AITA for “letting” my ex and my kids’ half siblings “be poor” when I could help?

Luca Moretti

Seven years after their painful breakup, a father stands as the sole pillar for his two children, carrying the weight of full custody while their mother drifts further away, lost in a world of fleeting visits and broken promises. The children’s lives have become a battleground of absence and neglect, with their mother chasing unstable relationships that only deepen the scars of abandonment.

Now, faced with her own unraveling reality—pregnant, struggling, and alone with a special needs child—the mother reaches out in desperation for help from the man she once left behind. This raw moment exposes the fragile ties of family, the harsh consequences of past choices, and the quiet strength of a father who has been holding his world together on his own.

AITA for “letting” my ex and my kids’ half siblings “be poor” when I could help?
'AITA for “letting” my ex and my kids’ half siblings “be poor” when I could help?'

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AFTER THIS STORY DROPPED, REDDIT WENT INTO MELTDOWN MODE – CHECK OUT WHAT PEOPLE SAID.:

The community had thoughts — lots of them. From tough love to thoughtful advice, the comment section didn’t disappoint.

After reading through the Reddit comments, it's clear that many empathize with the narrator's difficult situation. Most commenters acknowledge the complexity of co-parenting with an ex who has been largely absent but now faces significant challenges. While some suggest that the narrator should help financially out of compassion for the children’s sake, others caution against enabling irresponsible behavior. The consensus seems to lean toward supporting the kids’ well-being without compromising personal boundaries or financial stability.

In my opinion, this story highlights the often messy realities of shared parenting and the importance of clear agreements and communication. While the ex's circumstances are unfortunate, the primary focus should remain on the children’s needs. The narrator’s willingness to step up for their kids is commendable, but it’s equally crucial to ensure that help is structured in a way that encourages responsibility and stability for everyone involved.

LM

Luca Moretti

Positive Psychology Researcher & Happiness Consultant

Luca Moretti is an Italian psychologist who focuses on the science of happiness and well-being. He has led research projects across Europe studying what makes people thrive. With a warm, optimistic tone, Luca writes about practical ways to cultivate joy, gratitude, and purpose in daily life.

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