My ex-Wife (F38) and I (M38) divorced because I was infertile and unwilling to use a sperm donor. How should I tell her that my GF (F24) is pregnant?

Luca Moretti

In the quiet hopes of building a family, a couple’s dreams were shattered by the harsh truth of infertility. Their journey, filled with longing and medical battles, became a painful testament to love tested by loss and the relentless yearning for a child that never came.

While he grappled with the stark reality of his condition, she was consumed by a deeper devastation, her spirit broken by the cruel contrast of her sister’s overflowing family. Their love, once a source of strength, was strained by the impossible choices ahead, revealing the raw and fragile edges of human hope and heartache.

My ex-Wife (F38) and I (M38) divorced because I was infertile and unwilling to use a sperm donor. How should I tell her that my GF (F24) is pregnant?
'My ex-Wife (F38) and I (M38) divorced because I was infertile and unwilling to use a sperm donor. How should I tell her that my GF (F24) is pregnant?'

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AFTER THIS STORY DROPPED, REDDIT WENT INTO MELTDOWN MODE – CHECK OUT WHAT PEOPLE SAID.:

The community had thoughts — lots of them. From tough love to thoughtful advice, the comment section didn’t disappoint.

After reading through the Reddit comments, it’s clear that many empathize with the pain and complexity of this situation. The struggle with infertility and the emotional toll it takes on both partners is deeply challenging, and the feelings of revulsion toward a sperm donor, while difficult to understand for some, are valid and personal. People also acknowledge the heartbreak of the ex-wife’s depression and the couple’s eventual separation, underscoring how such issues can strain even the strongest relationships.

In my opinion, this story highlights the profound impact infertility can have beyond just the physical inability to conceive—it touches on identity, expectations, and intimacy. While the path they took didn’t lead to the family they wanted, their experiences remind us of the importance of empathy and communication in navigating such sensitive matters. It also emphasizes that sometimes love, no matter how strong, isn’t enough to overcome certain fundamental differences in coping and desires.

LM

Luca Moretti

Positive Psychology Researcher & Happiness Consultant

Luca Moretti is an Italian psychologist who focuses on the science of happiness and well-being. He has led research projects across Europe studying what makes people thrive. With a warm, optimistic tone, Luca writes about practical ways to cultivate joy, gratitude, and purpose in daily life.

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