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My brother insulted my life as a stay-at-home dad so I shut him up with one graphic truth

I(36M) am married to a wonderful woman(34). When we first got married 8 years ago, I was making about $36k and she was making $230k. Fast foreward a year and we welcome a sweet baby girl. After her maternity leave was up, I took my vacation to stay with my baby. Well I found out that being a dad and taking care of the house is 1000 times better than working in a stressful office. We discussed it, and I became a full time SAHD. I like being a SAHD. I even enjoy keeping the house clean, cooking, taking care of the kids (7F, 4M and 1M), being involved in the mom groups, little league...etc. The only person who seems to have a problem with things is my older brother (44M). I don't know how, but despite being raised by parents who are very much champions of equal rights, he grew up to be the embodiment of "man provides and guides, woman makes home and follows". Which is why he is a 2 times divorcee who has terrible relationships with his kids. For the past 7 years he has been making jokes about me, trying to emply that I am less of a man because my wife earns money while "I play little wife". I ignore him if I'm in the mood to, or just shake my head at him. Well my wife and I were drunk one time and we came up with a bit of a naughty solution. He gives major vibes of being a prude (and is casually homophobic TBH). So when he made a joke last Sunday along the lines that "if you were married to a man, you would 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} be the bottom" I hit him with "funny you say that, I am a bottom. 'wife' really knows gow to use a dildo and harness to make a man see the starts". He turned so red, everyone kind of let out a shocked laugh and he finally shut up. After a while he said that he did not want to hear about what I do with my wife in our bedroom. I said if he keeps his comments to himself, I would have no reason to share. But today mom called me to say that he refuses to attend Sunday dinner if I am there unless I apologize. I refused to and mom is now the one feeling bad. So AITA?

2025-09-26 15:35:44

Jonas Bergström

Family

Redditor Leaves Step-Sister In Tears After Telling Her She's The Reason They Ran Away From Home

Doing this on a throwaway because I use my main for non-personal content. I have a half sister, Emily, who is a year younger than me. My mom and dad split custody of me while my dad had sole custody of her. My dad was kind of inept as a parent and basically tried to outsource Emily’s emotional well-being to anyone he could. In between girlfriends, that was me, whenever I was at his house. I hated Emily growing up. I hated being forced to play with her and take her everywhere, I hated my dad trying to get me to include her in everything. For my last two years of school, I chose to live with my dad full time as my mom moved away and I didn’t want to change schools. I was meant to start boarding at school for those two years, but last minute my dad said I couldn’t since it wasn’t fair to Emily (basically him, because he didn’t want to put up with her). This left me in the house full time with Emily. Playing babysitter to her became so unbearable, I eventually “ran away” from home to live with my best friend. I lived with him until I finished school. After I left I kind of cut Emily off. She has always resented me for this. She takes it out on me by constantly bad mouthing me to relatives, telling exaggerated lies about me (my lifestyle, my financial situation, my job). I’m always having to correct people after the fact because of the weird stuff she says. I’ve never confronted her because I feel like this is her way to try and get my attention and I don’t want to engage. On Wednesday, we (me, my bff, Emily, her bf, and my dad and his gf) all had dinner. It was the first time we’d met Emily’s bf and we were kind of catching him up on our lives. It came up that I’d left home as a teenager. Emily chimed in and said I’d left home so that I didn’t have any rules, and basically alluded to me being a heavy partier, which isn’t true. I said that that wasn’t true, I left because Emily suffocated me and my dad wouldn’t do anything about it. My dad and I had a short back and forth about it and then it was over, but Emily started crying and left the table. She and her bf ended up leaving early. Later that night, Emily sent me a message digging me out for saying that in front of her bf. I responded by digging her out for insinuating I had a substance issue. She said I could have refuted that without bringing up how much I hate her (also denies that that was what she was getting at). I said she could have just avoided the whole conversation by not trying to lie about me with me sitting right there. The argument didn’t get anywhere so I just stopped replying. My dad is now getting it in the neck from her that I’ve ruined her relationship and am a giant bully. He thinks I probably shouldn’t have said what I did and that I should have just said we had our “differences” and left it there. His girlfriend, however, thinks I’m in the right. Was it an AH move to choose now to tell the truth?

2025-09-26 15:03:17

Clara Jensen

Family

My husband let his family bash my home-cooked meal and now he’s demanding I host them again

So, my 35F husband's 37M family recently moved to our town to live close to us and my brother in law who got married a few months ago. My inlaws like to gather twice a month for dinner and they'd have me and my husband visit (3h drive) once a month. My mother in law wouldn't accept any excuses that I work and have kids to take care of. She always wants the family gathered at her house. Last week. While we were visiting their new house. My husband made me spend x money for a gift that he didn't help with. Also had me carry boxes to help them move stuff into their house while my brother in law's new wife sat on the couch and was served with coffee and sweets. He told them that he wanted to invite them over for dinner the next day and he didn't even consult with me first so I had to take the day off so I could prepare meals. I made the main dishes, appetizers, salad and pound cake. They arrived at 7pm. Mother in law, brother in law's wife didn't move a finger, they were busy criticizing my table setting and giving “advice”. I put dinner on the table and my mother in law started asking why I used x ingredient instead of x ingredient. Saying that she would've liked it. Then said that the salad was not necessary because no one liked this type of salad. My husband just agreed with her telling me why i didn't do it this way or that way. I was getting mad and lost my appetite. Mother in law said the pound cake was not complete and didn't look delicious. My husband told her that he wanted to get one from the bakery but I didn't allow him. The cake stayed the same while they ate what brother in law's wife brought and flattered her. After they left. I told my husband that his mom was being rude and mean to me the whole time. That he should've stopped her instead of agreeing with her. He said that he didn't defend me because I was in the wrong and what I cooked was not so great and that I embarrassed him infront of his family after having them try my cooking for the first time.. I got mad at him and told him I will no longer invite his family for dinners and he didn't like that since he told his mom that we will regularly invite them for dinner. He called me too sensitive and that I should just focus on cooking what they like instead.

2025-11-08 17:04:19

Anya Petrova

Lifestyle

My Friend Is Calling Me A Bigot Because I Asked Her Not To Out Me At Home

Throwaway bc it’s not a very common situation... Ok so I’m not really sure how to say this, but it happened a few months ago, and everyone keeps calling me a bad person for it. To start, I am a lesbian, from a very anti-LGBT family. One of my friends is also gay, and she is VERY open about it, like her whole life is rainbow themed (I.e. her hair, bags, phone case). And we have been hanging out at like malls and everything, just anywhere but my house, for obvious reasons. So one day, she suggests we should hang out at my house, since she has never been there for the 5 years we have been friends. I say that I would like her too, but if she would not act so openly gay around my family, because I: 1) don’t want to out myself 2) my family can be dickheads to anyone LGBT 3) they won’t let me be friends with her anymore And she said that I was trying to discriminate against her and the LGBT community, and how I shouldn’t make her hide her true self. I get where she is coming from, but I have explained my situation to her. Then, she told all my friends, and they all agree with her that I am an asshole. I can’t help but feel shitty, but I can’t change my situation, and I don’t want to make things worse. So people of reddit, Am I The Asshole?

2025-09-04 14:59:13

Anya Petrova

Relationships

Man Chooses Not To Charge His Son Rent On A Home He Partially Owns, Wife Terms It Financial Abuse

My oldest son (24) is not my wife's biological child, and is my child with my late wife. My late wife and I bought a three bedroom house when we got married. When I remarried, my current wife moved into this house with me, but I never put her name on the deed. The house was only in my name. My wife and I ended up having several children and needing to move into a bigger house. When we bought our new home, she wanted me to sell the old one. I said no, that this home was something my late wife and I purchased with the hope of one day passing onto our son. I would make it a rental property instead. That was one of the biggest fights we ever had. She insisted we compromise, but I refused to do so. When my son graduated from college, I put his name on the deed to the house with mine, which was another fight, but I felt he was the appropriate inheritor to his mother's share. I didn't share any of the rental income with him thought, as I was still paying all the taxes and insurance. At this point, the mortgage is paid off. I net over 2k a month from this house, which goes into the household budget. My son just got engaged and wants to move into the house after he marries his fiance. He suggested he pay half rent and eventually buy out my share of the house. I told my son I agreed to his plan of saving up to buy out my share, but instead of paying rent, he should just take over the taxes and insurance. We agreed to this. My wife is livid and says I am a massive asshole for dramatically decreasing our household income without consulting her. She likened my decision to financial abuse. I suggested we downsize to a smaller house now that our oldest two kids are leaving the nest, and we can rent out the larger one and be in the same situation as before (owning two homes and getting rental income from one). She called me a selfish prick and won't speak to me now. Am I the asshole?

2025-10-03 14:10:09

Clara Jensen

Lifestyle

School Nurse Refused My Diabetic Daughter’s Medication and Sent Her Home on the Bus to Faint

Me (34M), my daughter with type 1 diabetes (11F) My daughter has T1D, and has been diagnosed since she was 5. For the most part, she handles it like a champ, but she’s a kid. Sometimes it sucks. I don’t blame her when she’s upset about it. She’s gotten very good at managing how she’s feeling and speaking up when she feels off or wrong. That said, she’s 11, and the nurse and 2 of her block teachers are meant to supervise when she gives herself medication. We have a 504 plan in place at her school and have had it in place since diagnosis. I have conferences with teachers every year, and since she started at the middle school this year, her new nurse and administrative staff. I let my daughter speak her piece and let her feel heard. She’s struggled with non-school extracurricular before ignoring her concerns when she says she doesn’t feel good because she “looks fine”. This school year started the end of August and we met a week prior. I got a call Monday afternoon while I was at work saying that the school bus driver had to call the ambulance for my daughter on the way home because she fainted. My job is forty minutes away so I said I would meet them at the hospital. She was awake and chatting with her nurse when I got there. Her blood sugar had dropped very, very low while she was at school. She was feeling better and didn’t seem too bothered so I took her home once allowed and let her pick a movie to watch. Once the movie was over, I asked if she didn’t feel good at school. I needed to make sure she wasn’t ignoring her symptoms and had eaten lunch. She told me that she felt weird just before the end of the day, and checked her sugar with her teacher, who had sent her to the nurse when it was really low. When she told the nurse she needed glucagon, the nurse said no and she should take it at home when she gets there. At this point, I was raging. The nurse did not give her her medication AND THEN SENT HER TO THE BUS. The 504 plan in place has a stipulation that if her blood sugar is too low at the end of the day, she cannot take the bus home. The nurse is supposed to give her glucagon and I get called to pick her up/arrange someone to take her home. The bus drivers aren’t trained to know what to look for or to give her medication. I called the school Tuesday morning to arrange a meeting to talk about what happened. We scheduled it but it hasn’t happened yet. In the meantime, I went wild. Mile long Facebook post with pictures of the 504 and hospital bill and me ranting. It kind of took off and got a lot of attention. Last night, my siblings and coworkers started telling me maybe I went too far in making the post, specifically in my naming the nurse. It was shared in a couple of different pages on Facebook for our county and town, and a lot of people have been making comments on the school board’s social medias about the nurse. A lot of the outrage comes from other parents with kids on 504 or IEP plans. AITA for calling out the school/nurse?

2025-09-27 20:16:51

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

MIL Made Me Throw Out My Homemade Meal Because It Was Not Her Culture

I am (28F) and Chinese American. My husband and my in-laws are all white. On Saturday they had a family reunion and because my husband wanted me to go so bad, I made a traditional Chinese dish called Xiaolongbao. My MIL gave a bad look when I placed the plate down at the table. She comes up to me and asks "What have you got there?" I tell her what it is and she told me that "Eastern food" doesn't belong in her home. I was forced to throw it out and my heart was broken. I walked out and sat in the car for an hour waiting for my husband to come out. On the car ride home it was mostly silent until he broke it with "Yeah sorry about that... my mom really doesn't like any culture outside of my families". This is the second gathering with them I have been to and also the third seeing my MIL. My family isn't happy at this and my sister suggested that I divorce my husband and marry within our culture. My mom was never happy with me marrying him in the first place and I didn't have a wedding because of it. My husband has a neutral opinion on the situation and acts like it isn't much of a big deal. He said that his family didn't seem to care about our relationship at all but I am starting to think he may of lied to me about that.

2025-10-12 19:17:04

Luca Moretti

Relationships

Wife Threw Away My Homemade Meals Every Week So I Stopped Making Her Lunch

My [26m] wife [25f] and I are newly married, and we have lived together for a year. We get along well, and I can count on one hand how many times we’ve actually argued about something consequential (obviously excluding joke arguments). Now, ever since I graduated high school, I have been super into meal prep. Every three to four days, I’ll cook up several different dishes. My favorites are curries, stews, burrito kits, healthy McChickens, and the like. I also make a pretty mean jambalaya. Last week, my wife came home after work talking about a restaurant she had discovered near her workplace. I asked how she had learned about it, and she said she and her co-workers went there for lunch. This confused me, as I had sent her to work with a packed lunch, but I just figured she had left it in the fridge there. The next morning, though, I saw her take one of the containers out of the fridge. I reminded her that she went out to lunch the previous day with her co-workers and therefore should still have lunch in her work fridge, but she nonchalantly responded, “Oh, I threw that out.” I pressed her for details, where I learned several things. First, she goes out to lunch with her co-workers three or four times a week. Second, whenever she goes out with them, she just tosses the food I made into the trash. Third, she doesn’t seem to understand why throwing out what has amounted to hundreds (if not thousands…) of dollars of foods is bad. So I asked her why she wouldn’t just bring the food home or eat it the next day. She said, “Nah, I don’t want to do that.” My feelings were honestly hurt, but she had to go so the conversation ended there. That night, I tried to raise the issue again, but all I could get out of her was the same spiel about not wanting to bring the food back home and it not mattering all that much. Well, the next day was a meal prep day, and I didn’t make any for her. I put my name on all the containers. The next morning, she opened the fridge looking for hers, and she asked where it was. I told her that she had a higher than 50% chance of just tossing it anyway, and that I wasn’t going to make lunch for her anymore. She was furious with me. She insists that what she did was no big deal, and one day she even took one of the containers with my name on it. Am I the asshole for just cutting her off like this?

2025-10-19 06:05:58

Luca Moretti

Relationships

Husband ditched my homemade dinner for his mom’s cooking so I threw his plate in the trash

My mother-in-law calls every night to ask what we're having for dinner. Then she brags about what she's cooking to make me look bad, especially if we're getting takeout. I used to care but not anymore. But my husband would ask me to make dinner only for him to go eat the dinner his mom makes at her home. which's 10 minutes away and using the "that's my favorite meal" excuse. Yesterday, I wanted to surprise him by cooking one of his favorite meals and although I was busy, I took time off work to cook. I even went grocery shopping to get what I needed. Later as I was setting the table his mom called, I told him he didn't have to answer but he did. like usual...she asked what we were having but acted surprised that I cooked this meal. She then went on to tell him she cooked X meal and told him to come over. He said ok which shocked me, I said "seriously?" as he started dresing up getting ready to leave. he told me no offense but this meal (that his mom cooked) was even more of a favorite than the one I cooked. and grabed his keys and left. I felt awful. I took his plate and threw it out then ate my portion. As I was about to put the plate in the dishwasher, he got home looking angry saying his mom lied about cooking that favorite meal, and used it as an excuse to force him to eat dinner with her. I was shocked but he sat down telling me to go ahead and reheat dinner. I told him no dinner after he abandoned it, I threw it out. He said what?? and I told him he disrespected my time and effort and chose to go eat woth his mom instead. He began yelling at me asking if I really did that then called me petty and horrible then went upstairs saying what I did was 100 times worse than what his mom did. I definately feel like I let my anger and frustration get the best of me but it really felt unbearable having to live like this for so long. By the way [I'm 26 and he's 28]. ETA to make one thing clear and that's the fact that my husband only does this when it comes to food. He lived with his mom (attended community college) and loved and still loves her food and is used to it. She gave me recipes to make and I try to do that but he keeps switching homes just to eat what he feels like. **UPDATE** Hi 👋 I posted my situation here almost 24hrs ago and haven't really read every single comment because - Wow there's just too many. I saw few pieces of advice and encouregment and I'm so so thankful for them 💝. But just wanted to let you guys know something since this is a throwaway account and I will be abandoning it soon. I just wanna let you know that I will be sitting down with my husband soon (after he breaks the silence I'm just giving him the space he said he wanted) and I'm going to show him this post in hopes he'd see how none of this was my fault. I will also be pushing for couples counseling although he's always been against it but we'll see how things go...I'm not gonna lie I still feel upset and like my efforts aren't being appreciated, His mom is definately onto something with her little upsetting stunts. I realize how important boundaries are - but also realize how enforcingbcan he difficult. I'm hoping and praying that we will tackle this issue so that our marriage won't suffer but if he's still somehow unable to do his part then that's on him and I'm no longer willing to go through similar stuff and just take it you know. So yeah, This is it. I honestly didn't realize my post was going to gain this much attention. I might add my original account just in case some of y'all wanted to talk (got plenty of time and space for internet besties because my INBOX was blowing up lol) and maybe I will post updates from there if I could. Thanks so much 💝.

2025-10-06 18:42:44

Luca Moretti

Lifestyle

I Rejected a Full Cash Offer Because They Wanted to Remodel My Childhood Home

My husband and I are selling our house, and we were touring a woman and her husband who are getting ready to start a family. They offered a full cash offer, and it was right at what we were selling the house for, however, they were talking about making so many renovations. For example, the wife looked in the kitchen and said “I wish there was an island in here, but we can figure that out”, there are 2 smaller bedrooms in the home right next to each other and she talked about knocking the wall down to make one big room. The whole time I just felt upset because this was the home my parents built and my kids grew up in and I made sure to never make significant changes because I did not want to destroy their hard work. When they were leaving I said we’ll keep in touch , I called the couple later that night and told them we’ll be moving on to a different buyer. I told my husband that I’m not interested in them purchasing our home. He thought I was joking until I explained my reasoning. He said I was too attached to this house, and that If I was going to have so many specifications on the buyer then he’s going to choose himself. He called the couple back today and they said they found a new house but to thank the both of us. He was livid. He started going off about how it’s taken so long for us to find someone to actually pay the full price, especially with a full cash offer, but now we’re either going to have to settle or wait forever to get a buyer like that. I told him no amount of money is going to make me okay with the destruction of my childhood home. Now he’s angry, and won’t talk to me, unless he absolutely has to AITA?

2025-09-22 08:23:02

Jonas Bergström

Family

My In-Laws Criticized Our Lifestyle So I Told Them To Leave And Go To A Hotel

I'm upset so I will get right to the point. My husband and I both make well over six figures. But we work long hours and as a result when we are not working or at the gym working out, we just want to veg out. So, we (when not working) will generally make breakfast but order out lunch and dinner or go out to eat. If we are working, we eat out all three meals. Our loans are paid off, we own our condo, and we have no children. So, eating/ordering out makes us happy. We also have a cleaning lady come twice a week to clean out home and do our laundry. Our parents came to visit and were upset that we didn't cook for them the whole week except for breakfast (we took the week off because we both knew both sets of parents were coming). We told them we don't cook except for breakfast but our condo is right next store to a plaza that has a grocery, and they are welcome to cook if they like. But there were quite a few restaurants that we have yet to take them to so why not try one of them? They got on us on how much money we were spending, and my MIL got on me when the cleaning lady came and said I should be doing the cleaning b/c she worked and cleaned and took care of kids so she doesn't get why I can't. Which pissed me off so I went off and told her "Because I'm not super woman, have no desire to be and refuse to try and if she wants a participation trophy for being over worked and under paid, she can head to the bar and have a shot of Jameson." I then told her and my parents that I did not spend 4 years in college and two in graduate school to play Florence from The Jeffersons (it’s an 80s show that my parents love to watch). So, they went on to complain about how much money we were "wasting". My husband told them that it is not their money its ours and we don't consider it a waste. We told them the last thing we want to do when we get off from work is cook and clean. My husband told his mom that he never understood why she would work herself to the bone like that even when he and his sisters tried to pitch in and help, she insisted on doing everything herself. I told her I will not be doing that. So, they went on about an emergency fund. We told them before we started living the way we do we made sure our student loans were paid off and we each have a year's salary saved up plus investments, so we are good thank you. My dad tried to be intrusive and ask how much money we both made, and we said, "None of your business!!!" at the same time, which made us both laugh but they were not laughing. They didn't like our reaction and felt we were wasting money. We told them if they have a problem with our lifestyle, they could all leave. So, they ubered to a hotel. We really didn't want them to leave just to drop the subject. So, are we idiots for telling them they could leave? UPDATE: I've texted both sets of parents and told them I'm sorry for what I said and want them to come back as I never wanted them to leave. That I know what I said about them leaving was out of line, I just wanted to drop the subject but my way about it was wrong. I told them whether they decide to come back I would like to reimburse them for the hotel rooms. 2nd UPDATE: Yeah, we just met up at a restaurant near the hotel. They didn't want to eat so we sat at the bar and talked. We told them that our finances are our business and though we told them that if they didn't like it, they could leave we were not literal when we said it. We just wanted to drop the subject. They continued that we are wasting money. We told them it is our money to waste and just bc they consider it wasting money we don't. We consider it one of the perks of our very fortunate life and it was not going to change. We told them that we appreciate their concern, but we know what we are doing, that they don't have to agree with it but it is not up for discussion or debate. We told them we would love to have them back and to enjoy the rest of the week with them but any comments or conversation about how we spend our money will not be allowed. They agreed and we are taking them to a restaurant a little off the beaten path that we know they all will love. No, they didn't apologize but we didn't expect them to.

2025-09-12 21:30:04

Clara Jensen

Family

Young Homeowner Sells Her Ancestral Home to Her Uncle, Leaving Her Parasitic Family Homeless

I know shitty title but I’m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it’s been in their family for over a hundred years. My brother (34) and my dad didn’t have a relationship but he did leave him 10k, my mom was pissed at the will reading but since she got 10k she couldn’t do anything about it For the past year me and her live ok together. she went on acting like it was her house like before which I had no problem with till in may my brother and his girlfriend (30) moved in (without even asking me) They’re messy entitled and rude I told them in July I want them out by September because they don’t pay for anything nor wash a dish In August they announced they were pregnant and my sil smugly said “guess we won’t be moving out now” It didnt go down well but when I told them I wanted them out my mom and brother basically laughed in my face Well the past few months have been hell they’ve become worse than before and my mom enables it than demands me to treat my sil like a princess because she’s pregnant I once had to wait outside McDonald’s till they opened to get her a McMuffin Well here were I maybe the asshole Because my sil is pregnant she eats everything she sees like the cupcakes my friend made me for my birthday she ate all six didn’t even get to try them. I can’t even make my lunch the night before because when I go to get it, it will be gone she’ll have a smug look on her face while rubbing her belly than laugh and say “I couldn’t help my self blame the baby” if I put stuff in my room my mom will open the door with the spare key sil can go through my mini fridge Well a week ago I was running late to collage I didn’t have time for my breakfast or to make lunch and I had to go to work straight after so all I had that day was a bar of chocolate when I got home I was starving I made myself dinner while it was cooling down I went to use the bathroom I must of been in there 10 minutes at most by the time I came out she had 70{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of my dinner ate and I literally lost my shit of course she started crying my mom and brother started screaming at me for making her cry making excuses like how she couldn’t help it and it was my fault for leaving food around her Well I had enough I told them get out just like before I got mocked but here’s the thing back in October my uncle offered me a life changing amount of money for the house I called him up crying a few days ago explaining the situation he said he’d buy the house but he will evict my mom and brother. They ofc didn’t take it two well and I have had to stay with a friend I’ve been receiving texts and I’m being tagged in multiple posts on social media. I’m starting to think I’m the bad person now So AITA for making my mom and brother homeless? Edit wow I expected a few comments but wow So I’m on a break I’ll address some things - some of your roasts are hilarious I honestly deserve it for how bad my grammar is but I was walking to work and declining calls from my mom while making this post I almost said fuck it and didn’t post - if I sell the house to my uncle I will lose 100k but he’s always been good to me and it’s one of those situations were I’d sleep better knowing it’s gone to someone in my dads family - my mom told me because of my age I wouldn’t be taken seriously if I tried to evict them -if I evict them and continue to live in the house along with the high financial costs I don’t think they’d ever let me live in peace - my mom has health issues and my sil will have to move in with her parents they won’t allow my brother so id be splitting up a young family in my moms words - guys I’m actually crying I’ve never been told before “I’m proud of you” and the fact I’ve seen a thread of comments telling that means the absolute world to me Edit two i plan to meet a lawyer and will update you all as soon as I’ve news also since people are curious the house is worth 2.5 million its in the heart of London

2025-09-26 19:16:50

Clara Jensen

Relationships

Ex-husband and his new wife are trying to force me to homeschool my kids against my wishes

I (31f) share two children (9m & 8f) with my ex-husband Aaron (35m). Aaron's cheating ended our marriage and before long he had moved in with Nicole (34f) and her children (11, 10, 8 and 6). Aaron and Nicole have a 2 year old together and they're expecting another child. Even before Aaron and Nicole met she homeschooled her children. While my kids attend public school. This was mentioned as a problem before they were even married but I ignored them. Now this has come up again and they are being a thorn in my side about it. Nicole said it is unfair for her children to see mine go to school while hers do not. She told me her kids have become jealous and it's causing issues for her parenting and for her and Aaron's family. I told her this was not my problem and she needed to figure out how to manage that. As that is the life of blended families. Not everything will be the same or equal for the kids from different marriages. Aaron asked me to homeschool a few times and I told him I would not entertain the idea. He even asked the kids who were worried when they came to me about it. They didn't want to leave their friends and teachers and they didn't want to stay home all day like Nicole's kids. I reassured them I would not be saying yes to homeschooling for them. Now Nicole and Aaron are on a mission to make me agree to Nicole homeschooling my kids alongside hers. Apparently they have the 2 year old started into some form of pre-k homeschooling and they feel it's only fair for my kids to join in too. I said no. I even had my lawyer send their lawyer a letter officially stating my position on this. My lawyer has also documented everything. They asked their lawyer to take this back to court and get a judge to overrule me but their lawyer told them this would not go in their favor. My ex was so unhappy about it that he told me all of this and it gave me the chance to document that also. Now they're claiming I don't have a good reason to refuse other than to disrupt their home and to keep Nicole from playing a bigger role in the lives of my children. And to prevent sibling bonding between Nicole's kids and mine. I told them I have many reasons to say no and they just need to accept it. I stopped replying after this. But since school ended for the summer I have been inundated with pressure from them over this. They are worried that I'll send them to school in September as planned. Which will happen. I feel like the kids wanting to go to school should also count and I told Aaron this before.

2025-10-13 19:06:57

Elise Dubois

Relationships

My husband quit his job to drink and game, now he claims he owns my entire homestead

My (37)m husband and I (35)f have been married for 9 years with two children (5)f and (8)m. Before we got married we had a conversation about what we wanted from each other and what some of our main goals were. Two of our biggest wants/goals were he wanted a stay at home wife when we had children and I wanted a small homestead. He never wanted me to work and I agreed and he agreed we could have a small homestead. I used my saving to buy our house which had 5 acres of land on it so we wouldn't have to rent as he didn't have anything saved up at that time, keep that in mind because it will come up later. I had also bought all kinds of seeds to plant and chickens. After about 3 months I became pregnant with our son and everything seemed wonderful. Fast-forward 4 years later and I'm pregnant with our daughter and I'm selling our vegetables and flowers, eggs etc from our homestead and began to make some cash on the side. My husband thought it was great and would make jokes about how now he could relax. After I had our daughter he started complaining about how he wanted to be home more to spend time with us and help with the homestead so I suggested he work part-time. He worked part-time for 2 years and then quit his job altogether but the second year he barely helped me with our homestead and instead played a lot of video games which was fine I was used to doing the homestead on my own and he still worked part-time so it wasn't a big deal at the time. He then quits his job and for one year does nothing. We argued almost everyday. He drank almost everyday and did nothing but play video games and have bonfires with his friends on our property for an entire year. I've worked hard to get our land where it needed to be and have started a flower buisness and bee keeping for honey which has been going strong for the past year which has made us more money and is the biggest reason why he completely quit his. At this point we have been married for 7 years. I ended up sitting down with him and having a conversation on why he doesn't help me and his behavior of drinking everyday but he said he was just taking a break and that I owed him for all the times he paid the bills and I was at home apparently living it up. I explained to him that even though I didn't work I still contributed to our home, he had a home-cooked meal almost everyday, and I worked hard on the land and in home plus took care of our children and bought our house so it wasn't as if I did nothing. He became irrate with me and started saying I was being a nagging b***h and I was literally speechless as he had never spoke to me that way. Fast-forward another year and he's doing the same stuff only his bestfriend from multiple states away calls him and tells him he's moving 20 minutes away from us. His friend starts coming over almost everyday, only he starts talking to my husband about his behavior and my husband starts hearing his best friend compliment me on our garden and flowers etc and my husband begins getting irritated over it and when his friend isn't around he mocks him infront of me and starts accusing me of liking him. I told him that it seemed as he was projecting his own feelings as he's done nothing for this family for the past two years and that I've never cheated on him and if he didn't want his friend over then he should talk to him about it. He said no and that it was my fault. Fast-forward 4 months. It's been 9 years now and I'm at the end of my rope. I've watched the person I love become an alcoholic. His friends and family have tried talking with him and he absolutely hates me and feels I've ruined his life. He calls me his goody 2 shoe wife and until now I haven't given up on him but I just can't keep going like this. His best friend made a pass at me and told me he would take care of me and that my husband has turned into a bum. I told him no and that even if I divorced him that I would never turn around and date his friend in which I told my husband about. A few nights ago my husband had a bonfire party as it was his birthday. He got wasted and I caught him kissing one of his other friends wives and his bestfriend and him got into a physical fight over it. His bestfriend told him he wasn't man enough for me and they fought again. My husband began yelling at me and called me his perfect goody 2 shoe wife with her perfect sourdough bread and her perfect this and perfect that. I explained to him that I'm not perfect and I don't understand why he says this. He screamed at me and told me everything was my fault and that I ruin everything. He made such a huge scene with all of our friends there and I had made him a homemade carrot cake as it was his favorite and he smashed it. After the party was over he ended up waking our son with his yelling and our son came up to him and yelled at him to stop but my husband wouldn't. I tried calming my husband down and telling him to stop yelling in front of our child and to open his eyes thinking that would get him to stop and my son looked at him and yelled he hated him to him. My husband became quiet and looked down at him and then looked at me and then said I was now turning his own son against him. I put him back in bed and told him that sometimes grown ups make mistakes but that everything was going to be ok and I cuddled with him until he fell asleep. My husband argued with me some more, said I emasculated him and passed out on our kitchen floor. All I've tried to do is my best, I don't drink alcohol, I dress modestly, I cook and clean, and I'm called a goody 2 shoes by my husband and for some reason I feel bad about it. I feel like it's my fault, maybe I should have told him no years ago when he wanted to stop working but hes a grown man. I don't know what to do or how to go further but I can't keep living like this and I can't make him do anything. Am I a stick in the mud and not fun anymore. I don't know, and he's got me looking in the mirror, maybe I'm too serious. Our kids are noticing now and they can't start thinking this is normal because it's not. I don't even know who he is anymore. Did me making money from our homestead emasculate him? Am I going to turn into a statistic single mom now, probably. It sucks because no one wants their family apart but I feel there isn't anything else I can do and I feel therapy will be needed afterwards because I'm doubting myself. This morning he left to one of his friends houses and said that if I tried divorcing him that no one would want me and that he would take half of everything and that I would be forced to sell our home and buisness but we signed a prenupt and I think he forgot about that but still who says that to the person they love. I feel so depleted. EDIT* I was able to set up an intervention with close friends and family. I took my kids to my moms for the night so they would be safe. The friend he was with thankfully went with it and brought him home, and when he realized it wasn't a party and an intervention, he became angry. I ended up calling the police and because we live in Florida I was able to have him baker acted. The police officers said the facility would hold him for atleast 72 hours and I was able to talk with my lawyer and get the divorce papers going. I hope he wakes up so that he can at least be in his kids' lives, but he will have to get sober first. Thanks again for everyone that commented.

2025-10-15 12:36:12

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

I Started A Hobbyist Group To Stop Scalpers And Now A Furious Customer Is Threatening To Sue Me

I (26F) own and run a toy/collectibles store that was once my grandpa's (he still helps!). I carry all types of toys you'd expect to see in a toy store, as well as some "higher end" collectibles, comic books, and various odds & ends like keychains and pins. I've always done pretty well sales wise, but noticed within the last year that I would sell out of certain items very quickly, which was unusual. My husband (27M) collects action figures, mainly a line called Marvel Legends, and he mentioned to me that scalping had become a real problem for him lately, which is one of the items I was suddenly selling out of too quickly. I'd had many kids and teens asking me about the stock not being what it used to be because they had been coming there for years, so I did some research into it and realized that there were adult men who were coming into my store, buying my items for retail, then selling them online for way marked up prices (think a $20 action figure for $80 & pokemon card packs being opened & some individual cards being $100+). To try to put a stop to this, and keep my products in the hands of people who I know are appreciating them, I decided to make a collector group for my store. I made an application that has questions about what you collect, why you collect them, favorite items, etc. I admit it's a little long, but that's part of what I was hoping would deter people who are not actually interested in the items, and kids love to tell you about their interests anyway. I also love getting to know my customers a little better this way. Once the application is "accepted," the person is in the group and gets access to this neat platform/forum thing my husband (tech guy) made. Stock announcements are made to this group first, such as "Pokemon card restock 5/28/21" or "New Marvel Legends line in stock 6/1/21." Members of the group get first dibs on the items on the day they're released, which is technically an advantage, but also technically anyone can be in the group if they finish the application process (I haven't turned down an application yet with about 63 members from all different collecting styles so far). An adult male I know I had seen recently in the store, but can't confirm whether or not he was a scalper, came in the other day and asked about the upcoming ML line, and when I told him about the new policy he was way more angry about it than you'd even expect, threatening to sue me for discrimination and exclusionary selling practices, and making an overall scene. I told him he was welcome to join the group or wait until after the priority period and check if there was leftover stock, but he just said a few more choice words and left the store. I can *technically* see where he's coming from because it is a bit exclusionary, but I want to curb scalping and get the items into the hands of the collectors who come to us for their items. AITA for this policy?

2025-10-05 10:15:00

Anya Petrova

Lifestyle

MIL insulted me for breastfeeding in my own home so I told her to get out

I recently had a baby and have been breastfeeding her regularly. My MIL came over on short-notice while I was doing chores around the house. She picked some things from our garden and chatted with me and my husband. She sat down and started watching the news on the tv. I ended up watching TV a bit later too, and I was tired. My baby started getting fussy. I pulled down my top to start nursing her. My MIL swung her head to me and gave me a look. She huffed and said "really? around me?? i'll just get naked too and have it all hanging out huh" and rolled her eyes at me. This isn't the first time she's done something like this. And the last time she made a comment while she was here for the day I just took my baby into another room. Then my husband bought me a cover but my baby doesn't like it when I use it. This time I just had enough. I didn't have it "all hanging out" and I was doing it pretty discreetly, not facing her. I was tired and wasn't really thinking. I just pulled off my top and stood up right in front of her and told her "I'll feed my baby when I want in my house." She just stared at me and I added "if you don't like it you can leave". I sat back down and she said "I can't believe this girl" and got up and left. My husband was there and afterwards said I didn't have to go that far. He said MIL texted him angrily. But I was just tired in the moment and all I was thinking about was just feeding my baby. AITA here?

2025-10-04 17:03:55

Elise Dubois

Family

Daughter-in-law insulted my lifestyle so I kicked her out of my home for good

I’m a young MIL, I’m only 39. Had my kids pretty young and I am very lucky that my husband makes a lot of money so I don’t have to work. I was a SAHM for a long time and once they started to spread their wings instead of going to work my husband and I decided I would be a home maker and be active in the community. That’s what I have been up to and I try to make the community a better place. Now my oldest son 22 married and I was really excited until I met her. In general she is a very business focus person that is very blunt. I actively dislike her but I try to be polite for my sons sake. A few examples of why I don’t like her, her wedding gift I handed over saying it was from me and my husband. She responded back with just your husband since I know it wasn’t your money that paid for it. Saying I am volunteering well that’s not a real job since it doesn’t make money. It’s passive aggressive and yes I have talked to my son about it and even once’s with her to try to clear the air. We had a get together last night and i made a homemade meal. When I was playing everything she came up and made the comment other no wonder I could make a home cooked meal I don’t do anything else with my day. I lost it and told her that she needs to respect me or ge the fuck out of my house. She was shocked and then started to cry when I did kick her out. My son is pissed and we had a huge argument and he called me a huge asshole. I need an outside opinion.

2025-09-27 09:20:19

Luca Moretti

Advice

I Tipped My Wife’s Homemade Gift Back to Her After She Ignored My Birthday Wish Again

I need an outside opinion on this. This has been an ongoing issue that I have talked to her multiple times about. My wife makes less money than me and is the type of people who prefers to make her own gifts for people. The issue is she will do this even if the person doesn't want this. I will use myself as an example. For the past few years she has made every single gift I have been given. No matter what I asked for I get a homemade gift, doesn't matter if it is cheap or not. Last Christmas I asked for a new a few things and I got a homemade scarf. I always get her stuff she want. My birthday was yesterday and I asked her to give me a book. It was only 25 dollars and I sent her the link. I opened the gift and she made some homemade bookmarks. It wasn't even the type of bookmarks I like. They were made from fabric and I like the wooden ones. I must have made a face because she asked what was wrong. I told her I didn't want these. I made it so clear what I actually wanted and I have talked to her so many times. I handed them back and went out to buy the book. We had a big fight when I got back, she claims I am being ungrateful and a jerk.

2025-11-08 20:12:58

Jonas Bergström