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AITA for laughing in my mother's friends face when she told me to 'go to my room'?
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AITA for laughing in my mother's friends face when she told me to 'go to my room'?

I (25,F) don't speak to my mother, like at all. I had to go to my mother's house today to pick up an important document that I left behind when I moved out seven years ago. As soon as I got to the house, my mother suddenly had a massive 'emergency' and realised that it was apparently her friend's funeral today and she completely forgot about it. I couldn't help but internally roll my eyes, as there is always some drama hence why I have gone no/very low contact. She asked me if I would watch my two younger brothers (7 and 11) whilst she went to the funeral, and I said absolutely not, as it's my only day off, I have plans, and I have no relationship with them due to my mother stopping them from seeing me for years. I just wanted to get my birth certificate and leave. My mother asked her friend if she would babysit and asked me to stay for 10 minutes until her friend came. I didn't even get the opportunity to say no before my mother left the house. I was seething but resolved to wait 10 minutes. My mother's friend turned up and started berating me for not agreeing to look after my brother's whilst my mother went to the funeral. I said 'I don't have anything to do with my mother, it's my day off work, and I'm under no obligation to look after anyone else's children'. My mother's friend then told me to 'go to my room'. I laughed in her face and started to leave the house, and she asked me where I was going. And I told her, 'my room, at my apartment, that I pay for with my big girl job. Because I'm an adult, not a child. And don't ever speak down to me like that again'. And I left. My mother has left me loads of messages and missed calls saying I'm an AH for the way I spoke to her friend. I do admit I look kinda young but I still am not happy with the way my mother's friend spoke to me. AITA?

Anya Petrova
AITA for laughing in my MILs face?
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AITA for laughing in my MILs face?

Husband and I were financially well off in 2019. Shit turned sour in 2020 when I became jobless after having to homeschool our kids. Couldn't afford the rent. We got evicted 6 months later. My MIL, who offered us two bedrooms, backed out as soon as we became homeless and we ended up living out of our van for 4 months with our kids before a homeless shelter opened up. During said time MIL had very little contact with us. SIL was also tense from us asking to come to her house to shower, despite us offering payment. We were looked at like we were scum because we were over the age of 30, had 3 kids and didn't have our shit together. We were told how we were going about life all wrong and that if we had planned better we wouldn't be in the situation. Coming from SIL mostly, who was given her house after her father died and hadn't paid taxes in 4 years. Fast forward, we were able to get back in our feet times ten. We built a house from scratch with our kids and gained a shit ton of experience for all of us. It came out perfect. The kids are ecstatic because they built their own house. We are happier than ever. We even started our own business. We did this together, without help from any of his family despite their promises and I will admit that I grew a nasty taste in my mouth about the whole lot of them, despite the end result turning out the way it did. Well, MIL is down and out currently. She was moved to PT employment due to her slow paced work style, her retirement was taken away apparently after the government stripped it from them and will likely be evicted soon, as she has already received two notices and a lease termination letter. She came here yesterday afternoon and asked us if she could stay here if she became evicted. I will admit that my first reaction was to outright laugh at her and her audacity. She looked immediately offended and uncomfortable, especially after I stated there wasn't a chance of that happening. My husband just stood beside me with his arms crossed, glaring at his mother- as he is very resentful of her allowing her grandchildren to live out of a van and homeless shelter after promises had already been made. Anyways, she left crying after saying the situation was entirely different. SIL however called us later and said that we were "fucking trash" for not allowing her soon to be evicted, elderly mother to move in. My only response was that a nursing home just opened up down the street and she can go there. However, a few friends say it was kind of mean. AITA?

Elise Dubois
AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?
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AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?

I have seen a similar post here, however I have a slightly different issue. I (42f) live outside the big city together with my husband (50) and my daughter (14f). Our house is located further away from most of the houses in the neighbourhood as we also run an equine center. The center is not big and mainly for private clients stabling 18 horses, most of which are quite pricey. My daughters horses are also stabled there. The house, the yard, the fieldsand the arena are on the same territory which is fenced up. Because of this and my husband going to work in the city and my daughter going to school there, I'm often left alone to look after the yard and make sure it is running. We also have staff members that look after the stables and horses and instructors teaching people how to ride, but as I said it is private so the owners normally need to make sure they call us before coming so their horses are ready and to avoid too many people. We only provide services to the people who stable their horses at our place and don't run a riding school since all the horses are private. Also some yard staff also live on top of the stables (there's residential area with kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and TV). Some of my daughters friends also have their own horses which are stabled there, so sometimes they can stay over at ours over the weekends or holidays. Because of all the above and alongside with security cameras, we also have 4 guard dogs (causasian and middle Asian shepards) which we let roam free on the territory during night or when we don't have a lot of owners around. The dogs are familiar with all the kids (my daughter and her friends), the owners and the members of staff working at the yard, in fact they are very friendly to them. However they are guard dogs so they are ready to protect the property. One of the neighbours kids became notorious at trying to climb over the fence to look at the horses, even after multiple warnings not to do that. On Friday they have managed to get through during the evening, so our dogs cornered them and didn't let them move. I have only find out about it after hearing police sirens coming to the property. Apparently they were cornered for a while and since the dogs won't let them out, their mother had to call the police. I took the dogs away so the kids could go and the police officer said I did nothing wrong, since guard dogs are allowed. But the mother has tried to pull the card how traumatised the kids are and the dogs should be taken care of and I laughed and reminded her they have been warned multiple times. She started spreading the rumours and they made it to the local newspaper saying I'm the asshole.

Luca Moretti
AITA-He made “jokes” at me all day. I made one back and now he’s sulking
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AITA-He made “jokes” at me all day. I made one back and now he’s sulking

My hubby kept making jokes at me all day yesterday. I felt more like they were digs and after the first few I pulled him on it. For example we finished an episode of our show and then I said I was going to go clean the house. He said “that will make a change” and started laughing. I do literally all the housework so I wasn’t impressed but let it go. Anyways fast forward to the evening after a whole day of this (jokes about me as a wife/mother), he sends me this dating joke about how if you’re looking to date a woman with a sense of humour you’re SOL since they don’t exist. I said “reallly?” He replied I only just proved his point, that I had no sense of humour. Fed up I replied “well I must do, since I married you and you’re a whole feckin joke.” Now he’s been sulking and barely talking to me. Did I take it too far? AITA? If so I will apologize. Tl;dr- hubby made jokes all day. I made one back but may have taken it too far.

Clara Jensen
AITA for “ruining Christmas” and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were “joke gifts”
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AITA for “ruining Christmas” and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were “joke gifts”

Some background, my family likes to play pranks with Christmas and birthday gifts it’s nothing new. I (f21) as well as my 5 siblings (from 29 to 37 years old) have all been pranked on our birthdays and on Christmas and usually it’s one or two gifts. This Christmas though, I was the only person to get all joke gifts. For example, I unwrapped a MacBook from my brother, but when I opened it, it was just some chocolate (which I don’t eat so I gave it away) and the MacBook was actually given to my sister inside a bag she wanted. Another “gift” was what I thought was a book I put on my Christmas list was actually just the book cover put on a dictionary. When I asked my mom about the book she told me she gave it to my Sil This went on with each present my siblings or parents had given me. AirPods was just a charger block? Adapter? gift cards were used and had $0 balance, a card with Monopoly money, and so on totaling to about 12 joke gifts. I realized I went out of my way to get everyone something they wanted or they’d like didn’t get anything. At this point i was bummed so I went to the living room to watch tv with my boyfriend. At dinner they were all talking about how much they loved their gifts and when my dad asked why I hadn’t said anything about mine, I said there wasn’t much to say. Everyone but my boyfriend laughed and my mom said it was no big deal as everyone else also got some joke gifts. I told her every gift I got was a joke gifts and that the ones they got was also followed by the real one. My dad told me I needed to relax as I’m making a big deal about it and I’d have next Christmas to get the stuff on my list. Not wanting to go back and forth i told my boyfriend I wanted to leave and we can spend the rest of Christmas break with his family then go home. My family got mad and told me not to go and to just stay because it wasn’t serious. I left and put my phone on do not disturb during the drive and by the time we got to bf’s parent’s house, I had several missed calls and texts from them calling me names like ungrateful, sensitive, and childish. They said I ruined Christmas and made my parents upset cause I left. The next day, I exchanged and opened gifts with my boyfriend and his family and one of the gifts I had gotten was the book I wanted (the book my mom pretended to gift me). I posted it on my instagram story and not even 0 minutes after posting it, my sister sent a screenshot of my story to the family group chat and they basically got mad at me for leaving and telling me I ruined Christmas over some presents. They told me I owe everyone, especially my parents, an apology because my mom spent new years sad because of my actions. Now I just want an outside party to tell me if I’m TA here? Am I in the wrong for being upset about the gifts and for leaving? After reading their messages and sitting on this for a few days I’m now feeling like maybe I was upset over nothing and need to apologize to them. *Gonna edit as there may have been some misunderstanding, my Christmas list didn’t include expensive gifts nor was I upset I didn’t receive expensive gifts. I was merely upset because of being pranked with everything I got and being the only person who didn’t get a real present that is all. Another thing I’ll address is I dint do anything to my family which would warrant them doing this. The last “big argument” I had was with my sister which was over a year and a half ago. Thank you for the replies and I will try my best to reply to comments while I’m at work. Editing once more to add I participated in joke gifts when I was a kid, haven’t participated in the last 10+ years because I didn’t enjoy it or find if funny (which thy do know). I will reply with more info if needed when I’m on break or have time to reply. - and I am familiar with the term scapegoat but truthfully don’t fully understand so I will research that as well.

Anya Petrova
AITA for not allowing my sister-in-law back in my home after she found out a family member was dying, caused my cat’s disappearance, and laughed about it?
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AITA for not allowing my sister-in-law back in my home after she found out a family member was dying, caused my cat’s disappearance, and laughed about it?

Right before lockdown, I invited my brother and his wife (my sister-in-law) over for dinner. We’d just gotten a new cat who was skittish and still adjusting. We made a little “nest” for the cat in our laundry room. The room has an exterior door which we keep closed and locked 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of the time - the cat loved the laundry room because of the warmth and the darkness/quiet. I introduced my sister-in-law to the cat, then we went to have dinner in the dining room. My sister-in-law got a distressing call from someone on her side of the family about a dying relative. She was upset. She went into the laundry room to take the call. Upon hearing the news that the family member was about to receive last rites, she unlocked the exterior door and went outside to get fresh air, leaving the door wide open. Our cat darted out the door. We haven’t seen him since. My children were heartbroken at the loss of their cat. At first, I was in a place of just chalking it up to “that’s life” - after all, my sister-in-law had just received a very upsetting call, and I didn’t blame her for having a strong emotional reaction. But a few months into lockdown, she started making jokes about the incident. She laughed it off when I asked her to stop because the loss of our cat was upsetting. The jokes have continued, and I’ve made the decision that she won’t be welcome in our household until she apologizes for joking about the incident. My brother is pretty mortified but says he “doesn’t want to get in the middle of it.” My kids don’t really care one way or the other because they’re not a huge fan of her. She’s started complaining to other family members though, so I have to know: Reddit, AITA for banning her from the household until she apologizes for her jokes?

Anya Petrova
AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.
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AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.

I'm a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the "rah rah I'm AmErIkUa! best in the world" attitude. You go America. You have a lot to be proud of. And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the "Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!" "Joke". FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent. Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans. Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not. So the other day a neighbor did the "joke" again "Bet you can't wait to be the 51st state!" and I said "that can not happen in my lifetime" he looked puzzled so I added "Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen." He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head. I know he wasn't intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it... that's just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

Anya Petrova
AITA for kicking relatives out with nowhere to go over a religious joke?
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AITA for kicking relatives out with nowhere to go over a religious joke?

Throwaway account. Myself (F48), husband (47) and our two daughters (16 and 14) are Jewish. While we will very occasionally go to services because my mother is the queen of guilting you to into it, we are really not very religious at all. Mainly more spiritual. Most of the time we celebrate the holidays hanging out with family at home with a big meal. That’s how we like it. I *guess* you could say we are reform. Husbands cousin and his family are staying with us this month while their home is under renovation. They are much more conservative than us and honestly, it’s been getting frustrating. They act very entitled. The girls don’t like their two boys who are roughly the same age because they tried to treat them like servants. We nipped that in the bud quickly but cousin and his wife seemed almost annoyed. There’s been a few other things nuanced to the culture we’ve clashed about; but the point here is that we do not get along. It’s Yom Kippur right now; fasting and atoning mainly. The attitude toward fasting in my house is you do you. That was a major source of irritation for them, but tough. However, this morning my eldest discovered her sister in the process of eating the last everything bagel, which she wanted. She said “oh you’re gonna atone for that!” and the two of them started playfully fighting. They had me in stitches- until cousin stormed in a screamed at us till he was red in the face for making a mockery of a holy day. I couldn’t get a word in and the girls were in tears when he was done. They’re done staying here as far as husband and I are concerned. We told them to pack up and head for a hotel. However, we’re getting immense pressure from family to let them stay, and guilt is starting to creep in. AITA if we do this? Edit for some info people have been asking for- So; the differences we’ve clashed over have been mainly things like keeping kosher (we don’t have pork and that’s pretty much it) and that we do not observe the Sabbath. The house is undergoing pretty extensive reno. They have very limited space. We are the closest family; hence why we took them in. Finally, regarding my girls- They have not been disrespectful, once. They made it clear that they would NOT be doing things for cousins kids they were capable of doing themselves just because they were girls. This morning, cousins family was streaming services in the basement. Eldest daughter made her joke, put her sister in a very light headlock and gave her some noogies. I was laughing, younger daughter was chuckling while pretending to bite her sister. I have never allowed them to make jokes about cousins family being more observant. The way my eldest explained it, her joke was towards the whole holiday. Cousin stood in the doorway screaming- I couldn’t calm him down for quite a while.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for charging an “entry fee” for a family dinner on April 1st, leading my aunt to think it was an April Fool’s joke?
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AITA for charging an “entry fee” for a family dinner on April 1st, leading my aunt to think it was an April Fool’s joke?

I (26F) am the go-to host for family dinners, and I usually enjoy it. But my aunt (55F) has a frustrating habit: she shows up uninvited with extra guests like friends or random relatives without telling me. It’s happened too many times, leaving me to stretch food and space on the spot. I’ve asked her nicely to give me a heads-up, but she just says, “Family should be spontaneous,” and ignores me. With today being March 31st, I’m hosting a family dinner tomorrow, April 1st, for my parents’ anniversary. Knowing my aunt will likely crash it with extras, I decided to try something new. Last week, I sent a group message saying that because hosting costs keep rising (and the guest list keeps growing), I’m asking each adult to chip in $10 to cover expenses. I figured this was a fair way to handle it without pointing fingers. Tomorrow’s the big day, but I can already picture it: my aunt will roll up with three unannounced friends. When I ask for the $10 contributions at the door, she’ll probably laugh and say, “Oh, great April Fool’s joke!” I’ll have to explain it’s not a prank and that it’s about respect and planning, especially since she keeps doing this. I’m betting she’ll get mad, call me “stingy,” and storm off, which has happened before when I’ve set boundaries. The family’s already split. Some think I should let it slide since it’s a special occasion (and tomorrow’s April Fool’s Day might confuse things), while others say I’m right to stand my ground. I’m worried my aunt will spin it as me pulling a “mean prank” if she takes it the wrong way.

Anya Petrova
AITA for laughing at my friend for being a bad dad?
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AITA for laughing at my friend for being a bad dad?

So I'm playing poker with a few friends last night. Most of them are dads. We're all in our 30s. This friend of mine has a 3 month old. He's a weird guy in general (I've known him forever, he's never been giving; ie, tipping 5{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} when we go out, asking to split the check with his girlfriends on their birthdays, etc). I should also say that he is semi-employed, sets his own hours, and works from home. Anyway, I ask him how fatherhood is treating him, and he said great. I said, isn't it hard to get sleep with a newborn? And he said "my wife deals with night time. I sleep through the night." Another friend asked him what that meant -- he said "I need to sleep because I have work." And I said "but don't most dads help out at night?" and he said "I can't. I need to be rested for work" -- at this point, all the dads --- who have full time jobs, unlike my friend -- are laughing and saying things like "yeah, so do I. But I'm not sleeping!" So I say "but isn't your wife kind of working all the time herself?" and he again says "I have to work in the morning" and I just break out laughing. Like I can't stop. He looks at me like "WTF" and I say "dude, you can't help your wife at night? Like change a diaper?" and then he seemed to get mad and said "I have to sleep to be ready to work in the morning!" Anyway, am I the asshole for laughing at him? His wife is a little meek, so she'd definitely never say anything to him, but I'm kind of glad we all made fun of him for not helping his wife at night? EDIT: they don't have an arrangement where he helps out during the day

Jonas Bergström
AITA for embarrassing my FIL after I repeatedly asked him to explain his joke to me?
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AITA for embarrassing my FIL after I repeatedly asked him to explain his joke to me?

I (27F) used to be an ''*escort*'' (h\*oker) from 18 until I was 23, I'm not proud of it but I also don't give a fuck because I did what I had to do to keep studying and a roof over my head. That's how I met my now fiancé (37M) tho he was never my client. We began to date when I was 25 and three or four months after that his BIL ''exposed me'' (no idea how he found out) because *there's no way my fiancé knew* and thus we had to come clean in front of his whole family. Yes I did that. Yes he knows. Yes he doesn't care. It was 2 years ago (at that time), we got over it. After that there was a span of 3-4 months in were my MIL and some of my fiancés aunts and cousin ''police'' their husband when I was around, it was really weird tbh because this dudes were like 40-60yo and I wasn't that desperate, so my fiancé shut their bullshit hard and even when his family still gives me the side eye from time to time, we thought it was behind us. He proposed last year and five months ago we found out that I was pregnant, we were really happy about it and we told his family as soon as we knew. His sisters and young brother were happy for us, but his mom took me aside and *begged* me to be honest with her and asked if this was really my fiancés child, I was taken aback but I just rolled my eyes and said yes, she gave me some shitty speech about how ''she only wanted to make sure'' and that ''she was happy to be a grandmother''. Well, last weekend we were at his parents with his family and some of his friendsand we were talking about the name, how he might look (small talk, we will love him regardless but there's always some ''*Oh I hope he gets your nose!*'' ''*mmh I like your eyes, I hope he gets them*'' comments) and my FIL said that he and his children have a birthmark in the inner tight and that even his grandchildren (one of my SIL's kids) got them, so our baby might too, and then he said ''But how can we know from who he got it? it may as well be from me, my boy or my brothers'' and he and his brothers began to laugh. My fiancé got mad and before he could say anything I said ''I don't get it'' and my FIL was ''yeah because it runs in the family'' and I said again ''I don't get it, why would he get it from you?'' and he began to get nervous and said ''because you know... it's just a joke OP'' and I said ''but I don't get it and you all laughed, explain'' it got to the point that some of his friends said ''hey, it's not funny'' so he he excused himself and left. Later my fiancé's BIL came to me and said that I was wrong for embarrassing him like that in his own house and that I knew what the joke was about and *because of my past*, I shouldn't be surprised. Now they're all demanding that I apologize to my FIL.

Anya Petrova
AITA for saying the same jokes my FIL uses to give him a piece of his own medicine.
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AITA for saying the same jokes my FIL uses to give him a piece of his own medicine.

My FIL humor can be quite cruel at times. He always seems to take jokes way to far or will make jokes about people's appearances. Like calling people dumbo ears, or poking jokes at their size/weight. It's not a good time and many people have tried to get him to stop. But he thinks that he is being hilarious and its all in good fun. So this happened at the NEw Years get together with the family. He started doing the jokes and everyone just trying to get through the night. Well, he got to me and I wasn't having it tonight. He made one joke about my nose so I started to lay into him using his jokes. I used most of his weight jokes, poked fun at his beer belly, used the jokes about dumbo ears and hooked noses. I used as many as I could remember. He was quite upset about it in the end and I told him this is how all of us feel everytime you make these jokes. Today I got a text from my MIL and SIL that I took it too far and that I'm an ass. SO AITA

Jonas Bergström
AITAH for telling my sister she can't live with us anymore after she called CPS on me as a "joke"?
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AITAH for telling my sister she can't live with us anymore after she called CPS on me as a "joke"?

I (30F) need to know if I'm being too harsh here because my family is completely divided. My younger sister (26F) moved in with my husband (32M) and me about four months ago after she lost her job. We have a toddler and a baby, so it's been hectic, but we wanted to help her get back on her feet. She was supposed to stay for two months max while job hunting. Here's where it gets messy. Last week, I asked her to watch the kids for an hour while I ran to the pharmacy. When I got back, she was on her phone while my toddler had gotten into the pantry and made a huge mess with flour everywhere. I'll admit, I lost my temper and told her she needs to actually WATCH them when she agrees to babysit. She got defensive and said I was being ungrateful for "free childcare" (reminder: she lives here rent-free). We argued, and I told her if she can't do the bare minimum to help out, she needs to start looking for her own place. Two days later, CPS showed up at my door. The worker said they received a report that I was "overwhelmed and potentially neglecting my children." I was MORTIFIED. After they left (finding nothing wrong, obviously), my sister started laughing and said she called them to "teach me a lesson about being ungrateful" and that it was "just a prank." I told her to pack her stuff and get out. Now. She's been staying with our parents, who are FURIOUS with me. They say she made a stupid mistake but she's family and I'm overreacting. They keep saying she was just stressed about being unemployed and lashed out. My mom even said I'm "ruining her life" over a joke gone wrong. My husband backs me 100% and says what she did was unforgivable. But now half my extended family isn't speaking to me, and my mom calls daily crying about how I'm tearing the family apart. My aunt even posted on Facebook about how "some people forget where they came from" (clearly about me). The thing is, I keep second-guessing myself. She IS my sister, and she's never done anything like this before. But I can't get over the fact that she weaponized CPS against me. That's not a joke. That could have had serious consequences for my family. AITA for kicking her out and refusing to let her come back?

Elise Dubois
AITA for hiding embarrassing notes in my house as a joke because I know my fiance's mom snoops?
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AITA for hiding embarrassing notes in my house as a joke because I know my fiance's mom snoops?

I bought a house seven years ago and I met my fiance, Al, four years ago. This year he moved in. We're talking about making it a home for both of us. But as of now, he hasn't moved much stuff in, right now 95% of the stuff and furniture in the house is mine. When his mom comes over, she's kind of a snoop. He was used to that, but when she comes to our house, it's so uncomfortable because she's just going through my shit. When I am bothered, she's like "I was just helping with chores" etc. He says I should just let her because she has "a lot of nervous energy." One thing she snooped on was actually embarrassing. In my home office, I had a little "affirmation" post it note on my monitor saying "I am smart, I am skilled, I am deserving of great things." It was a silly thing my therapist recommended to get me in a confident mindset before an interview. Anyway, she made a comment to about my ego. But as a joke, I decided to do it again. I had my best friend over and we got wine drunk and wrote a bunch of "affirmations" to hide. Some were: Medicine cabinet: My teeth will regrow! I am sharklike and powerful! Kitchen drawers: I know when to spoon, but I also know when to fork! I am sexy and self assured! Work desk: I will not just fuck my way to the top of the company, I will fuck my way to the top of the world! Walk in closet: I am beautiful with clothes and without! Especially without! My boobs are legendary! There were a bunch more, and my friend and I had a hilarious time writing them. Next time my MIL came over she saw a few. And she didn't acknowledge them to me even though she definitely started acting a little weird about me. I went to run some errands and when I was out, she confronted Al about the notes and was trying to tell him that I seemed unstable, egotistical, and moving in was a bad idea. She showed him the notes and he didn't really know what to make of it. He asked me and I said that they were just some silly private notes to boost my self confidence and make myself laugh; how had she gotten them? Had she been going through my things? He said she was just tidying, and saw them. And they were real weird. I was like 'have you met me? You should know how weird I am. Anyway if you don't want your mom seeing my weird shit you've got to stop letting her go through my shit.' He asked if I left them on purpose to annoy her, and I admitted that was kinda the joke, but I also have other weird or private shit so what I said about her needing to stop snooping if she didn't want to find weird crap was still for real. He said I was making stuff hard for him, his mom was really protective and adjusting to him moving in with a girlfriend for the first time, and I was agitating her on purpose and making her think I wouldn't be a good partner, when he wanted her to have the opposite impression of me!

Clara Jensen
AITAH for Laughing at My Sister-in-Law After She Secretly DNA Tested My Daughter
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AITAH for Laughing at My Sister-in-Law After She Secretly DNA Tested My Daughter

I 30 M, have a daughter who's 6. I am not biologically related to her *at all*. There is no blood relation between us. I was friends with her mother for most all of my childhood. We were never involved romantically and were always just friends. She had her daughter at 23 with her 25 year old husband. When my daughter was a newborn (About 3 months technically) both her mother and father were k**led. I won't go into too much detail for privacy reasons, but it was workplace shooting. My friend and her husband had worked in the same building, and were both k**led. Both my friend and her husband had grown up with less than ideal families and didn't have any siblings so there wasn't any "next of kin" for their daughter to go to. However, because I was close with them I was able to adopt her. Even though I had been iffy about the idea of kids I didn't want their daughter to grow up in foster care or around people who didn't have a connection to her bio parents so I stepped in. My parents and siblings know that my daughter is not my actual daughter biologically speaking. ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

Clara Jensen
AITAH for laughing at ex and his new wife when they suggested to change my son's school
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AITAH for laughing at ex and his new wife when they suggested to change my son's school

I have a 10 year old son Tyler with my ex. I have primary custody and he gets him on weekends. We had co-parented well so far. I am from Asia, where private schools are only good mode of education. I decided not to marry till my son is gone to college. I am a banker, so I earn well for both of us and the child support I get, I put it in his savings. I also pay for his private school which costs a lot, but I can afford it. My ex got married to Lyla last year and she brought two kids. One is ten and in the same grade as my son. The second is eight. My son already feels his father has taken away their one-on-one time with the other children, as most activities are group activities. And he gives zero time to his son alone. The stepmom also tries to parent him and he hates it. Kids are cordial but don't see each others as siblings. So this weekend, the ex and his wife invited me to dinner. I went, and after dinner, they told the kids to go to the room to have a discussion with me. They said they can't afford the same private school for the other kids. And for equality of the kids, they need to pull my son out of school. They told how beneficial it will be for the elder stepkid and my son to be in the same school and class. I was pissed. I told them their financial issues aren't my problem and I am not changing my son's school. They doubled down, but I stood firm and took my son back. Since then, they are blaming that I want their family to fail and how my son doesn't talk to the other kids much. I told them developing the relationship between the kids is the ex's job, not mine. I don't badmouth them or the other kids, but I don't see it as my responsibility to grow their relation on his dad's side. Second, if the father is going to put his new kids over his own, it is what is leading to Tyler being distant with the other kids. They are calling me an asshole, and his new wife said to me that for Tyler, she isn't going to deny her kids a father. I told her that she is no less than an evil stepmonster.

Jonas Bergström
AITA For laughing and saying "sounds about right" when my brother and sister-in-law told me how exhausted they are with my out-of-control niece?
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AITA For laughing and saying "sounds about right" when my brother and sister-in-law told me how exhausted they are with my out-of-control niece?

My brother "Ron" and sister-in-law "Jen" have spoiled their daughter "Alice" rotten since she was a newborn. Since Alice was a toddler, everyone in the family has told Ron and Jen they need to teach Alice boundaries, but they insist they're the ones in charge of Alice I often babysat Alice when she was young. I would tell Ron and Jen that Alice was not behaving, and they would respond by shaming me for not getting Alice exactly what she wanted or "pushing her so hard" because I told her to pick up the toys she threw on the floor. (Note: Alice was seven when this happened.) Eventually, I refused to babysit Alice and they insist I was being a bad aunt because I was "expecting so many adult things from a baby." Ron and Jen did all of Alice's homework and class projects for her. They frantically called me one night because the math tutor canceled and Alice's homework had a pre-calculus question that they weren't sure how to do the work for. I sent them the work for it that one time, but after that, I would refuse to. Alice is now seventeen and completely out of control. She screams, curses, and flips off her parents until she gets her own way. She is unlicensed and dented Ron's car several times when stealing it for joyrides. She has stolen both Ron and Jen's wallets for shopping sprees. They have caught Alice partying, drinking, vaping, and sneaking out to boys' houses. She has gotten even worse since her junior year. Ron and Jen still do her projects or pay others to do them, but the material is now too specific for Ron and Jen to understand without class notes (which Alice isn't taking for them.) Alice did not pass her junior year, and she is angry because now all her friends are doing senior things that she can’t join in on. Ron and Jen called me the other night to tell me how exhausted they were because Alice was illegally driving again and they had to beg an officer not to send Alice to juvie. They talked about how wild **all** teens are and they're not sure where their sweet little girl went. I thought that last part was a joke and a laugh slipped out before I could stop myself. Ron got angry and asked what I thought was funny. I apologized for laughing, but I responded that Alice's behavior sounded about right because did they expect Alice to just magically become responsible and well-behaved when they have always rewarded her bad behavior? Ron and Jen started to yell at me, but I hung up. Many of my friends and family members said Ron and Jen are only angry because they didn't like hearing the truth. But most of the family is saying I have no idea how hard it is to be a parent, much less have a child like Alice. And even though the laugh slipped, I was cruel to respond to Ron and Jen that way knowing how exhausted they are. Now I'm conflicted about if I was being a dick to my exhausted brother and sister-in-law. AITA?

Luca Moretti
AITA for turning my Step-mom and my Dad laughing stock in front of the whole family?
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AITA for turning my Step-mom and my Dad laughing stock in front of the whole family?

Recently my dad and my step-mom "Sarah" decided to renew their vows since they both cheated on their partners they feel the wedding experience was ruined for them. They wanted a small together at their house to discuss some plans with the whole family, my wife(25f) and I(30M) informed them that we couldn't make it because my wife had to attend an engagement party with my mom(52F) but they insisted that my wife and my mom come directly to their house after their party. My wife is Indian so she dressed up in her traditional attire and my made my mom wear it too because she really wanted to wear a saree and they both looked gorgeous so when they arrived at the everyone(my dad's side of the family and Sarah's friends) were fawning over them and if I'm not wrong some of my Sarah's male friends were hitting on my mom. We were just hanging around the living room area when I saw my twin sons(4M) starting a fight because when one of them has something the other one gets jealous so I ran to put a stop to them because they might break it when I went there I saw Sarah and my dad just sitting on the sofa so I asked them what happened and they told me they feel the attention has been shifted from them (I knew they meant my wife and my mom) while they were telling me this my twins started fighting again so I said "Boys if you don't stop getting jealous of each other like your grandfather and Sarah iI will put all 4 of you in time-out" some of my dad and Sarah's friends heard it and started laughing and soon it became a laughing matter, it died down when they announced they were renewing their vows and everything so the dinner went well and we left. The next day I get a call from both my dad and Sarah telling me how much of an asshole I was and how I made them a laughing stock in front of everyone so I told them I wouldn't have done it if they hadn't acted like children. I have been getting texts from my brothers saying I was an asshole for ruining their day. So Reddit, AITA

Luca Moretti