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AITA for laughing in my mother's friends face when she told me to 'go to my room'?
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AITA for laughing in my mother's friends face when she told me to 'go to my room'?

I (25,F) don't speak to my mother, like at all. I had to go to my mother's house today to pick up an important document that I left behind when I moved out seven years ago. As soon as I got to the house, my mother suddenly had a massive 'emergency' and realised that it was apparently her friend's funeral today and she completely forgot about it. I couldn't help but internally roll my eyes, as there is always some drama hence why I have gone no/very low contact. She asked me if I would watch my two younger brothers (7 and 11) whilst she went to the funeral, and I said absolutely not, as it's my only day off, I have plans, and I have no relationship with them due to my mother stopping them from seeing me for years. I just wanted to get my birth certificate and leave. My mother asked her friend if she would babysit and asked me to stay for 10 minutes until her friend came. I didn't even get the opportunity to say no before my mother left the house. I was seething but resolved to wait 10 minutes. My mother's friend turned up and started berating me for not agreeing to look after my brother's whilst my mother went to the funeral. I said 'I don't have anything to do with my mother, it's my day off work, and I'm under no obligation to look after anyone else's children'. My mother's friend then told me to 'go to my room'. I laughed in her face and started to leave the house, and she asked me where I was going. And I told her, 'my room, at my apartment, that I pay for with my big girl job. Because I'm an adult, not a child. And don't ever speak down to me like that again'. And I left. My mother has left me loads of messages and missed calls saying I'm an AH for the way I spoke to her friend. I do admit I look kinda young but I still am not happy with the way my mother's friend spoke to me. AITA?

Anya Petrova
AITA for laughing in my MILs face?
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AITA for laughing in my MILs face?

Husband and I were financially well off in 2019. Shit turned sour in 2020 when I became jobless after having to homeschool our kids. Couldn't afford the rent. We got evicted 6 months later. My MIL, who offered us two bedrooms, backed out as soon as we became homeless and we ended up living out of our van for 4 months with our kids before a homeless shelter opened up. During said time MIL had very little contact with us. SIL was also tense from us asking to come to her house to shower, despite us offering payment. We were looked at like we were scum because we were over the age of 30, had 3 kids and didn't have our shit together. We were told how we were going about life all wrong and that if we had planned better we wouldn't be in the situation. Coming from SIL mostly, who was given her house after her father died and hadn't paid taxes in 4 years. Fast forward, we were able to get back in our feet times ten. We built a house from scratch with our kids and gained a shit ton of experience for all of us. It came out perfect. The kids are ecstatic because they built their own house. We are happier than ever. We even started our own business. We did this together, without help from any of his family despite their promises and I will admit that I grew a nasty taste in my mouth about the whole lot of them, despite the end result turning out the way it did. Well, MIL is down and out currently. She was moved to PT employment due to her slow paced work style, her retirement was taken away apparently after the government stripped it from them and will likely be evicted soon, as she has already received two notices and a lease termination letter. She came here yesterday afternoon and asked us if she could stay here if she became evicted. I will admit that my first reaction was to outright laugh at her and her audacity. She looked immediately offended and uncomfortable, especially after I stated there wasn't a chance of that happening. My husband just stood beside me with his arms crossed, glaring at his mother- as he is very resentful of her allowing her grandchildren to live out of a van and homeless shelter after promises had already been made. Anyways, she left crying after saying the situation was entirely different. SIL however called us later and said that we were "fucking trash" for not allowing her soon to be evicted, elderly mother to move in. My only response was that a nursing home just opened up down the street and she can go there. However, a few friends say it was kind of mean. AITA?

Elise Dubois
AITAH for telling my sister she can't live with us anymore after she called CPS on me as a "joke"?
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AITAH for telling my sister she can't live with us anymore after she called CPS on me as a "joke"?

I (30F) need to know if I'm being too harsh here because my family is completely divided. My younger sister (26F) moved in with my husband (32M) and me about four months ago after she lost her job. We have a toddler and a baby, so it's been hectic, but we wanted to help her get back on her feet. She was supposed to stay for two months max while job hunting. Here's where it gets messy. Last week, I asked her to watch the kids for an hour while I ran to the pharmacy. When I got back, she was on her phone while my toddler had gotten into the pantry and made a huge mess with flour everywhere. I'll admit, I lost my temper and told her she needs to actually WATCH them when she agrees to babysit. She got defensive and said I was being ungrateful for "free childcare" (reminder: she lives here rent-free). We argued, and I told her if she can't do the bare minimum to help out, she needs to start looking for her own place. Two days later, CPS showed up at my door. The worker said they received a report that I was "overwhelmed and potentially neglecting my children." I was MORTIFIED. After they left (finding nothing wrong, obviously), my sister started laughing and said she called them to "teach me a lesson about being ungrateful" and that it was "just a prank." I told her to pack her stuff and get out. Now. She's been staying with our parents, who are FURIOUS with me. They say she made a stupid mistake but she's family and I'm overreacting. They keep saying she was just stressed about being unemployed and lashed out. My mom even said I'm "ruining her life" over a joke gone wrong. My husband backs me 100% and says what she did was unforgivable. But now half my extended family isn't speaking to me, and my mom calls daily crying about how I'm tearing the family apart. My aunt even posted on Facebook about how "some people forget where they came from" (clearly about me). The thing is, I keep second-guessing myself. She IS my sister, and she's never done anything like this before. But I can't get over the fact that she weaponized CPS against me. That's not a joke. That could have had serious consequences for my family. AITA for kicking her out and refusing to let her come back?

Elise Dubois
AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?
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AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?

I have seen a similar post here, however I have a slightly different issue. I (42f) live outside the big city together with my husband (50) and my daughter (14f). Our house is located further away from most of the houses in the neighbourhood as we also run an equine center. The center is not big and mainly for private clients stabling 18 horses, most of which are quite pricey. My daughters horses are also stabled there. The house, the yard, the fieldsand the arena are on the same territory which is fenced up. Because of this and my husband going to work in the city and my daughter going to school there, I'm often left alone to look after the yard and make sure it is running. We also have staff members that look after the stables and horses and instructors teaching people how to ride, but as I said it is private so the owners normally need to make sure they call us before coming so their horses are ready and to avoid too many people. We only provide services to the people who stable their horses at our place and don't run a riding school since all the horses are private. Also some yard staff also live on top of the stables (there's residential area with kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and TV). Some of my daughters friends also have their own horses which are stabled there, so sometimes they can stay over at ours over the weekends or holidays. Because of all the above and alongside with security cameras, we also have 4 guard dogs (causasian and middle Asian shepards) which we let roam free on the territory during night or when we don't have a lot of owners around. The dogs are familiar with all the kids (my daughter and her friends), the owners and the members of staff working at the yard, in fact they are very friendly to them. However they are guard dogs so they are ready to protect the property. One of the neighbours kids became notorious at trying to climb over the fence to look at the horses, even after multiple warnings not to do that. On Friday they have managed to get through during the evening, so our dogs cornered them and didn't let them move. I have only find out about it after hearing police sirens coming to the property. Apparently they were cornered for a while and since the dogs won't let them out, their mother had to call the police. I took the dogs away so the kids could go and the police officer said I did nothing wrong, since guard dogs are allowed. But the mother has tried to pull the card how traumatised the kids are and the dogs should be taken care of and I laughed and reminded her they have been warned multiple times. She started spreading the rumours and they made it to the local newspaper saying I'm the asshole.

Luca Moretti
AITA for “ruining Christmas” and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were “joke gifts”
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AITA for “ruining Christmas” and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were “joke gifts”

Some background, my family likes to play pranks with Christmas and birthday gifts it’s nothing new. I (f21) as well as my 5 siblings (from 29 to 37 years old) have all been pranked on our birthdays and on Christmas and usually it’s one or two gifts. This Christmas though, I was the only person to get all joke gifts. For example, I unwrapped a MacBook from my brother, but when I opened it, it was just some chocolate (which I don’t eat so I gave it away) and the MacBook was actually given to my sister inside a bag she wanted. Another “gift” was what I thought was a book I put on my Christmas list was actually just the book cover put on a dictionary. When I asked my mom about the book she told me she gave it to my Sil This went on with each present my siblings or parents had given me. AirPods was just a charger block? Adapter? gift cards were used and had $0 balance, a card with Monopoly money, and so on totaling to about 12 joke gifts. I realized I went out of my way to get everyone something they wanted or they’d like didn’t get anything. At this point i was bummed so I went to the living room to watch tv with my boyfriend. At dinner they were all talking about how much they loved their gifts and when my dad asked why I hadn’t said anything about mine, I said there wasn’t much to say. Everyone but my boyfriend laughed and my mom said it was no big deal as everyone else also got some joke gifts. I told her every gift I got was a joke gifts and that the ones they got was also followed by the real one. My dad told me I needed to relax as I’m making a big deal about it and I’d have next Christmas to get the stuff on my list. Not wanting to go back and forth i told my boyfriend I wanted to leave and we can spend the rest of Christmas break with his family then go home. My family got mad and told me not to go and to just stay because it wasn’t serious. I left and put my phone on do not disturb during the drive and by the time we got to bf’s parent’s house, I had several missed calls and texts from them calling me names like ungrateful, sensitive, and childish. They said I ruined Christmas and made my parents upset cause I left. The next day, I exchanged and opened gifts with my boyfriend and his family and one of the gifts I had gotten was the book I wanted (the book my mom pretended to gift me). I posted it on my instagram story and not even 0 minutes after posting it, my sister sent a screenshot of my story to the family group chat and they basically got mad at me for leaving and telling me I ruined Christmas over some presents. They told me I owe everyone, especially my parents, an apology because my mom spent new years sad because of my actions. Now I just want an outside party to tell me if I’m TA here? Am I in the wrong for being upset about the gifts and for leaving? After reading their messages and sitting on this for a few days I’m now feeling like maybe I was upset over nothing and need to apologize to them. *Gonna edit as there may have been some misunderstanding, my Christmas list didn’t include expensive gifts nor was I upset I didn’t receive expensive gifts. I was merely upset because of being pranked with everything I got and being the only person who didn’t get a real present that is all. Another thing I’ll address is I dint do anything to my family which would warrant them doing this. The last “big argument” I had was with my sister which was over a year and a half ago. Thank you for the replies and I will try my best to reply to comments while I’m at work. Editing once more to add I participated in joke gifts when I was a kid, haven’t participated in the last 10+ years because I didn’t enjoy it or find if funny (which thy do know). I will reply with more info if needed when I’m on break or have time to reply. - and I am familiar with the term scapegoat but truthfully don’t fully understand so I will research that as well.

Anya Petrova
AITAH for canceling my daughter's sweet 16 after she made a “joke” that I wasn’t her real mom… in front of my ex and his new wife?
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AITAH for canceling my daughter's sweet 16 after she made a “joke” that I wasn’t her real mom… in front of my ex and his new wife?

So I (39F) have a daughter (15F) from a previous marriage. Her dad and I split when she was 5 after he cheated on me with his now wife. Messy, yeah, but I’ve always kept it civil for my daughter’s sake. I’ve been the main parent, doctor visits, school stuff, everything. Her dad sees her like once a month, and when he does, it’s all Disneyland dad vibes. No rules, just vibes and gifts. Anyway, I was planning a huge Sweet 16 for her. Like thousands of dollars, caterer, DJ, venue, the whole thing. She’s been hyped for months. Then last weekend, we were at her dad’s house for some brunch thing his wife threw. I only went because my daughter asked me to. At some point, someone jokes about how much she looks like her dad, and she goes: “Yeah, guess I got lucky. Especially since she’s not even my real mom.” And points to me. Everyone laughed. Her dad laughed. His wife laughed. Even her grandparents laughed. I just sat there like… what? I quietly told her we’d talk later, and we did. I asked her what the hell that was about. She said it was just a joke. That it was funny. That I needed to lighten up. I told her, “Cool. Then I guess you don’t need me to throw you a party, since I’m not really your mom anyway.” She thought I was bluffing. I wasn’t. I canceled everything. No venue. No dress. No photographer. I told her she can ask her real parents for a party. Now everyone’s saying I went too far. Her dad’s calling me bitter. His wife had the nerve to DM me and say I’m emotionally punishing my daughter. Even my sister thinks I should’ve just grounded her or something instead. But I’m sorry, you humiliate me in front of people who disrespected me for years, and then act like I’m the one in the wrong? Nah. AITAH for canceling her party over what she claims was just a “joke”? Or did she finally cross the line?

Anya Petrova
AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.
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AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.

I'm a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the "rah rah I'm AmErIkUa! best in the world" attitude. You go America. You have a lot to be proud of. And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the "Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!" "Joke". FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent. Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans. Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not. So the other day a neighbor did the "joke" again "Bet you can't wait to be the 51st state!" and I said "that can not happen in my lifetime" he looked puzzled so I added "Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen." He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head. I know he wasn't intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it... that's just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

Anya Petrova
AITA for not allowing my sister-in-law back in my home after she found out a family member was dying, caused my cat’s disappearance, and laughed about it?
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AITA for not allowing my sister-in-law back in my home after she found out a family member was dying, caused my cat’s disappearance, and laughed about it?

Right before lockdown, I invited my brother and his wife (my sister-in-law) over for dinner. We’d just gotten a new cat who was skittish and still adjusting. We made a little “nest” for the cat in our laundry room. The room has an exterior door which we keep closed and locked 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of the time - the cat loved the laundry room because of the warmth and the darkness/quiet. I introduced my sister-in-law to the cat, then we went to have dinner in the dining room. My sister-in-law got a distressing call from someone on her side of the family about a dying relative. She was upset. She went into the laundry room to take the call. Upon hearing the news that the family member was about to receive last rites, she unlocked the exterior door and went outside to get fresh air, leaving the door wide open. Our cat darted out the door. We haven’t seen him since. My children were heartbroken at the loss of their cat. At first, I was in a place of just chalking it up to “that’s life” - after all, my sister-in-law had just received a very upsetting call, and I didn’t blame her for having a strong emotional reaction. But a few months into lockdown, she started making jokes about the incident. She laughed it off when I asked her to stop because the loss of our cat was upsetting. The jokes have continued, and I’ve made the decision that she won’t be welcome in our household until she apologizes for joking about the incident. My brother is pretty mortified but says he “doesn’t want to get in the middle of it.” My kids don’t really care one way or the other because they’re not a huge fan of her. She’s started complaining to other family members though, so I have to know: Reddit, AITA for banning her from the household until she apologizes for her jokes?

Anya Petrova
AITA for charging an “entry fee” for a family dinner on April 1st, leading my aunt to think it was an April Fool’s joke?
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AITA for charging an “entry fee” for a family dinner on April 1st, leading my aunt to think it was an April Fool’s joke?

I (26F) am the go-to host for family dinners, and I usually enjoy it. But my aunt (55F) has a frustrating habit: she shows up uninvited with extra guests like friends or random relatives without telling me. It’s happened too many times, leaving me to stretch food and space on the spot. I’ve asked her nicely to give me a heads-up, but she just says, “Family should be spontaneous,” and ignores me. With today being March 31st, I’m hosting a family dinner tomorrow, April 1st, for my parents’ anniversary. Knowing my aunt will likely crash it with extras, I decided to try something new. Last week, I sent a group message saying that because hosting costs keep rising (and the guest list keeps growing), I’m asking each adult to chip in $10 to cover expenses. I figured this was a fair way to handle it without pointing fingers. Tomorrow’s the big day, but I can already picture it: my aunt will roll up with three unannounced friends. When I ask for the $10 contributions at the door, she’ll probably laugh and say, “Oh, great April Fool’s joke!” I’ll have to explain it’s not a prank and that it’s about respect and planning, especially since she keeps doing this. I’m betting she’ll get mad, call me “stingy,” and storm off, which has happened before when I’ve set boundaries. The family’s already split. Some think I should let it slide since it’s a special occasion (and tomorrow’s April Fool’s Day might confuse things), while others say I’m right to stand my ground. I’m worried my aunt will spin it as me pulling a “mean prank” if she takes it the wrong way.

Anya Petrova
AITA for saying the same jokes my FIL uses to give him a piece of his own medicine.
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AITA for saying the same jokes my FIL uses to give him a piece of his own medicine.

My FIL humor can be quite cruel at times. He always seems to take jokes way to far or will make jokes about people's appearances. Like calling people dumbo ears, or poking jokes at their size/weight. It's not a good time and many people have tried to get him to stop. But he thinks that he is being hilarious and its all in good fun. So this happened at the NEw Years get together with the family. He started doing the jokes and everyone just trying to get through the night. Well, he got to me and I wasn't having it tonight. He made one joke about my nose so I started to lay into him using his jokes. I used most of his weight jokes, poked fun at his beer belly, used the jokes about dumbo ears and hooked noses. I used as many as I could remember. He was quite upset about it in the end and I told him this is how all of us feel everytime you make these jokes. Today I got a text from my MIL and SIL that I took it too far and that I'm an ass. SO AITA

Jonas Bergström
AITAH for Laughing at My Sister-in-Law After She Secretly DNA Tested My Daughter
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AITAH for Laughing at My Sister-in-Law After She Secretly DNA Tested My Daughter

I 30 M, have a daughter who's 6. I am not biologically related to her *at all*. There is no blood relation between us. I was friends with her mother for most all of my childhood. We were never involved romantically and were always just friends. She had her daughter at 23 with her 25 year old husband. When my daughter was a newborn (About 3 months technically) both her mother and father were k**led. I won't go into too much detail for privacy reasons, but it was workplace shooting. My friend and her husband had worked in the same building, and were both k**led. Both my friend and her husband had grown up with less than ideal families and didn't have any siblings so there wasn't any "next of kin" for their daughter to go to. However, because I was close with them I was able to adopt her. Even though I had been iffy about the idea of kids I didn't want their daughter to grow up in foster care or around people who didn't have a connection to her bio parents so I stepped in. My parents and siblings know that my daughter is not my actual daughter biologically speaking. ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

Clara Jensen
AITAH for laughing at ex and his new wife when they suggested to change my son's school
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AITAH for laughing at ex and his new wife when they suggested to change my son's school

I have a 10 year old son Tyler with my ex. I have primary custody and he gets him on weekends. We had co-parented well so far. I am from Asia, where private schools are only good mode of education. I decided not to marry till my son is gone to college. I am a banker, so I earn well for both of us and the child support I get, I put it in his savings. I also pay for his private school which costs a lot, but I can afford it. My ex got married to Lyla last year and she brought two kids. One is ten and in the same grade as my son. The second is eight. My son already feels his father has taken away their one-on-one time with the other children, as most activities are group activities. And he gives zero time to his son alone. The stepmom also tries to parent him and he hates it. Kids are cordial but don't see each others as siblings. So this weekend, the ex and his wife invited me to dinner. I went, and after dinner, they told the kids to go to the room to have a discussion with me. They said they can't afford the same private school for the other kids. And for equality of the kids, they need to pull my son out of school. They told how beneficial it will be for the elder stepkid and my son to be in the same school and class. I was pissed. I told them their financial issues aren't my problem and I am not changing my son's school. They doubled down, but I stood firm and took my son back. Since then, they are blaming that I want their family to fail and how my son doesn't talk to the other kids much. I told them developing the relationship between the kids is the ex's job, not mine. I don't badmouth them or the other kids, but I don't see it as my responsibility to grow their relation on his dad's side. Second, if the father is going to put his new kids over his own, it is what is leading to Tyler being distant with the other kids. They are calling me an asshole, and his new wife said to me that for Tyler, she isn't going to deny her kids a father. I told her that she is no less than an evil stepmonster.

Jonas Bergström
AITA For laughing and saying "sounds about right" when my brother and sister-in-law told me how exhausted they are with my out-of-control niece?
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AITA For laughing and saying "sounds about right" when my brother and sister-in-law told me how exhausted they are with my out-of-control niece?

My brother "Ron" and sister-in-law "Jen" have spoiled their daughter "Alice" rotten since she was a newborn. Since Alice was a toddler, everyone in the family has told Ron and Jen they need to teach Alice boundaries, but they insist they're the ones in charge of Alice I often babysat Alice when she was young. I would tell Ron and Jen that Alice was not behaving, and they would respond by shaming me for not getting Alice exactly what she wanted or "pushing her so hard" because I told her to pick up the toys she threw on the floor. (Note: Alice was seven when this happened.) Eventually, I refused to babysit Alice and they insist I was being a bad aunt because I was "expecting so many adult things from a baby." Ron and Jen did all of Alice's homework and class projects for her. They frantically called me one night because the math tutor canceled and Alice's homework had a pre-calculus question that they weren't sure how to do the work for. I sent them the work for it that one time, but after that, I would refuse to. Alice is now seventeen and completely out of control. She screams, curses, and flips off her parents until she gets her own way. She is unlicensed and dented Ron's car several times when stealing it for joyrides. She has stolen both Ron and Jen's wallets for shopping sprees. They have caught Alice partying, drinking, vaping, and sneaking out to boys' houses. She has gotten even worse since her junior year. Ron and Jen still do her projects or pay others to do them, but the material is now too specific for Ron and Jen to understand without class notes (which Alice isn't taking for them.) Alice did not pass her junior year, and she is angry because now all her friends are doing senior things that she can’t join in on. Ron and Jen called me the other night to tell me how exhausted they were because Alice was illegally driving again and they had to beg an officer not to send Alice to juvie. They talked about how wild **all** teens are and they're not sure where their sweet little girl went. I thought that last part was a joke and a laugh slipped out before I could stop myself. Ron got angry and asked what I thought was funny. I apologized for laughing, but I responded that Alice's behavior sounded about right because did they expect Alice to just magically become responsible and well-behaved when they have always rewarded her bad behavior? Ron and Jen started to yell at me, but I hung up. Many of my friends and family members said Ron and Jen are only angry because they didn't like hearing the truth. But most of the family is saying I have no idea how hard it is to be a parent, much less have a child like Alice. And even though the laugh slipped, I was cruel to respond to Ron and Jen that way knowing how exhausted they are. Now I'm conflicted about if I was being a dick to my exhausted brother and sister-in-law. AITA?

Luca Moretti
AITA for potentially getting a teacher fired over a joke?
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AITA for potentially getting a teacher fired over a joke?

My brother (23) and I (22f) have raised our younger siblings together for the past few years (both our parents have died). The kids’ teachers know our situation and are generally pretty good about it. Though we still get some comments at parents’ evenings and correspondence from school is often sent to “Mr and Mrs (our surname)”. We are used to it and it’s usually no big deal, sometimes pretty funny. What I did NOT find funny was my 14yr old coming home from school saying he had a substitute teacher (the teacher works at the same school full time but doesn’t normally take any of our brother’s classes) and as they took the register and saw his surname, the teacher said, “Another Flowers in the Attic kid! How many more of you are there?!” Some of the kids laughed, most apparently didn’t really get it, and our brother was embarrassed but also didn’t get the reference. A bunch of the kids googled it in their next break and ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻.. ⬇️

Clara Jensen
AITA for laughing when my ex's wife complained to me?
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AITA for laughing when my ex's wife complained to me?

Ex cheated on me with his current wife. That was 5 years ago. Ex and I share three sons who are 11, 10 and 8. Ex's wife has a daughter and a son with her ex, who she also cheated on with my ex. The two of them have said it all. From it was meant to be, to how great it is because the kids all have a bigger and happier family, blah blah blah. I am over it in some ways. There is very much a sting that the affair partner in my marriage gets to call herself my kids stepmom. But I'm not at all sorry that my ex is gone. The man slept with her behind my back for 18 months before her husband and I found out. I am civil when the kids are around, I ignore them when the kids aren't around. This whole thing happened over ex's parents. They were disgusted with him for cheating. MIL told him that he destroyed his kids foundation. That leaving a spouse is never easy and divorce is hard for kids anyway but when you add conflict in the way of cheating, you take something from a child that they can rarely ever get back, and that's parents who can still care about each other and want the best for each other despite not being together. They stayed very close with me and haven't welcomed ex's wife at all. Nor have they been involved with ex's life since really, or his stepkids. It bothers her a lot. My youngest son won an award in school a couple of weeks ago. Ex and his wife were there. So was I. Ex's wife ended up coming up to complain to me because both mine and ex's parents showed up briefly, spoke to my son, then to me and left. She was saying how unfair it is. How her kids don't understand why ex's family have nothing to do with them and why they never see them but they know my kids have a relationship. She said ex's family love me, it hurts her feelings to feel not good enough. I'll be honest. I rolled my eyes first but then I laughed because she seemed to expect sympathy or help from me. Laughing at her pissed her off. I have heard from her and my ex since that I was rude, I should care about the kids at least, and I am not thinking of my kids when I keep bad blood between us and laugh at her suffering. One part of me doesn't care and believes I'm fine once my kids couldn't see it. Another part of me wonders if I was an asshole to laugh at her. AITA?

Anya Petrova
AITA for laughing at my mom's bf for the birthday gift he gave her?
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AITA for laughing at my mom's bf for the birthday gift he gave her?

Sorry for grammar, English is not my main language, and sorry for the long post. So this happened a few years ago but this man (I'll call I'm Nick) still doesn't talk to me. I'm 25f and I was 23 at the time. I had my first job and my mom's birthday was just around the corner, so I decided to gift her something bigger than I've been able to buy all those past years. She's always liked to sew and her sewing machine broke a few months back, so I went and found the perfect sewing machine. It had flowers on it and she loves flowers, seemed good quality, good reviews, etc. I orderer it and it would arrive the next day. Nick was at my house at the moment (he lives like 4h away by train, so he's not here often, maybe a few days every 2-3 months). I had to go to work so I told Nick that the gift was arriving that day and I was looking around for a place to hide it. He noticed and told me that he's just going to hide it in a drawer. I told him that it would not fit, and then he asked me what did I buy. When I told him that it was a sewing machine, he started laughing. He said that I don't know my mother, that a sewing machine was not appropriate for a birthday, since a birthday gift has to be something more thoughtful and meaningful. I got pissed since I'm really close with my mom, and I really think I know her more than anyone else. I just left. Her birthday comes, and she LOVES my gift. She was thinking about buying a new sewing machine since hers was broken and she uses it pretty often, and she had her eye on the same exact model I bought. The next day I told her what Nick said, and she said that she knew, and they argued about it. That night we went out to have a drink with my brother, Nick and her friends. At some point of the night, I asked my mom what Nick's gift was, and she told me that he gifted her lingerie. Yes, lingerie. A bra and a thong. Here's where I could be the AH. I started laughing my ass off, turned to Nick and told him "After that speech you gave me about sentimental value and not knowing my mother, you gave her lingerie!?" while still laughing. I don't think anyone was paying much attention tho, they were drunk and having fun, but I think I still embarrassed him. He tried to make a point but I just couldn't stop laughing, so he eventually gave up. Up to this day, he still doesn't say a single word to me since then. When my lovebird passed (he was 15 and I had him most of my life) Nick happened to be at my house. Not a single word about it. I know he doesn't care about birds, but he knows that my lovebird was damn important to the family, specially me and my brother. Every time he comes, not a single hi either. Like an hour ago I went to the living room and Nick was there with my brother. My brother said hi and I said hi back to both of them. Nick just said "Hi SWEETHEART" to my dog, that was coming behind me. Anyway, was I the asshole for laughing at him for his birthday gift to my mom? ETA: They've been dating for 7 years now, 5 at the time.

Clara Jensen
AITAH for laughing in my SIL’s face when she DNA tested my daughter?
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AITAH for laughing in my SIL’s face when she DNA tested my daughter?

I, 30 M, have a daughter who's 6. I am not biologically related to her *at all*. There is no blood relation between us. I was friends with her mother for most all of my childhood. We were never involved romantically and were always just friends. She had her daughter at 23 with her 25 year old husband. When my daughter was a newborn (About 3 months technically) both her mother and father were killed. I won't go into too much detail for privacy reasons, but it was workplace shooting. My friend and her husband had worked in the same building, and were both killed. Both my friend and her husband had grown up with less than ideal families and didn't have any siblings so there wasn't any "next of kin" for their daughter to go to. However, because I was close with them I was able to adopt her. Even though I had been iffy about the idea of kids I didn't want their daughter to grow up in foster care or around people who didn't have a connection to her bio parents so I stepped in. My parents and siblings know that my daughter is not my actual daughter biologically speaking. My daughter, I'll call Lily for the post, also knows that she's adopted. I never really hid the fact that she was adopted, she knows her parents are dead and were killed by a "bad man" but I'm saving the details for when she's older. Lily does not look like me at all. She looks exactly like her mother and biological dad. Most people assume that I'm her bio dad and that she just took after her mom. I don't ever really correct this when and if people assume this because it just seems unnecessary. My brother has been with his fiancee for about 2 years now. A few weeks ago we were all meeting up at my parents house and my SIL saw an old picture of me, my friend and her husband. She pointed to my friend and asked who she was, and I explained that was Lily's mother. SIL got quiet and stood in front of the picture for a while. I didn't think much of it. To clarify, she knows my friend died, but I guess didn't know that she had been married, or that Lily is not my bio daughter. I suppose she assumed my daughter was mine and my friend's biological daughter. My SIL got a DNA test done on my daughter behind my back. She used my brother's DNA for the test, and when it came back that they weren't related, she knew that meant me and Lily weren't related. She came up to me with the results and waved them in my face, saying that I was taking care of a dead woman's affair baby. She said this to me in front of my daughter. I just stared at her for a while before bursting out laughing at this. I told her I knew Lily wasn't my biological daughter, and that this thing called adoption exists. Her face went red and she stormed off. My brother is mad I embarrassed his fiancee, but I said she embarrassed herself by DNA testing a kid that isn't hers and then parading the results up to me. What did she want me to do? What was her goal with this? Did she want me to break down and abandon my daughter? My brother said she thought she was doing the right thing and called me an asshole. I don't feel like the asshole, especially considering my SIL was the one who stuck her nose where it doesn't belong. I'm asking for reddit opinions (mostly just for validation), so was I the asshole? Edit to post update link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/HhKR0E2hkW

Anya Petrova
AITA for laughing at my brother and sister-in-law when they asked to use my credit card like it was no big deal?
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AITA for laughing at my brother and sister-in-law when they asked to use my credit card like it was no big deal?

So | am 22F. | don't have much knowledge about finances and stuff as | still live at home as I'm at university. | do however pay my parents about £300 a month rent, | pay my own phone plan, buy material stuff | want or need, pay out for other services like for music or whatever and try to put as much as | can in savings whilst still keeping enough in my main account for day to day purchases. Currently, | am saving up for driving lessons and hope that if | pass decently, | can use some of my savings towards getting a car. I'm in my final year of uni so I'll be done and able to work full time when all this happens. | also decided to get a credit card so | can learn how to manage credit wisely and build some up. My credit score is good for someone of my age and circumstance but obviously it's nothing great in comparison for other stuff. | should point out that at most | only plan on using this card with a total adding up to £100. Ive stuck to that so far and only actually used it twice with these purchases only adding up to £80 and | paid it off quickly. | do not plan on exceeding my limit any time soon as I've heard far too many horror stories of people just using their credit card too much cos it was handy and getting into debt. The only people | disclosed this to was my dad as my mum has the tendency to blab to my brother and SIL (both 28.) ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻.. ⬇️

Luca Moretti