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Man Chooses Not To Charge His Son Rent On A Home He Partially Owns, Wife Terms It Financial Abuse

My oldest son (24) is not my wife's biological child, and is my child with my late wife. My late wife and I bought a three bedroom house when we got married. When I remarried, my current wife moved into this house with me, but I never put her name on the deed. The house was only in my name. My wife and I ended up having several children and needing to move into a bigger house. When we bought our new home, she wanted me to sell the old one. I said no, that this home was something my late wife and I purchased with the hope of one day passing onto our son. I would make it a rental property instead. That was one of the biggest fights we ever had. She insisted we compromise, but I refused to do so. When my son graduated from college, I put his name on the deed to the house with mine, which was another fight, but I felt he was the appropriate inheritor to his mother's share. I didn't share any of the rental income with him thought, as I was still paying all the taxes and insurance. At this point, the mortgage is paid off. I net over 2k a month from this house, which goes into the household budget. My son just got engaged and wants to move into the house after he marries his fiance. He suggested he pay half rent and eventually buy out my share of the house. I told my son I agreed to his plan of saving up to buy out my share, but instead of paying rent, he should just take over the taxes and insurance. We agreed to this. My wife is livid and says I am a massive asshole for dramatically decreasing our household income without consulting her. She likened my decision to financial abuse. I suggested we downsize to a smaller house now that our oldest two kids are leaving the nest, and we can rent out the larger one and be in the same situation as before (owning two homes and getting rental income from one). She called me a selfish prick and won't speak to me now. Am I the asshole?

2025-10-03 14:10:09

Clara Jensen

Lifestyle

School Nurse Refused My Diabetic Daughter’s Medication and Sent Her Home on the Bus to Faint

Me (34M), my daughter with type 1 diabetes (11F) My daughter has T1D, and has been diagnosed since she was 5. For the most part, she handles it like a champ, but she’s a kid. Sometimes it sucks. I don’t blame her when she’s upset about it. She’s gotten very good at managing how she’s feeling and speaking up when she feels off or wrong. That said, she’s 11, and the nurse and 2 of her block teachers are meant to supervise when she gives herself medication. We have a 504 plan in place at her school and have had it in place since diagnosis. I have conferences with teachers every year, and since she started at the middle school this year, her new nurse and administrative staff. I let my daughter speak her piece and let her feel heard. She’s struggled with non-school extracurricular before ignoring her concerns when she says she doesn’t feel good because she “looks fine”. This school year started the end of August and we met a week prior. I got a call Monday afternoon while I was at work saying that the school bus driver had to call the ambulance for my daughter on the way home because she fainted. My job is forty minutes away so I said I would meet them at the hospital. She was awake and chatting with her nurse when I got there. Her blood sugar had dropped very, very low while she was at school. She was feeling better and didn’t seem too bothered so I took her home once allowed and let her pick a movie to watch. Once the movie was over, I asked if she didn’t feel good at school. I needed to make sure she wasn’t ignoring her symptoms and had eaten lunch. She told me that she felt weird just before the end of the day, and checked her sugar with her teacher, who had sent her to the nurse when it was really low. When she told the nurse she needed glucagon, the nurse said no and she should take it at home when she gets there. At this point, I was raging. The nurse did not give her her medication AND THEN SENT HER TO THE BUS. The 504 plan in place has a stipulation that if her blood sugar is too low at the end of the day, she cannot take the bus home. The nurse is supposed to give her glucagon and I get called to pick her up/arrange someone to take her home. The bus drivers aren’t trained to know what to look for or to give her medication. I called the school Tuesday morning to arrange a meeting to talk about what happened. We scheduled it but it hasn’t happened yet. In the meantime, I went wild. Mile long Facebook post with pictures of the 504 and hospital bill and me ranting. It kind of took off and got a lot of attention. Last night, my siblings and coworkers started telling me maybe I went too far in making the post, specifically in my naming the nurse. It was shared in a couple of different pages on Facebook for our county and town, and a lot of people have been making comments on the school board’s social medias about the nurse. A lot of the outrage comes from other parents with kids on 504 or IEP plans. AITA for calling out the school/nurse?

2025-09-27 20:16:51

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

AITAH for rejecting a single mom based on her life style and friends ?

I’m a 43 year old man who lives in Canada. My wife ended our marriage 3 years ago. She started having an affair with her married friend. She filed for divorce and left me and the kids (14 m, 12f) to be with the new love in USA. I have full custody of the kids. It was really hard at first but now we have a good routine going on and kids are doing great. They see a therapist regularly. I never dated after my divorce. I started working out mostly for stress relief and joined a running club called “boring running dads”. I’m mentally in a better space. My best friend’s wife messaged me that she thinks she found the perfect match for me. She said “she is perfect! She is a single mom, she is cute and very outgoing! What are you doing on Friday night!”. I told her I’m driving my daughter to her practice and my son wanna bring a friend over for playing video games later. She said she will volunteer to do so I can go on the date. I told my kids that I have dinner with a friend and she (my best friend’s wife) will be helping me. Here is the thing: she showed up. She is 37, and she was very pretty. She has 3 kids with two dads. The dads are in the picture and get along great. Her kids (the two oldest) are around mine. Then she started saying how fun she is! She goes clubbing with another single mom all the time. I was surprised because at our age clubbing is weird but I thought maybe because I’m a boring person. She was laughing and bragging about how she got drunk once and her other mom friend I convinced her to do line of coke. Then said her sister is her best friend too and always gives her great advice. I was like oh! That’s nice. Does she have kids? She said no haha doesn’t fit her lifestyle. She works as a stripper at club and does onlyfans on the side. Here is what I might have been an asshole. After I paid the bill she asked me to go back to her place because kids were with their dads. I lied and said I can’t because I have to get to my kids. When I got back I told my best friend’s wife I really didn’t click with her. She tried to convince me to give her another chance and it’s been so long for you and I’m out of touch with reality. She said I was a judgy asshole that I judged her based on her sister and friends. I told her I’ll think about it. I thought about it and texted her. I said thank you for going out with me but I think we want different things in life. Good luck. Then I blocked her. Apparently, she called my friend’s wife and got mad for setting her up with an asshole and got angry because she didn’t expect a rejection. My friend and his wife are mad and said I should have at least given a chance and I embarrassed myself by being a backward person. My friend’s wife even said I can see why your wife left your boring ass! Was I as asshole?

2025-10-28 17:30:20

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

I Rejected a Full Cash Offer Because They Wanted to Remodel My Childhood Home

My husband and I are selling our house, and we were touring a woman and her husband who are getting ready to start a family. They offered a full cash offer, and it was right at what we were selling the house for, however, they were talking about making so many renovations. For example, the wife looked in the kitchen and said “I wish there was an island in here, but we can figure that out”, there are 2 smaller bedrooms in the home right next to each other and she talked about knocking the wall down to make one big room. The whole time I just felt upset because this was the home my parents built and my kids grew up in and I made sure to never make significant changes because I did not want to destroy their hard work. When they were leaving I said we’ll keep in touch , I called the couple later that night and told them we’ll be moving on to a different buyer. I told my husband that I’m not interested in them purchasing our home. He thought I was joking until I explained my reasoning. He said I was too attached to this house, and that If I was going to have so many specifications on the buyer then he’s going to choose himself. He called the couple back today and they said they found a new house but to thank the both of us. He was livid. He started going off about how it’s taken so long for us to find someone to actually pay the full price, especially with a full cash offer, but now we’re either going to have to settle or wait forever to get a buyer like that. I told him no amount of money is going to make me okay with the destruction of my childhood home. Now he’s angry, and won’t talk to me, unless he absolutely has to AITA?

2025-09-22 08:23:02

Jonas Bergström

Family

My In-Laws Criticized Our Lifestyle So I Told Them To Leave And Go To A Hotel

I'm upset so I will get right to the point. My husband and I both make well over six figures. But we work long hours and as a result when we are not working or at the gym working out, we just want to veg out. So, we (when not working) will generally make breakfast but order out lunch and dinner or go out to eat. If we are working, we eat out all three meals. Our loans are paid off, we own our condo, and we have no children. So, eating/ordering out makes us happy. We also have a cleaning lady come twice a week to clean out home and do our laundry. Our parents came to visit and were upset that we didn't cook for them the whole week except for breakfast (we took the week off because we both knew both sets of parents were coming). We told them we don't cook except for breakfast but our condo is right next store to a plaza that has a grocery, and they are welcome to cook if they like. But there were quite a few restaurants that we have yet to take them to so why not try one of them? They got on us on how much money we were spending, and my MIL got on me when the cleaning lady came and said I should be doing the cleaning b/c she worked and cleaned and took care of kids so she doesn't get why I can't. Which pissed me off so I went off and told her "Because I'm not super woman, have no desire to be and refuse to try and if she wants a participation trophy for being over worked and under paid, she can head to the bar and have a shot of Jameson." I then told her and my parents that I did not spend 4 years in college and two in graduate school to play Florence from The Jeffersons (it’s an 80s show that my parents love to watch). So, they went on to complain about how much money we were "wasting". My husband told them that it is not their money its ours and we don't consider it a waste. We told them the last thing we want to do when we get off from work is cook and clean. My husband told his mom that he never understood why she would work herself to the bone like that even when he and his sisters tried to pitch in and help, she insisted on doing everything herself. I told her I will not be doing that. So, they went on about an emergency fund. We told them before we started living the way we do we made sure our student loans were paid off and we each have a year's salary saved up plus investments, so we are good thank you. My dad tried to be intrusive and ask how much money we both made, and we said, "None of your business!!!" at the same time, which made us both laugh but they were not laughing. They didn't like our reaction and felt we were wasting money. We told them if they have a problem with our lifestyle, they could all leave. So, they ubered to a hotel. We really didn't want them to leave just to drop the subject. So, are we idiots for telling them they could leave? UPDATE: I've texted both sets of parents and told them I'm sorry for what I said and want them to come back as I never wanted them to leave. That I know what I said about them leaving was out of line, I just wanted to drop the subject but my way about it was wrong. I told them whether they decide to come back I would like to reimburse them for the hotel rooms. 2nd UPDATE: Yeah, we just met up at a restaurant near the hotel. They didn't want to eat so we sat at the bar and talked. We told them that our finances are our business and though we told them that if they didn't like it, they could leave we were not literal when we said it. We just wanted to drop the subject. They continued that we are wasting money. We told them it is our money to waste and just bc they consider it wasting money we don't. We consider it one of the perks of our very fortunate life and it was not going to change. We told them that we appreciate their concern, but we know what we are doing, that they don't have to agree with it but it is not up for discussion or debate. We told them we would love to have them back and to enjoy the rest of the week with them but any comments or conversation about how we spend our money will not be allowed. They agreed and we are taking them to a restaurant a little off the beaten path that we know they all will love. No, they didn't apologize but we didn't expect them to.

2025-09-12 21:30:04

Clara Jensen

Relationships

Husband ditched my homemade dinner for his mom’s cooking so I threw his plate in the trash

My mother-in-law calls every night to ask what we're having for dinner. Then she brags about what she's cooking to make me look bad, especially if we're getting takeout. I used to care but not anymore. But my husband would ask me to make dinner only for him to go eat the dinner his mom makes at her home. which's 10 minutes away and using the "that's my favorite meal" excuse. Yesterday, I wanted to surprise him by cooking one of his favorite meals and although I was busy, I took time off work to cook. I even went grocery shopping to get what I needed. Later as I was setting the table his mom called, I told him he didn't have to answer but he did. like usual...she asked what we were having but acted surprised that I cooked this meal. She then went on to tell him she cooked X meal and told him to come over. He said ok which shocked me, I said "seriously?" as he started dresing up getting ready to leave. he told me no offense but this meal (that his mom cooked) was even more of a favorite than the one I cooked. and grabed his keys and left. I felt awful. I took his plate and threw it out then ate my portion. As I was about to put the plate in the dishwasher, he got home looking angry saying his mom lied about cooking that favorite meal, and used it as an excuse to force him to eat dinner with her. I was shocked but he sat down telling me to go ahead and reheat dinner. I told him no dinner after he abandoned it, I threw it out. He said what?? and I told him he disrespected my time and effort and chose to go eat woth his mom instead. He began yelling at me asking if I really did that then called me petty and horrible then went upstairs saying what I did was 100 times worse than what his mom did. I definately feel like I let my anger and frustration get the best of me but it really felt unbearable having to live like this for so long. By the way [I'm 26 and he's 28]. ETA to make one thing clear and that's the fact that my husband only does this when it comes to food. He lived with his mom (attended community college) and loved and still loves her food and is used to it. She gave me recipes to make and I try to do that but he keeps switching homes just to eat what he feels like. **UPDATE** Hi 👋 I posted my situation here almost 24hrs ago and haven't really read every single comment because - Wow there's just too many. I saw few pieces of advice and encouregment and I'm so so thankful for them 💝. But just wanted to let you guys know something since this is a throwaway account and I will be abandoning it soon. I just wanna let you know that I will be sitting down with my husband soon (after he breaks the silence I'm just giving him the space he said he wanted) and I'm going to show him this post in hopes he'd see how none of this was my fault. I will also be pushing for couples counseling although he's always been against it but we'll see how things go...I'm not gonna lie I still feel upset and like my efforts aren't being appreciated, His mom is definately onto something with her little upsetting stunts. I realize how important boundaries are - but also realize how enforcingbcan he difficult. I'm hoping and praying that we will tackle this issue so that our marriage won't suffer but if he's still somehow unable to do his part then that's on him and I'm no longer willing to go through similar stuff and just take it you know. So yeah, This is it. I honestly didn't realize my post was going to gain this much attention. I might add my original account just in case some of y'all wanted to talk (got plenty of time and space for internet besties because my INBOX was blowing up lol) and maybe I will post updates from there if I could. Thanks so much 💝.

2025-10-06 18:42:44

Luca Moretti

Family

Young Homeowner Sells Her Ancestral Home to Her Uncle, Leaving Her Parasitic Family Homeless

I know shitty title but I’m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it’s been in their family for over a hundred years. My brother (34) and my dad didn’t have a relationship but he did leave him 10k, my mom was pissed at the will reading but since she got 10k she couldn’t do anything about it For the past year me and her live ok together. she went on acting like it was her house like before which I had no problem with till in may my brother and his girlfriend (30) moved in (without even asking me) They’re messy entitled and rude I told them in July I want them out by September because they don’t pay for anything nor wash a dish In August they announced they were pregnant and my sil smugly said “guess we won’t be moving out now” It didnt go down well but when I told them I wanted them out my mom and brother basically laughed in my face Well the past few months have been hell they’ve become worse than before and my mom enables it than demands me to treat my sil like a princess because she’s pregnant I once had to wait outside McDonald’s till they opened to get her a McMuffin Well here were I maybe the asshole Because my sil is pregnant she eats everything she sees like the cupcakes my friend made me for my birthday she ate all six didn’t even get to try them. I can’t even make my lunch the night before because when I go to get it, it will be gone she’ll have a smug look on her face while rubbing her belly than laugh and say “I couldn’t help my self blame the baby” if I put stuff in my room my mom will open the door with the spare key sil can go through my mini fridge Well a week ago I was running late to collage I didn’t have time for my breakfast or to make lunch and I had to go to work straight after so all I had that day was a bar of chocolate when I got home I was starving I made myself dinner while it was cooling down I went to use the bathroom I must of been in there 10 minutes at most by the time I came out she had 70{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of my dinner ate and I literally lost my shit of course she started crying my mom and brother started screaming at me for making her cry making excuses like how she couldn’t help it and it was my fault for leaving food around her Well I had enough I told them get out just like before I got mocked but here’s the thing back in October my uncle offered me a life changing amount of money for the house I called him up crying a few days ago explaining the situation he said he’d buy the house but he will evict my mom and brother. They ofc didn’t take it two well and I have had to stay with a friend I’ve been receiving texts and I’m being tagged in multiple posts on social media. I’m starting to think I’m the bad person now So AITA for making my mom and brother homeless? Edit wow I expected a few comments but wow So I’m on a break I’ll address some things - some of your roasts are hilarious I honestly deserve it for how bad my grammar is but I was walking to work and declining calls from my mom while making this post I almost said fuck it and didn’t post - if I sell the house to my uncle I will lose 100k but he’s always been good to me and it’s one of those situations were I’d sleep better knowing it’s gone to someone in my dads family - my mom told me because of my age I wouldn’t be taken seriously if I tried to evict them -if I evict them and continue to live in the house along with the high financial costs I don’t think they’d ever let me live in peace - my mom has health issues and my sil will have to move in with her parents they won’t allow my brother so id be splitting up a young family in my moms words - guys I’m actually crying I’ve never been told before “I’m proud of you” and the fact I’ve seen a thread of comments telling that means the absolute world to me Edit two i plan to meet a lawyer and will update you all as soon as I’ve news also since people are curious the house is worth 2.5 million its in the heart of London

2025-09-26 19:16:50

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for refusing to end being no contact with my sister to help her while she's homeless?

I (27f) was dating Rob (28m) for over 5 years but ended our relationship last year when I found out he was sleeping with my sister Izzy (25f). I was pregnant at the time and quickly learned Izzy was too so I ended my pregnancy. Izzy already knew because Rob had told her and even though I told her I wanted nothing to do with her and had blocked her everywhere (or so I thought I missed one account) she told me we needed to stay in touch because our kids would be siblings. When I didn't reply Rob told me he wanted to be a dad still and I told him there was no baby anymore and he needed to leave me alone. Izzy told our family what had happened and what I did and she was absolutely vile about me. My brother Ryan (22m) showed me screenshots and the stuff Izzy was saying was infuriating but also just further cemented the whole I'm done with you forever part. Izzy tried to get in touch with me once after all of that. She would have been 8 months pregnant. But I blocked her new account and carried on with my life. She was loving with Rob at that time. They broke up since then and Izzy had the baby. Now she's homeless with the baby. But Rob sees the baby I think? She was in a rental for a while and then a shelter and then I guess another shelter that she didn't feel safe being in. She asked our parents for help and they sent her money and tried to help her find a place but they couldn't. This is where they tried to bring me in because they want(ed) me to step in and help her. We don't live in the same state as our parents and our parents say she's afraid to leave because of custody issues with the baby. I told them I am forever no contact with Izzy and she no longer has a sister to help her. They told me in a real emergency we need to put aside people's bad actions and help. I suggested they keep sending her money to get her on her feet and help her themselves. They've been here visiting so many times and they almost know the town better than I do even after 9 years of living here. Ryan agreed with me and told our parents they should be the ones helping Izzy, not me. They tried to find Rob and make him do something but he only wants to help the baby. My parents told me I need to help or else who knows what will happen. I refused and then I had to block my parents because they were doing their best to make me feel like a monster for refusing to help even when I pointed out she called me that and worse over my prior pregnancy. Ryan told me they're still going crazy and they're in the process of trying to move Izzy in with them. But they still believe I should have put the issue aside to help.

2025-10-28 12:09:14

Clara Jensen

Relationships

My husband quit his job to drink and game, now he claims he owns my entire homestead

My (37)m husband and I (35)f have been married for 9 years with two children (5)f and (8)m. Before we got married we had a conversation about what we wanted from each other and what some of our main goals were. Two of our biggest wants/goals were he wanted a stay at home wife when we had children and I wanted a small homestead. He never wanted me to work and I agreed and he agreed we could have a small homestead. I used my saving to buy our house which had 5 acres of land on it so we wouldn't have to rent as he didn't have anything saved up at that time, keep that in mind because it will come up later. I had also bought all kinds of seeds to plant and chickens. After about 3 months I became pregnant with our son and everything seemed wonderful. Fast-forward 4 years later and I'm pregnant with our daughter and I'm selling our vegetables and flowers, eggs etc from our homestead and began to make some cash on the side. My husband thought it was great and would make jokes about how now he could relax. After I had our daughter he started complaining about how he wanted to be home more to spend time with us and help with the homestead so I suggested he work part-time. He worked part-time for 2 years and then quit his job altogether but the second year he barely helped me with our homestead and instead played a lot of video games which was fine I was used to doing the homestead on my own and he still worked part-time so it wasn't a big deal at the time. He then quits his job and for one year does nothing. We argued almost everyday. He drank almost everyday and did nothing but play video games and have bonfires with his friends on our property for an entire year. I've worked hard to get our land where it needed to be and have started a flower buisness and bee keeping for honey which has been going strong for the past year which has made us more money and is the biggest reason why he completely quit his. At this point we have been married for 7 years. I ended up sitting down with him and having a conversation on why he doesn't help me and his behavior of drinking everyday but he said he was just taking a break and that I owed him for all the times he paid the bills and I was at home apparently living it up. I explained to him that even though I didn't work I still contributed to our home, he had a home-cooked meal almost everyday, and I worked hard on the land and in home plus took care of our children and bought our house so it wasn't as if I did nothing. He became irrate with me and started saying I was being a nagging b***h and I was literally speechless as he had never spoke to me that way. Fast-forward another year and he's doing the same stuff only his bestfriend from multiple states away calls him and tells him he's moving 20 minutes away from us. His friend starts coming over almost everyday, only he starts talking to my husband about his behavior and my husband starts hearing his best friend compliment me on our garden and flowers etc and my husband begins getting irritated over it and when his friend isn't around he mocks him infront of me and starts accusing me of liking him. I told him that it seemed as he was projecting his own feelings as he's done nothing for this family for the past two years and that I've never cheated on him and if he didn't want his friend over then he should talk to him about it. He said no and that it was my fault. Fast-forward 4 months. It's been 9 years now and I'm at the end of my rope. I've watched the person I love become an alcoholic. His friends and family have tried talking with him and he absolutely hates me and feels I've ruined his life. He calls me his goody 2 shoe wife and until now I haven't given up on him but I just can't keep going like this. His best friend made a pass at me and told me he would take care of me and that my husband has turned into a bum. I told him no and that even if I divorced him that I would never turn around and date his friend in which I told my husband about. A few nights ago my husband had a bonfire party as it was his birthday. He got wasted and I caught him kissing one of his other friends wives and his bestfriend and him got into a physical fight over it. His bestfriend told him he wasn't man enough for me and they fought again. My husband began yelling at me and called me his perfect goody 2 shoe wife with her perfect sourdough bread and her perfect this and perfect that. I explained to him that I'm not perfect and I don't understand why he says this. He screamed at me and told me everything was my fault and that I ruin everything. He made such a huge scene with all of our friends there and I had made him a homemade carrot cake as it was his favorite and he smashed it. After the party was over he ended up waking our son with his yelling and our son came up to him and yelled at him to stop but my husband wouldn't. I tried calming my husband down and telling him to stop yelling in front of our child and to open his eyes thinking that would get him to stop and my son looked at him and yelled he hated him to him. My husband became quiet and looked down at him and then looked at me and then said I was now turning his own son against him. I put him back in bed and told him that sometimes grown ups make mistakes but that everything was going to be ok and I cuddled with him until he fell asleep. My husband argued with me some more, said I emasculated him and passed out on our kitchen floor. All I've tried to do is my best, I don't drink alcohol, I dress modestly, I cook and clean, and I'm called a goody 2 shoes by my husband and for some reason I feel bad about it. I feel like it's my fault, maybe I should have told him no years ago when he wanted to stop working but hes a grown man. I don't know what to do or how to go further but I can't keep living like this and I can't make him do anything. Am I a stick in the mud and not fun anymore. I don't know, and he's got me looking in the mirror, maybe I'm too serious. Our kids are noticing now and they can't start thinking this is normal because it's not. I don't even know who he is anymore. Did me making money from our homestead emasculate him? Am I going to turn into a statistic single mom now, probably. It sucks because no one wants their family apart but I feel there isn't anything else I can do and I feel therapy will be needed afterwards because I'm doubting myself. This morning he left to one of his friends houses and said that if I tried divorcing him that no one would want me and that he would take half of everything and that I would be forced to sell our home and buisness but we signed a prenupt and I think he forgot about that but still who says that to the person they love. I feel so depleted. EDIT* I was able to set up an intervention with close friends and family. I took my kids to my moms for the night so they would be safe. The friend he was with thankfully went with it and brought him home, and when he realized it wasn't a party and an intervention, he became angry. I ended up calling the police and because we live in Florida I was able to have him baker acted. The police officers said the facility would hold him for atleast 72 hours and I was able to talk with my lawyer and get the divorce papers going. I hope he wakes up so that he can at least be in his kids' lives, but he will have to get sober first. Thanks again for everyone that commented.

2025-10-15 12:36:12

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

I Started A Hobbyist Group To Stop Scalpers And Now A Furious Customer Is Threatening To Sue Me

I (26F) own and run a toy/collectibles store that was once my grandpa's (he still helps!). I carry all types of toys you'd expect to see in a toy store, as well as some "higher end" collectibles, comic books, and various odds & ends like keychains and pins. I've always done pretty well sales wise, but noticed within the last year that I would sell out of certain items very quickly, which was unusual. My husband (27M) collects action figures, mainly a line called Marvel Legends, and he mentioned to me that scalping had become a real problem for him lately, which is one of the items I was suddenly selling out of too quickly. I'd had many kids and teens asking me about the stock not being what it used to be because they had been coming there for years, so I did some research into it and realized that there were adult men who were coming into my store, buying my items for retail, then selling them online for way marked up prices (think a $20 action figure for $80 & pokemon card packs being opened & some individual cards being $100+). To try to put a stop to this, and keep my products in the hands of people who I know are appreciating them, I decided to make a collector group for my store. I made an application that has questions about what you collect, why you collect them, favorite items, etc. I admit it's a little long, but that's part of what I was hoping would deter people who are not actually interested in the items, and kids love to tell you about their interests anyway. I also love getting to know my customers a little better this way. Once the application is "accepted," the person is in the group and gets access to this neat platform/forum thing my husband (tech guy) made. Stock announcements are made to this group first, such as "Pokemon card restock 5/28/21" or "New Marvel Legends line in stock 6/1/21." Members of the group get first dibs on the items on the day they're released, which is technically an advantage, but also technically anyone can be in the group if they finish the application process (I haven't turned down an application yet with about 63 members from all different collecting styles so far). An adult male I know I had seen recently in the store, but can't confirm whether or not he was a scalper, came in the other day and asked about the upcoming ML line, and when I told him about the new policy he was way more angry about it than you'd even expect, threatening to sue me for discrimination and exclusionary selling practices, and making an overall scene. I told him he was welcome to join the group or wait until after the priority period and check if there was leftover stock, but he just said a few more choice words and left the store. I can *technically* see where he's coming from because it is a bit exclusionary, but I want to curb scalping and get the items into the hands of the collectors who come to us for their items. AITA for this policy?

2025-10-05 10:15:00

Anya Petrova

Lifestyle

MIL insulted me for breastfeeding in my own home so I told her to get out

I recently had a baby and have been breastfeeding her regularly. My MIL came over on short-notice while I was doing chores around the house. She picked some things from our garden and chatted with me and my husband. She sat down and started watching the news on the tv. I ended up watching TV a bit later too, and I was tired. My baby started getting fussy. I pulled down my top to start nursing her. My MIL swung her head to me and gave me a look. She huffed and said "really? around me?? i'll just get naked too and have it all hanging out huh" and rolled her eyes at me. This isn't the first time she's done something like this. And the last time she made a comment while she was here for the day I just took my baby into another room. Then my husband bought me a cover but my baby doesn't like it when I use it. This time I just had enough. I didn't have it "all hanging out" and I was doing it pretty discreetly, not facing her. I was tired and wasn't really thinking. I just pulled off my top and stood up right in front of her and told her "I'll feed my baby when I want in my house." She just stared at me and I added "if you don't like it you can leave". I sat back down and she said "I can't believe this girl" and got up and left. My husband was there and afterwards said I didn't have to go that far. He said MIL texted him angrily. But I was just tired in the moment and all I was thinking about was just feeding my baby. AITA here?

2025-10-04 17:03:55

Elise Dubois

Family

Daughter-in-law insulted my lifestyle so I kicked her out of my home for good

I’m a young MIL, I’m only 39. Had my kids pretty young and I am very lucky that my husband makes a lot of money so I don’t have to work. I was a SAHM for a long time and once they started to spread their wings instead of going to work my husband and I decided I would be a home maker and be active in the community. That’s what I have been up to and I try to make the community a better place. Now my oldest son 22 married and I was really excited until I met her. In general she is a very business focus person that is very blunt. I actively dislike her but I try to be polite for my sons sake. A few examples of why I don’t like her, her wedding gift I handed over saying it was from me and my husband. She responded back with just your husband since I know it wasn’t your money that paid for it. Saying I am volunteering well that’s not a real job since it doesn’t make money. It’s passive aggressive and yes I have talked to my son about it and even once’s with her to try to clear the air. We had a get together last night and i made a homemade meal. When I was playing everything she came up and made the comment other no wonder I could make a home cooked meal I don’t do anything else with my day. I lost it and told her that she needs to respect me or ge the fuck out of my house. She was shocked and then started to cry when I did kick her out. My son is pissed and we had a huge argument and he called me a huge asshole. I need an outside opinion.

2025-09-27 09:20:19

Luca Moretti

Relationships

Girlfriend Married Her Guy Friend While I Was Waiting for Her to Come Home from Vegas

I am using a throwaway and a shit ton of people are going to call this fake or me a simp or whatever. I can tell you it's not fake but maybe I'm a stupid fucking asshole simp piece of shit who is pussy blind. I don't fucking know. I know she freaked the fuck out and called me every name in the book because I just can't face her right now. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now. The first three months were amazing but while we love each other we fight all the time and yes like the sex is amazing and probably because we fight all the time that it just keys into like the worst parts of our personalities. This week she said she was going on a girl's trip to vegas. I know her best guy friend (who like is a MAJOR reason we fight) is stationed in the Air Force there and she promised me that no matter what she wasn't going to see him. We'll guess fucking what on her way to the airport she said she had something "huge" thing she had to tell me when she landed. So I was like pannicked the whole hour of her flight thinking that she was going to be pregnant which in the grand scheme of things wouldn't be the worst but it's not really in my plan because of my finance right now. So anyways I was pannicked the whole our she on the plane. When she got down she texted me "look I am going to say this over text because I'm worried how you'll react but I married Jordan this week. Please don't freak out, it's only so I can get on his health care with the Air Force." I saw that and freaked out. I tried to call her like 1000 times and she never picked up but she would text me back and said "I knew you'd freak out, trust me its not what you think." I told her she had to pick up and talk to me or else i wasn't going to get her at the airport and she needed to get someone else or get an uber. She freaked out and actually called me then and screamed that I Was such an asshole. I asked her why can't she get a ride home with her friends she went on the trip who with her then she confessed that she went on the trip by herself which rasised so many fucking questions so I told her we needed to talk and again she said that I was abandoning her when she had no money for an uber. i am so fucking confused I guess like should I go get her? or Am I an asshole because I won't pick her up?

2025-10-13 18:04:44

Elise Dubois

Family

My parents are banning me from home because I only show up for my brother's games

My (22f) brother (17m) was an affair baby. What ended up happening was the following: My dad remarried another woman and gained a step daughter (17) who he treats like his own. My mother remarried another man and had my half sisters (14f, 13f). My brother’s father is not in his life. As a kid, I spent an equal amount of time with both parents but my brother was always with mom. From what I know, my brother doesn’t call anyone dad. This is something that really affects him. He’s always wanted a dad and one of those happy little families and I recently found his letters to Santa from when he was younger and I’m absolutely heartbroken. It is something I now feel very strongly about. Because my mom works a lot, no one ever shows up to my brother’s games. He doesn’t really care. Or at least acts like he doesn’t. Well my bf and I decided to go to every one of his games and have been going to every game since last year. He always gets really happy. He even jokingly calls us his parents as we sit with all the other parents. This is something I only do for him. My brother had his final volleyball game near the end of October and like always, I was going. However, as I was about to leave, my mom said she needed to talk. Ten minutes later, my dad shows up. They usually cannot stand each other so I thought it was something serious. They just told me that it’s nice that I go to all my brother’s games but my sisters on both sides feel left out and I should make an effort to go to their things too. My 17 yr old sister had some dance rehearsal on the same day and they wanted me to go to that instead to prove that I’m not playing favourites. They also said that they want my bf to go as well. I said no. They kept begging though and my mom told me that my other sisters had something coming up as well. I said no. Unless it’s a major game or recital, I won’t attend. I’m already very busy and only do this for my brother because unlike my sisters, he has no one. My parents said that was unfair to the girls because they deserve to have an older sister. They both also agree that it’s weird my bf and I act like his parents. I just told them that sucks but I have a game to get to. They’re both STILL mad at me. I haven’t been allowed in either houses since that day and until I promise to commit to the girls as well but I keep refusing. My mom’s called me mean, selfish etc and my dad keeps saying that he never expected this from me. I don’t know, am I the asshole for refusing to do the same for my sisters? I just want my brother to have ONE thing. He never gets anything. But maybe I’m the asshole for doing this at the expense of my sisters.

2025-09-11 10:13:04

Clara Jensen

Family

My Mother-in-Law Turned My New Home Into Her Storage Unit and Now I'm the Bad Guy

Okay. So my husband and I just moved into our first real home. Not an apartment, not a rental ours. It's small, but it’s clean, fresh, ours. I was so excited. We’ve been saving for this for years. Picking the colors, the furniture, all that. But then his mom shows up with boxes. Boxes. Not gifts, not a housewarming cake her old kitchen crap, random curtains, mismatched plates, a used toaster from like 2008. I kid you not, there was a damn blender that smelled like old soup. No joke. She says she’s “helping.” Helping us “get started.” But it’s not help. It’s clutter. It’s her way of inserting herself into everything. She doesn’t ask. She just dumps the stuff off and acts like we’re ungrateful when we don’t jump for joy over a scratched up coffee table with a wobbly leg. I tried to let it go. I did. I smiled. I said thank you the first few times. I figured, okay, maybe it’s sentimental to her. Maybe this is just her way of being nice. But it didn’t stop. It got worse. One day I came home and found her rearranging my kitchen. MY kitchen. She had swapped out our new dish set with hers. She even put up these old floral curtains that look like they came from a 90s nursing home. I nearly lost it. So I finally said something. Calm but direct. I told her, “We just bought this house. We’re excited to make it ours. Please don’t bring any more of your old things. Let us buy our own.” She looked stunned. Then came the guilt trip. “I was just trying to help. You think you’re too good for my things now?” And then she stormed out. My husband? He just stood there. Said nothing. Later he told me I could’ve said it nicer. Nicer?! I’ve been swallowing my irritation for weeks. I finally stood up for our space and suddenly I’m the bad guy? Now I feel awful. I don’t want drama. But I also don’t want to live in a secondhand museum curated by my MIL. So yeah... I said what I said. I set a boundary. But now I’m being painted as rude, ungrateful, even classist. I don’t know. I’m tired. I just wanted our home to feel like us, not like a storage unit for her leftovers. Was I too harsh? Should I have kept my mouth shut just to keep the peace? AITAH?

2025-10-28 17:25:32

Luca Moretti

Lifestyle

My Daughter Is Furious I Won't Risk My Health To Host Christmas At Her New House

I (65f) and my husband (67m) have two daughters our eldest (36f) is neurotypical and our younger one (33f) has high needs nonverbal autism. She's in a group home and requires 2:1 aides at all times, we bring her home every Christmas but she cannot handle "outsiders" in our home so we cannot have the assistance of aides (just as she doesn't like us in our group home because we don't "belong" there). She is like a toddler in an adult body, is incredibly strong and requires constant supervision. I have a bad back (ruptured disc) so I do this every Christmas against the advise of my doctor, this level of care isn't even something I'm supposed to be doing but i do it because she expects Christmas just as it's always been and has no way of understanding not being able to come home so I push through it even though it causes me horrible pain for days. My elder daughter just brought her first house and wanted to be able.to host Christmas, I felt horrible but told her (even though she was prepared to include her sister) that I could not properly supervise her in her house and she could not handle the disruption to her routine, and expects christmas just as its always been, but that we definitely plan on seeing her new house just after the holidays. She proposed Xmas Eve instead but that's not possible because I have to get the house ready for her sister plus the extra travel to her house (she's over an hour away that travel hurts my back badly and I have to preserve what little energy I have for her sister for Christmas and thought she would understand). She's upset and thinks "if I can tough out my back for her sister I can do it for her too" I just can't do both so close together I need to space it out. I appreciate she's had to make alot of sacrifices her whole life but her sister literally cannot understand, she can. AITA?

2025-10-06 19:08:32

Elise Dubois

Relationships

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she was the perpetrator, not the victim, in her "trauma"?

My [25m] girlfriend [24f] and I have been dating for about a year. I'll call her Casey here. We have lived together for two months. A few hours ago, Casey approached me saying that she wanted to talk about something "serious." At first, I didn’t know what to expect, but she wanted to share something traumatic that had happened to her before we met, and she asked if I would be willing to listen. I of course said yes, I would, if she’d be willing to share. Casey hesitated for a second, like she wasn’t sure about telling me, but then gave me the full story. What happened was when she was a university student, she had a crush on a pizza guy. He worked at a small shop near her apartment, and he would often deliver to her. She wanted to ask him out, but she wasn’t sure how, so she consulted her friends. Her friend group talked over it, and then one brought up the suggestion of answering the door in lingerie. The others jumped onto the idea quickly, and while Casey had doubts, they quickly convinced her to try it. They apparently even went shopping for the lingerie together. Casey put on makeup, did her hair, and ordered a pizza. When the guy came, she did exactly as her friends suggested: she opened the door in skimpy lingerie. The pizza guy initially didn't address it, but Casey, "desperate," pushed the topic. She asked him, "What do you think about my outfit?" He responded, "Dude, please don’t do that," and then left. At this point in the story, Casey was near tears, and she told me how embarrassed and sick she felt. I almost expected more from the story, but she was finished. I then said, "Uh … you do realize that you weren’t the victim, but the perpetrator, right?" She literally recoiled at this comment. She elaborated by blaming everybody else: her friends for "tricking" her, society in general, and even the pizza guy that she sexually harassed. To this I responded that she’s like those guys who touch themselves in hotels, intentionally getting the maids to walk in on them. She insisted it was completely different, and a full-blown argument ensued. She finished the argument with "I came to you to feel better and now I feel WORSE!" and stormed away. I don’t even know. I feel so disgusted with her right now. Was I the asshole for my comments when she felt vulnerable?

2025-10-11 20:45:14

Elise Dubois

Family

My Sister Demanded My Monthly Allowance Because She's Jealous Of My Lifestyle

My (26F) sister (32F) "Bethy" and I are both stay-at-home moms. I have 1F twins; she has three sons, 6M, 4M, and 2M. My husband, Micheal, is a master plumber who makes excellent money; he owns his own business, and I couldn't be prouder of him. I used to be a librarian; I have my MLS and bachelor's in Education. During the birth of our girls, on the way to the hospital in the ambulance, we hit a speed bump, and I was injured. I am now an ambulatory wheelchair user and attend physical therapy, as I am learning to walk again. I hurt from my hips down, but my babies are worth it. We decided I would be a SAHM after my first surgery, and my husband gives me $3000/month to use how I want to, as "payment for being such a good mom" We are extraordinarily blessed financially, and I'm happy being able to see my girls growing up. Bethy's husband, Jackson, is an elementary school teacher, but teaching doesn't pay much in our state. Bethy has been a SAHM for the entirety of her marriage and is used to having to scrimp and save for things. She asked me out for coffee recently and I accepted. I was chatting with her when I mentioned that our girls would start baby swim classes soon. I was happy the pool was wheelchair accessible. Bethy started ranting about how expensive swimming lessons are and how she could never afford to put her boys in swimming. I said I was also excited about playgroup this week, as I had been nervous to go the first time we had gone because none of the other moms and dads in the group used mobility aids. When I mentioned the name of the playgroup I go to with my girls, Bethy became angry because it's one of the more expensive playgroups. She was angry because "I knew money was tight." and "I didn't even think to invite her and Jackson's son because then she wouldn't have to pay for daycare. She then asked if my husband gave me an allowance. She was a bit angry, and people were starting to stare, so I said yes and asked her to keep her voice down. She wondered how much it was, and I told her. She asked if I could give it to her, and I told her no because I like to treat myself after my physio appointments, and I want to save as much as possible for a rainy day fund. Bethy said she and her husband have nothing but rainy days and left the restaurant without paying. I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I'm not helping her when I know I could. Still, when I asked Micheal he said that my sister could get a job and reminded me that I became a SAHM because it was something we agreed we were financially stable enough to do as well as because of my mobility limitations. He also said I deserve nice things and shouldn't have to give them up just because my sister wants me to. I feel conflicted, AITA? If more people think I am, I'll consider giving her the monthly payment; I feel guilty for not helping.

2025-10-19 21:16:18

Clara Jensen