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AITA for kicking my inlaws out of my home?

I (27f) have an 8m old daughter with my husband (38m). We have had issues with his father and step mother since the begining of our relationship but we have done our best to keep things civil for my husband's sake. Currently DH is overseas in the military and left when our daughter was 3 days old. This past weekend my husband had begged me to let his parents come meet our daughter and I was told they would stay at a hotel. The plans were to meet at my aunts home during the day so they could meet our daughter. Well, thursday night there was knocking at the door at 10pm. It was his dad with his step mom. They came early and no hotels were affordable. They ended up in the guest room. My husband apologises, he had no idea why they were there but asked me to make it work because he was busy with work. Well, early friday morning I woke up to my baby screaming in her crib in my room. His step mom had picked her up from her crib and apologised saying that the baby was awake so she thought it would be fine to pick her up. I ended up grabbing my daughter and told her to get out of my room. She said nothing but left and I admit, I was harsh in tone. The whole day I am becoming increasingly annoyed because they had complained about dust, that I had a pile of laundry to wash, and they felt that it was unfair that my family is around the baby more than his. Mind you, they live over 12 hours away, my family is within 1 hour of me. After I got my daughter down for bed we were eating dinner when his step mom asked me if I was going to apologize for snapping at her this morning in my room. I told her no, she shouldnt have been in my room to begin with and then she said "well my therapist told me to tell you how I feel and I feel that you are an ungreatful bitch. We came here to see our granddaughter and help you out but we come here to get snapped at in the morning, my sons house is a mess, and you wont even let her cry for more than a few minutes before you scoop her away from us!" That is when I told them to pack thier shit and leave. All hell broke loose and we got into a huge argument. I ended up calling the police to remove them from the home. And now all of his family are telling me that I'm an asshole. They called my husband while he was sleeping and he felt that I may have taken it too far by kicking them out. Others are telling me I was an asshole so am I the asshole? Edit to add: they just left after coming back to leave a used gift card they took from my home. They opened the mail slot on my door to slip it through and let me know they used it for breakfast and are heading back home. I'm unsure where it was that they took it from though. Im going to replace the door to get rid of the mail slot when I have the time. Edit to add: they arrived Thursday night, left my home Friday night, i have not seen them all weekend, they came this AM to drop off the gift card and left. They drove here. Also, police were involved when the father locked himself in the guest room refusing to leave while i had the step mother in my ear. Once my home's peace is disturbed, that guest needs to leave that's the rule in my home. My husband is not home until august which will make just over 1 year gone.

2025-09-12 15:03:57

Jonas Bergström

Lifestyle

AITA for taking the cake I baked for my fiance's birthday and going home?

Me f25 and fiance m31 'Ben''s mom don't have the best relationship. I try my best to be polite around her but she's the type that'd have high standards/expectations of whoever dates her son's (she has 3). She's commented on my hair and body several times and at some point suggested "cosmetic" surgeries for the future. This upsets me but Ben tells me this is who she is and I need to learn to have a thick skin since often times, she doesn't really mean to be malicious. Anyways, I'm known for baking cakes and sweets. Ben eats what I make but whenever I bring something to his family to try they find every excuse in the world not to eat it. I'm OK with that and stopped doing it. For Ben's 31st birthday, his mom wanted to host the party. I decided to bake him his birthday cake and he was thrilled with it. I went grocery shopping, took time off work and put so much effort into making it how he likes it. I took it with me to his mom's house and to my surprise when I walked in I saw a large birthday cake sitting at the dinning table. I was puzzled, FMIL said she requested this cake from the bakery and paid xxx money for it. I asked "what about the cake I've made?". She responded "oh you can place it on the counter over there and we'll let the kids have it". This felt like ice was dropped all over me, I looked at Ben and he nodded at me in a "just do it" way. I was so mad and the cake was still in my hands at the time. I turned around and made my way to the door. His mom remained standing but Ben followed me asking where I was going. I told him that he didn't need my cake and by extention me since my efforts were so easily dismissed and disrespected. He said i was overreacting and that his mom paid so much for that cake and it was only fair that he accept it. He begged me to get back inside and do him this favor by basically just go with the flow but I decided to go home. He got mad and started saying I was being unreasonable and stirring drama over nothing. I went home and he didn't get back til 11 PM. He was so upset he said he and his family didn't appreciate the childish behavior I displayed and ruining his party and disrespecting his mom like that. Said I turned this into a huge deal and should've acted more maturelly instead of walking out with the cake. AITA for taking the cake and walking out?

2025-09-16 21:41:21

Clara Jensen

Lifestyle

AITA for kicking only my SIL out which meant she had to fly home early from vacation?

I (29F) have a half brother, James (37). James is married to Lindsay (35) and they have two kids, 4f and 2m. I invited James, Lindsay and the kids to visit me this past week, and they were meant to stay until next Friday. Lindsay and I have always got on fine, except for the fact that she’s always had a weird attitude to me being a SAHW/M. She always asks me if I’m going to ask my husband before making non-essential purchases, or asks me if I feel bad relaxing while he’s working, or suggests I do things for him as a ‘thank you’ to him since I’m apparently not doing anything else. I know that James and Lindsay are big on splitting costs and while he pays for everything for both kids he won’t pay for Lindsay, despite making about 25x her salary. Being that that’s the relationship they’re happy with, I just roll with the comments because my marriage must look weird to Lindsay. However, there is a line. A few days ago we were sitting on our rooftop drinking wine after the kids went to bed. Lindsay was admiring the view and ..⬇️

2025-08-17 18:31:32

Elise Dubois

Family

AITA for not helping my sister who became homeless just after she gave birth to her and my soon to be ex-husband's baby?

My sister (24f) and I (26f) were really close our whole lives and we moved away from our parents together when she was 18 and I was 20. I met my (soon to be) ex-husband here and we got married and my sister stayed close. We spent a lot of time together. Then a few months ago I learned my sister was pregnant and my husband was the father. I ended my marriage to him immediately and I told my sister I wanted nothing more to do with her and she was on her own. I had some of her stuff at my place and left it at my ex's place for her. For the rest of the pregnancy they were living together and then he wouldn't let her back in after the baby was born. She called our parents from the hospital and told them she had nowhere to go. That he was looking for custody and didn't want her back and I wasn't answering her calls. So they called me and after I heard them explain what was going on I told them it wasn't my problem. They tried to argue but I wasn't having any of it. She got a place at a shelter for single parents and she's still there several weeks on. With the custody dispute she can't move back to our parents and I am still refusing to help her out. My parents are angry because I won't even take her calls or reply to any messages she's sent. I actually blocked her because I knew she wouldn't stop. My parents don't know that part. But they're telling me I should be ashamed of myself for turning my back on her and the baby. I told my parents I owe her and the baby nothing. I told them it was just a shame she didn't choke on his dick when they were sleeping together behind my back. My parents called me disgusting for leaving them homeless. That I have room and could help. AITA?

2025-09-22 08:41:40

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

AITAH - My parents were disrespectful so I made them take a Taxi home from the airport - AITAH?

My parents (61M & 67F) went away on holiday and it was agreed that I would drop them off and potentially pick them up although this was to be confirmed due to lack of space in my car. I have a 5 yr old child and am a single parent. My weekends are usually very busy with rigid schedules - my parents know this. My son had football this morning from 10:20-11:00 and my mum said that she would let me know when I should start making my way to collect them from Heathrow airport to minimise pick-up charges. It was a tight schedule this morning as I also had to walk the dogs before football, take kid to football and restock the house with essential groceries plus some extra for a nice dinner that I had planned for my parents upon their return and unpack my very small car to make space for their luggage. So my mum calls me at 12:00 to say they’ve just landed and then 25 mins later lets me know they’re ready to be collected. I had just finished the food shop and I just had to unpack it then I was going to collect them. This would mean my parents would have to wait 35 mins for me to collect them. I let them know as much. My parents turned around and yelled saying don’t bother and how they didn’t care about the food shopping, and that I was unkind and unhelpful (I drove them an hour to Gatwick for their departure flight). They just expected me to be there right away. So I responded by letting them know I was on my way as soon as I had put all the refrigerated items away. They let me know this wasn’t good enough. So I told them, I drove you to Gatwick, did a few chores for them whilst they were away that were a big expense time and money-wise that they’ve yet to pay me back for and that they can get a taxi home. I then hung up as I found their attitude to be completely disrespectful. They called me back right away doubling-down that I’m an AH so I repeated “get a taxi”. An hour later my dad calls me chewing me ear off saying “aren’t you collecting us then? When are you getting here”. I told him what I told my mum, get a taxi. He said that they have ordered one but that it’s taking awhile. I said “it will. If you had been nice you would be home already.” Then I hung up on him. They got home 2 hours later than they would’ve liked due to me refusing to collect them but I want them to know that they can’t treat me like shit and expect me to go out of my way for them. They have stonewalled me since. In comparison, they refused to drive 10 mins to the train station to pick me up when I came back from Italy with an ear infection so had to get a taxi home. Whilst the distance home is considerably shorter, they refused because they didn’t feel like it not because they couldn’t. I may have been the AH by telling them to get a taxi and hanging up but I feel that I need to get an outside perspective as I feel justified in my decision based on principle of respect. UPDATE: So my parents did get a taxi home in the end and I didn’t greet them because I was still angry with them. My mum came upstairs in the evening to berate me. The usual you’re so disrespectful and unreliable talk. I told her that I didn’t come because she was rude and disrespectful to me. She is adamant that she wasn’t. I asked her”is 30 minutes really too long to wait?” And her response was “why should I have to?” I let her know that was the last ride she was ever getting from me. She wasn’t phased at all.

2025-10-13 16:30:42

Clara Jensen

Relationships

Aita: For leaving home after my husband said I was embarrassing him when I was crying?

I (28f) lost my brother after two years of fighting cancer, he was only 32 years old and he passed away three weeks ago, I feel so devastated and unable to think clearly, my brother and I were so close, even after I got married and moved out, I was the one who was by his side so I knew what he was going through. It's awful and unfair that he had to suffer and feel all this pain while he should've been living a good life, I spent time with him at the hospital, I was staying with him in his apartment to clean up and cook for him after he called me and told me he spent nights without dinner, he was in a rough condition and needed help,parents are both deceased, my dad's last words were that we needed to take care of each other. My husband would refuse to take meals over to my brother, never visited him, always complains that I pay too much attention to my brother and was negative and unsupportive. In the morning,When I received a call telling me that my brother passed away, I wanted him to drive me to the hospital because I was shaking and crying, almost fainting but he told me he needed to drink something first and acted so cold and didn't look affected by news. After the funeral, and I remember this moment specifically when I was with my aunt, we were both crying especially me, what happened really hit me at that moment, guests were standing around, my husband walked in and saw me sitting crying, he approached me and told me to get up because I was embarrassing him, he repeatedly said this, and couldn't react right away but I blew up on him when we got home for what he said and called him inconsiderate and selfish, only caring about appearance, he yelled back at me saying that I was acting nuts at the funeral and he needed to act, criticized my aunt's and cousin's clothes and said he regreted even going, we argued for few minutes and then I went to my brother's apartment to calm down, the next day he tried to apologize and asked when I was coming home, and now he's livid that I'm still won't go home and is guilt trip me into coming home by talking about how much he cared about my brother and that he was "affected" by this loss as well.

2025-09-15 12:13:50

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITA for deciding to skip my stepson's wedding and stay home with my children?

I have been married to my husband for 25 years. He has two children from his first marriage. Kai who is 28, and Mia is 27. My husband's first marriage ended during the pregnancy with Mia when his ex moved another man into their home. She told my husband to leave and she was planning to marry the other guy. A DNA test was done when Mia was born, and another was done on Kai later, custody was decided and the divorce was finalized when Mia was still a baby. I met him 6 months later and we married after a year together. My husband's ex made our lives hell. She alienated the kids from me, we were in and out of court, therapy, they were always placed in mediation and co-parenting classes to try and get them to a better place. Nothing helped. Her second husband left and that only made her worse. Then she married again but that also ended. My relationship with my stepkids breaks my heart. I love them, I have always tried to be a respectful and loving stepparent who doesn't talk bad about their mom, overstep my place or assume they would love me the same as their parents. But I hoped we would be close. They have been rude or distant and cold. But I loved them regardless and my husband took the lead with them. When my husband and I had our own two children together they did not bond with them but we still hoped time and therapy would help some kind of relationship form. Now my stepson is due to get married. He told my husband our kids were not invited since it was a child free wedding. But then he told me what I could not wear (because the two mothers were going to match the theme and I am not counted in that), that I would not be given a corsage to wear so people would know I was not one of the parents, he said I would not be mentioned in any of the toasts, I was not welcome to give a toast, that the photos with the parents and immediate family would not include me and after my husband asked him why he was making such a big deal out of this he said I needed to know my place and then admitted he didn't even want me there. So I made the decision not to attend and instead stay home with my children. I have reached a breaking point where I just no longer see a future where we might get along better and clearly I am not wanted at all. But my husband's family are furious and say I was invited so I should go. AITA?

2025-10-08 20:24:53

Elise Dubois

Family

AITHA for telling my sisters boyfriend it’s not his business if I don’t want to be a stay at home mom?

So I (F22) have an older sister (f28) she has 4 kids. And she loves being a mom and wants to be a stay at home mom. And I encourage her to do whatever she wants. She herself understand that I have no desire to be a mom right now if not ever. I have two other older sisters who are like me who doesn't want to be a stay at home mother. (This is important in the story) Her boyfriend is mad at me (m27) cause he asked me when I'm going to settle down and that he can introduce me to his friend (m25) who wants a stay at home wife. I told him no that I don't want to date anyone this year and he got mad at me for some reason and asked me why so I told him my ex boyfriend left me with trust issues. (My ex cheated on me for 6 months into a 3 year relationship.) he told me we broke up in 2023 and I should start getting back out there. And I told him it's not his business and he dropped it. But 2 days ago he asked me if I wanted to be a stay at home wife and mother.. and I told him no that I don't and I'm not even sure if I want kids let alone to be married. He got defensive since his mom was a stay at home wife and mom. And I told him I don't see anything wrong with being a stay at home mom. But that I don't personally want to depend on a man for anything and he once again got defensive and said not all man are the same. I told him he was correct but again not all women want the same thing. He said my sister wants to be a stay at home wife and mom and I told him congratulations on finding that with my sister but that I once again don't want to be a stay at home mom. He got mad cause he overhead my conversation about me getting an IUD aswell and told me I'm ruining gods plan to make me a mom one day and I told him wether I want kids or not is not his business. He got mad at me and told me to get out of his home so I did. My older sister is asking me to apologize to him and to not get an IUD since if I get pregnant that it's Gods plan. And she also told me I should reconsider being a a stay at home mom/wife. I told her not everyone has that dream. And she accused me of not respecting stay at home mothers/wifes which is nothing but lies. My two other older sisters are on my side and said my sisters boyfriend shouldn't be to concern with how I live my life. And that if I don't want to depend on anyone for the rest of my life thats my choice. He also said I'm going to hell for being bisexual so I screamed that I guess his girlfriend (my sister) is also going to hell cause she's bisexual herself (which he already knows about) now their friends are calling me an asshole saying that he only cares about what I do with my body since it's gods body and I should respect it and become a mom soon. So am I the asshole for telling my sisters boyfriend it's not his business if I don't want to be a stay at home wife/mom? TDL: my sisters boyfriend is upset I don't want to depend on a man and be a stay at home mom and is also mad I'm thinking about getting a IUD in a few weeks, and that I shouldn't mess with my body since it's gods body not mine so I told him to mind his business. Edit to clarify: I did put this in some comments. But 3 out of her 4 kids aren't even his. My sister has a 7,4,3, and soon to be newborn. Edit 2: I get asked this question a lot. About why I was discussing getting an IUD to my sisters boyfriend. I wasn't discussing it to him. Me and my three sisters were all discussing it at his house but he wasn't there. He walked in tho when I said I was thinking of getting a IUD and that's when he butted into the conversation and as soon as he said gods body not my body, me and my two other sisters started talking to him about it and he raised his voice so I raised mine and we eventually left since I don't like conflict at all.

2025-09-15 13:51:38

Anya Petrova

Lifestyle

AITA for wanting to keep a vegan home even though our kids aren’t vegan?

Husband and I are having a moral dilemma concerning our kids. We have two kids (14F/16M). When they were 10 and 12 my husband and I both became vegetarians. Then last year we became vegan. We never forced our diet on them but we do talk to them about our beliefs concerning animal cruelty and animal products. They know that we’re serious about our new lifestyle and it’s not temporary. Now our kids still eat meat when they’re at school and we’re fine with that. They know we only cook vegan dishes at home. But recently they’ve been lashing out at rules we’ve established concerning meat in the house. We don’t permit any meats or animal based foods in our house or fridge (they can eat whatever they want outside the house) but our kids think we’re being unfair to them. Last week my daughter had friends over and they ordered a pepperoni pizza when my husband and I were out of the house. When we got back and saw the boxes we told her she disrespected us and our rules and grounded her for 2 weeks. But now her and our son are ||...🔽

2025-08-20 14:09:41

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for refusing to take my name of the deed to my mother in laws home ?

Me and my partner have been together for 8 years, married for 2 of them. 5 years ago we bought a home together a small 2 bedroom unit just to see if we could coexist without killing one another with the intention of only staying a few years before we got married and then upgraded to something larger. 3 years on we had enough of a deposit to do just that when my partners mother came to us asking for help. She wanted to buy a place but didn't have anything in the way of savings. she was tired of renting as it was becoming more and more expensive. We talked about the issue knowing that if we agreed to help it meant delaying our own upgrade buy a further 3 years at minimum. with some hesitation on our part we never the less did the right thing and helped out his mother by giving her 90k (the sum total of all our savings at the time, making it clear it was just a loan) and she bought a place also with the aid of her other son. Recently my partner has been talking to me about getting my name taken off the documentation to the house (so it is only her name and 2 sons on all the paperwork) . I know his mother has been in his ear about it because he only ever brings it up after a solo visit to her. For a while I avoided the conversation but recently my husband has had an actual conversation with a lawyer to draw up paperwork to have my name legally removed. When I found out I told my husband we needed to have a serious talk and I told him honestly that I would not remove my name from the documentation because, to date his mother has not paid either of us back a single cent of the money we lent her. This angered my Husband who said I had agreed to take my name off the documentation that's why he spoke to a lawyer in the first place. When I insisted I never agreed and that I was just protecting us both by insisting our names stay on all the documentation he called me paranoid that his mother would never cheat us. Now I feel guilty, AITA for refusing to remove my name from the documentation seeing as I did help pay for the place she bought, and without our help she would still be stuck renting.  Edit - UPDATE Hey Everyone. I am getting a lot of messages asking for updates. It has been almost a month since I put this post up and quite a few things have changed. First off I went through all my emails and text messages. Anything that mentioned money, my MIL's property or talking to a lawyer or bank, anything that was signed I made sure to print off a copy and put it in a folder, and I have asked my Parents to keep this folder at their place as my back up. Secondly me and my Husband had a long talk, I asked him to listen to a scenario then give me his opinion. In this round about way he came to see and understand things from my perspective and has agreed my name will remain on all documentation until we have been paid back. (no payment schedule has been made yet but we are talking about it at least) He has also told his mother the same and she has stopped asking for my name to be removed. To be very clear. And this hurt to ask him. But we are not getting divorced. My husband doesn't want to leave me. And NO I will not divorce him. Thirdly, The situation with my BIL living with us, on top of everything else. Well this week he was fired from work and he hid it from everyone. Now before people start downing him I kind of see him being fired as a good thing for the following reasons. He was forced to look for work elsewhere, he chose to look for a place closer to where his mother lives and succeeded. This means he will be moving back in with his mother (I am very happy about this) With his new job he also got a pay rise and a few more hours as well as a rotating roster so he has one weekend off a month. something he didn't have at his last job. While things have not been resolved fully with MIL, at least between me and my hubby we have open communication once more. Still I would like to thank everyone who gave me there input. It made the feelings of guilt go away and it also made me feel secure and brave enough to have the open and honest discussion I needed with my husband.

2025-10-01 13:17:36

Anya Petrova

WIBTA

WIBTA if I chose to stay home with my husband rather than go to my daughter's wedding?

My daughter (28f) is marrying a woman (28f) and my husband and I have been trying to be as involved as we can be without violating our conscience or who we are and what we believe. Ever since our daughter opened up to us about her relationship, we've been staying open-minded, praying, communicating with her about it, asking questions, researching, welcoming the girlfriend into our home and getting to know her, attending online therapy with a LGBT counselor that our daughter paid for, and just overall trying to be a loving presence in our daughter's life. It's a process and my husband and I have come a long way from where we were, but sometimes we still come across these, what our therapist calls, "blocks of resistance" that hold us back from supporting our daughter in the way that she may want us to, in that moment. And what I really appreciate about this counselor is that she takes our situation into account as well and is willing to speak up for my husband and I. A few years ago, when our daughter wanted us to attend a gay parade with her, we were hesitant and our counselor stood by us by telling our daughter that it was "too soon". But other than the gay parade, things have been pretty smooth up until now. My husband has drawn a hard line about attending the wedding. I was sort of on the fence about attending, but I decided to stick with my husband. Our daughter is pissed. At our last therapy session together, a week ago, our daughter said that if we didnt come to the wedding, all the work and progress that we had made would mean nothing to her, and that she would not want us to be a part of her life. Again the counselor spoke up for us and told our daughter that everyone had their hard boundaries (boundaries that they would absolutely not cross) and that instead of making ultimatums, it would be better to consider the overall picture rather than letting one moment be the deciding factor of the relationship. [I'm paraphrasing, she said it much better, but I think I got the main point]. The counselor talked to me privately afterward and told me how her parents hadn't came to her wedding, and they eventually made up thirty years down the line, but that was thirty years of memories that they both had missed out on. Yet, when she talked to her parents about it recently, they said that even as much as it had hurt them not to go, they would have made the same choice because it was just something that they strongly disapproved of. She ended by telling me that she wasn't going to tell me to go or not to go, but to really consider all the pros and cons.

2025-11-21 15:16:09

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for telling my husband that since he did not help funding my mother's healthcare, I will do with the inheritance what I want?

I am (29f) a SAHM, I take care of the home and my son (4m) while my husband Sam (31m) works. I haven't had a job in four years as Sam wanted me to be a SAHM by the time our son was born. I accepted, since Sam has an absurdly good salary, and mine was not that great. My mom fell ill half a year ago. Her diabetes became quite complicated and she needed some medical care. We don't live in the US, so the expenses were relatively small. I asked Sam to please give me half of the total medical bill, since my brother (25m) was going to pay the other half. Sam refused to pay a penny from the bill, and since I have no income, my brother had to pay it all. Sadly, my mom passed away a month ago. My brother and I just got the whole estate in order. Each of us is going to get a somewhat considerable figure, since my mother had some properties (which she did not sell as they are in poor condition). This morning my husband told me he wants me to sell my my part of the inheritance, so we can make some (non-vital) house repairs and possibly go on vacation. I laughed, more out of anger than anything else, and told him that he had no right to suggest how to make use of the inheritance that my mother left, when he refused to even pay half of her medical bills. He called me an AH and went to work. I got a call from his sister, who was extremely angry. She called me irrational and told me that since I was living off the money Sam earns, I have no right to demand money from him, and that the inheritance gives me the opportunity to return some of the money he has spent on me. The call really got me thinking, and now I wonder if I'm really behaving like an AH. Edit: I've received a lot of comments asking the same questions, so I will answer them here. 1.- Why did my brother and I received an large inheritance but helped my mom with the treatment? My mom didn't leave us cash, she left us properties (4 in total). This properties are basically in ruins, and need a ton of work done, so my mom didn't receive any income from this properties. She placed two of them for sale, but they never sold since the real state market is extremely expensive here. 2.- Why did my mom paid her “main treatment”? My mom paid the hospital her entire treatment there, so, her hospitalizacion or any larger procedure. My brother and I wanted to help her with medical appointments (she visited several especialists outside the hospital) and medicines (the hospital didn't cover them). That's why I said that the the expenses were relatively small. Apologies if my redaction is confusive. 3.- I made the mistake of commenting that my husbands earns five zeros, but it's in my currency. Not in dollars. He earns montly about 12 thousand american dollars.

2025-10-19 19:52:48

Anya Petrova

Family

AITAH for telling the girl my parents adopted she has we aren’t family and to leave my parents home

So I’ve one biological sibling Jake (39) who lives in america from my dads first marriage and my parents adopted a girl Ella (27) both Ella and I are the same age (27f) there’s literally 8 months between us our bio mom’s was friends Ella and I had a good sister relationship growing up but around 15 she started to be a major bitch by pulling the “your not my parents/sister card” and making life genuinely difficult for everyone. My parents never lied to her about being adopted nor treated bad actually looking back she got treated better than me especially in our teenage years The minute she turned 18 she took her collage fund and whatever she could steal than ran to live with her “real” family. My parents tried to get in contact with her but she blocked them and threatened to get police involved when they went to her aunts house to talk her (she was always in contact with her bio moms family so my parents knew them very nice people) Two months later on my 18th birthday she sent me a card with a long letter how she hated us and only stayed till she could her hands on the money she was owed and that she wished us the worst in life especially me because I didn’t deserve to have living parents that was the moment I realised she was never my sister We lost dad during covid mom tried to get in contact so Ella could so goodbye but no luck than in September mom passed away due to a brain aneurysm. I didn’t reach out because I didn’t give a fuck about Ella Ella’s aunt and grandmother are still in contact with me (even attended my parents funerals) I mentioned to them I will be selling my parents home and moving to America to be with Closer to Jake and my nieces . I’ll mention Ella legally got herself emancipated from my parents even tho her bio and my family begged her not too. My parents home is in London in a good area like if you look out the window long enough you’ll see an “important” person pass by car so I will make good money from the sale Ella tried reaching out by email/calls and third parties it’s obvious she wants money So I’ve ignored her, she turned up at the house today She asked about the sale saying that she as my sister and my parents daughter deserve something out of it. I told her she lost all right when she cut them off Ella stated crying saying she knows she messed up but apparently she meet a guy in a group for adoptees who twisted her mind against not just our family but her bio family, she told me she wants to leave him but she had two kids so she’d need help financially she also admitted after he forced her to do most things and at the end she was ashamed to reach out to us and with me moving her window of opportunity is closing. I told her I didn’t care for her lies and manipulation I’m not MY parents we aren’t family and to leave my parents home before I call the police She said she made a mistake to please help her because we are sisters, I just screamed at her to leave because I don’t have a sister My brother thinks I should help her and I acted to cruel towards her because I don’t know what it’s like to not have both parents growing up so now I’m rethinking my decision

2025-09-25 08:38:32

Luca Moretti

Relationships

AITA for telling my husband to not bring his daughters home or i’ll leave with my kids every time they’re over?

My husband has 2 (19 and 16) daughters from his previous relationship. He only sees them once or twice a week on his days off. Its because of his work schedule that he can’t see them often. When they come over they usually stay for a short time, eat dinner or lunch, and talk with their dad. Sometimes they go out for a couple of hours The problem is that they have no respect for me, my kids, and 16F constantly steals from our home. I don’t mind if they just didn’t want a relationship with me. But they constantly disrespect me, and insult me when I enter the room. They have insulted me for not working (i have a job but just recently had a baby), and make ‘jokes’ how i’m using their dad for money (I make more money him). I have two sons from a previous relationship (7M, and 9M) Which they insult because they think my sons are too dumb to understand what they are saying. Yet they understand clearly and are hurt by it. I have talked to my husband about this, and he says its all just jokes, and that he acted like that to his siblings. I have talked to them about it and they told their mom who argued with my husband about it. 16F also steals, she’ll say she’s going to the bathroom and then enter the bedroom and take some cash. I have caught her doing this multiple times. My husband will make her give it back then give her money from his own wallet. When I try to talk to her about it she tells her mom, who again argued with my husband. We have gotten locks for our rooms but she has just stolen other stuff instead. My kids avoid going to the kitchen or living room when the girls are over, and i’m tired of being worried that something is missing. I told my husband that he could spend time with the girls outside the house, and if he brought them over i’d just take the kids and leave until they’re gone. My husband called me childish, and my mom said its unfair to make him do that for me. AITA? UPDATE: My update wasn’t approved so here it is I tried to talk to my husband but he refused to listen. He kept insisting thats how siblings treat each other, and wouldn’t listen. I tried to show him the comments but he wouldn’t look at the either. He bought the girls over 4 days ago, so I took the kids and left. I’m currently staying with my mother since i’m unable to stay with anyone right now. My mother is still on my husbands side. Thats all I have right now, i’ll try to update more if anything happens.

2025-10-17 13:29:17

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

AITA For telling my parents that my husband that if they don't like our lifestyle they can leave?

I'm upset so I will get right to the point. My husband and I both make well over six figures. But we work long hours and as a result when we are not working or at the gym working out, we just want to veg out. So, we (when not working) will generally make breakfast but order out lunch and dinner or go out to eat. If we are working, we eat out all three meals. Our loans are paid off, we own our condo, and we have no children. So, eating/ordering out makes us happy. We also have a cleaning lady come twice a week to clean out home and do our laundry. Our parents came to visit and were upset that we didn't cook for them the whole week except for breakfast (we took the week off because we both knew both sets of parents were coming). We told them we don't cook except for breakfast but our condo is right next store to a plaza that has a grocery, and they are welcome to cook if they like. But there were quite a few restaurants that we have yet to take them to so why not try one of them? They got on us on how much money we were spending, and my MIL got on me when the cleaning lady came and said I should be doing the cleaning b/c she worked and cleaned and took care of kids so she doesn't get why I can't. Which pissed me off so I went off and told her "Because I'm not super woman, have no desire to be and refuse to try and if she wants a participation trophy for being over worked and under paid, she can head to the bar and have a shot of Jameson." I then told her and my parents that I did not spend 4 years in college and two in graduate school to play Florence from The Jeffersons (it’s an 80s show that my parents love to watch). So, they went on to complain about how much money we were "wasting". My husband told them that it is not their money its ours and we don't consider it a waste. We told them the last thing we want to do when we get off from work is cook and clean. My husband told his mom that he never understood why she would work herself to the bone like that even when he and his sisters tried to pitch in and help, she insisted on doing everything herself. I told her I will not be doing that. So, they went on about an emergency fund. We told them before we started living the way we do we made sure our student loans were paid off and we each have a year's salary saved up plus investments, so we are good thank you. My dad tried to be intrusive and ask how much money we both made, and we said, "None of your business!!!" at the same time, which made us both laugh but they were not laughing. They didn't like our reaction and felt we were wasting money. We told them if they have a problem with our lifestyle, they could all leave. So, they ubered to a hotel. We really didn't want them to leave just to drop the subject. So, are we idiots for telling them they could leave? UPDATE: I've texted both sets of parents and told them I'm sorry for what I said and want them to come back as I never wanted them to leave. That I know what I said about them leaving was out of line, I just wanted to drop the subject but my way about it was wrong. I told them whether they decide to come back I would like to reimburse them for the hotel rooms. 2nd UPDATE: Yeah, we just met up at a restaurant near the hotel. They didn't want to eat so we sat at the bar and talked. We told them that our finances are our business and though we told them that if they didn't like it, they could leave we were not literal when we said it. We just wanted to drop the subject. They continued that we are wasting money. We told them it is our money to waste and just bc they consider it wasting money we don't. We consider it one of the perks of our very fortunate life and it was not going to change. We told them that we appreciate their concern, but we know what we are doing, that they don't have to agree with it but it is not up for discussion or debate. We told them we would love to have them back and to enjoy the rest of the week with them but any comments or conversation about how we spend our money will not be allowed. They agreed and we are taking them to a restaurant a little off the beaten path that we know they all will love. No, they didn't apologize but we didn't expect them to.

2025-09-12 21:30:04

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for selling my family home because my pregnant sil ate my dinner

I know shitty title but I’m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it’s been in their family for over a hundred years. My brother (34) and my dad didn’t have a relationship but he did leave him 10k, my mom was pissed at the will reading but since she got 10k she couldn’t do anything about it For the past year me and her live ok together. she went on acting like it was her house like before which I had no problem with till in may my brother and his girlfriend (30) moved in (without even asking me) They’re messy entitled and rude I told them in July I want them out by September because they don’t pay for anything nor wash a dish In August they announced they were pregnant and my sil smugly said “guess we won’t be moving out now” It didnt go down well but when I told them I wanted them out my mom and brother basically laughed in my face Well the past few months have been hell they’ve become worse than before and my mom enables it than demands me to treat my sil like a princess because she’s pregnant I once had to wait outside McDonald’s till they opened to get her a McMuffin Well here were I maybe the asshole Because my sil is pregnant she eats everything she sees like the cupcakes my friend made me for my birthday she ate all six didn’t even get to try them. I can’t even make my lunch the night before because when I go to get it, it will be gone she’ll have a smug look on her face while rubbing her belly than laugh and say “I couldn’t help my self blame the baby” if I put stuff in my room my mom will open the door with the spare key sil can go through my mini fridge Well a week ago I was running late to collage I didn’t have time for my breakfast or to make lunch and I had to go to work straight after so all I had that day was a bar of chocolate when I got home I was starving I made myself dinner while it was cooling down I went to use the bathroom I must of been in there 10 minutes at most by the time I came out she had 70{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of my dinner ate and I literally lost my shit of course she started crying my mom and brother started screaming at me for making her cry making excuses like how she couldn’t help it and it was my fault for leaving food around her Well I had enough I told them get out just like before I got mocked but here’s the thing back in October my uncle offered me a life changing amount of money for the house I called him up crying a few days ago explaining the situation he said he’d buy the house but he will evict my mom and brother. They ofc didn’t take it two well and I have had to stay with a friend I’ve been receiving texts and I’m being tagged in multiple posts on social media. I’m starting to think I’m the bad person now So AITA for making my mom and brother homeless? Edit wow I expected a few comments but wow So I’m on a break I’ll address some things - some of your roasts are hilarious I honestly deserve it for how bad my grammar is but I was walking to work and declining calls from my mom while making this post I almost said fuck it and didn’t post - if I sell the house to my uncle I will lose 100k but he’s always been good to me and it’s one of those situations were I’d sleep better knowing it’s gone to someone in my dads family - my mom told me because of my age I wouldn’t be taken seriously if I tried to evict them -if I evict them and continue to live in the house along with the high financial costs I don’t think they’d ever let me live in peace - my mom has health issues and my sil will have to move in with her parents they won’t allow my brother so id be splitting up a young family in my moms words - guys I’m actually crying I’ve never been told before “I’m proud of you” and the fact I’ve seen a thread of comments telling that means the absolute world to me Edit two i plan to meet a lawyer and will update you all as soon as I’ve news also since people are curious the house is worth 2.5 million its in the heart of London

2025-09-26 19:16:50

Clara Jensen

Relationships

AITA for refusing to let my ex-husband's wife homeschool my children?

I (31f) share two children (9m & 8f) with my ex-husband Aaron (35m). Aaron's cheating ended our marriage and before long he had moved in with Nicole (34f) and her children (11, 10, 8 and 6). Aaron and Nicole have a 2 year old together and they're expecting another child. Even before Aaron and Nicole met she homeschooled her children. While my kids attend public school. This was mentioned as a problem before they were even married but I ignored them. Now this has come up again and they are being a thorn in my side about it. Nicole said it is unfair for her children to see mine go to school while hers do not. She told me her kids have become jealous and it's causing issues for her parenting and for her and Aaron's family. I told her this was not my problem and she needed to figure out how to manage that. As that is the life of blended families. Not everything will be the same or equal for the kids from different marriages. Aaron asked me to homeschool a few times and I told him I would not entertain the idea. He even asked the kids who were worried when they came to me about it. They didn't want to leave their friends and teachers and they didn't want to stay home all day like Nicole's kids. I reassured them I would not be saying yes to homeschooling for them. Now Nicole and Aaron are on a mission to make me agree to Nicole homeschooling my kids alongside hers. Apparently they have the 2 year old started into some form of pre-k homeschooling and they feel it's only fair for my kids to join in too. I said no. I even had my lawyer send their lawyer a letter officially stating my position on this. My lawyer has also documented everything. They asked their lawyer to take this back to court and get a judge to overrule me but their lawyer told them this would not go in their favor. My ex was so unhappy about it that he told me all of this and it gave me the chance to document that also. Now they're claiming I don't have a good reason to refuse other than to disrupt their home and to keep Nicole from playing a bigger role in the lives of my children. And to prevent sibling bonding between Nicole's kids and mine. I told them I have many reasons to say no and they just need to accept it. I stopped replying after this. But since school ended for the summer I have been inundated with pressure from them over this. They are worried that I'll send them to school in September as planned. Which will happen. I feel like the kids wanting to go to school should also count and I told Aaron this before.

2025-10-13 19:06:57

Elise Dubois

Lifestyle

AITA for having the habit of making a party out of "chore day" - drinking, dancing around, music on, etc...

I like to take one day a month to do a deep clean of my home, and catch up on any chores or repairs that need to be done. It used to be stuff that I always put off and let build up, until I figured out a way to make it fun and a nice night in for myself. I'd make myself some fancy cocktails, put on some music, and spend the night doing chores and maintenance when dancing and singing along. It's actually made chore night something I look forward to, I have a really mentally demanding desk job so a night of working with my hands, getting up to dance around and sing, and yes getting tipsy and clearing my mind... It's nice. And it makes my living space so much nicer, when I take the time to deep clean, to mend things, to decorate and organize, to purge old belongings, etc... I'm not getting drunk alone at home regularly, this is literally just something I do one Friday or Saturday night a month. I've done it every place I've lived since college, three apartments, and now the house i share with my boyfriend. It actually started at my first apartment out of college when my roommates and I would have a monthly "chore party" that was genuinely fun. And it's been causing some problems at home. I don't expect my boyfriend to join me for chore nights; he does his own chores on his own time so that's not an issue. What he objects to is that I'm getting tipsy and dancing or singing during chore nights,he thinks I'm too tipsy to be doing a good job and if you're gonna do a chore you might as well do it right. But in my opinion, if I don't do these chores they won't be done at all. My boyfriend doesn't do deep-cleaning or mending regularly, he lets stuff build up more, and is more likely to throw something away than try and mend or fix it. And I think if it's up to me to do them, it's better to do them imperfectly, but make it pleasant enough that it gets done at all... Then not do them. Who cares if I mend a blanket a little sloppily if he would have just thrown it out? Who cares if I miss a spot scrubbing the oven if he would have just not deep cleaned the oven at all? Etc... It's been an argument a couple times, like he told me this week that it's childish that I can't even do my chores without drinking during them, which I thought was unfair, I do all my daily / weekly chores sober and normally, is it that bad that I have a once-monthly tradition of having a cleaning party? AITA for wanting to have a once-monthly night in where I get tipsy and sing and dance and do chores? Rather than doing those chores all quiet and sober.

2025-09-04 16:58:14

Clara Jensen