my SIL?

My husband and I have 3 kids (10mo f, 4m, 10f). We currently have a nanny, Isabelle (22f) 3 days a week. I have to say, Isabelle is fucking amazing. She drives on field trips, she does homework with the kids, she handles play dates, she's the one adult my 10 year old likes, she's not dependent on screens, does art projects with the kids, she speaks 10 year old, and she's even teaching them how to cook and bake. They made mini quiches a few weeks ago. My oldest is doing state testing right now and wanted a fun activity with her friends. Isabelle suggested a spa day and my daughter loved it. I set up a day for my 4 year old to go home with his grandparents and let Isabelle turn our living room into a spa. She picked up my daughter, my niece, and 2 friends, brought them to our house, and did their hair and nails while they laid back and did face masks. I guess my niece was telling her mom how cool Isabelle is because my SIL texted Isabelle offering her a nanny position 4 days a week, matching whatever I pay her but for only 1 kid. Isabelle showed me the text and told me that she .....⬇️

Luca Moretti
My son stopped visiting because I wouldn't serve his girlfriend coffee—was I wrong?
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My son stopped visiting because I wouldn't serve his girlfriend coffee—was I wrong?

New account, but I’ve been reading here for a while. My (64f) son (31) was over and I was asking him about his girlfriend of about 3 years. Now, I’ve only met her a handful of times, but I know they’re serious because they plan trips and talk about buying a home. I asked why she never comes over bc it seems like she doesn’t like me. I’ve asked him this before and he never gave an answer, but today he seemed fed up and pretty much told me it was because of me. He told me that I act “too weird and intense.” When I wanted examples, he told me 1) I kept on interrupting conversations she was having with my husband - but it was because I think she was bored. 2) I try to get too close to her during dinner - I would have thought she’d want to sit next to me and get to know me since she can sit next to my son any other time. 3) I wasn’t very hospitable by asking her to help with clean up and not offering her coffee when I offered everyone else. I will admit that is true because I didn’t think she’d want any. And he also brought up something I did with his ex years ago, which I’ve already apologized for. I told him I think this is ridiculous. She’s a very smart and capable woman. I told him I don’t understand why she needs to be catered to like this. She can get her own coffee! He told me it’s not worth trying to explain things and ended up leaving. WITAH the asshole for doing that to his girlfriend, and for thinking she’s quite immature for not wanting to come over to my house bc she wasn’t catered to enough? She may think I’m too weird but I don’t think that justifies not coming over when she’s in a serious relationship with my son.

Clara Jensen
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AITA for refusing to take the blame after my niece was hospitalized?

Let me start by saying I don't know much about flowers, plants, etc., but I have two cactus from my ex-boyfriend. One of them looks like a generic cactus. The second one is almost white and looks like it has soft fluff instead of spines. It's soft to the touch, but if you touch it for too long, the soft fuzz becomes prickly. I've pricked myself a few times with it, but it never hurt me. That said, my sister came to our country with her husband and children (M13, M8, F6). The second day they came to visit me. At one point, all the adults (me, her husband, her, and our mother) were in the kitchen cooking together, while children (nephews and our younger cousin) stayed in the living room watching cartoons. When my sister and I went into the living room, we saw that her daughter was licking this cactus. We quickly learned that children were intrested in its unusual appearance and discovered that it was soft, and then began encouraging each other to touch and lick it. Well, okay. I placed ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🔥

Elise Dubois
AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now?
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AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now?

I (17m) might be TA and I might be a big one but I wanted to get people's insight. So my dad left my mom when I was 14 to be with his wife/the woman he was cheating on my mom with. My dad didn't want me to think badly of him but I did. He knew I did and he knew he couldn't change my mind easily. We always knew my parents would end up with shared custody until I was 17 at least (from experience the judges in family court will only stop enforcing shared custody when a kid turns 17 and speaks out, any younger and they insist on 50/50). I also knew mom would struggle on her own because while she did work, she never made as much as my dad. She also wouldn't get child support because of the 50/50 and it wasn't ordered even with the difference in income. So when dad pleaded with me to give him a chance to show he could still be a good dad and he said he would do anything for me, I told him to keep supporting mom and make sure she wasn't going to end up struggling while he got ....👇

Anya Petrova
AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it?
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AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it?

So, I'm getting married to my fiance soon. I bought my wedding dress weeks ago. His my (FMIL) kept pestering me about trying it on but I firmly refused. I finally shut it down after she offered me 100$ to let her try it on. Her reasoning for presisting so much? She says it's because of her 'love' for wedding dresses and her obsession with them. Fast forward to yesterday, I came home from work early and I found my fiance at home. He freaked out after seeing me and tried to prevent me from going into my room while trying to text somebody on his phone. I opened the door and was shocked to see his mom standing there wearing my dress. I instantly pulled out my phone and took a photo of her in it. She and my fiance freaked out after I told her that she needed to pay me for a new dress in 3 days or else I'll show the whole family the photo. She started crying and then left and my fiance blew up at me saying I can't be serious and that I overreacted because his mom just wanted to try the dress on, no ...👇

Luca Moretti