AITA? I told my neighbors they couldn't build a fence if it was on my property when they can't build one on the edge of theirs

Jonas Bergström

When the new neighbors arrived with their bright-eyed children and playful dog, the promise of fresh beginnings shimmered quietly between the yards. But beneath the surface of friendly waves and shared smiles, a silent tension began to grow—one that would soon challenge the fragile boundary of kindness and property.

A request to build a fence, seemingly innocent at first, unraveled into a clash of pride and principle. The steep hill that separated their land from his became more than a physical divide; it was a battleground where respect, trust, and the sanct*ty of one's home were fiercely tested.

AITA? I told my neighbors they couldn't build a fence if it was on my property when they can't build one on the edge of theirs
'AITA? I told my neighbors they couldn't build a fence if it was on my property when they can't build one on the edge of theirs'

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THE COMMENTS SECTION WENT WILD – REDDIT HAD *A LOT* TO SAY ABOUT THIS ONE.:

The crowd poured into the comments, bringing a blend of heated opinions, solid advice, and a few reality checks along the way.

After reading through the Reddit comments, it’s clear that many people sympathize with the original poster’s stance on protecting their property rights. Neighbors asking to build a fence on someone else’s land, even just by a few feet, is a serious boundary issue and can set a problematic precedent. Most commenters agree that it’s important to stand firm and not allow encroachments, especially when it affects personal use of the yard, like the blueberry bushes mentioned. The insistence of the neighbors, even offering to pay for the fence, doesn’t change the fact that they are asking for something that isn’t theirs to take.

In my opinion, the best approach is to maintain clear communication and, if necessary, involve a property surveyor or legal advice to ensure the boundary lines are respected. While it’s understandable the neighbors want to protect their steep hill area, it should never come at the expense of the original owner’s land. Maintaining good neighborly relations is important, but so is respecting property rights and personal space. Ultimately, standing your ground with kindness and clarity is the best way to handle this kind of situation.

JB

Jonas Bergström

Digital Behavior Analyst & Tech-Life Balance Advocate

Jonas Bergström is a Swedish behavior analyst focused on the impact of digital technology on mental health. With a Master’s in Human-Computer Interaction, he explores how smartphones, apps, and social media shape our relationships and habits. Jonas promotes mindful tech use and healthier screen time boundaries.

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